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Sex Positions: He Wants Doggy Style And I’m Done With It!

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I love different sex positions and I loved “doggy style” when my boyfriend and I first got together, but now it’s my least favorite. My boyfriend still tries to initiate sex this way, but I really don’t enjoy it. How do I let him know our doggy days are over?

What She Said

Speak With Him Honestly

The sooner, the better! While there are compromises in relationships, doing something you really don’t enjoy physically isn’t necessary. For whatever reason, your body’s response to pleasure in doggy style sex positions has changed. Sex should be fun and spontaneous, but if you know something doesn’t work for you anymore it should be off the menu. He’ll surely understand, once you express that this position no longer feels good to you.

Take the sting out of delivering this news by adding a few new sex positions that you are interested in trying. It’s not the end of the world – in fact, it’s an invitation to a new one!

What He Said

You know what? It happens! Some people can eat ice cream all day, every day and never ever ever get bored. Some people eat it for a week and then get bored with it. You have gotten bored with doggy style as far as sex positions go. It’s time to find a new flavor.

Perhaps you’ve gotten bored with it because it’s physically uncomfortable or doesn’t hit your g-spot like it used to. That my friends, is what the liberator is for.

Go to their website, check out the different models and positions they can be used for (they have very “informative” video demonstrations with the super sexy sex educator Jaiya) and order one. That may be all you need to get things going again.

Then again, maybe the position isn’t for you. There are dozens of books on sex positions, like Kama Sutra, that offer new and exciting sex positions for the two of you to try. The options are as limitless as they are magically delicious.

Bring Sex Toys Into Play

Maybe you need to bring some sex toys into play instead of trying different sex positions. Again, do an Internet search for sex toys, find some you like and order them online or go to your local sex shop and buy some if you don’t want a paper trail (just remember to pay cash!) That will add some new toys to your sexual sandbox and that can occupy you for hours upon hours.

Of course, I don’t think any of this will really help as long as he’s the one doing the sexual initiation. You really can’t let him know his doggy style days are over. What you can do is offer him new and exciting positions and avoid the doggy style sex all together simply by beating him to the punch. You should be the one to initiate sex and lots of it. In the new positions you want to try. You’re bound to find one that he likes just as much if not more than doggy style. Then he will be constantly harassing you to do it that way instead of doggy style, but that however, is a whole other column. Enjoy and you’re welcome!

Best Sex Positions: Woman On Top

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Woman on Top (WOT) is any sex position when a girl takes the lead during sex, and it’s one of the most erotic sex positions to try if you want to make sex a truly intense experience for you and your girl. In this position, she does most of the work. However, experience tells us that not all women are adept at moving up and down so men have to lend a hand by thrusting up and down.

This position shifts the sexual power play in the woman’s favor. A woman’s frontal assets as well as her clitoral area are exposed in the Woman on Top position. Penetration depth depends on whether the woman can thrust up and down all the way. A woman’s weight management skills also play a role in making this position work.

The Woman on Top position calls for balance and skill on the part of the woman, but the man can help her balance by shifting his position underneath to accommodate a woman’s thrusting. You can hold your lower body up, or put pillows under your backside to lift your hips more.

Benefits Of The Woman On Top Position

It’s sexy. The woman can show off her body to you, and feel sexier in the woman on top position than any other sex positions. You get to play with her breasts as well as her tummy region, and you can admire the view of her breasts bouncing up and down from below.

It’s relaxing for the man to lie back and take it every so often. Having a woman work instead of you during sex can be a relaxing experience, but only if you do your part in making a woman feel sexy. Even if you’re the one underneath, you have to pull your weight as far as the penetration is concerned.

You can fiddle with her clitoris easily. With your hands free, you can touch her in all the right places. If you’re sitting up, you can kiss her neck and breast. If you’re lying down, you can reach up and touch her erogenous zones. Orgasm is more intense for a woman if there’s another sensation on top of the sensation that penetration creates.

Disadvantages Of The Woman On Top Position

A woman may find it difficult to balance if she’s kneeling. Some women have short upper legs, which could be an issue if she’s on top and her knees do not reach the bed or the floor while she’s straddling you. Most women have adapted to this by squatting instead of kneeling.

You may have to support her weight. As a woman gets more and more into the sex, she may forget to balance and properly maintain weight distribution while she’s riding you. If this happens, ask her to stay put while you plant your feet flat on the floor or the bed and thrust upward.

You don’t have much control in the rhythm department. You may be doing the thrusting but if she insists on a certain rhythm, you may not get the rhythm you want.

Best Sex Positions: Doggy Style

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The doggy style position is considered one of the most versatile sex positions that any guy can try. It also puts him in the position of power. In the doggy position, the woman can only thrust her hips back and forth while the man sets the rhythm.

Do most women resent the lack of control during sex? More often than not, the women don’t mind. And it’s because the pleasure of penetration is more intense in the doggy style position and its variations than any of the other sex positions.

Benefits Of The Doggy Style Sex Position

It’s versatile. The doggy style sex position affords you the power of moving any way you want and keeps your hands free to do whatever makes sex more pleasurable for you and your partner.

The ultimate position for sexual submission. If you like to maintain control of the rhythm and the depth of thrusting, the doggy style sex position is perfect for you. You can thrust in and out while holding her arms so that you really have total control of the movements. You can lean down and use your hands to fondle her clitoris without missing a beat, rhythm-wise. You can wrap your arms around her back and lick her nape all you want.

You can practice mild S&M in the doggy style sex position. You know, spanking and hair pulling. Some sex positions are more romantic than really hard core erotic, which makes the doggy style the best position for light sado-maso play. You can spank her lightly as you thrust harder, or you can pull on her hair rather than her shoulders when you want her to stay upright while you do her from behind.

Intense g-spot orgasms. Women go wild when in the doggy style position because the infamous g spot is directly stimulated by the curves along the underside of your penis. Especially if your angle is good, you can give her a g spot massage and subsequently induce a series of intense multiple orgasms with not much effort.

Disadvantages Of The Doggy Style Sex Position

More erotic than romantic. Women like pleasure but some can only feel pleasure through sex if the sex is romantic. Admittedly, the doggy position is the least romantic of all the sex positions because of the lack of face to face interaction.

It’s difficult to touch her clitoris if she doesn’t want to do it herself. Ideally, a woman should be the one touching her clitoris during doggy style, but some women have trouble balancing with one hand if they use the other to fondle the clitoris. The direct g-spot contact may be able to replace the clitoral touching, sensation-wise, but most women cannot climax if clitoris touching isn’t involved.

You cannot see her facial expression during sex. Part of what makes sex pleasurable is seeing a girl’s expression change during thrusting and when you do something different. A woman’s face when she’s in the throes of orgasm is a sight to behold. For you to see her in that state during doggy, you may have to use a mirror.

Best Sex Positions For Losing Weight

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Having sex can make you feel great about your body. If the sex is with someone you care about, sex can become more than just another “fun” event. Sex can be a tool you can use to make your relationship stronger. However, did you know that sex could also make you thinner?

The physical exertion involved in having sex can amount to a significant amount of calories burned. I cannot think of a more enjoyable way to shed the pounds. If you’re looking for an excuse to have sex with your man tonight, tell him that sex is now a part of your daily workout routine. He’ll be glad to participate, and you can lose weight in the process.

Here are three of the best sex positions for losing weight.

Pushups In The 69 Position

Normally, you would hold your body steady and bob your head up and down while you’re in the 69 position. However, instead of doing it this way, you can change the way you perform a blowjob by moving your whole torso instead of just your head and neck. Think of it as doing half-push ups while having sex.

The Squat

This sex position is just a variation of the woman on top position. Instead of kneeling during penetration, you can plan your feet on both sides of his body and squat. Going up and down while in this position can be tiring, but you can be sure it will burn some calories.

Do several repetitions until you simply can’t go anymore, or until he has climaxed. This can be your cardio exercise for the day. You can also strengthen your leg muscles by doing this repeatedly.

Participative Missionary

The typical missionary position calls for more action on the guy’s part, but if you want to lose weight while having sex, you can try “participating” while in the Missionary position.

While he’s on top and you’re lying flat on your back, lift your torso up to kiss his lips or his neck. Hold this position for a while and then go back down. The trick is to not use your arms to lift your body off the bed. Instead, use your torso.

To effectively lose weight while having sex, try doing it on the floor or on your yoga mat. This is better than doing it on the bed because the mattress might be too soft for any exercise to be effective. You can also do some leg stretches while your man is on top of you and your legs are over his shoulders.

It is important to let your man know about your new exercise program so that he will not think it’s strange when you mutter rep counts under your breath or when you start stretching your legs and arms in weird angles.

4 Sex Positions To Make Your Vagina Feel Tighter!

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Sex positions can make or break how great sex feels. Whether your partner has a small penis or you have a larger vagina, you may have some trouble getting enough friction going for it to feel really pleasurable for both you and your partner. This can also happen after a woman gives birth, because the vagina stretches out and takes some time going back to its original shape. Lots of girls (and guys) want a tighter sensation during intercourse – and finding the right sex position can make all the difference. Try these 4 great ideas TONIGHT for tighter, more satisfying sex for both you and your lover!

Legs Up, With Your Feet On His Chest

Start out on your back, like you and your lover were getting into the missionary position. However, instead of spreading your legs wide and having him enter you that way, lift your legs up and place your feet on his chest. This will allow for deeper penetration, however, it will also make your vagina squeeze tighter around his penis. Use this sex position after you’ve gotten your fill of kissing and caressing, because since your feet and legs are actually in between the two of you, there’s not going to be much room for kissing and intimacy of that nature.

An Even Tighter Variation

Cross your ankles – in fact, if you’re able to, cross them as close to your thighs as possible. If you can only cross them at your ankles or knees, that’s fine too. What this does is it brings the two sides of your vaginal walls even closer together, so he’ll actually be rubbing up against each side with his penis. This will feel more snug to him and create more friction – which will be pleasurable for both of you!

“Planking”

Yes, the popular social activity now has a place in the bedroom, but you probably don’t want to put this picture up on your social media websites. This is one of the best sex positions to make intercourse feel tighter, and women love it because it still allows for that great face to face interaction and intimacy during sex. Lie flat on your back like with missionary style, but with your legs completely closed. Make sure you’re lubed up enough and let him enter you like that – not only will he rub up against your pressed-together thighs, your vagina will also seem much tighter to him this way.

An Even Tighter Variation

Flip over and give the planking sex position a “doggy style” spin. Let him enter you from behind, but still with your legs all the way closed. He will love seeing your whole body laid out or him, and he’ll especially enjoy getting to caress your butt as you two get it on. This can also be one of the best sex positions for tight anal sex if you’re into that!

The Lotus Position

The lotus sex position is another great one for creating more friction during penetration. Have your partner sit on a flat surface, with his legs crossed “Indian style.” You’ll straddle him, lower your vagina onto his penis, and then wrap your legs around his hips and back. Getting a good rhythm going can be a little difficult here, so don’t be surprised when this sex position feels slow and sensual to you. Not only will his penis rub against the walls of your vagina more, having your legs wrapped around him will give him the illusion that he’s completely surrounded by you.

An Even Tighter Variation

When he’s sitting, instead of having your lover cross his legs “Indian style,” have him lay them straight out in front of him as though he would bend forward and touch his toes. Again, you’ll straddle him, but don’t wrap your legs all the way around his hips and back. Instead, rest your knees on the bed, on either side of his legs. This brings your legs even closer together than the actual lotus position, which will cause your vagina to hug his penis even more snugly.

Standing Sex

Stand up against the wall and have your partner enter you. To get standing sex to work properly, you may need to stand on a foot stool, or cock your leg out just a little to give him more entry room. Once you get going though, he will love the feeling of shoving you up against the wall and having his way with you. Plus, your legs are (mostly) together, so he’ll feel every inch of your vagina.

An Even Tighter Variation

Stand with your back to your lover, and bend forward as though you were trying to touch your toes. This gives your lover a great view and again, he’ll feel all sides of your vagina as you make love.