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How to Achieve Healing, Intimacy, and Ultimate Union With Tantra

By mayasilverman

When the average person thinks of tantric sex, their thoughts may jump to intense sack sessions that are solely for the pursuit of intense pleasure.  While much of tantra does involve these kinds of sexual practices, after all, that’s what it became famous for in the Western world, tantra involves so much more than pure physical pleasure.

For example, did you know that tantra is often used as a means of emotional, physical and spiritual healing, as well as a method for achieving the ultimate intimacy that can exist between two people?

Sound intrigued? Then read on to discover how tantra can lead you and your partner on the path to ultimate healing and unity!

The Tantric Path to Healing and Unity

It’s no secret that many people may have emotional and mental “baggage”, thanks to previous relationships or life experiences.  These problems can often manifest themselves during particularly intimate moments, including sack sessions.

Whether the problems come from inner issues (perhaps with self-confidence or body hate) or outer influences (for instance, you or your partner experienced abuse or grew up in a loveless household), these mental and emotional scars don’t have to become an obstacle in your quest for the ultimate intimacy and union.

Tantra is widely known for its healing powers. In fact, if you and your partner engage in tantric lovemaking practices, you’ll soon find that you both will grow to become more confident, loving and intimate partners.

The Distinction

However, when using tantra in an effort to emotionally and mentally heal yourself or your partner, it’s important to distinguish these nights from normal sack sessions.  A healing tantric session shouldn’t have the same feel as a normal night of tantric lovemaking, since the latter focuses more on achieving spiritual bliss through physical pleasure.

Rather, a healing tantric session will focus more on unleashing and clearing away any mental and emotional obstacles that you or your partner may have in regards to sex and intimacy.

In a healing session, you must first distinguish your role as either Healer or Receiver; for example,  if your partner is the one experiencing emotional or mental obstacles to tantric bliss, then you should be the Healer, and he or she the Receiver.

Additionally, it’s important to verbally confirm your role with your partner, as this will serve to relax each other in regards to any expectations.

Once Roles Are Established

Once each of your roles have been established, set up a comfortable and non-threatening space in a spot that is familiar to your partner.  For example,  most healing sessions are often successful in the bedroom, as this is usually a space that signifies positive emotions brought about by intimate and relaxing activities.

Let your partner know that anything that happens in the space will stay there; this will make him or her feel more comfortable in sharing intimate and vulnerable moments with you.  Have your partner lie down and begin the healing session with a relaxing massage.

This should differ greatly from a massage that’s given in the pursuit of pleasure; rather, focus on massaging nonsexual areas before centering on the different energy channels located in the pelvic region and the heart.  Once your partner has expressed his or her permission for you to move on to the pelvic region, use slow and deliberate massaging movements.

Remember, the goal of this activity is not arousal, so don’t rush your partner into orgasm; rather, let your partner experience the different emotions and sensations that come to the surface.  For example, if your partner begins to become aroused, or even yells with anxiety, give him or her permission to feel these emotions.

Of course, if your partner wishes for you to stop, then the healing session should immediately end until your lover is ready for another one.  Sometimes, past experiences can be so painful that it can definitely take more than one tantric healing session to release these roadblocks to pleasure and intimacy.

Practice Makes Perfect!

If you desire to play the role of Healer but feel uncomfortable with what it entails, try enrolling in a tantric healing course before engaging in these practices with your lover.

An expert can teach you what to do and how to react in certain scenarios, especially those in which powerful emotions come to the surface. An expert can also help you to become more in touch with your receiver’s energy, which will help you immensely during your healing sessions.

After each tantric healing session, be sure that you hold and nurture your partner, as this will reassure them of your love and devotion to their physical, mental and emotional well-being.  Drink water, take a bath together, or just lie there holding each other, listening to each other’s  breath.

Soon, your healing sessions will give way to more soulful and sensual lovemaking sessions, as you and partner will have overcome any obstacles to spiritual, physical, and emotional bliss and intimacy.

Filed Under: Sex Tips & Advice Tagged With: tantric sex

How To Have Multiple Orgasms With Tantric Sex

By mayasilverman

The multiple orgasm has become somewhat of a sexual Holy Grail; often eluded to as the ultimate sexual experience, but frustratingly hard to achieve. It seems as though multiple orgasms should be filed away as relationship urban myth, desirable and yet unachievable as it may be.

Yes, Multiple Orgasms Do Exist

However, if you’re a follower of Tantra, a spiritual path that utilizes specific body sensations, vocalizations and movements in order to awaken and channel divine sexual energy, then you not only know that multiple orgasms exist; most likely you experience this intense sexual and spiritual bliss during every lovemaking session!

If you’re ready to awaken your multi-orgasmic potential through the art of tantric practices, then get ready to spice up your sexual life!

What Tantra Is

Before you can learn all of the tricks and secrets to achieving multi-orgasmic bliss, first, one must learn a bit more about tantra.  Although tantra has been painted as a religion devoted exclusively to the practice of sex, thanks in part to Western influences, it is so much more.

Tantra, derived from ancient Sanskrit philosophies from India, Nepal and China, is a specific spiritual movement which taps into powerful energies that are continually coursing through our bodies.

These energies, which differ among men and women, are used to awaken sexual awareness amongst partners, and can help lovers achieve the most sublime sexual and spiritual bliss imaginable.  In essence, sex is indeed an important part of the tantric experience, but it acts more as a catalyst for achieving divine bliss as opposed to an ultimate endpoint.

It’s Not as Intimidating as It Sounds

Sure, this may sound rather intimidating, but the trick to boosting your multi-orgasmic potential isn’t complicated or difficult to learn; rather, the key lies in being able to control the coursing of your sexual energy through your breathing.

Think this sounds too simple to be true? Try approaching it this way: the art of tantric sex revolves around controlled breathing as a means to heightening physical and emotional sensations, which leads to a more spiritual and satisfying form of lovemaking.

Additionally, tantric practices maintain that the breath cleanses and purifies essential energies in our bodies, including our chakras.  Your chakras are some of the most important energy channels in your body, as each chakra is associated with a vital part of your body and mind.

The same idea applies to achieving the infamous multiple orgasm, as engaging in controlled breathing with your partner will heighten all the necessary sensations for the simultaneous multiple orgasm!

Just Breathe

Of course, you and your partner cannot expect to achieve your multi-orgasmic potential without first engaging in some very basic but necessary breathing exercises.  These exercises will not only help you to intimately connect to your partner on a deeper and more spiritual level. They’ll reinforce the importance of controlled breathing during the peak of your lovemaking.

If you and your partner are tantric beginners, make a little time in each day to practice individual breathing exercises.  To start out your first controlled breathing exercise, inhale deeply through your nose (this is done to get as deep a breath as possible) until your stomach expands out into a potbelly.

Allow yourself to full up with your breath and feel the cleansing power that just one simple breath contains.  Once your stomach has expanded as far as it can go, breath out slowly through the mouth, making sure to concentrate as your breath leaves your body.  Repeat these exercises a few times more, until your body feels completely relaxed.

If you’re looking for a breathing exercise that will get you ready for action, try rapid breathing in and out through your nose, which will sound a bit like snorting (this is perhaps a good exercise to do without your partner at first!).

This kind of breathing will completely energize you, which will lead to more intense and playful lovemaking sessions.  Encourage your partner to try these exercises on his or her own before coming together for your tantric experiences.

Now You’re Ready to Start!

Once you’ve learned how to control your own breathing, you’re ready to join up with your partner for a sack session that will have you well on your way towards the ultimate sensual pleasure: the multiple orgasm!

During coitus, start out by synchronizing your breath with that of your partner, which will help you to sense each other’s energy patterns.  Once the two of you are on the same wavelength, change your breathing pattern to the reciprocal breath, which involves “exchanging” air with your partner; to do this, simply inhale while your partner exhales, and vice versa.

Soon, you’ll be so full of your partner’s energy that you’ll find it almost too easy to achieve that once-elusive multiple orgasm!

Don’t Forget to Have Fun

In your quest to boost your multi-orgasmic potential, don’t forget the most important rule of all: have fun!  Your tantric journey should be both fun and pleasurable, even if you’re not able to attain multiple orgasms on the first go.

After all, tantric sex is about exploring and appreciating your partner on a physical and spiritual level. Just approach your lovemaking sessions in this light, and you’ll hardly even have to try for that simultaneous multiple orgasm; it will be effortless!

Filed Under: Orgasm Tagged With: female orgasm, multiple orgasms, orgasm, sex tips, tantra, tantric sex

His ‘N Hers Tantric Massage

By mayasilverman

Tantric sex refers to ‘Sacred Sex’ and can be a very powerful way to connect to your lover.  In tantric sex, the terms “‘Yoni” and “Lingam” to refer to our nether regions.

“Yoni,” or Vagina, means “Sacred Place” and is said to be the source of Divine Female Sexual Power; “Lingham” or “Vajra” refers to the Penis and this term means “Wand of Light” and is said to represent Divine Male Sexual Energy and Consciousness.

The terms used in tantric sex are a far cry from the Western approach to using some not-so-pleasant terms to describe our nether regions. Partners are revered as a ‘Beloved’ and are to be valued, respected, nurtured and cared for.

Setting the Scene For Pleasure

Set the scene for your Tantric Night of Pleasure by taking the time to prepare a deliciously sensual environment. Put some thought into creating a warm, relaxing, and seductive space within which to begin your Tantric Yoni and Lingham massage, or His ‘N Hers Tantric Massage.

Your space should have:

A great location — make sure your space is warm and inviting

Soothing sounds — put on some relaxing and soothing music for a calm environment

Beautiful sights — as the Japanese saying goes, “The First Bite is With the Eyes.” Create a visually stunning atmosphere by decorating your space with colorful flowers or rose petals. You can also get together some cushions and place some meaningful or symbolic objects around the bed to represent a calm, safe and loving space.

Proper dress — dress yourself up and make an effort to look good for your partner. Make sure your personal hygiene is up to par, including brushing your teeth and smelling appealing. Make it sensual by taking a shower or bath together and remember that poor hygeine is one of the biggest turn offs in the bedroom.

Try to set some time aside for your Tantric Pleasure Experience as a way to honor your lover, develop skills, relax and focus the mind and spirit.

Massage your lover’s entire body for at least 30 minutes before starting your Intimate Tantric massage. By slowly charging up and circulating your sexual energy, the Yoni and Lingham will be more sensitive to your touch.

Massaging the Yoni

If you’re massaging your lover’s Yoni, start by resting one hand over the area and the other over her heart. Visualize energy from your heart flowing through your hands into her heart and Yoni.

This is a great way to balance emotions and to create a deeper connection between lovers. Lightly pour some warmed cold pressed, organic vegetable oils (sesame, almond, olive) over your hands and let the oil drip slowly over the Yoni and Clitoris.

Always start from the outside in. Start by teasing and caressing her outer lips, pubic mound, proceeding to the inner lips, and massage the opening of the vagina very gently. After at least 15-20 minutes of playful teasing, gently take the clitoris between your fingers and massage slowly (but not directly) around the sides and base.

Take Your Time

Remember you are building sensation and pleasure, so do not go straight for the kill. Take your time and layer the sensations.

If her excitement  starts to build quickly, slow down and stop and encourage her to take a few slow and deep breaths.

Now you can gently insert one finger inside and massage along the inner wall. If she’s ready, insert 2 fingers and do the same. Always get feedback, and ask her what’s working best. Alternate by removing your hand from her Yoni and then massage her clitoris moving slowly toward the head. Give her at least 40 minutes of divine pleasure and feel her melt in your hands – literally!

For the Men

For your male lover, begin again by giving him a luxurious body massage for at least 30 minutes. Drip warm oil (vegetable, organic and cold pressed) over the Lingham or Penis, Scrotum and Perinuem (a small circular area between the Scrotum and Anus).

Gently massage up and down the shaft and very lightly at the head. Remember you are slowly building up a wonderful crescendo, so initially less is more. Massage the scrotum gently, all while getting feedback from him as to the pressure preferred.

The Perinuem is referred to as the ‘Sacred Spot’ by Tantrists and is great place to give him some incredible sensations. This is a very sensitive area, so apply only gently pressure using the tips of your finger in a circular motion for a few minutes at a time.

Increase the pressure of your strokes over and along the Lingham, and massage the head by twisting your hand in a left-right direction. If his sensations become too intense, stop and slow down, and encourage him to take some slow deep breaths.

(Do not use pure or diluted essential oils internally or near intimate areas and avoid oil based products – use only pure, organic vegetable oils such as olive or grape seed oils)

What is Tantra?

“Tantra” refers to the concept of ‘Expansion Through Awareness’ and by expansion we mean the opening of the mind and spirit, the deepening of the soul, the experience of pleasure and bliss and hopefully complete union with your lover and the cosmos.

Sexual energy is awakened through a variety of practices (tantric massage being one of them), channeled throughout your own body, between yourself and your lover, concentrated in the heart and directed to the Universe.

Sex therefore represents a movement of energy rather than a rush to the end, a masterful or stressful performance, or a sleeping aid at the end of a long and anxiety fueled day.

The slow, luxurious release approach of intimate tantric massage is always a  welcome indulgence. So lavish the Yoni and Lingham with pure sensuality and divine love and attention.

Filed Under: Sex Tips & Advice Tagged With: sex tips, tantric sex

How To Give A Terrific Breast Massage

By mayasilverman

The eternal fascination for most men, and indeed many women, the breasts, can be an incredibly neglected and forgotten area in the realm of Tantric pleasure and touch.

Think about it. If you’re  a man reading this, how much time do you lavish on her breasts?

Do You Have Tunnel Vision With Women’s Breasts?

The ‘Tunnel Vision’ approach assumes that a woman’s breasts are always ripe and ready for a bit of manual molding. Nothing could be further from the truth. The breasts and its many parts are very sensitive, and only a lover with a slow hand can truly appreciate them in full majestic glory.

Structurally they are made up of fibrous connective tissue and a layer of fat tissue. They are rich in blood and lymph vessels, hence the importance of massage in maintaining good circulatory flow of blood, lymph (tissue fluid) and sexual energy.

Perhaps more importantly the breasts are symbolic of a woman’s emotional center,  healing and nurturing. By neglecting these lovelies, you fail to acknowledge an incredibly important part of the feminine mystique.

The Kama Sutra On Foreplay And Breast Plat

The Kama Sutra refers to the importance of foreplay and breast play:

“Ardent young men, do not neglect the preliminaries! Endeavor to satisfy your mistress. Listen to her desires. Some men, carried away by the power of their desire, forget the prelude, only to be surprised when they are pushed away later! Yet it is such a delight to kiss, to caress, to nibble one another…

To explore with your hand or your mouth her body, her breasts, her neck, her belly, down to her innermost curves. Fulfilled, the beloved shall return these kisses and caresses wholeheartedly. No part of the beloved’s body should be neglected. Her lover shall make it his duty to discover them, to reveal to his mistress all the pleasure she can receive from them.”

Tantric breast massage is an incredible gift with which to lavish unbridled attention on your lover.  Pleasure, better circulation, toning, and nurturing are all aspects of the massage.

The Kama Sutra mentions key areas on the female body sensitive to kissing:

  • neck
  • forehead
  • cheeks
  • eyes
  • breasts
  • lips
  • palate inside the mouth (not sure how this works!)

Prepare Your Sensual Environment

Prepare your sensual environment with soothing music, dimmed lighting, perfumed candles and make sure the room is warm and visually inviting. Introduce items of spiritual or personal significance such as flowers, favorite nibbles, a photo – whatever works for you and your lover.

Begin by covering your lover with a sheet or towel so that she does not get cold. Rest one hand on her heart and the other on her yoni and visualize warm heart energy moving from your heart into your hands and down towards your lover’s heart and yoni. This is a very relaxing, healing, connecting and balancing visualization to use before launching into the breast massage.

Beginning the Breast Massage

Pour the warmed oils into your hands. Rub your hands together so as to spread the oil, and now place your hands on each of the  breasts. Always massage slowly and gently up towards the heart, your right hand moving in a clockwise direction, and your left hand moving in a counter clockwise direction.

Massage from the outer edge of the breast inwards, but avoid the nipples until after at least 15 – 20minutes of breast stimulation. Don’t forget the skin above the breast (check area under the collar bone, as well as the skin under the breasts – two very sensitive areas).

Focus Your Attention One Breast At A Time

Now focus your attention on one breast at a time.

Place on hand lightly on the upper half of the breast, applying gentle pressure with the other hand again moving the hand in circular sweeps from the outer breasts in toward the nipples. Continue for a further 20minutes or more.

End the breast massage as you began, placing one hand on her heart and the other on her yoni. Visualize healing heart energy entering your lover and breathe slowly and deeply together for a few minutes. Allow her to rest.

If you’re not in a relationship, or just welcome the opportunity to nurture yourself and body, why not take the time to give yourself a great tantric and sensual breast massage. Once again, don’t be tempted to cut corners, take the time to create a sensual and erotic environment, dress to kill, get out your favorite relaxing music, perfumed candles, lie back and enjoy!

Filed Under: Sex Tips & Advice Tagged With: erotic massage, intimacy, Kama Sutra, sex tips, tantra

Going Solo… Self Empowerment Through Masturbation

By mayasilverman

The dirty word of the sexual world, masturbation conjures up images of old men, nuns, and cucumbers. But much like reality TV, we all indulge in it, but no one likes to admit how much they enjoy it,

People often assume that Tantra, Tantric Sex, Erotic and Sensual Massage all require a partner.

A partner is good, however anyone can reap the benefits, and by going solo you are in a unique position to really explore yourself, discover what turns you on , and to nurture yourself in any way that your mind, body and soul desire.

So dim the lights, put on the music, get the oils out, and give yourself a hand. It’s time to celebrate a bit of quality ME time:

Masturbation and Empowerment

For the ladies out there – the majority of women self-love  lying down on their backs, however why not add some variety and intrigue ? Stand up, do it before a luxurious candle lit bath, out doors (if you have privacy), any place that feels harmonious, relaxed and safe.

Create a sensual and inviting mood. You are loving yourself so don’t hold back on preparation. You are taking the time to honor yourself and this takes as much time, preparation and focus as if with a lover.

Let Go of Old Limiting Beliefs

Some women aren’t comfortable touching and pleasing themselves and the thought of self loving creates resistance. Why not let go your old beliefs, pain, and frustration. Use this time to honor your self, your femininity, your body. Give yourself all the love, attention and pleasure that you really want.

Put on some comfortable yet inviting clothing, breathe deeply and slowly to relax your mind and body. A more relaxed mind and body equals stronger more pleasurable and intense orgasms. So always take the time to unwind, de-stress and shut out the world.

Tease, Explore and Arouse

Tease, explore and gently arouse and awaken your female goddess by touching and stroking your body avoiding the intimate areas for at least 20–30 minutes. Stroke your legs, inner thighs, hands, feet, lightly brush over your breasts. Feel your sexual energy pulsating throughout your whole body, increasing in intensity the more attention and focus you lavish on your self.

When you feel your whole body tingling, apply soft sensual touchs to the breasts, gently stoke your yoni, lips, clitoris (but don’t apply to much pressure directly on the head at this point). Explore how each area feels to your touch, explore the texture and sensations of each area, gently insert one finger into the yoni, about 2 inches within, and move in and out.

Finding Your G-Spot

The majority of nerve endings in the vagina or yoni are located near the opening. Your slow, shallow thrusts will create pulses of sexual energy and pleasure.

Now insert the finger(s) a bit deeper. Explore inside. Feel the heat and pressure on your fingers, feel your yoni tighten around your fingers as you become more aroused.  You will find the G-Spot on the inner wall of the vagina.

Massage this soft raised area by placing the palm up and curling the fingers slightly  applying what ever movement works best for you. Use your other hand to caress your breasts, stoke your stomach, thighs, and abdomen.

Don’t Forget the Men…

For the men out there – start by setting and creating a Sensual Environment. Lie or sit on a comfortable surface, the bed, bath, standing up, or anywhere else you fancy.  Most men don’t take the time to nurture themselves and their bodies, so use this time to explore yourself, really feel the sensations and emotions that come up.

Feelings and sensations are all part of you, and your sexual soul, so express them freely and let go of any frustrations, hurts, irritations. Allow yourself to receive pure unadulterated pleasure.

Masturbation is not only a great way to love and pleasure yourself, but it also facilities relaxation, deeper and more intense orgasms, and more sexual energy and attraction.

Filed Under: Masturbation Tagged With: female masturbation, female orgasm, how to masturbate, sex tips

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