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Q&A: How To Tell If She Wants To Have Sex With You

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If you’re wondering whether a girl wants to have sex with you or not, you’re not alone! Many guys are in the dark when it comes to communicating with a girl, especially when it comes to a topic as delicate as whether she wants to have sex or not. Some girls just come right out and say if they want to have sex with you, but other girls are a little more subtle about it. Here’s how to pick up on the little things that she might do that will let you know that she’s interested in getting down and dirty with you.

Question: How EXACTLY do you know when a girl wants you to have sex with her, because I don’t want to pressure her or anything. I’m just waiting on her to give me a sign!

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What Her Body Language Will Tell You

Lots of women communicate with their body language rather than telling you exactly what they want you to know. Sure, it may seem frustrating at first, but once you learn how to read body language, you’ll be appreciative of the unspoken gestures that let you know what she wants and how she’s feeling. Women who want to have sex with men will automatically gravitate towards them physically, so she may stand very close to you and be facing you most of the time you and her are around each other. She may rub her body against you on “accident,” for example, if she’s passing by you or leaning over you to get something. She may accidentally brush her butt or breasts and nipples up against you if she’s near you. She also may touch you a lot when you’re talking with her, for example, laying her hand on your knee or arm.

When She Makes Eye Contact With You

Eye contact is a biggie for women and most, if not all, women will make some serious eye contact with a guy they want to get into bed with. She may look you directly in the eyes when you and her are talking, or she may watch your lips as you’re talking. This may mean that she wants to kiss you, or of course, do other things with your lips than just talking. She may also look up and down your body or very obviously check you out when you walk away. Eye contact, along with body language, is one of the easiest ways to tell that she’s into you sexually. If she keeps looking at you and her attention doesn’t seem to be elsewhere, it’s a pretty safe bed that she wants something more.

If She Compliments You

Sure, women will complement your clothes or your hair, but if a woman wants you sexually, she’ll complement more than that. She’ll complement your body parts, such as how big and strong your arms or legs are, or how great you look in a swimsuit. She may put her hands on your shoulders or neck and exclaim how firm they are, or even compliment your hands or lips.

If She Wants Alone Time With You

If you and your girl are hanging out with friends and her friends are ready to go, she may be fine with letting them go and staying to hang out with you. She may try to get you alone every chance she gets! When a girl goes out of her way to try to get alone time with you, she’s trying to find a window in which she can make a move on you or prompt you to make a move on her.

If She Brings Up Sexual Topics

A woman that wants to have sex with you may not come right out and say it, however, she may have nothing on her mind but sex and that will definitely come out in the conversation. She may bring up sexual topics such as breast enlargement, sex tips, funny sex stories or anything to do with sex at all. She may start a friendly debate about whether or not girls can have a libido as high as a man’s, or she may ask you what you like in the bedroom! Either way, if she’s talking about sex, she’s most likely wanting sex with you.

When She Comes Right Out And Tells You

While most guys have to interpret body language and eye contact to figure out if a girl wants to hop in bed with them, there are a few women who will just come right out and say it. She may invite you back to her house for “drinks” or suggest going over to yours after hanging out with friends. Of course, if your girl does, lucky for you!

Vampire Sex: A Guide To Safe Bloodletting And Biting In The Bedroom

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With sexy vampire shows like True Blood and Vampire Diaries, or movies like Twilight, fetishists and BDSM fans may be tempted to try lots of biting and bloodletting in the bedroom if they haven’t already. Sure, it might be creepy to some people, but who’s to judge? Here’s how to keep bloodletting and biting in check so you can have hot vampire sex safely.

Biting

Most people are no stranger to biting in the bedroom. Even non-BDSM lovers can enjoy light biting or nibbling during sex, and some even enjoy harder biting that leaves marks. Biting during sex typically isn’t dangerous if you’re not drawing blood, but it’s important to have a safe word during biting just like with any sex activity that involves pain of any kind. Come up with a completely unrelated safe word (like “banana” or “train”) and if your partner is biting too hard or you want to stop for any reason, use the safe word. Before getting started, make sure both you and your partner (and whoever else is involved) is aware of the safe word and knows to stop immediately if anyone says it.

Bloodletting

Bloodletting isn’t as common as biting and it’s definitely not considered a “safe” activity and in fact it can be as dangerous as other activities such as erotic asphyxiation. There are, however, some things that you can do to make it safer for both you and your partner if this is an activity you both wish to pursue. First of all, bloodletting is not an activity that can be done with either partner inebriated in any way and of course must never be done by anyone under the age of eighteen. Bloodletting is an activity that is reserved for responsible, consenting adults only! Typically, people who enjoy bloodletting will draw only small amounts of blood from themselves (to avoid cutting or harming the other person more than intended) and either lick the blood themselves or allow their partner to do so. Never draw large amounts of blood from yourself or your partner, and if you’re not comfortable with it, don’t do it! Don’t let anyone “talk you into it” or convince you that you want to do it.

A Note On STD’s

Blood spreads STD’s like wildfire. NEVER, EVER use someone else’s needle or razor and never allow anyone else to use yours. Never drink another person’s blood unless you and your partner have had STD testing and your results were negative. In addition, once you and your partner have had clean blood tests, you both must be committed to monogamy to avoid contracting a new sexually transmitted disease and giving it to your partner. Remember that bloodletting and biting (if blood is drawn) can spread serious STD’s like HIV and Hepatitis C, for which there is no cure. It is considered a high risk activity and it’s important to take steps to make yourself and your partner as safe as possible.

Don’t want to take the risk but enjoy the sight of blood during sex? Why not incorporate a bottle of good old fashioned fake blood into your sexcapades? Or find a recipe for edible blood made from corn syrup and red food coloring. You can still have fun without causing pain or putting yourself at risk for contracting and spreading sexually transmitted diseases.

What Are Pheromones And Do They Really Work?

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There are lots of ways to attract the opposite sex, such as wearing sexy clothes, putting on makeup or splashing on some great smelling cologne. However, our natural scent, called pheromones, are on of the most powerful ways to attract someone. Animals and insects have used pheromones for millenia to attract mates and to find food. Here’s how you can use pheromones yourself to improve your love life!

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What Are Pheromones?

Pheromones are a chemical that is excreted from humans, insects or animals that will affect the behavior of others. There are many different kinds of pheromones that can be excreted, such as pheromones that alert others of danger, pheromones that alert others where food is and of course, sex pheromones that help animals and insects find a mate. Science has long debated the existence of pheromones in humans, however, many scientists and researchers believe that all humans have the potential to communicate with each other through producing pheromones.

Do Pheromones Really Work?

Animals have used pheromones for many years successfully. They are able to attract their mates through the use of secreted pheromones, as well as let other members of the same species know where food is or if there is danger nearby. Humans are mammals and are very similar to many animals in a lot of ways, so it follows logic that humans would be able to secrete pheromones as well.  Probably the most powerful of human pheromones is the sex pheromone. Human sex pheromones will attract members of the opposite sex, making them feel relaxed, happy and aroused when around the pheromone. Real human pheromones aren’t easily obtainable, however, many companies have successfully manufactured synthetic pheromones for use by both men and women. A variety of studies shows that synthetic human pheromones are extremely successful in attracting members of the opposite sex! Pheromones are usually without noticeable scent and can be combined with your favorite cologne or perfume. The olfactory system picks up the pheromones through the nose and transmits the chemical signals the pheromones create to the brain. With sex pheromones, feelings of attraction, relaxation and arousal are transmitted to the brain of members of the opposite sex, instantly making them more attracted to you. Many people use pheromones when dating and going out to meet people, whether they’re going to a bar, a club or a bookstore. Instead of worrying about pickup lines and how to get yourself noticed, people who wear pheromones find that people are coming up to them!

What Happens When You Stop Using Pheromones?

Many people are concerned that after meeting someone and developing a relationship with them through the use of pheromones that the relationship and attraction will end after the use of pheromones is stopped. While pheromones do a great job of helping people to attract the opposite sex, they do nothing to develop and nurture a great relationship. Once you’ve attracted someone through using pheromones and you’ve built a relationship with them, the relationship isn’t going to be affected if you stop using the pheromones. There is a great deal more to a lasting relationship than just scent! However, when looking to meet people of the opposite sex, pheromones will definitely help get you noticed – in a good way!

Q&A: What To Do If She’s Only In It For The Sex

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Men often get a bad rap for being in a relationship only for the sex and women get stuck being the “booty call.” But truth be told, some women will actually do the same thing to men and turn the man into the “booty call” instead of wanting a real relationship. It’s actually not that uncommon for a single, independent woman to want to be with a man simply for the great sex. What are the signs that she is, in fact, only in it for the sex and what should you do if she is?

Question: What should I do if it looks like the girl I’m dating is with me just for sex?

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What Are You Looking For In A Relationship?

If you suspect that your girl is with you simply for the sex, stop and think about what you’re looking for in a relationship. Are you looking for a relationship that is sex only, or are you looking for something more serious? Do you want a long term relationship or do you want a casual relationship that involves a friendship in addition to sex? Stopping to define what you want in a relationship at this stage in your life is essential in figuring out if you want to stay in this particular relationship or not. If your girl is in it only for the sex and you want a deeper, more emotionally fulfilling relationship, you might want to consider moving on and dating other people. On the other hand, however, stop and consider that while you’re not getting what you want out of a relationship with your current girl, are you satisfied for the time being? If you would end up being single anyways and spending your time masturbating instead of having sex, why not continue to stay in a sex-only relationship until you meet someone you are interested in starting a real relationship with? If your girl really is in it only for the sex, she won’t mind you keeping your eyes peeled for someone who can better meet your needs.

Signs That She’s Just Looking For Sex

If you’re not sure that she’s just in it for the sex but you have your suspicions, there are many ways to find out. The way she acts towards you and her behaviors will definitely clue you in if she just wants sex from you and nothing else. In fact, these are the same types of behaviors that guys exhibit when they’re with a girl that they just consider to be a “booty call.” Your girl may not call you for days after having sex with you, but will call you again out of the blue if she wants more. She may call you only at night, or very late at night if she’s been out partying or hanging out with friends. She won’t want to hang out with you and may make excuses if you want to take her to dinner or take her to a game. She may hide her relationship with you from her friends, acting like she is “just friends” with you when you and her are together in front of them. When you are alone with her, however, she may act completely different towards you. She may bring up sex a lot in conversations with you and her, or she may just flat out put the moves on you when you first walk in her door. She may ask you to leave after sex instead of offering to let you stay the night or she may leave your house rather than asking to stay.

What To Do If You Want More Than Just Sex

If you are really wanting more out of this relationship than sex, talk to your girl. Let her know that you’re not getting what you need. Let her know that you really like her and that you want to be more than just a “booty call” to her. In some cases, a girl will assume that the man just wants sex with her so she tries to be what he wants. She may be surprised to hear that you want more than just sex and that you actually want a relationship! Don’t break up with her or end the relationship before talking to your girl and being completely honest with her. If you really like this girl, it would be a shame to let her go because of a simple miscommunication! If she really does want just sex though, and you’re not into that, move on because there are lots of other girls that would love to have an emotionally fulfilling relationship along with a sexual one.

Q&A: The Best Condoms of 2010

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Condom shopping isn’t exactly easy. With literally hundreds of different styles, sizes and materials available, it can be really hard, so to speak, to find the right one for you and your partner. While we have our personal favorites, we went to the pros at Condom Depot for the answer to this question. So here are the world’s best condoms for 2010!

Question: What are the best condoms and the best flavors?

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The Truth About Flavored Condoms

Flavored condoms, such as strawberry, mint or chocolate, are made to both taste and smell good. However, anyone who has ever used flavored condoms for oral sex will notice that these condoms taste a little bit like flavored plastic – because they are! Flavored condoms aren’t ever going to taste so great that you will want to eat them up, but they do make giving a blowjob a little nicer. Perhaps the best part about using a flavored condom is that they smell absolutely divine! If you’ve never tried a flavored condom before, don’t expect great things when you put it in your mouth. You and your partner will, however, really enjoy the different scents! Buy a sampler pack of different flavors so you can find the ones you and your partner like the best.

Crown Skinless Skin Condoms

Crown Skinless Skin Condoms, manufactured in Japan, is the clear winner of Condom Depot’s 9th Annual Condom Awards. In fact, this particular condom has won first place all nine years in a row! This condom is favored by the adult film industry and is tinted a slight pink that makes it look like you have nothing on. The best part? They’re so thin, you don’t even feel like you have anything on! This condom clocks in at a mere 0.00185″ and is officially the thinnest condom available. Plus, no latex smell!

Durex Extra Sensitive Condoms

Durex Extra Sensitive Condoms have ranked second place in the Condom Depot awards, however, it actually ranked first place five years in a row in the Consumer Report. This is Durex’s thinnest condom, and is made to help both partners feel more sensations during sex than any other condom made by Durex. The official thickness of Durex Extra Sensitive Condoms are 0.019.” Even though this condom takes second place in the awards, it is actually about 10 times thicker than Crown Skinless Skin Condoms!

Beyond Seven Condoms

Made by the same company that manufactures Crown Skinless Skin Condoms, Beyond Seven Condoms rank third place in the 9th Annual Condom Awards by Condom Depot. This condom is made from a special latex material called “Sheerlon” and are made thinner and stronger than most condoms. They’re the same thickness as Durex Extra Sensitive Condoms, but they’re a tad narrower at the top to fit the penis like a glove.

LifeStyles SKYN Condoms

For those with latex allergies, it’s time to chuck your non-stretchy and irritating polyurethane condoms. LifeStyles SKYN Condoms are made from a revolutionary new material called “polyisoprene” and is thin and can stretch to accommodate different penis sizes just like latex. It is thinner than polyurethane condoms and transfers heat unlike latex. This condom has been FDA approved to help prevent pregnancy and the transmission of STD’s so if you’re allergic to latex but still want great feeling protection, try LifeStyles SKYN Condoms.

Impulse Bare Pleasure Condoms

Impulse Bare Pleasure Condoms are ribbed for her pleasure, so sex ends up feeling great for both him and her. A two time Condom Depot Annual Condom Award winner, this condom is very popular among fans of textured condoms. This condom, however, is considered “average” in size, but will stretch to accommodate a variety of penis sizes. Impulse Bare Pleasure Condoms also offer a low latex odor for people who just don’t like that “condom” smell.

These are only the top five best condoms in the world – the list goes on! Visit Condom Depot to learn more about the best condoms of 2010 as determined by the 9th Annual Condom Depot Annual Condom Awards. You’ll find many more condoms on the “best of 2010 list,” including condoms for larger sized men. Condom Depot is actually an excellent website for finding the best condoms to use, because you can search for condoms several different ways, including by condom manufacturer, style or size. Each condom on the website includes a picture of the actual condom, size specifications (including how thick it is) and actual consumer reviews for each condom.