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Cowboy Sex Position

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Sex Positions: CowboyIf you imagine the Cowgirl sex position but with the man on top, you have the Cowboy sex position. It’s a fun twist on missionary, or “him on top” sex!

How To Do It

The female partner lies on her back with her legs pressed together, as if she were in the traditional Missionary sex position. Her partner will then straddle her with each leg on either side of her to penetrate. He’s sitting straight up, “cowboy” style. He’s not used to thrusting like this, so it may take some time for him to get the hang of it.

Where To Do It

A flat surface such as the bed, couch or floor will be best for the Cowboy sex position. This can be a fun one to do outdoors while camping or doing something else “rugged” or “outdoorsy.”

Props You’ll Need

Depending on where you do it, she may want a pillow or two under her head, or you may want to spread a blanket out first.

Difficulty Level

3

Her O-Meter

2

Because he is sitting straight up, it pretty much nixes any hope of constant clitoral contact for her. She does enjoy watching him go at it though, and the g-spot stimulation isn’t too shabby either.

His O-Meter

3

He likes being in control in the Cowboy sex position, but he may view this as a traditional “girl on top” sex position so he may or may not want to try it. Because her legs aren’t spread too far apart , the penetration is nice and tight even though it’s not as deep as it is in other sex positions.

XXX Tip

She may be able to reach down and stimulate her clitoris in the Cowboy sex position, allowing her to receive more pleasure here. However, a hands free clitoral vibrator that can be worn is a fun addition that will heat this sex position up for sure!

Coital Alignment Technique Sex Position

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Sex Positions: Coital AlignmentThe Coital Alignment Technique sex position can be used to increase a woman’s chances of orgasm in the Missionary sex position. It’s a slight variation on Missionary that allows for her clitoris to receive more stimulation than in actual Missionary, making it a great sex position to use when she wants to feel dominated by him but doesn’t want to compromise her orgasm.

How To Do It

Assume the traditional Missionary sex position. The male partner will shift “up” slightly, while the female partner will shift her hips “down” slightly, allowing her clitoris and pubic bone to come into contact with the shaft of his penis and his pubic bone. Once you’re “lined up,” there’s not much in and out action that’s going to happen – in fact, you want to try not to break the contact between the clitoris and pubic bone as much as you can.

So how exactly does this work? Since he’s not thrusting in and out per se, he’s going to be using more of an up and down grinding motion. This will create some thrusting, but not your typical “all the way in, all the way out” sort of motion. She’s going to do her best to grind against him in the same way, keeping her clitoris pressed up against him to receive the stimulation the grinding motion causes. This move actually takes some practice to really get the hang of it, but it’s totally worth it when she gets to have an amazing orgasm with him on top.

Where To Do It

The bed is best for the Coital Alignment Technique You’ll be focusing so much on lining yourselves up properly and grinding against each other that you don’t want to add any logistical problems that a different location may cause.

Props You’ll Need

A pillow under her lower back can help angle her pelvis in such a way that it’s easier for her to grind against the shaft of his penis and pubic bone.

Difficulty Level

3

Her O-Meter

5

Once you get this right, she’s going to love the Coital Alignment Technique. Sometimes a girl just wants to lay back and let her guy take the reins, but this often means giving up the possibility that she’ll have an orgasm. However, with the Coital Alignment Technique, she can feel dominated by her guy and get off at the same time.

His O-Meter

3

The Coital Alignment Technique isn’t quite as good for him as it is for her, because he’s having to move differently than he normally does. It’s not a smooth in and out motion (which is what a guy really responds best to), but he’s having sex so hey, it’s all good, right?

XXX Tip

Get synchronized so you’re both thrusting and grinding in a smooth motion together. Gaze deeply into each other’s eyes and use this opportunity to connect emotionally as well as physically. When you get good at the Coital Alignment Technique, you can easily use it to achieve simultaneous orgasm!

Bulldog Sex Position

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Sex Positions: BulldogThe Bulldog sex position is a unique take on Doggy Style that requires more leg strength from the male partner, but gives a different penetration angle.

How To Do It

The female partner assumes the “Doggy Style” position on all fours, and her partner gets behind her. Instead of resting his weight on his knees, he’s actually going to crouch down with his feet on the floor or bed and bend his knees to line up his pelvis with her rear. This can require considerable strength on the male partner’s part, especially during thrusting, but the angle of penetration is quite a bit different from traditional doggy style.

Where To Do It

A flat surface is needed for both partners – she’ll need to be on her hands and knees, and he will be crouched down with his weight resting on his feet. It can be done on the bed, but the male partner may be appreciative of the floor since it will allow him greater stability and balance.

Props You’ll Need

If you choose to use the Bulldog sex position on the floor, she’ll want something under her knees like a soft blanket or even a towel to prevent carpet burn.

Difficulty Level

4

Her O-Meter

3

For  women who enjoy deep penetration, g-spot stimulation (without clitoral stimulation) or anal sex, the Bulldog sex position is going to be right up their alley. It’s not as enjoyable for women who need a lot of clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm, but it’s still a great spin on Doggy Style when you’re looking for something a bit different.

His O-Meter

3

He likes the Bulldog sex position because the deep penetration feels awesome, but it can be difficult for him to stay crouched in that position for very long, let alone keep up the thrusting action. If he’s athletic, it will be easier, but his thighs are definitely going to burn after this one!

XXX Tip

If both partners can keep their balance in the Bulldog sex position fairly well, she may be able to reach a hand down and stimulate her clitoris so she gets more out of this position too.

Bottoms Up Sex Position

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The Bottoms Up sex position is an oral sex position for her that puts her in an extremely vulnerable yet naughty and erotic pose! Only for the adventurous!

How To Do It

The female partner lies on a surface on her back, grasps her hips and raises her buttocks in the air, letting her legs fall back towards her head. The male partner rests his weight on his knees and helps hold her hips for stability as he goes down on her from above. What makes the Bottoms Up sex position so incredibly naughty is that it completely exposes both her vulva and anal area for him to stimulate with his mouth as he pleases. This is an oral sex position that should definitely only be performed by couples who are extremely comfortable with each other, and women who are exceptionally self-confident!

If she is not able to get into this position, have her pull her knees to her chest and spread her legs as far as comfortable.

Where To Do It

The bed is the best place for the Bottoms Up sex position simply because the female partner is in such an awkward position that she’ll take any bit of comfort she can get. This can also be done on the couch, but the floor is going to be a little too firm for her to truly be comfortable there for any length of time.

Props You’ll Need

She may want a pillow for her neck and upper shoulders. A Liberator Wedge is a great way for her to easily stay in position without getting too tired from holder herself up.

Difficulty Level

4

Her O-Meter

4

If she’s super adventurous and kinky, she will absolutely love the Bottoms Up sex position. She’ll love feeling spread out and vulnerable to her partner! If she’s not very flexible, however, this position may be fairly uncomfortable for her. It’s definitely one she’ll want to try though if she’s comfortable with her partner.

His O-Meter

2

He will enjoy the Bottoms Up sex position if he really digs giving oral sex, or even if he likes giving analingus. This sex position doesn’t force him to crane his neck in any way, making it one of the more comfortable oral sex positions for him.

XXX Tip

If he doesn’t want to perform analingus but still wants to introduce anal play to make the Bottoms Up sex position even kinkier, he can use his fingers or small anal toy to stimulate that area while he licks and sucks on her clitoris.

Climbing The Flagpole Sex Position

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Sex Positions: Climbing The FlagpoleThe Climbing The Flagpole sex position is a deep penetration twist on Missionary that is great for both partners. It’s comfortable for most women, yet totally erotic and orgasmic! There’s not too much strain on either partner as long as she is fairly flexible, and the view for both is incredible.

How To Do It

The female partner lies on her side as though she were going to be spooned, supporting her head with her hand. The male partner straddles the leg that is resting on the bed, lifting the other so it rests against his chest and her foot is pointed straight up towards the ceiling. To make this a bit more comfortable for her, she can add a slight bend to her knee without compromising the Right Angle sex position at all. He will do the majority of the thrusting here.

Where To Do It

On the bed or floor. This is another sex position that requires some space if both partners are to be as comfortable as possible.

Props You’ll Need

She will definitely want a pillow under her head if you are going to keep up the Climbing The Flagpole sex position for any length of time.

Difficulty Level

2-3

Her O-Meter

3

He can grind against her clitoris fairly well in this position, making it much better for her. The deeper penetration is also good for g-spot or even a-spot orgasms!

His O-Meter

4

He really enjoys the view in the Right Angle sex position. He likes that she’s spread wide open for him, and that he can look down and see everything that is going on. It’s a bit more exotic if he likes to be adventurous, but it’s actually a doable sex position and not something that is so difficult it’s nearly impossible. It’s easy for him too – he’s comfortable and can thrust fairly well without too much strain on his body.

XXX Tip

This is a great sex position for either him or her to reach down and play with her clitoris! This makes the Right Angle sex position much more satisfying for her.