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Super Sexy Ways To Use Your Mouth On Him That He Won’t Expect

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Men want you to use your mouth on them. A LOT. Here are some super sexy ways to use your mouth on him.

What She Said About Ways To Use Your Mouth On Him

Men love blow jobs! Like no lie, this is one of their most favorite things, right up there with beer and football.

But your mouth can do so much more than just suck! So how can you keep it exciting and different?

Whether you are a pro or a newbie it doesn’t hurt to work on your skills in the oral department. Below are some super great ways to keep your man happy, keep blow jobs exciting and try some new moves on your man with your mouth. Although, just having your wonderful lips wrapped around his rod IS exciting enough.

Variety Is The Spice Of Life

When it comes to putting your lips on his penis or anywhere on his body, it is the spice of life.

Use different suction strengths on him going from light sucking and harder sucking to keep things exciting.

Find a way to vary the temp in your mouth. Some girls choose to keep ice near the bed and a cup of warm water close at hand too. It can be a little odd “prepping” for sex but if you make the night all about him you can easily set aside some props. And once you have them use them!

Start with the ice but make sure you don’t put the ice directly on him, keep it under your tongue to cool your mouth. After some ice action take a sip of water and do it all again, make sure the water is not too hot! He should get a nice temperature variation that will drive him nuts.

Talk To Him

Use your mouth to utter some dirty words and phrases. Also gasp and grunt along with him if you feel moved and inspired. Don’t fake a porn star noise just don’t be afraid to moan if you are enjoying it too. That being said let your mouth be noisy even if there are no words, let him hear you suck and gag and slobber. It can get hot.

Lick Him

Although there is a good chance that the whole time you are licking his body that he would be waiting and praying for you to just get to the meat of the matter and put his meat in your mouth. Make him wait for it!

  • Use your mouth to caress and stroke and just adore his body.
  • Lick his face and neck too.
  • Trail your tongue down his belly to his thighs and back again.
  • Pay some attention to his balls! Many women forget about these jewels but a lot of men like to have their twins in on the action. So feel free to lick and even take one or two in your mouth.
  • Men like to have their nipples licked and necks sucked!

What He Said About Ways To Use Your Mouth On Him

I don’t care how freaky you are ladies, you have a pattern of moves. A “greatest hits collection as it were.” Not to sound like Archer or anything, but you probably could use some new super sexy moves with your mouth to liven things up and make him a bit surprised.

Texture And Taste Matter

There’s nothing that says that the velvet tongue (a blow job given to a man with honey/yogurt in the woman’s mouth) has to be the only taste additive in your mouth based sexual bag of tricks. You can try experimenting with all sorts of tastes: you could blow him with a bit of BBQ sauce in your mouth, or pour it on him and lick it off. You can put a flavored condom on his dick and then blow him, or use a flavored dental dam to give him a rim job he will never forget.

Talk Dirty

This one is just not used enough. Either woman don’t do it, or they don’t take it far enough. If you don’t talk naughty to your man, you need to. And if you think you are talking way too dirty to him, you aren’t talking dirty enough. Take it farther than you feel comfortable with. That will be a great way to use your mouth to shock his brain. He won’t expect it. And mystery is good for the relationship.

How To Keep Your Relationship From Derailing!

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Relationships are wonderful, but they do require a bit of TLC from time to time. We’ve all been in relationships where the love train came off the tracks.

How do you prevent that?

How do you manage to keep a relationship from derailing?

We have your answers.

What She Said About Keeping Your Relationship On Track

I have had the pleasure of derailing many relationships in my past and it always came down to lack of communication.

One partner shuts down (normally the girl), gets upset and then the other partner feeds off that and shuts down too. They stop talking about things and start fighting about bullshit things. This can lead to resentment and bad feelings, and these bad feelings can start off so small but explode because they weren’t talked about.

Communication Is Key

In order to keep a relationship strong and healthy the couple needs to put some work into it. A great way to keep a relationship strong is to talk, talk, talk. Always communicate about everything that matters.

Along with communicating, you need to listen too. Really listen to your partner! Listen to the small day to day tidbits and also listen to their dreams and goals. Be supportive and understanding and open. For women talking is easy, we talk a lot more than men but we need to also listen.

Give & Take Along With A Healthy Dose Of Respect

There needs to be give and take in relationships and each person should feel like they are being valued.

That being said another way to keep a relationship from derailing is to respect each other, even when you fight. There is nothing wrong with fighting but one should never ever attack their partner. You can be upset with them but if you start disrespecting them and attacking their character you are just putting them down. That is not fair nor does that lead to reaching a common ground. When you disrespect your man you start to be a bully, name calling and highlighting his faults. Your goal should never be to make your partner feel worse about themselves.

Never use the word “YOU” when talking about difficult topics. This has saved us many times in the past! –Dan & Jennifer

Have Something To Share

Another way to keep a relationship from derailing is to share common interests. It could be anything, favorite movies or sport team or a love of a certain food. You need to have something in common that you both agree on, adore and makes you feel good. That way when life gets crazy you always have a base of understanding and something that ties you two together.

Along the lines of sharing common interests, to keep a relationship strong you should have separate interests. You need to have days or night where you are able to do your own thing without feeling like you need your man with you. Do an activity outside your relationship that brings you joy and doesn’t require you man. This will also help keep you interesting, having your own hobby or activity is exciting and you can tell your man all about it.

Talk, Talk, Talk

All in all, to keep a relationship from derailing it is about communication!

Talking to him when you are super happy and talking to him when you are mad. Talking to him when you are doing things together, and talking to him when you are doing things apart. It’s all about knowing your man and respecting him and your relationship.

Do not let silence or resentment ruin a perfectly amazing love.

What He Said About Keeping Your Relationship On Track

I think the most important thing is to realize that this is something that could happen and can happen if you’re not careful. Your relationship could go completely off-track and leave you in the dirt wondering what happened!

I don’t care how amazingly well matched you and your partner are, I don’t care how great the sex is or how great a friends you are, your relationship can and will go off the tracks if you don’t make a deliberate effort to keep it on the tracks. I don’t care who you are, you have to work to keep your relationship from derailing. Denying the possibility only sets you up for the fall.

Shared Interests

I think the most important way to keep your relationship from derailing is to have a strong foundation based on commonality or shared interests. There is such bullshit surrounding relationships, especially the matching part. This opposites attract notion is horseshit. Yes, they attract, but that only lasts so long in and of itself.

You need common interests and a lot in common. You need to be into a lot of the same things. You don’t see a lot of pro bodybuilders dating yoga instructors. There’s a reason for that. Bodybuilders and yoga instructors have absolutely nothing in common.

Work For It!

Assuming you did that part right, another great way to keep your relationship from derailing is to do preventative maintenance, like date night, tantric workshops, couples massage, whatever.

The easiest way to keep your relationship in shape is to keep working at it. You can’t not go to the gym and expect to be in shape, you have to keep going.

And if all else fails, there is always make up sex.

DON’T Try These Homemade Sex Toys!

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Economy cutting into your sex toy budget? Looking to save a few bucks by making your own. Don’t. We have some great “don’t try this at home” information for you.

Here’s What She Said About Homemade Sex Toys

Let me begin this with WTF? Why would you even want to try a homemade sex toy? It’s not like sex toys are expensive. Nor are they hard to come by. Every drugstore sells them under the veil of being a “personal massager” and if you really want to be discreet, you can order one online and it will arrive in a discreet package!

If you are thinking of using a homemade sex toy, then proceed with caution. And if you must, make sure you do not try any of the ones that i mention below.

Candle Stick

Sure it looks all innocent and hard and safe to jam up in your private places but this candle stick is made of wax!

Wax may begin in the sold state but does not stay that way. Waxing your bikini line is one thing, waxing the inside of your vagina is another! And if you even think bout having it lit, you deserve the pain that will come to you.

Cucumbers, Yams, And Carrots

If it goes in a salad, it should not go in your vagina or your anus! Ever!

You are just asking for a carrot to break off in your mans butt or get a cucumber piece in your vagina. The vagina and anus are not crispers, that food will rot and that is not sexy. Plus, you don’t know where that vegetable has been! And if you have sex with it, what the hell are you going to make for dinner?

Grapefruit, Orange, And Mango

Sure this fruit taste so sweet and feels so good on your tongue, but do not poke a hole in it and then stick your penis inside it!

I have heard stories of guys cutting a hole in grapefruit, heating it up in the microwave and then just going to town. While going to town, they also can burn their junk! Even if they don’t heat up the fruit, there is still the possibility of getting citrus juice in a hole where no juice should go – ouch!

Small Animals In Nylons

We all remember that urban legend about Richard Geer having to go to the ER because he had a had a gerbil stuck up his rear. If you haven’t heard of it, Google it, it’s funny. Regardless do not use family pets as a sex toy ever. Its dangerous and illegal, and just poor form all the way around.

Napkin Rings

The idea of using a napkin ring as a cock ring during sex is incredible funny and also makes me think twice about the
table setting for Thanksgiving dinner. A napkin ring is not a good choice for a sex toy. Sure those bright colors or steel plates look sexy, but it is a hard ring,a hard ring that when put on an engorged penis might not come off until that penis gets soft.

We only recommend stretchy cock rings, just in case you need to get it off in a pinch.

Cell Phone.

Sure it vibrates and might feel a little too good between your legs when you are getting a phone call but do not stick your phone up any of your orifices for any reason! This is also super dangerous and lets face it, what if your mother calls you? That’s just awkward.

There you go, a handful of homemade sex toys that should never be used. Seriously, just nut up and buy the real deal. There are so many sex toys that can be bought online or at your local sex store or pharmacy. Remember ordering a discreet package is a lot safer then using something at home.

Sure you might not want your roommate or mailman know you like big black dildos, but its better than having to go to
the ER because you got a hamster stuck up your rectum or the OB Gyn for that weird bacterial infection that you got from your cucumber.

Here’s What He Said About Homemade Sex Toys

There’s really no such thing as a good homemade sex toy, unless of course you’re a carpenter and can make your own “red room of pain” from 50 shades of grey your self.

Sex toys are mainstream. Everyone has them. You should feel good about buying whatever sex toy you want. Get them online if you want to buy discreetly OR go to a local sex shop and pay cash if you want to take it even further.

Don’t ever make your own sex toys. Yes, they do it in movies sometimes and yes it is hot – when they do it. When you do it, you go to the hospital. Don’t be that guy. Or girl. Or couple.

Use the “DANJENN” offer code at AdamAndEve.com – you can save 50% and get free shipping.

How Does Weight Gain Affect Your Relationship?

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People change. So do bodies. Some weight gain is natural, but when the pendulum swings too far one way and the scale is screaming for mercy, then things are a bit past the natural stage. Your partner has gained weight. Maybe you both have.

Does weight gain affect a relationship? We have your answer.

Here’s What “She Said” About Weight Gain

Just like dramatic weight lose can affect a relationship, so can weight gain.

When a guy starts to put on weight it can have a huge impact on a relationship.

A few pounds like 10-20 not such a big impact but more than that 30+ is a huge turn off.

A little weight gain is normal in relationships, you eat out more, you get comfy you get spoiled with having a dinner partner and drinker, that bottle of wine can’t finish itself!  But guys need to be careful about a little weight and a lot of weight.  Mostly because when guys put on weight it goes straight to their belly and face.  On average it doesn’t normally spread out evenly and it can be a turn off and unhealthy.

When a man puts on too much weight it affects his stamina in the bedroom and his endurance – two things that can rock a woman’s world!  And an even worse side effect of weight gain is it makes his dick smaller!  Mostly because now there is more fat hanging over it.  Hows that for a visual?

Women are not completely off the hook either…

When a woman puts on just a little weight it can affect a relationship.  Women have a window of about 5-10 pounds before it can be apparent and I know most guys will say “I love you at any weight”. Which may be true but how many women feel sexy about themselves when they put on weight? Very few.

Too many pounds can zap a woman of her sexual confidence and make her feel less sexy and less willing to have sex.  Maybe it leads her to keeping a shirt on or the lights off.  Maybe there are positions she doesn’t want to do because she doesn’t want her guy to see anything on her body shake or look flabby.

A little softness in both sexes is ok.

Women can be more curvy and guys can fill out but in relationships you should try to be the best and healthiest for your partner!

It can be tough when one person has sort of let them self go especially if the other partner is staying in shape!  But all doesn’t have to be lost!  If you are a couple you can do couple things that involve working out together, walking together or sharing a gym membership.  Keep yourself looking good and keep yourself healthy so you can be the best for yourself and your partner.

Here’s What “He Said” About Weight Gain

Does weight gain affect your relationship? Yes, hell yes.

I don’t know why it’s so taboo to admit this.

Yes, I get it. A relationship is supposed to be about to becoming one, soul mates uniting against the tides of time, in sickness and in health, through thick and thin for the rest of our lives, until the end of time, blah blah blah.

When do we start admitting that the most important thing is for our partner to be fuckable?

Sure, you may not be a supermodel and he may not look like a shirtless vampire or male porn star, but you should want to fuck your partner and they should feel the same about you.  A shift in appearance is one way that weight gain affects a relationship.

I think the general rule of thumb is that you should always look hot for your woman or man. You should always do the things that made you want to fuck the shit out of them and vice versa. Everyone knows that weight gain undeniably affects a relationship, but no one wants to say that. Apparently that’s too difficult.

Maybe it’s eaiser to just quietly work out like crazy. Maybe that’s more politically correct than having an honest discussion about how your weight (or your partners) gain has affected your relationship and put added stress on your relationship and your hips and shoulders and neck and back.

Somehow women think that guys have more wiggle room in the weight gain realm.

I’m not sure why this attitude is prevalent, but it’s increasingly untrue. Seems like everywhere you go, buff shirtless ripped dudes are everywhere, just begging you to do laundry on their stomach. Men are feeling increasingly like the relationship will suffer if they gain weight as well.

Insecurity! It used to be for women only! Thanks

Best Places To NEVER Have Sex In Public

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The idea of sex in public is so hot because its forbidden! It’s naughty and illegal in most places. Now I am all for spur of the moment sex and know sometimes it can be hard to keep your pants on and your legs off a guy’s shoulders.

But, be careful! Its all fun and games until you get arrested or embarrassed.

If you are thinking of spicing up your sex life by taking it into the public arena, take a moment and take note of these places where you should always avoid public sex!

What “She Said” About Sex In Public

Here are my top 6 places to never have sex in public.

I know the list might be upsetting to some, but do not fear, there are a million other places that are not so public and not so illegal to do the deed. Never under-estimate a big back seat of a car or well shaded bush or even a slow-moving elevator. Just be prepared to get out, zip up wipe off and run!

1) In A Church

Maybe you are not a religious person but you know who is? 80 year old women and they do not look kindly on kinky going down on church grounds.

Plus even if you aren’t religious there is still some sort of bad karma that has to come out of coming in a church.

2) In A Plane WHEN ONE OF YOU IS THE PILOT

This is just not safe. A few things i have learned in my years is to never have sex while handling heavy machinery especially if that machinery is thousands of feet up in the air!

3) Near An Elementary School/Playground

This is just creepy. Not only could you scar children for life, I also would question why a couple would get turned on over the laughter of children? If anything when I hear children, the last thing I think about is having sex.

4) Near Law Enforcement Of ANY Kind

Do not even consider doing it near a cop, near a cop car, nor near a cop station. The same goes for getting it on at a court house! You are just asking to be caught.

5) Your Marriage Bed With Your Secret Lover

OK, this really isn’t a public place but it’s still needs to be mentioned for all the morons out there.

Aside from the fact that you are having an affair, this is a huge no-no! Have you ever seen a lifetime movie or any movie? The cheater always gets caught by the wife/husband and a lot of the time it happens at their house! If you are going to cheat stop being so cheap and get a hotel. Or nut up and get a divorce first!

6) In A Porta Potty

It’s movable sewage room! I do not care how horny you are, no one is ever that horny. Seriously, if this is your only option then you need to stop working at a carnival.

What “He Said” About Sex In Public

I’m not a fan of sex in public – PERIOD. But, here are my top 2 places you should never, ever have sex in public.

1) The Beach

Yes, it’s hot. But there’s this thing, called the internet. If it’s night, you have some cover, so to speak, but if you’re having sex on a beach in broad day light, do you really think it’s a good idea to have sex in public here, really?

You have nothing to hide behind, so there’s nothing to prevent someone from posting pictures and or video of you and your lover all over the internet, Tumblr, on free or pay porn sites, or wherever. And that shit can have a life of it’s own and someone you know may eventually wind up coming across it.

Sure it’s hot if they swing and you swing and you wind up hooking up, but if it’s the fat dude at the gym, or the crusty old lady who runs your school’s PTA, then that shit is going to get weird. Fast.

2) ANYWHERE (For Certain Professionals)

If you’re joe the plumber and you and your lover decide to have public sex, and you get busted by the cops, who cares? But if you’re a doctor, or a lawyer, or a cop or an elected official, and you hook up in public and you get caught, you’re loosing your license not to mention your job.

If you have a job that requires a certain licensing or high level of public interaction or a certain level of standing in the community, there’s never a good place for you to have sex in public.

You just can’t afford to risk it.