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Masturbation – 3 Ways To Make It Feel More Like A Vagina

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If guys masturbate often (and they do) it’s not at all unusual for the same masturbation techniques to get boring. You’d like to create some different feelings, perhaps try to recreate the feeling of a vagina or just all out make your orgasms through masturbationbetter than you’ve ever had before. Here are some great things to try if you want to spice up your masturbation routine and create vagina-like sensations with using sex toys or some things you have at home!

Question: Recently, masturbating has been getting very boring for me. What are some ways I can get the feeling of a vagina to my penis while masturbating (without any sex toys)?

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Using Enough Lube

Some men masturbate without lube, and others don’t use enough. If you’re masturbating with out lube, it’s time to go get you a bottle stat! The right sexual lubricant – and enough of it – will make masturbation feel so much better than if you’re not using lube at all. Lube the single most important component of male masturbation and if you want to recreate the feeling of a warm, wet vagina, lube is going to be your best friend. In fact, a generous amount of lube may be all you need to take your masturbation to the next level! For male masturbation, silicone lube is probably your best bet, although water based lubricant is great and works well for just about anything. Silicone lube does last a little bit longer and is slightly more difficult to wash off, but that’s not usually an issue because the penis is so easy to clean.

Using Different Hand Techniques

Try using both hands when you masturbate instead of just one, or grip your penis with one hand and lay face down on the bed, thrusting into your hand as you would if you were thrusting into a woman’s vagina. The latter, with a good amount of lube, can feel warm and wet, just like a vagina. By using your body to move your penis in and out of your hand (instead of the other way around) you’re recreating the feeling of having sex rather than just masturbating. Don’t be afraid to try different hand techniques when masturbating because even the simplest change in how you hold your hand, how tight you grip it or which fingers you’re using can make all the difference in the world!

Using A Condom And A Warm Towel

Another trick to recreate the feeling of a vagina during masturbation without using sex toys is to use a condom, lube and a warm (not hot) towel. Squirt a generous amount of lube in the condom and then put the condom on your penis. Using a condom that is a little larger than your penis may benefit you here, although you would want to switch to properly fitting condoms when you have sex. You can also use a female condom if you like. Wrap a warm towel around your penis after you put the condom on, and grip the warm towel and move it back and forth when you masturbate. This is a great way to recreate the “warm, wet” feeling of a vagina. There are lots of other homemade sex toys that men have tried, such as using an empty paper towel or toilet paper roll or other items found around the house. Talk about ouch! That’s why many men choose to use male sex toys for masturbation instead of using items found around the house – it just works so much better!

Masturbating With Sex Toys

Sex toys are often used for female masturbation, but there are lots of sex toys for boys that are available too! Male masturbators are often made from soft, squishy silicone that is formed into a sleeve that slips over the penis. With a good amount of lube, the silicone sleeves create multiple sensations during masturbation. Many male masturbators are smooth and squishy, while others have textured or ribbed insides for his pleasure. If you’ve never tried using a sex toy for masturbation, you might want to consider it. There’s nothing embarassing about using the right sex toy for what you want to do, and male masturbators can take your orgasms to the next level. Most sex toys for boys are inexpensive and easy to use, even if you’ve never used one before. Many men who use a male masturbator have never gone back to regular masturbation with their hand because the sex toy just feels so good!

Missionary Sex Position (With A Twist)

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This is a kinky variation of the basic Missionary sex position. The twist is that her hands (and/ or feet) are tied to the bed, or simply restrained in some way.

How To Do It

Traditional missionary position is often also called “Man On Top” and rightly so – the male partner assumes the dominant position on top of the woman, who is lying on her back. Her legs are spread enough that her lover can thrust, but they’re not raised up or resting on his shoulders. While the she can thrust some, the primary work done here is by the man.

Because Missionary is very passive position for the female, it doesn’t take much for the man to totally dominate her mentally and physically. The dominant sensation is increased even more when her hand and feet are restrained!

Where To Do It

The bed is best for this one.

Props You’ll Need

Soft ropes or silk ties for securing her to the bed.

Difficulty Level

1

Her O-Meter

4

The basic Missionary sex position can be “boring” to say the least, but this “twist” really makes it hotter!

His O-Meter

5

If he is a dominant man, he will love this. More timid men may feel overwhelmed by this one.

XXX Tip

Purchase an Under The Bed Restraint Kit to easily secure your lover whenever the desire strikes.

Reverse 69 Sex Position

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The 69 sex position is one of the most exciting ways to give and receive oral sex because both partners get to give and receive at the same time. Reverse 69 sex position is a great way to switch it up.

How To Do It

The Reverse 69 oral sex position is a favorite among many couples because it allows both partners to give and experience oral sex simultaneously. In the Reverse 69 sex position, the female partner lies on a flat surface on their back, and the male partner straddles his lover’s face, facing towards her feet. He then leans down and performs oral sex on her while simultaneously receiving it.

Where To Do It

Floor, couch, bed, reclining chair, outdoors, anywhere you can both comfortably lie down

Props You’ll Need

A shower beforehand, pillows for comfort

Difficulty Level

2

Her O-Meter

4

Reverse 69 is a great way for a woman to receive oral sex when her partner is reluctant to go down on her without getting anything in return. By offering to 69, she can entice her lover to do something for her, because she’s doing something for him. Some guys enjoy performing oral sex on a woman regardless, but other men have difficulty enjoying oral sex if they’re not being stimulated in some way as well. The only caveat here is that she’s focusing on giving him oral pleasure, so her own is reduced somewhat. She cannot fully focus on the sensations and pleasure of receiving oral sex, simply because she’s trying to do two things at once.

His O-Meter

4

Guys like the idea of being able to receive oral sex at the same time they give it because for some men, giving oral sex isn’t enjoyable in and of itself if their penis is not being stimulated in some way. Reverse 69 is an excellent solution to this problem! However, he cannot focus solely on his own pleasure, because he’s also trying to give her oral pleasure as well. It’s definitely enjoyable for him, but just slightly less enjoyable than if he were to be able to sit back, relax and enjoy a blowjob.

XXX Tip

Hold on tight and roll over together to switch between 69 and Reverse 69. This will give both partners equal time on top and bottom.

Sideways 69 Sex Position

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The Sideways 69 sex position is the best of both worlds.

How To Do It

The Sideways 69 oral sex position is a personal favorite because it allows both partners to give and experience oral sex simultaneously and no one has to be on top or bottom. In the Sideways 69 sex position, both partners are on their sides head to toe. This can be easier on everyone’s neck!

For the Sideways 69 position to be successful, however, both partners must be clean and very comfortable with each other. The partner on top may feel exposed, since their lover’s face, mouth, and nose are so close to their buttocks and genitals. If you’re comfortable with your lover through and do some basic hygiene (such as a sexy shower together) beforehand, you shouldn’t have any issues.

Where To Do It

Floor, couch, bed, reclining chair, outdoors, anywhere you can both comfortably lie down

Props You’ll Need

A shower beforehand, pillows for comfort

Difficulty Level

2

Her O-Meter

4

Sideways 69 is a great way for a woman to receive oral sex when her partner is reluctant to go down on her without getting anything in return. By offering to 69, she can entice her lover to do something for her, because she’s doing something for him. Some guys enjoy performing oral sex on a woman regardless, but other men have difficulty enjoying oral sex if they’re not being stimulated in some way as well. The only caveat here is that she’s focusing on giving him oral pleasure, so her own is reduced somewhat. She cannot fully focus on the sensations and pleasure of receiving oral sex, simply because she’s trying to do two things at once.

His O-Meter

4

Guys like the idea of being able to receive oral sex at the same time they give it because for some men, giving oral sex isn’t enjoyable in and of itself if their penis is not being stimulated in some way. Sideways 69 is an excellent solution to this problem! However, he cannot focus solely on his own pleasure, because he’s also trying to give her oral pleasure as well. It’s definitely enjoyable for him, but just slightly less enjoyable than if he were to be able to sit back, relax and enjoy a blowjob.

XXX Tip

This is a great way to transition from 69 to Reverse 69.

Under The Hood – For Her Oral Sex Position

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The Under The Hood – For Her oral sex position is one that gives her partner full access to her nether region and makes her feel exceptionally exposed.

How To Do It

The female partner lies on her back and brings her legs and knees as close to her chest as possible. Typically, her legs are stretched out, but if this is difficult for her to do, a slight bend in the knee is okay. She can hold the backs of her thighs to help support her legs. The male partner then kneels to give his partner oral sex.

Where To Do It

A wide space like the bed or floor is best for the Under The Hood sex position, but the bed is, of course, going to be much more comfortable.

Props You’ll Need

She will want a pillow under her head, and he’ll want one under his knees if he’s on the floor. A rolled up blanket or towel will also work.

Difficulty Level

1

Her O-Meter

4

If she’s not comfortable with her anal area being exposed, she’s not going to like this sex position very much. However, for women who are totally comfortable with themselves, this one is a must try! It’s totally hot!

His O-Meter

2

He likes the Under The Hood oral sex position because it gives her the opportunity to feel vulnerable and him the opportunity to be in complete control.

XXX Tip

For a bondage twist, restrain her hands with ties and hold her legs in the full spread position while giving her pleasure.