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Sexy Valentine’s Day Idea – Gettin’ Kinky

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Make this Valentine’s Day hotter than ever by doing something totally exciting and unexpected in the bedroom! Instead of doing the same old, boring thing that you do every Valentine’s Day, try something new and fun. This is the perfect time to get a little kinky, and spice things up for both you and your partner. Here are a few ideas to get you started.

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Vibrators

Instead of your traditional vibrator, try wearing some vibrating boy shorts all day to get you hot and ready for the big night! Put them on while your partner pleasures you in different ways, to increase y0ur orgasmic potential. Also, boy shorts with a larger sized remote control vibrator puts your pleasure in your partner’s hands! Give him total control over your body, even from another room. Wear them all day and let him surprise you with pleasure again and again.

Bondage

If you’re into bondage with a willing prisoner, splurge a little on some inexpensive japanese bondage rope or handcuffs specifically designed for the bedroom. Scarves work well too, but rope from the boat, car or garage just won’t do. You want something soft, stretchy and made for bondage to do the job. Japanese bondage rope is an easy to use, soft “rope” that actually tightens a little when you try to resist. Another great toy is an under the bed restraint – this restraint actually “threads” under your bed and provides you with soft, velcro cuffs at all four corners of the bed for each of your willing prisoner’s arms and legs.  The under the bed restraint also features adjustable straps that you can tighten or loosen at your discretion. Take some turns trying out your new toys and being prisoner and prison warden for a kinky Valentine’s night that you’ll never forget!

Kinky Valentine’s Day Treasure Chest

A great way to spice up your Valentine’s night with some fun new toys is to get a “grab bag” with lots of stuff inside. The Fetish Fantasy Series bondage gear box is like a treasure chest full of fun things to use on Valentine’s Day – and afterwards! A red, fuzzy, heart shaped paddle, velcro cuffs with heart chain links and warming massage oil are among the many suprises in this fun treasure chest. You and your partner will have a blast seeing what’s inside! Take your toys to a hotel for an even hotter Valentine’s night, or simply stay at home and lock the door. Just remember, Valentine’s Day is about trying something new and different to spice up your sex life. Keep an open mind and a great attitude!

Check out Sexy Valentine’s Day Ideas – Sexy Games For Couples and Sexy Valentine’s Day Ideas – Fun In The Tub for more great ideas on how to make this Valentine’s Day rock!

5 Signs Your Man Is Cheating Or Just No Good

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Signs that your man is cheating (or is just no good for you) are usually fairly easy to pick out. Most women can tell when there is something wrong with the relationship or when a guy is hiding something from them. If you have taken stock of your current relationship and realized that things just aren’t adding up, you might have a cheater on your hands. Guys have an uncanny ability to hide things from women, but with just a few things to look out for, you will easily be able to determine if you have a sneaky cheater or a great guy.

Here Are 5 Signs Your Man Is Cheating.

#1 He Cringes When You Reach For His Phone

This is probably one of the biggest cheating red flags out there. A guy’s phone is much like your phone: it’s his lifeline. If a guy is cringing or panicking every time that you try to use his phone, he’s probably ding something. If he’s cheating on you, the phone is the first place to look. One of the things that you will find about men is that they hate deleting texts, pictures and emails from other women. They tend to keep them as trophies. So when a guy is in a panic over you using his phone, he has something to hide. Confronting him about it doesn’t have to be a screaming match. Ask him why he has a problem with you using his phone. He might just turn it over for you to look through it. If he refuses, there is something wrong.

#2 He Panics When You Reach For His Computer

Very similar to the phone, the computer is a very private thing that men use all the time. Whether he doesn’t want you to find his secret porno stash or he doesn’t want you to see the email that his ex sent, there is something wrong if he doesn’t want you to use his computer. Everybody gets a false sense of security with their computer.

It’s usually password protected, you can delete the history and you can close out email windows. But when a guy hasn’t covered his tracks, there’s going to be a problem with you using his computer. You will get a feeling of uneasiness when a guy is afraid you’ll find something. When you touch on this emotion, consider what he’s hiding and how bad it could possibly be.

#3 He Doesn’t Acknowledge The Relationship

We live in a digital age of social networking, smartphones and a bunch of other gadgets that can show off our relationships. If you have been in the relationship for a while and he hasn’t really acknowledged it outside of the two of you, it might be time to get worried. Facebook relationship statuses aren’t really a big deal until he refuses to change it for you. There are only two reasons that a guy will change his Facebook relationship status: he’s embarrassed by you or he’s cheating and doesn’t want other people –women, friends, family- to know about it. This is a big problem and you should reconsider the relationship if it persists.

#4 He Doesn’t Plan For The Future

There comes a time when you have to put up or shut up. Now, that doesn’t seem very romantic, but women want a guy that is going to plan for the future. A relationship is about sharing a life and you can’t do this when one piece of the relationship is only considering their own future. If your guy hasn’t mentioned anything about marriage, children, or even a summer vacation together, you might want to take a very hard look at what you’re in. Guys that don’t plan for the future do not see a future and you should prepare yourself for this inevitability.

#5 He Only Makes Time For You When It’s Convenient

This is another big one. There are guys out there that lead very busy lives. Whether he’s a lawyer, a doctor or even a student, if he’s only seeing you when it’s convenient for him, he’s definitely no good. One sided relationships never end well. If you think that you’re in a one sided relationship, ask yourself when the last time your guy rearranged his schedule to accommodate you. Now, he shouldn’t always be doing this. That would show desperation. However, he should make time for you when there is something important happening in your life or you need his help during an emergency. If he’s not dependable, you should go ahead and give him the boot.

Test It! – Discreet At-Home STD Testing Kit

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Ok, sometimes we come across something pretty cool that we want to share with you and this is pretty cool – at-home STD testing! No more embarrassing or expensive doctor visits… So take just a minute to share this post and help a good cause!

Test It Foundation, a Washington nonprofit organization, plans to run a crowd-funding campaign on Indiegogo.com to raise money to research and develop an easy, affordable, and discreet at-home STD testing kit. This technology was developed through Lawrence Livermore National Laboratory and is capable of diagnosing six major sexually-transmitted diseases (STDs). Test It! also plans to partner with health organizations that serve 3rd world and developing countries to distribute this product around the world.

At-Home STD Testing KitTest It’s home STD testing kit will work in the same way as a pregnancy test, using a urine sample that shows a clear reaction if STDs are present. The STD test kit is projected to cost under $50, significantly cheaper than alternatives. Once developed, the kit should be available in major drugstores, where it can be easily and discreetly purchased. “Our goals are to develop this technology so that it is available to the general public and can be purchased at a drugstore or supermarket and to distribute this technology to third-world and developing countries where healthcare is not readily available,” says information officer Jacob Randall. The kit will screen for HIV, chlamydia, gonorrhea, syphilis, trichomoniasis, bacterial vaginosis, and herpes.

Advantages Of The Test It! At-Home STD Testing Kits

  • Small, easy-to-use, perfect for privacy considerations – rapid diagnosis – reduced feedback time – Lower medical costs for the patient
  • Utilizes easily accessible biological samples (urine) -Lower clinical costs for both patient and health care provider.
  • Uses lateral flow technology (similar to home pregnancy tests) – Simple, Cost-Effective to build – Lower production costs for the manufacturer.

Potential Applications Of The Test It! At-Home STD Testing Kits

  • Use in the privacy of the home.
  • Point-of-care diagnostic testing
  • Save on Doctor visit costs

Many people avoid STD screening due to their embarrassment or the associated expenses. As a result, the incidence of some infections have grown exponentially because people who are unaware of their infection inadvertently infect their sexual partners.

Centers for Disease Control and Prevention in the US reported over 1.6 million STD cases in 2009, and this number is likely only a fraction of the total, since many infections go unreported and undiagnosed. Estimates suggest there are 1.9 million new cases every year, costing the US healthcare system $16.4 billion. A simple and affordable home STD testing kit will provide a convenient way to obtain instant results and will allow every sexually active adult to test themselves regularly.

Test It Foundation plans to distribute these STD tests to developing countries and to make them available to people who cannot afford STD screening at little or no cost. Test It is going to run a crowd-funding campaign on its website, as well as on indiegogo.com starting the first week of December. Many great perks such as being one of the first to own the home STD testing kit, along with fun “Safe is Sexy” t-shirts and apparel will be available along with custom Swiss watches for those that participate in the crowd-funding campaign.

Test It Foundation can be reached at www.testit.org as well as on Facebook at Test It STD kit and on Twitter.

For more information contact
Jacob Randall
Information Officer
Test It Foundation.
info@testitstdkit.com or
360-907-2631

Are You Making This Critical Sex Mistake? (Orgasm Tips)

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Making this critical sex mistake can easily wreck the sex life of you and your partner. There are so many guys that think they know exactly what their partners want and how they want it, but find out halfway through a two-year relationship that they have no idea what turns on their wife or girlfriend.

If you don’t know that there are different kinds of orgasms your girl can have then you’re in for a rude awakening. The g-spot, the clitoris, and deep spot are the 3 most common places for women to have orgasms.

No woman is the same, which means that you must cater to her needs with the type of orgasm that you give her. If you’re making this critical sex mistake, here are 3 orgasm tips to help you energize your sex life and give her exactly what she wants.

Orgasm Tip #1: Get It Right With Clitoral Stimulation

Clitoral stimulation is one of the most often misunderstood aspects of bringing a woman to orgasm with men. Guys tend to overwork the clitoris throughout intercourse to the point that they can make the woman sore. The clitoris is made up of thousands of nerve endings and once a woman reaches orgasm the sensitivity can be too much to take. If the woman reaches orgasm before the guy, it can even be uncomfortable to have sex.

Make sure that your fingers are lubricated with spit or lube before you touch her clitoris. If you are rubbing it during sex, start slow and gauge her breaths or moaning based on how hard your rub it and the frequency to which you move your fingers. Too much stimulation and you will make her uncomfortable. Too little and she’ll be wondering what you’re doing. Get it right and she will never leave you.

Orgasm Tip #2: Finding The G-Spot

There are a ton of guys that swear they know where the g-spot is, but ask their wives or girlfriends and they will tell you that their partners get it wrong 100% of the time. The g-spot orgasm can be the most intensive orgasm that a woman has so it’s important to know what you’re doing. Finding it can be the difference between making her reach climax within a few minutes and never giving her an orgasm.

Finding the g-spot is not difficult if you know her anatomy. The g-spot is located about 2 inches inside her vagina. Enter your finger palm-side up and motion to “come here” with your index and middle finger. You should feel something spongy on the inside and you will feel her start to grind with her pelvis. Once you find the g-spot she should start to get very wet very quickly so be ready for this.

The missionary position is excellent for hitting her g-spot during sex. Bend your body back a little so your penis is going in at a steeper angle to rub the tip against her g-spot. If you’re having trouble hitting her g-spot during sex, ask her to help you get the angle right. She should be more than willing to give you some advice.

Orgasm #3: Going With The Deep Spot

While the g-spot gets all the recognition, the deep spot is really that can separate you from the pack. There aren’t too many guys that know about the deep spot and this can help you make your mark on any girl. The thing that you have to watch out for is the cervix. When you are trying to give her an orgasm, brushing against the cervix can quickly kill the mood.

Use your middle finger for the deep spot. You probably won’t be able to reach this with any other fingers, but luckily, you won’t have to. Your middle finger is going to be more than enough to get the job done. Use some lube when you are trying to reach the deep spot so you do not irritate the inside of her vagina. Insert your finger as far as it will go and then bend your finger back and forth with light pressure.

She should respond very quickly when you are doing it correctly. If you aren’t doing it correctly you might need some help. Guys with smaller hands might find this technique a little difficult, but with the right amount of practice you will get it. Hitting the deep spot during sex should not be that difficult unless you have a penis that is less than 5 inches long. Simply go in as far as you can go and start grind upward in small movements.

4 Ways To Get Her To Love Sex Toys

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Sex toys can be one of the best ways to spice up you and your partner’s sex life. If you feel that the spark is quickly dying you can easily breathe a little more life into your bedroom affairs by taking advantage of the technological innovations of modern sex toys. There are so many to choose from that everybody can find something they like.

A lot of men and women feel that sex toys are a way of cheating, that if their partner can not bring them to orgasm then a sex toys can become a crutch. However, if you love using sex toys and your girlfriend or wife is on the fence, there are a few ways that you can break down the barriers and get her love using them.

Here are 4 ways to get her to love sex toys.

#1 Dispel The Myths About Sex Toys

As stated before, there are a lot of women that are overly cautious when it comes to sex toys because they believe that they could become dependent on them. If their partner cannot bring them to climax during intercourse, but they can reach intercourse with the use of a sex toy, they might feel like they’re cheating or that it could hurt their partner’s feelings. If your girlfriend or wife has these concerns make sure that you dispel these myths.

Women cannot become physically dependent on sex toys to reach orgasm. Sex toys are enhancements that help a woman to have stronger, more powerful orgasms, but they will not become dependent on them. Dispel these myths with your partner and you will find that they are much more open to trying out sex toys with you.

#2 Find The Right Sex Toys For Her

Finding the right sex toys for your partner is going to be an important step to getting her to love using them. There are so many different devices with so many sizing options that any couple can quickly get lost in all of it. When you want your girl to love sex toys, it’s best to get her the right size and the right functionality.

Whether she is into vibrators or dildos, she needs to find something that is going to be comfortable for her. Smaller girls can’t handle the thickness of some dildos and even the size of some vibrators. Make sure that you are using the right sex toys so that they can get the maximum amount of pleasure. Some sex toy websites will even offer sizing options based on various aspects of her physique such as height and weight.

Check out a few different sex toy web sites to find the right options for her.

#3 Experiment To Find New Toys She Will Like

Experimentation is the bread and butter of almost all relationships. You try something out and see if it works. If you don’t like it then you move onto something else. The same goes with sex toys. If she thinks that she might like a vibrator, but actually responds better to a dildo, go from there.

You can’t know what she is going to like until she tries it out. She needs to try out a few different toys before she will be able to figure out exactly what she likes. Another thing to remember is that she isn’t always going to want the same old vibrator.

Take things a step further and surprise her with a new toy every month or so. This will make her want to experiment and find out what she likes. There is no use in buying a bunch of sex toys that do the same thing. Branch out and try a wide variety of things to find out what she responds to best.

#4 Tell Her About Your Desires And How Sex Toys Can Help

Every guy likes to watch his girlfriend or wife get off. That’s not exactly a well kept secret. However, many women don’t think of it in this light. For some women, their own pleasure is secondary. Some women can get wrapped up in pleasing the guy that they put their own orgasm at the back of the line.

‘Let her know that you like it when she is being pleased. Tell her that it’s a turn on for her to get off and she will be much more open to trying out new sex toys. A sex toy is also a way for you to get her off with a much more powerful orgasm. Once you make it known that you want to give her all of the satisfaction, she will be open to letting you experiment with these new toys.