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5 Signs He’s Cheating On You (Or At Least Thinking About It)

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Signs that a guy is going to cheat on you are usually fairly obvious, but there are cases where women have been duped without even knowing it. Men can be masters of deception but when you start to put everything together, the fact that they are not happy or looking outside of the relationship for companionship can strike you like a lightning bolt. If you’re worried that your boyfriend or husband is cheating on you or is about to, there are a few telltale signs to look out for.

Here are 5 of the most common signs that he may be cheating.

1. He Works Late A Lot

Sure, even McDonalds has a night crew, but if your boyfriend or husband has what appears to be a 9-5 job and he’s working late a lot, you should have your guard up. The thing about working late and cheating is that his new schedule will probably appear when you start having problems between the two of you. Don’t jump to conclusions if he says he’s working late and your relationship is a little rocky. He might just be spending time by himself because he’s avoiding the issues in your relationship. If he comes home smelling like perfume or you find condom wrappers in his suit jacket, it’s time to have a talk.

2. You Don’t Have Sex Anymore

If you find that your guy is giving you excuses to not have sex there is a major issue. Men love having sex with their girlfriends and wives so if you’re throwing yourself at him and he’s resisting you need to be on the lookout. The most common reason that a guy doesn’t want to have sex with his wife or girlfriend is that he’s getting it somewhere else. There are a few things that occur when a guy is cheating. He might not want to have sex with you because of the guilt of cheating. Or he might actually not want to have sex with you because he feels like it would be cheating on his new girl. Either way, he’s in the wrong and you should look for other signs that he’s cheating.

3. His Stories Don’t Match Up

 

Has your guy ever come home and the reason that he was late didn’t match up to things that you already knew? If this is the case you probably have a cheater on your hands. The thing about cheating is that it’s hard for the guy to put himself somewhere that he wasn’t. When you start to ask questions because you know something that he doesn’t know he will start to get defensive. When a guy goes into defensive mode the argument will shift from where he was to why you’re so interested in where he was. This is a normal reaction and a normal tactic to try to change the subject and juxtapose the blame onto the accuser. Don’t let him do this to you. Stay on the subject and he will eventually cave.

4. He Accuses You Of Cheating

Have you ever heard it takes a thief to know one?  Well, the same goes with a cheater. If your guy is accusing you of cheating and there is really basis for it, he’s got something to hide. Because he has engaged in the action of cheating, he knows how to manage time, make stories up and deceive his partner. But the main thing is that he knows what to look out for and every little bit of suspicion is going to come up. This is why he is accusing you. There is also a subconscious want for you to cheat so that doesn’t feel so bad about cheating on you. Don’t put up with his accusations and start to check up on him. If you find out he’s cheating, leave him immediately.

He Threatens To Leave You – A Lot

This is a big one. When a guy threatens to leave you a lot there’s something out there that he knows he can rely on, aka his mistress. A guy that threatens to leave a woman is a guy that is confident that he won’t be alone. If he really cared about you he would try to work on the relationship instead of threatening to leave. If he ever says things like “I could have a new girlfriend tomorrow” you should be extremely careful with him. This is the statement of a cheater and should not be taken lightly.

4 Red Flags That Tell You You’re Dating Mrs. WRONG

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As guys its not very hard to get blinded by the beauty of a woman we’re dating. We like to feel good about ourselves and having a pretty girl on our arm is one of the biggest confidence boosters out there. Because of this, it’s not hard to see why so many guys put up with the games and pitfalls of women just to keep them around.

If you feel like you’re dating Mrs. Wrong then it’s time to open your eyes and break it off before you get too attached. Dating the wrong woman, and the eventual breakup, is enough to shake any guys confidence. By taking control you can soothe this pain and avoid the downsides of dating these types of women.

Here are 5 red flags that tell you you’re dating Mrs. Wrong.

She Still Talk To Her Exes

Okay, so there are a lot of women that still talk to their exes. They might be friends or they might just keep in touch via Facebook. But if you find that she’s spending more time on the phone with her ex than you, it’s time to top dating her.

Girls that still keep in touch with their exes on a regular basis are trouble. They either haven’t gotten over him or they are still in love with him. Very rarely is it at all innocent. Make it a point to tell her how uncomfortable it makes you that she still talks to her exes. If she doesn’t stop, call it quits immediately. She either doesn’t care about you enough to forgo her previous relationship or she doesn’t care how it makes you feel. Either way, she’s no good.

She Never Pays

It’s generally accepted that men should pay on a date, but if she’s never paying you should raise your eyebrows. Women that never pay for their own meals have entitlement issues. They usually come from families where they are catered to and spoiled or they think that they are hot enough for guys to be lucky enough to pay for everything they do.

This isn’t to say that you shouldn’t take your girl out for dinner and be the gentleman, but if she just stands there waiting for you to pay every time, it’s probably time to find somebody else. There are more than enough guys that willing to be a sugar daddy. Don’t drain your own wallet for a girl because she could leave you once the money train runs out.

You Never Know Where She Is

This is one red flag that guys usually get very quickly. If you never know where the girl you’re dating is – changes are its not good. On the off chance that she’s hiding the fact that she volunteers a soup kitchen (which has never and will never happen), she’s probably up to something.

The most common excuses are that she’s working late, she’s going out with the girls, or that she needs some alone time.

These can seem perfectly fine until the facts start to come apart at the seams. It’s not hard to pick up on when a girl is lying to you or when she’s nervous. If you think that she’s lying, more than likely she is. Don’t get played and don’t give into gullibility.

If it feels wrong then you need to move on and stop dating her.  Most guys will launch their investigations, but you really don’t have to. The feeling of dishonesty is more than enough to break things off. If you don’t, you’re just setting yourself up for trust issues down the road.

She Hangs Out With A Lot Of Guys

“I just get along with guys better than girls.” Have you ever heard this statement? Run! Run! Run! This is a huge red flag.

Girls that hang around with a lot of guys are always looking for attention. If your attention isn’t enough for her then you need to move on. As stated before, this can be a big trust issue down the road and you should avoid these women at all costs. You will always have something in the back of your mind telling you that something isn’t right and you should listen to it. This is gong to save you a lot of time and a lot of heartache.

When a girl hangs around a lot of guys she is always comparing you to them. Don’t put up with this childlike competition. Get rid of her and move on to a girl that relate to her own gender.

What Men Really Think About Your Breasts

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Breasts are one of the most common places on a woman’s body to feel self-conscious about. Just like everything in life, some women are born with amazing breasts while others are lucky are fill an A cup. If you have ever wondered what men really think of your breasts, there are a few things that you must consider. Most women believe that men are not attracted to women unless they have at least a B cup, but this is simply not true.

Here are a few examples of what men really think about your breasts and why you should accept yourself for who you are.

What Men Think About Breast Implants

In a way, men feel like breast implants are a form of cheating. While they may look great while a woman is in clothing, once the shirt comes off it can be another story. Breast implants can be very deceiving and as the woman ages, they can start to look worn under the skin. When a woman stretches in certain ways, you can even see the imprint of the implant on the sides of her breast.

Although many new procedures have come out to minimize scarring, there are still scars associated with breast implant surgery. There are men who love breast implants though. If you are considering them, make sure that you know the ramifications of the surgery.

What Men Think About Smaller Breasts

There is a perception that women worry about the size of their breasts the way that men worry about the size of their penis. While this is definitely true during puberty, women with smaller breasts must learn how to feel comfortable with not having a larger size.

The truth is that there are men who love smaller breasts. Some men believe that more than a handful is a waste. And some women just look better with smaller breasts. If you have smaller breasts, you might feel inadequate compared to other women in the media, but know that guys are very realistic with the image of a woman and size of her breasts in comparison to her body shape.

What Men Think About Larger Breasts

Larger breasts are something that every woman thinks every man wants. This is not true. There is a forward look to the future where men and women think about how the breasts are going to sag. If you are worried about having sagging breasts, there are a few things that you can do.

Working out, toning with weights and doing push-ups are just a couple of the exercises that have been proven to help breast sag. This is a great alternative than having to go under the knife. Many women who have larger size consider an augmentation. If you are concerned about this, and many women are, talk to your doctor about getting a procedure done to prevent sag.

Separating Fantasy And Reality

There are a lot of misconceptions between men and women and what each of them think the other wants in a partner. While men may fantasize about having the perfect woman with the perfect body, everybody knows that this is not a reality. Men are much more attracted to women that they have an emotional fulfillment to than a physical. As men mature, they start to see the blessing of a fun, confident, smart woman over some girl that can’t spell. While the media tries to portray men as breast-hungry it’s not the truth.

Men will forgo a relationship with a girl that doesn’t fulfill their emotional and intellectual need over a woman that is portrayed as perfect. When you are meeting men you will notice that they are much more interested in how you speak, what you think and the kind of wife or girlfriend you will be over what you look like once your shirt is off.

5 Signs You Need To End A Bad Relationship STAT

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Ending a bad relationship with your boyfriend might be the last thing that you want to do, but when it’s time to get rid of him, it’s time to get rid of him. Putting up with a guy that you know is wrong for you isn’t going to make things any easier. You will eventually grow tired of the way that he treats you and end it, so why not save yourself a lot of time and pain?

When you’re in a bad relationship, it’s important to define the reasons that you’re staying with this person. Once you have discovered the psychology behind this you can move on and grow.

Here are 5 signs you need to end that bad relationship stat!

#1 You Don’t Look Forward To Seeing Him

If you are dating a guy and you’re not excited to see him at the end of the day, it’s probably a sign that you need to end it. Your significant other should be a welcomed treat after a hard day in the office or at school. But if you’re cringing at the thought of having to deal with your boyfriend or even considering making up an excuse not to see him, you should probably end it before you do something that you regret. Many women stay with guys just so they have somebody. Companionship is important in life, but you don’t want to forgo having a great relationship to hold on to a bad relationship that isn’t working.

#2 He Gets Calls In The Middle Of The Night

When your boyfriend is getting calls in the middle of the night, there are several things that you should be on the lookout for. The first is if the number has been saved. When a guy is getting calls from an unsaved number it could be mean that he doesn’t want you to know who is calling. This could also be a wrong number, but if he’s getting a lot of calls there is probably something wrong. Ask your boyfriend to answer the phone the next time it rings. If he is calm and natural with the other person on the line, he’s probably not doing anything wrong. If he’s really nervous, you might want to be suspicious.

#3 He Doesn’t Talk About The Future

A guy that doesn’t talk about the future doesn’t see a future with you – this is a bad relationship that needs to end. This is a golden rule that you should always live by. When a guy is excited about the relationship, he looks forward to trips, family gatherings and other things that the two of you will be doing together. When he doesn’t talk about the future, it’s because he doesn’t want there to be one. Being in a bad relationship with a guy that is just going through the motions is not only frustrating it’s unhealthy. If you think that your guy is disinterested in a future with you, you should probably sit down and have a chat. Get everything out on the table and end it if necessary.

#4 You Have Different Views

Whether you’re talking about politics or religion, different views can be great for a relationship. However, when you take things to the extreme it’s probably not going to work out. If he’s far right and you’re far left every political report can turn into a heated argument. Being different adds a little drama to the relationship and can even spark passion, but when you take things to polar opposites you’re just asking for trouble. Consider what your life would be like with somebody that shared your viewpoints and ask yourself if you would be much more happy. If you’re constantly getting into debates over every little thing – this is a bad relationship that needs to end.

#5 He’s The Jealous Type

The jealous type can be cute at first, but this is a REALLY bad relationship. It’s endearing to think that your guy cares enough about you to get irritated when other guys look at you. But problems can arise from this type of guy and the routine of jealousy can get very old very quickly. If you are dealing with the jealous type, ask yourself if you are willing to put up with his suspicions every time you leave the house. Being accused of cheating or watching your boyfriend yell at a guy who he thinks is flirting with you every time you go out can be extremely annoying. Ending things with a jealous guy can be hard. They will try to rope you back in through texts, flowers and other methods. Stand your ground and you will be glad that you dodged this bullet – this is a bad relationship that needs to end!

Sex Dilemma: She Sucks In Bed – But How Do You Break It To Her?

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She’s cool, she’s smart, she’s successful, but boy is she a dud when it comes to sex.

If you want to tell her that she’s bad in bed there are a few things that you have to consider beforehand. Think about how it would make you feel if somebody told you that you have sucky sex moves. It would probably hurt, right? Before you go through the embarrassment of telling her that she leaves a lot to be desired in the bedroom, you need a game plan. You need a way of indirectly telling her that there are a lot of improvements to be made when it comes to your sex life.

Here is that game plan to get your passion back and put her on the right path to sexual splendor.

Encouragement

When it comes to feedback about sex, encouragement is ALWAYS going to work better than discouragement.

When you are trying to tell your girlfriend or wife that they need to improve the sex moves, the best thing that you can do is not tell them. This way you can encourage the things that they are good at without having tell them that they stink in other aspects.

Maybe she’s really good at girl on top sex but just lies there in missionary. Tell her that you really love when she’s on top. She’s going to want to do it more because she knows that it turns you on. Of course, this isn’t going to fix the issues, but it allows her to focus on what she is good at to forgo the other sex positions she’s not good at. Consider using this the next time you have sex and work your way up to the other steps.

Give Gentle Guidance

No guy or girl wants to be given instructions on how to have sex, but sometimes you have to. When she is doing something that doesn’t feel good, tell her. You don’t have to be a jerk about it, but you can correct her with just a few words. Go faster, go harder, and other phrases can turn a girl into a sex machine.

You have to consider the fact that she may have been with a guy that really did get turned on by what she was doing. She might not know that you like sex harder or faster or more passionate. When this occurs, instructions are needed. She’s never going to know what you want or what you like until you tell her. Even if you don’t want to take charge, you might have to. You’ll thank yourself in the end and so will she.

Cater To Her Needs

It should never just be about you. Relationships and sex are a two way street.

If you expect her to always cater to what you need then you’re never going to have great sex. You need to find out what really turns her on. When she’s turned on enough she’s not going to care about the ramifications of embarrassment.

Cater to her needs instead of thinking about yourself and you will that she’s going to come out of her shell very quickly. You have to let her know that it’s okay to go wild and pleasing her the way that she wants to be pleased is the easiest way to do this.

Deal With Your Own Expectations About Sex

Porn, the media and other influences can easily put too many unreasonable expectation on women when it comes to sex.

Unless you’re actually dating a porn star there is not much of a reason to actually think that she’s going to act like one in the bedroom. Turn the questions inward and ask yourself if you have unrealistic expectations to what you need as a guy. Maybe you have unrealistic expectations to how you think your sex life should be. Not all guys are going to have these expectations, but outside influences are a definite concern that should be taken seriously.

Sexual Incompatibility

This is a tough one, but sexual incompatibility is something that you are going to have to diagnose yourself.

  • Maybe you love having sex in the morning and she hates it.
  • Maybe she’s just not that into sex.
  • Maybe she has libido issues that aren’t going away.
  • Maybe you like it rough and she likes it soft.
  • Maybe there’s a size mismatch between your penis in her vagina.

Before you commit to a real relationship you should ask yourself if these sexual incompatibilities are going to be a real issue in the future. Sex is what separates friends from lovers. If you aren’t having great sex with your partner you might want to call it quits before it goes any further.