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5 Tips For Awesome One-Night Stands

By loveandsex

If you are looking to have a little fun without the drama of a relationship, a one-night stand could be the answer to your sexual rut. One-night stands can be a lot of fun if they are handled properly. When they are not handled properly both parties involved can feel used and cheap, affecting self-esteem and self-image.

Almost all men and women have had a one-night stand during their lives, but the effects of a romp in the sheets without commitment must be taken carefully. If you would like to avoid the hassles of dealing with a bad one-night stand there are some very basic rules to follow. Here are a few tips to help you out.

Keep The Drinking To A Minimum

A one-night stand can be a lot of fun, but both parties must have clear consent without the influence of substance. One of the biggest reasons that so many people wind up with a bad one-night stand on their conscious is because of alcohol. If you are going out with some friends, try to keep your mind clear. Alcohol has a way of making situations seem better than they are. It can make people seem much more interesting, physically attractive, and compatible with you. But as the alcohol starts to wear off, you will probably regret sleeping with them. Monitor your drinking and make sound decisions.

Always Have Protection

It doesn’t matter if you’re a guy or a girl, always having protection easily available is a must for casual sex. Just think to yourself, if this guy or girl is willing to have sex with me within hours of meeting, who else have they been with? This isn’t to say that exploration makes you a slut or a man-whore, but you have to keep your bases covered. STDs are running rampant nowadays and it’s very important to make sure that you protect yourself and your partner. Birth control is not a substitute for condoms. While your primary concern may be with pregnancy, the threat of STDs is real.

Keep Your Home Clean

If you’re going to bring a guy or a girl back to your place the last thing that you want is for them to see your dirty underwear or last week’s dishes in the sink. A person’s home is reflective of their personality and their health. Make sure that you pick up a little bit before you go out for the night. When a person enters your home they will take notice of how you keep it. While you might be the most hygienic person on the planet, dirt and grime around your home can easily turn a guy or a girl off. Sweep, mop, dust and wipe to have a great one-night stand.

You Have To Get Up Early

It doesn’t matter if you have the day off, a great rule to follow is that you always have to get up early. Laying this foundation before sex is essential to soothing the awkwardness in the morning. If you want to have a great one-night stand without the expectation of a relationship afterward, make a clean exit. Set your alarm and get out of the house as soon as possible. You don’t want to linger around or have the other person lingering around your home in the morning. Make up a story if you have to and actually leave your own home if you need to get the person out of your house. Drive around the block once and then come back to your house if you need to. The more time that this person spends with you is more time for mixed signals or awkwardness.

Don’t Dismiss A Real Connection

There are plenty of real relationships that have begun with one-night stands. Whether you are against this as a genuine way of starting off with your soul mate or not, it’s unfair to dismiss a real connection just because you had sex on the first date. If you really think that you see yourself with this person then contact her or him again. Women are known to get a little clingy after they have a one-night stand, but there is a difference between wanting to see this person again and latching on for dear life. If you have a genuine interest in spending more time with your one-nighter, go for it. You never know. They may feel the same way. Just make sure that you aren’t trying to keep it strictly physical if you decide to go down this path.

Filed Under: Sex Tips & Advice Tagged With: one night stand

Sex Toy Buying Guide – How To Pick The Perfect Toy For You

By loveandsex

A great sex toy can be great for those dry spells where you aren’t quite back in the relationship scene. Although couples all over the world that use sex toys for relationship enhancement, many single girls have found the companionship of sex toys to be a welcomed crutch while waiting for the right guy to come along. If you are interested in getting the perfect sex toy for yourself there are a few things that you should consider beforehand. Finding the right toy for your body is not as easy as you might think, but you can sift through the thousands of toys and get one that is right for you. Here is a short guide on how to pick your perfect sex toy.

What Kind Of Stimulation Do You Like?

There are many different toys that offer a lot of different types of stimulation. Whether you’re looking for a dildo, vibrator, or a butt plug, you have to decide what is going to help you reach orgasm the fastest. Are you more of a clitoral stimulation type or do you enjoy deep penetration? Discovering what you like the best is going to help you find the perfect toy for yourself. Some women prefer smaller clitoris vibrators while other like giant butt plugs. If variety is the spice to your sex life, consider getting a multi-toy that will meet all of your needs.

Your Body Type

The vagina is an amazing organ. It can expand, contract and adapt to many different toys. But when you’re considering the perfect sex toy for you, you have to be realistic about your body type. Some women have a very small vagina where others can accommodate larger toys. Being honest about what you can handle is going to keep you comfortable. Going with a toy that is not right for your body type can actually cause damage to your vagina and will leave you overly cautious about using toys in the future. Don’t overstep your bounds and you should be fine.

Sex Toy Textures

There are many different toys on the market and many different textures to choose from. When you are choosing the perfect sex toy you need to consider what the best texture is. Do you love the feeling of metal or do you want something that is going to simulate the feel of an real penis? Some women prefer to have something that feels realistic while others like to save this feeling for when they are with an actual partner. Determine what kind of texture you want in your toy and take any allergies into consideration. Some toys contain latex and other materials that can cause irritation so be aware of this when you are buying them.

Future Use

The perfect sex toy doesn’t just have to be about you. When you are looking at all the choices, consider the future use of the toy in your next relationship. Buying toys is great for bringing you closer with a partner, but there are a lot of things that you might want to do by yourself. Consider whether or not it would be a turn on to have your next partner use a toy on you. You might not want find it hot to use a specific toy on yourself, but the thought of having a guy use one on you could be something that sends you over the moon. Dildos, vibrators, and other toys that are designed for couples can easily put a spark in your next relationship.

Explore A Fantasy

Have you always wanted to explore a certain fantasy? One of the best ways to expand your sexual horizons is to buy a sex toy that you have always wanted to try, but never went through with. Some women have an interest in anal sex, but have never had the guts to thoroughly explore this. Experimentation with your body is a natural curiosity and when you have some solo time on your hands you can find out if your fantasy is really what it you want. Men really appreciate a woman that is in tune with her body and her sexual needs. If you have a fantasy that you have been too embarrassed or too scared to live out, try it out on your own with your next sex toy. You don’t have to go all in with whips and chains, but you can easily find out if this is something you are truly interested in or just a fantasy.

Filed Under: Sex Toys Tagged With: anal sex, female orgasm, Sex Toys, sexual fantasies

4 Ways To Make Sex More Spontaneous

By loveandsex

Making sex more spontaneous is something that a lot of couples try to focus on when working on their sex lives. Spontaneity can bring a lot to people’s sex lives. This can bring passion and more intimacy to a couple with very little effort. It’s easy to fall into the trap of having the same old boring sex on the same day every week, especially if you’re in a long-term relationship. So in an effort to break this monotony, couples are engaging in more spontaneous and “in the moment” styles of sexual activity.

If you would like to take your sex life out of this rut, there are a few ways to make sex more spontaneous.

1. Toss The Schedule

So many couples rely on a schedule for sex that it completely downgrades their sex lives. This schedule might not be set in stone or written down, but if you know that you always have sex on Saturday morning at 8am it’s probably time to toss the schedule.

A scheduled time to have sex will not only hinder the excitement, it can lead to less intimacy. A relationship is a partnership and having this set day to have sex can make it seem more like a chore than a meeting of the minds. Make a conscious decision to never follow a timetable in your sex life.

2. Always Have Condoms

While this rule might only appear to be geared toward men, it can also be applied to women. One of the biggest reasons that couples can’t have spontaneous sex is because of protection issues. It is a great idea to always carry condoms with you, but if you’re specifically trying to make your sex life more spontaneous, this is a must.

Having the proper protection with you at all times will prevent pregnancy and the spread of STDs. This can also give you a “ready anytime” attitude with your partner. This suggestion also extends to women. There are going to be times when your husband or boyfriend does not have condoms on him.

Surprise him by whipping your own stash when the moment strikes. There are a lot of women that consider using birth control for this very subject. Birth control can be a great way to add peace of mind and spontaneity to your relationship, but always check with your doctor beforehand. Different women have different side effects with the birth control they use so you want to bring any issues up with your physician.

3. Discover Each Other’s Fantasies

When you know what turns on your partner, you can easily avoid the pitfalls of mundane sex. Make it a point to share your fantasies with each other so you can spice up your love lives with some spontaneity. You can start to feel those butterflies at any moment and an opportunity might present itself in the blink of an eye.

Say your boyfriend has a roleplaying fantasy and you just happen to be dressed up as a sexy businesswoman. This is an excellent opportunity to take control of his desires and make your sex life a little less ordinary. When you share each other’s fantasies he will also be able to take you up on a spurt of the moment romp. This can also work for women.

Say that your girlfriend has a fantasy of being taken by a mechanic. You’re working on your car one day and boom, she is instantly turned on. Communicate with each other your sex life will thrive.

4. Have Date Nights During The Week

Date nights are usually relegated to Friday or Saturday nights. Why not shake things up a bit and turn date night upside down by utilizing it during the week? Tuesday, Wednesday or even Monday night can give you a little something extra to look forward to when you have a spontaneous date night. Men are expected to make the plans for the date and oversee all of the details.

If you want to have a more spontaneous romance, the woman can take control. Surprise your husband or boyfriend with a date night in the middle of the week. Plan everything yourself and simply tell him that you’re taking him out. This is a great way to break up the week and add to the spontaneity.

A great date night is to meet each other in a bar and pretend that you have first met. Have your boyfriend try to pick you up for some extra spontaneity.

Filed Under: Sex Tips & Advice

5 Sex Secrets He’d Die From If You Found Out

By loveandsex

Sex secrets are the cream de la cream of secrets in a relationship. There are a lot of guys that are into some very out of the norm stuff and if you ever found out, they just might kill over from it. The thing about male sex secrets is that they aren’t as obscure as you might think. Many straight men are turned on by things that are traditionally considered a little effeminate. So if you want to know some sex secrets that are extremely common with straight men, here is a short list.

Sex Secret #1: He’s A Cuckold

A cuckold is a special breed of man. Cuckolding is essentially when a man is in a relationship with a woman and gets turned on by another guy having sex with her. This usually happens in front of the boyfriend or husband. Cuckolding is very popular in the swinger community, but it’s also something that he will probably never admit to. Guys that don’t have the nerve to tell their wives or girlfriends about this fantasy usually masturbate to the thought of it. If you believe that your guy is a cuckold and you’re okay with it, you might want to approach him with this thought. What seemed to be his unbearable sex secret could turn out to be something that you both enjoy.

Sex Secret #2: Cross-Dressing

Cross-dressing is another sex secret that is very common among men. This is more of a fetish that he doesn’t want you to know about. Every straight man likes to see their wives or girlfriends in lingerie, but the cross-dresser secretly wants to engage in the lingerie himself. If you ever find that your panties, bra or other clothing is not where you left it, you might need to have a chat with your guy. While cross-dressing is not something that is completely out of the ordinary, it can put a strain on the relationship. Some women really like that their man puts on their clothes whereas others get very weirded out by it. Talking to your guy about his secret fantasies can alleviate any embarrassment associated with cross-dressing.

Sex Secret #3: Domination

Domination is a very common sex secret that men have. Whether it’s that he wants to dominate you or he wants you to dominate him, having this fantasy can be extremely hot or extremely lackluster unless you know what you’re doing. If you think that your guy really likes dominating you, make it clear that you think it’s hot too. If you think that he gets turned on more by you dominating him, make an effort to help him fulfill his fantasy. Be a little rougher with him during sex. Order him around. Make him tell you how sexy you are. Whatever he needs to get turned on. Having communication is essential for a relationship and it’s hard to make him completely happy if you’re not up front about wanting to know what he likes in bed.

Sex Secret #4: Prostate Massages

The male prostate is said to be the equivalent of the female g-spot. However, there is a perception that a man having something put up his butt is gay. The fact of the matter is that prostate massages are getting very popular with men. If your man lets off a shriek of delight when you start to go near his anus he might have a secret fantasy of getting a prostate massage. If this is something that you would be interested in doing, you might want to ask him about it. Guys are very open to doing things that are a little questionable with women they feel comfortable with. And you might just be the one that he opens up to about his secret sex fantasy.

Sex Secret #5: He Wants To Do It In Public

Exhibitionism is another very common sex fantasy among men. The fact that he secretly wants to take you in public shows that he’s not ashamed of your body or his own. If he has been beating around the bush about taking you in public, consider this a compliment. There is a certain element of danger associated with having sex in public and this is something that he thrives on. Having sex in a public place can be very hot and very spontaneous, but you need to be comfortable with it. Some men do not have the confidence to fulfill this fantasy so they will need an extra push in the right direction. If you feel comfortable enough to do this for him, you might just have a lifelong relationship on your hands.

Filed Under: Sex Tips & Advice Tagged With: bondage, cross-dressing, cuckold, domination, prostate massage, sex secrets

4 Reasons She Won’t Have Sex With You

By loveandsex

Finding out why a girl won’t have sex with you doesn’t have to be the cat and mouse games of Sherlock Holmes. Unlocking these secrets can usually be done within a matter of minutes, if not seconds, depending on the kind of girl who you are talking to.

It’s fairly obvious when a girl is interested in a guy, but this interest doesn’t always extend to finding out what he’s like in bed 2-3 hours after meeting him. For some, 2-3 months may not even be long enough before she allows the guy to discover what’s lingering under the sheets. But, the good news is that there are few different ways that you can decipher why she won’t have sex with out in order to make a decision of sticking around or getting the hell out of there.

Here are 4 reasons that she won’t have sex with you.

4 Reasons She Won’t Have Sex With You

1. She Doesn’t See You As Long Term Material

This is a huge reason that a lot of girls won’t have sex with a guy. Sure, you might be fun, attractive and even nice to her on the date, but don’t expect this to mean much. If you have cultivated a perception that you aren’t ready to settle down with her then you probably won’t be sleeping with her anytime soon.

Most women want a guy that is going to stick around long enough to meet her parents or even get on the road marriage. If she sees you as some fling that won’t last much more than a month, then your chances of sleeping with her are diminishing. Keep comments like “I’m never getting married” to an absolute minimum and you should start to see her come around after a little while.

2. She’s Religious

There’s nothing wrong with being religious, but if you are dating a girl who is devoted to the high and mighty, you’re in a very long dry spell.

Religious girls can make excellent mates. They are loyal, focused and they have family values, but this means that they aren’t going to just jump into bed with any guy. It could take years or even a ring to actually get this type of girl to have sex with you. Unless you really do love the girl, it’s probably best to simply move. It’s not fair to keep her around because she looks good in your passenger seat when you know that your values do not mesh with hers.

Let her down easy and find a girl that is less…fundamental.

3. You’re Too Flirty

It should go without saying, but a lot of guys keep on doing it: don’t flirt with other girls when you’re with somebody you’re dating. Even if you are just joking around, its hurtful to the girl that you’re with and it will keep her from investing in you physically.

When you’re with a girl, make sure that you are only with her. Don’t check out other girls around you, don’t flirt with waitresses and never compare another girl to the one that you’re with. Women want to feel special and you’re supposed to do that when you’re on a date with them.

No girl is going to give it up to some guy that puts more attention on a bartender than the girl he brought to the bar. Focus on her and you will see better results.

4. She’s A Control Freak

There is an old saying “why buy the cow when you get the milk for free.” If you’re dating a girl that puts a high value on sex then you’re probably going to be waiting a long time or you may never get to have sex with her.

Women play games much better than men. They can hold sex over a guy’s head and most men will not do anything about it. A control freak likes to have the ball on her court. This means that she will not only dictate the terms of the relationship, she’s going to dictate the terms of every time you have sex.

Sex is supposed to be the meeting of two people. Give and take. Compromise. But if you have encountered this type of woman, it’s always going to be on her terms and when she says it’s okay. If you think that you’re dating a control freak, leave immediately. Being with a girl that uses sex to control you will eventually wear you down. Save yourself a lot of time and find somebody new.

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