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Ben Dover Sex Position

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Sex Positions: Ben DoverThe Ben Dover sex position lives up to its name! She bends over and he has her way with her, creating deep penetration in a standing sex position.

How To Do It

The Ben Dover sex position is relatively easy to do, and provides for very deep penetration. The male partner stands on two feet with his legs slightly spread, and his partner stands in front of him with her back to him. She bends over as far as she can, with her legs as straight as possible. This is not always easy if a woman isn’t flexible, so a slight bend in the knees is okay here. He will hold her hips to facilitate thrusting, going slowly at first because penetration can be quite deep in this sex position.

For couples who are very different in height, have the taller partner spread their legs apart until your hips are at approximately the same height. Doing this on the stairs can also help with height difference. Just make sure there is something to hold on to!

Where To Do It

This is a fun sex position to do “on the go.” You don’t need much space since both partners are standing, and you don’t really need to be that undressed to do it either – both partners can simply drop their drawers for a dirty quickie! Try doing this in the department store dressing room or in the bathroom at a party.

Props You’ll Need

None.

Difficulty Level

2

Her O-Meter

2

The Ben Dover sex position may be a bit difficult for her to do if her legs aren’t very flexible. However, it’s not impossible and some simple stretching exercises first can make it easier for her to bend down to reach her toes. Although this sex position doesn’t afford any clitoral stimulation, women who enjoy feeling submissive and vulnerable during sex – as well as women who enjoy very deep penetration – will add this sex position to their list of favorites.

His O-Meter

5

He loves the feeling of control and dominance he has over his lover in the Ben Dover sex position. He loves the view, and he loves the deep penetration. This position also allows him to wrap his hands around her hips and pull her into his thrusts for even more control. There’s simply nothing about this sex position that he doesn’t like!

XXX Tip

The Ben Dover sex position is a great one to use in the midst of a domination-submissive role play scenario in which the male partner is dominant. He can thrust deeply if she’s comfortable with that, he can talk dirty and even give her a few spankings for being naughty as he’s having sex with her!

Assisted Lotus Sex Position

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Sex Positions: Assisted LotusIf you have trouble with the Lotus position but still crave face to face intimacy, try the Assisted Lotus sex position. It’s easier and just as sensual.

How To Do It

The male partner will sit in a chair normally, with his legs slack. The female partner will straddle his lap while facing him, draping each leg over the side of the chair. She can wrap her arms around his torso for more stability during thrusting.

Where To Do It

This is a great one to do in a dining room you’re alone in, or if you’re alone and you spot a chair without arms. It’s perfect for a quickie if you don’t want to get caught, or a more sensual sex session.

Props You’ll Need

A dining room chair or similar. A reclining chair, computer chair or any chair with arms on it is going to be difficult to get into for the Assisted Lotus sex position.

Difficulty Level

1

Her O-Meter

5

There’s nothing about the Assisted Lotus sex position that she doesn’t like.  She loves the face to face intimacy, she loves the comfort of doing it on a chair instead of on the bed in each other’s laps, and she loves the clitoral friction. This is a very easy sex position for her to reach orgasm in, because it provides the emotional and physical stimulation she needs to climax.

His O-Meter

4

He too enjoys the intimacy here, and although he can’t thrust in and out as well as he can in other sex positions, the rocking and grinding motions that the Assisted Lotus sex position affords are quite pleasurable. It’s a great sex position for men who don’t want to orgasm too fast during sex, and want her to reach orgasm first.

XXX Tip

Make out! Kiss and caress your lover with your mouth the entire time. Engaging this often forgotten sexual organ can really fire the Assisted Lotus sex position up!

To take this in another direction, blindfold him and ties his hands behind the chair with a neck tie. This will awaken all of his other senses!

Amazon Sex Position

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Sex Positions: AmazonThe Amazon sex position is an exotic form of the woman on top that is easy for her, but a bit difficult for him. It’s great if he wants to be submissive.

How To Do It

The male partner lies on his back and raises his legs, bringing his knees up to his chest with his legs parted. The female partner then straddles his groin with his knees in front of her and his legs wrapped around her waist, with his feet at her back. The Amazon sex position puts the female partner in total control of the thrusting, but it can be a bit difficult due to the angle at which his penis must bend to enter her.

WARNING: If this is at all uncomfortable or painful for the male partner, stop immediately! Many men aren’t flexible enough in the penis to pull this move off and that’s okay. The penis can actually fracture, so go slow and if there is any discomfort, stop and find another sex position to try.

Where To Do It

Bed, floor, couch or backseat of the car. If he really enjoys being submissive, he may like the idea of doing the Amazon sex position in the backseat of a car instead of the traditional “woman is submissive” sex positions that are typically used in a backseat scenario.

Props You’ll Need

Place a pillow under his head for comfort.

Difficulty Level

5

Her O-Meter

3

The Amazon sex position is less satisfying for her than the traditional Woman On Top sex position because there isn’t much clitoral contact here, but dominant women will enjoy the control over thrusting that this position affords. G-spot orgasms can be had in the Amazon sex position, but she must be careful not to ride him too hard or put too much stress on his penis since it is bent at such an odd angle.

His O-Meter

2

He can get off in this sex position, but it may not be easy for him. He also may not be able to get into this position comfortably at all, so the only thing you can do is try it and see how it works for you. A super submissive man may really enjoy being dominated in this way, with his legs in the air and his buttocks exposed.

XXX Tip

If he enjoys a prostate massage, she can reach around and play with his anus during lovemaking for an explosive orgasm. If she can’t reach around very well, a small butt plug or string of anal beads might be another option.

Almost-69 For Him Oral Sex Position

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Sex Positions: Almost 69In the Almost-69 For Him oral sex position, he’s receiving a blowjob in the same position as 69, but without having to reciprocate. Very hot!

How To Do It

Both partners lie on their sides as though they were about to assume the side-by-side 69 sex position, with each partner facing the other’s feet. The female partner will proceed to give him oral sex, and while he is in the position to do the same for her, he doesn’t. He simply relaxes and enjoys what she’s doing to him!

Where To Do It

The Almost-69 For Him oral sex position can be done in a variety of places, especially narrow ones like the backseat of a car. Since both partners are lying side by side, not as much space is required. Use your imagination here!

Props You’ll Need

None.

Difficulty Level

1

Her O-Meter

1

The Almost-69 For Him oral sex position is comfortable for her, but she may just wish he would go down on her at the same time and turn it into a regular 69!

His O-Meter

4

While he does enjoy regular 69, the idea of using the Almost-69 For Him oral sex position is a bonus for him because he gets to concentrate on his own pleasure instead of trying to split his concentration between receiving pleasure and giving her oral sex at the same time.

XXX Tip

If he wants her to get more out of the Almost-69 For Him oral sex position, he can easily use his fingers to stimulate her clitoris, her g-spot or even her anus if she likes anal play.

Linguini Sex Position

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The Linguini sex position is a great position for deep penetration and to really let yourself go and become totally absorbed in the moment.

How To Do It

The female partner lies on her side with a pillow under her head for extra support. While she lounges, the male partner kneels directly behind her butt and pushes one of his knees between her legs for insertion. The trick to this position is for the female partner to be relaxed and keep her limbs loose so that the male partner can penetrate her deeply.

Where To Do It

The Linguini sex position is best performed in the bed. While the floor will work, the bed is certainly the most comfortable option. If you do decide to do it on the floor, make sure you have plenty of blankets and pillows. A soft surface is a must!

Props You’ll Need

Blankets and pillows o make sure she is relaxes and comfortable.

Difficulty Level

3

Her O-Meter

4

She likes the Linguini sex position because she can just sit back and enjoy the ride. That, coupled with the unique angle of g-spot stimulation, can make the Linguini sex position extremely orgasmic for her!

His O-Meter

4

This side-by-side position causes her thighs to be curved at an angle which gives him deeper access. He’ll love to hear her moan as he stimulates her g-spot with ease.

XXX Tip

While staying relaxed is important for the Linguini sex position, it is critical for her to show him that she’s enjoying herself as this position can tend to make her look bored if she’s not actively showing her joy.