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Top 10 Dating Questions for Singles

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Dating can be tricky business. However, by following the below 10 dating tips, you can increase your chances of having a positive experiences.

1.  How do you start dating again?

Return to the dating scene at your own pace.    Just get up and socialize in whichever ways you feel comfortable with.  The worst thing you can do is move too fast so take your time no matter which route you choose to find your dates.

2.  What should you do?

In this dangerous world of dating, you should be careful not to give out too much of your personal information in the beginning.  Take things slow, ask a lot of questions, research your dates past, and/or do a background check.

An ounce of prevention can prevent a lifetime of heartache.  Learn as much information about your date as possible which will, in turn, help the conversation flow to topics of interest.  Information about their families, pets, favorite food, birthdays, favorite movies, etc. make wonderful topics and usually you can learn enough to know if you will be compatible.

3.  What should you never do?

Don’t talk about your exes or intense commitment on the first date.  It’s important to have fun and not take things too seriously in the beginning.  Don’t have sex until you’ve done your homework on this person.  If they are interested and enjoy your company, they’ll call back.  Don’t brag about yourself and your accomplishments.  Instead, focus on your partner’s interests.

4.  Where can one find people of the same age?

Take a new class, join a club, have your friends set you up, try on-line dating, go to sporting events, church, school, socialize at parties, adopt a dog and go to the park, join a gym.  Most importantly, be active and get out there.

5.  How do you introduce yourself?

Simply be friendly and be yourself.  Smile, shake hands and most importantly, have manners.

6.  What should you do if you have a date?

Take time to groom yourself, be polite, be punctual and relax.  This isn’t a job interview.  If it doesn’t work out, it’s not the end of the world.  Pick an activity that you both enjoy.  Nothing can ruin a date like an activity that one person isn’t interested in.

7.  When should you run away?

Red flags would be talking about an ex repeatedly or negatively, discussing serious topics like marriage and children on the first date, excessive bragging or coming on to strong sexually on the first date.

8.  How long should you wait to call them?

There is no set rule on how long you should wait to call the other person.  If they phone you first, return their call within a 24 hour period.  If you don’t hear from them after the date, wait a few days and then phone to see how they are doing.

9.  How long should you wait to have sex?

You should definitely not have sex on the first few days because this makes the other person assume you are easy and do this with everyone.  Take your time and get to know the person.

Don’t drink or use drugs on your date because this will lower your inhibitions and you, in turn, will make poor decisions.  A good rule to follow is the longer you wait to have sex, the more special it will be.

10.  What other tips are important?

Smile, have fun and don’t be too serious.  If your are too serious or pushy, you’ll come across as desperate.  Split the bill 50/50 so both parties don’t feel any pressure.  Be friendly and confident.  There’s nothing more attractive than charm.

5 Tips For Finding Mr. or Mrs. Right

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Be realistic.  We are all searching for Mr. or Mrs. Right but everyone has flaws. Set your expectations high but not so high that nobody can meet them.

To search for an accomplished, educated, attractive partner is realistic.  Insisting your potential partner must have a Phd., be wealthy, with model looks, is not.

Stay positive and have fun

Plan your dates around activities that you both enjoy so even if things don’t work out, you have fun in the process.  You may meet a lot of people you aren’t interested, but don’t give up.  Think of your search similar to that of searching for a great job.  It takes a lot of work but the payoff is well worth it.

Try different things

Experiment with various ways to meet new people.  Don’t just try online dating, rather also allow your friends and family to set you up, take up a new hobby to meet someone with similar interests and actively put yourself out there so you can meet new people.

Stay true to your morals

If a date tries to pressure you into sex early on, simply move on to the next because there is a high probability they are pressuring others also.  In this dangerous world we live in, practicing abstinence not only protects your health by protecting you from sexually transmitted diseases, it also prevents someone from using you like a piece of meat.

Write a great online profile

In order to find the person of your dreams, you need to have an eye-catching, well-written profile that tells a lot about you, including your likes AND dislikes.  Overly sexy profile user names or photographs attract the wrong type of person.  Treat your profile like a resume and spend some time on it by making sure you use proper grammar, punctuation and spelling.  If you are searching for someone who has never been married with no children, say so.

Screen, Screen and Screen Some More

Ask a lot of questions and listen to your instinct.  If something doesn’t feel right, it usually isn’t.  For example, if your date says they are a doctor, ask them a series of medical questions.

If your date says they are single, phone them between the hours of 8p-11p and if they always have their phone turned off or an excuse for not answering, you may be getting involved with someone who is already committed because these are the times usually spent with a significant other and family.

It is imperative that you screen your dates as early on as possible because getting involved with the wrong person can destroy your life.

There are many different services on the internet where you can do a background check to see if you may be getting involved with a con-artist, an abuser, a convicted felon or a pedophile.  It’s especially important for single mothers to screen their dates because pedophiles target them for access to their children.

It’s crucial not only to do a criminal background check on the person but also a character check on their relationship history. Women can research a man’s past relationship history on WomanSavers.com for free and men can do so at RateB4UDate.com.

We inspect our home before buying it, we have a mechanic check out a car before purchasing it, it’s simply naive not to check out a person who you may potentially be spending the rest of your life with.

In order to find Mr. or Mrs. Right, you need to be able to filter out all the wrongs.  By taking some precautions, using your gut instinct and doing your homework, you can increase your chances of meeting the person of your dreams.

To learn more about Stephany Alexander, visit www.WomanSavers.com.

3 Quick Dating Safety Tips For Women

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Dating safer after divorce is an absolute necessity in today’s world.  Some people can begin dating again within a few months, others take years.

Whatever the length of time you decide to take is up to you, but it is important that you do take some time to get to know yourself again and embrace the single person that you once were before your marriage.

According to a poll conducted by WomanSavers.com of over 1,500 women, 31% feel that a date turns into a relationship after dating for 3 months, 20% after you’ve had sex, an even split between when he says I love you and 6 months, and only 14% after 5 dates. 

There is no rush so take your time and do your research.

  1. Explore options of meeting a safe date through friends, church, school, the gym, at a party or even walking a dog in the park.  If you decide to date online, be sure to go to websites that have a long-term success ratio.
  2. Try to get a first and last name of your potential date as soon as possible and google his name, run it through the WomanSavers.com database and check your local felon registry. If you think that this person is someone you may be interested in long term, do a background check on them.  If you have children, you must screen your dates even more because many times pedophiles will target single mothers for access to her children.
  3. Stay as anonymous as possible and don’t give out your real name or personal details early on.  When you meet someone for the first time, meet in a public place and use only your first name.  Wait a while before becoming intimate. That way you can screen out the players who are only after sex.  If you do decide to become intimate, use protection until both parties have been tested for sexually transmitted diseases.

Good luck and safer dating to all.

To learn more about Stephany Alexander, visit www.WomanSavers.com.

5 Ways to Say “I Love You” Without Actually Saying it

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Here are 5 ways to show your partner that you love them without saying a word… 

1.  Touch Them

Give your partner a hug, kiss, hold hands, snuggle or massage them.  Just be close.  Nothing is more powerful than the power of touch.

2.  Leave Love Notes and Poems

Write love messages and leave them throughout the house.  Send an email or text message to let your partner know you are thinking about them.  Leave a note on their car, in their pocket, under their pillow.  Buy a card or send a letter to them in the mail.  A little note or poem expressing your love will show your partner how much you care about them.

3. Food

They say "the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach," however this works equally well for women.  Express your love by cooking a surprise dinner and set the atmosphere with music, candlelight, and flowers.  Cook your partner’s favorite recipe.  You may also give your partner the night off by making reservations at their favorite restaurant. 

4. Plan a Date

Prepare a picnic, go for a walk, or plan an activity your partner loves.  Plan something special rather than just the standard dinner and movie.

5.  Hold eye contact with your partner’s eyes.

Gaze at your partner lovingly.  By maintaining eye contact with your partner, you show them that they are the most important thing on your mind at that moment.  Holding eye contact can increase your heart rate and creates a sense of unity and bonding.  

To learn more about Stephany Alexander, visit www.WomanSavers.com.

10 Tips To Infidelity-Proof Your Relationship

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Infidelity can sneak up on even the most solid partnerships.

According to an infidelity poll conducted by WomanSavers.com of 6,330 women, 92% believe that emotional affairs lead to physical affairs, whereas only a mere 7% believe they do not.

With the increase in technology, cheating has become more prevalent.

However, following the below top 10 infidelity-proof tips will increase your chances of having a long-lasting, healthy, monogamous relationship.

1.  Don’t Drink or Use Drugs Around the Opposite Sex

Drinking alcohol or using drugs with the opposite sex is one of the quickest ways that lead to infidelity because it lowers your inhibitions.  Even having a cocktail at a business lunch can lead to more intimate conversations and inappropriate behavior.

2.  Develop common interests and hobbies.
If you and your partner are always spending time apart doing the activities you enjoy separately, there is a higher chance one of you may meet someone who enjoys doing the same activities you do.  Couples that “play” together, are more likely to stay together.

3.  Exercise and eat right.
Don’t let yourself go physically.  Exercise and eat well not only for yourself, but for your partner.  If you quit trying just because you have become comfortable, your partner will resent you for being lazy and may become attracted to someone who values their self worth more.

4.  Don’t plan meetings alone with the opposite sex.
Now I know it’s not possible to always have meetings in groups.  However, if you know you are attracted to an acquaintance, try to plan your meetings in groups because this helps lower the intimacy factor.

5.  Put yourself in your partner’s shoes. If you would be uncomfortable with your partner doing something that you are doing or are considering doing, don’t do it.  Respect your partner enough to always consider their feelings.

6.  Travel together whenever possible.

The old saying “when the cat’s away, the mouse will play” rings very true.  Don’t put yourself in situations where you are more likely to cheat such as going on solo vacations or going to a restaurant or bar alone.

If you are traveling for business and your partner is unable to join you, phone them daily to stay in touch.

7.  Don’t Mix Business and Pleasure.

The office is meant for business, not gossip or intimate details.  Don’t flirt, touch or wear revealing clothing to your workplace.  Keep it professional.

8.  Stay sexually creative.

It takes effort to keep the fire lit in the bedroom after you’ve been together for a while.  Be adventurous and think outside the box.  As long as you are both comfortable with it, there’s no harm done.  Couples who have a happy sex life are much less likely to cheat.

9.  Don’t share too many personal details with the opposite sex.

Intimate details should be for your partner.  Many times emotional infidelity leads to physical infidelity.  If a conversation is becoming too intimate for you, simply redirect the conversation to include your partner or politely direct the person towards professional help.

10.  Put positive effort into your relationship daily.

It doesn’t matter if you give your partner an extra hug or put the dishes away, the fact that you are doing something small to show you care on a regular basis can make all the difference and may prevent your partner from seeking attention elsewhere.

If you are considering cheating, respect your partner enough to end the relationship for the sake of their emotional and sexual health.  Do onto others as you would have them do onto you.