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Missionary Sex Position

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Sex Positions: MissionaryThe “chicken soup” of sex positions, the Missionary sex position is an old favorite enjoyed by many couples. In fact, it’s probably the first position you’ve ever tried and might still be your go-to sex position when you just want to experience something familiar. Both partners enjoy this sex position!

How To Do It

The missionary position is often also called “Man On Top” and rightly so – the male partner assumes the dominant position on top of the woman, who is lying on her back. Her legs are spread enough that her lover can thrust, but they’re not raised up or resting on his shoulders. While she can thrust some, the primary work done here is by the man. This is the most common sex position and can be as comforting as chicken soup – but it’s a very passive position for the female! For a woman, the Missionary sex position is one that follows an “I have a headache” excuse. She’s not really into it, but he really wants it. She obliges but doesn’t really want to have to work at it – so he gets on top and does his thing.

Where To Do It

Couch, bed, floor

Props You’ll Need

A pillow under her lower back can help support her hips and tilt her pelvis so that penetration is more comfortable and pleasurable.

Difficulty Level

0

Her O-Meter

0-1

She gets almost nothing out of the Missionary position unless she’s already very turned on from a lot of foreplay. It’s just not the optimal position for either clitoral or internal stimulation.

His O-Meter

4

He fares much better in the Missionary position than she does, simply because he can control the speed and depth of penetration. He is able to orgasm how and when he wants to – but for some guys, Missionary is little better than getting it on with a blow-up doll if she’s just not that into it.

XXX Tip

Leave the lights on and gaze into each other’s eyes. This type of intimacy is totally hot and allows both partners to fully connect emotionally – which is not always so easy to do!

69 Sex Position

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Traditional 69 is one of the most exciting ways to give and receive oral sex, because both partners get to give and receive at the same time. This is a great way to bring each other to simultaneous orgasm orally, and it can be a great position to use when one partner is less enthusiastic about giving oral sex.

How To Do It

The 69 oral sex position is a favorite among many couples because it allows both partners to give and experience oral sex simultaneously. In the 69 sex position the male partner lies on a flat surface on their back, and the female partner straddles her lover’s face, facing towards his feet. She then leans down and performs oral sex on him while simultaneously receiving it.

For the 69 position to be successful, however, both partners must be clean and very comfortable with each other. The partner on top may feel exposed, since their lover’s face, mouth and nose are so close to their buttocks and genitals. If you’re comfortable with your lover though and do some basic hygiene (such as a sexy shower together) beforehand, you shouldn’t have any issues.

Where To Do It

Floor, couch, bed, reclining chair, outdoors, anywhere you can both comfortably lie down

Props You’ll Need

A shower beforehand, pillows for comfort

Difficulty Level

2

Her O-Meter

4

69 is a great way for a woman to receive oral sex when her partner is reluctant to go down on her without getting anything in return. By offering to 69, she can entice her lover to do something for her, because she’s doing something for him. Some guys enjoy performing oral sex on a woman regardless, but other men have difficulty enjoying oral sex if they’re not being stimulated in some way as well. The only caveat here is that she’s focusing on giving him oral pleasure, so her own is reduced somewhat. She cannot fully focus on the sensations and pleasure of receiving oral sex, simply because she’s trying to do two things at once.

His O-Meter

4

Guys like the idea of being able to receive oral sex at the same time they give it, because for some men, giving oral sex isn’t enjoyable in and of itself if their penis is not being stimulated in some way. 69 is an excellent solution to this problem! However, he cannot focus solely on his own pleasure, because he’s also trying to give her oral pleasure as well. It’s definitely enjoyable for him, but just slightly less enjoyable than if he were to be able to sit back, relax and enjoy a blowjob.

XXX Tip

Take your time and enjoy giving each other oral sex at the same time. Learning to move in sync with each other and communicate sexually without speaking to each other can be extremely sexy and intimate!

Face Straddle Sex Position

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Sex Position: Face StraddleThe Face Straddle sex position is an excellent oral sex position to use when the female partner wants to feel in control of oral sex, and the male partner wants to feel a little submissive. It also gives him a great view of her body as she writhes in pleasure!

How To Do It

Face Straddle is an oral sex position for her and it can be a lot of fun if both partners are very comfortable with each other. Some women may not like the idea straddling their partner’s face, while some men won’t like the fact that they have limited head and neck movement – especially if she starts getting into it and grinding her pelvis into his face.

However, for some couples, this move is really hot! The male partner assumes a lying position and the female partner lowers her genitals over his face, straddling his head with each leg on one side of his head. There are a couple different ways to do this, but both require her to rest her weight on her knees. She can lean back and rest the remainder of her weight on her hands, or she can lean forward and get on all fours. Either way, this provides her lover with complete access to her genitals.

Where To Do It

Couch, bed, floor, backseat of the car, anywhere with enough space to lie down

Props You’ll Need

A pillow for his neck is a definite must!

Her O-Meter

4

This is an excellent oral sex position for her because she feels more in control here. She can move her pelvis to guide her clitoris to where she wants it to be, and she can rock and move in a way that gets her closer to orgasm – she’s not relying only on him to get her there.

His O-Meter

3

Many men enjoy this position, because they feel a little submissive here. Also, if a man isn’t that good at oral sex, he may feel better that she can maneuver herself so that she gets more pleasure, rather than relying only on him and his tongue movements to get her off.

XXX Tip

Guys, reach down and masturbate while you’re giving her oral sex. She won’t necessarily be able to look behind her to see what you’re doing, but the idea that you love eating her out so much that you can’t help but touch yourself is extremely erotic for her – especially considering that many women think guys feel like giving them oral sex is a chore.

Reverse Cowgirl Sex Position

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Sex Positions: Reverse CowgirlThe Reverse Cowgirl sex position is one of the best sex positions for guy, because he gets quite the view while she rides him up and down. It’s not quite as orgasmic as the Cowgirl is for a woman, but it’s a little more kinky and can be a lot of fun for both partners.

How To Do It

This is a good “Woman On Top” sex position and it’s almost identical to the Cowgirl with one exception. Instead of straddling her lover facing him, the female partner straddles him facing his feet, again with one leg on either side of him with her weight resting on her knees. This position is also known as the “Rodeo.”

Where To Do It

Bed, couch, floor, backseat of the car, anywhere you have space to lie down!

Props You’ll Need

None

Difficulty Level

2

Her O-Meter

3

The Reverse Cowgirl sex position isn’t as powerful for a woman as the Cowgirl is. While she still gets to control the speed, depth and angle of penetration, because she’s facing her lover’s feet, his anatomy doesn’t line up to her hot spots as well. It’s still possible for her to get g-spot stimulation from his penis, but not as easily because the penis is rubbing the wall of her vagina that her g-spot isn’t on. She can also get some clitoral stimulation if she leans forward far enough to rest her clitoris against his scrotum, but he may not like intense grinding against his tender bits.

His O-Meter

5

Men really love the Reverse Cowgirl sex position. It gives them as much visual stimulation as many rear entry sex positions do, but it combines the excitement of her controlling the action. If a woman wants to surprise her man with a super hot sex position, the Reverse Cowgirl is the way to go.

XXX Tip

Ladies, lean forward quite a bit and let your rear take center stage here. He’ll still dig it if you’re sitting straight up, but he won’t get as good a view. If you’re embarrassed about him getting to see you that up close and personal, don’t be. Give yourself a good trim or shave, and make sure you’re clean and smelling nice. Other than that, there’s really nothing to be worried about. He’ll really enjoy getting to see all the action as you’re riding him and he’s not really going to care if you missed a few hairs here or there.

Reverse Face Straddle Sex Position

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Sex Positions: Reverse Face StraddleOne of the more “kinky” oral sex positions for her, the Reverse Face Straddle sex position is not for the shy or timid woman. Because it involves her partner’s face and nose so close to her backdoor, she needs to be super comfortable with her partner. But it’s an excellent position for couples who enjoy anal sex play!

How To Do It

This is an oral sex position for her that requires quite a bit of confidence on her part and both partners definitely need to be comfortable with each other. A sexy shower beforehand is also a must! As with the forward facing version of this oral sex position, the male partner lies on a bed, couch or the floor (any flat surface will do) and the female partner straddles his face, with one leg on either side of his head, resting her weight on her knees.

The difference with this position is that she’s not facing his head, she’s facing his feet, as in the “Reverse Cowgirl” sex position. He is able to perform oral sex on her from behind, and this is actually an excellent oral sex position for couples who enjoy analingus. Because her rear is right in his face, she’s going to feel much better if she’s doing it with a man she feels comfortable with, as well as if she’s clean and trimmed or shaved. He’s going to feel better about it too!

Where To Do It

Bed, couch, backseat of the car, floor, any flat surface

Props You’ll Need

Pillow or rolled up towel to support the male partner’s neck

Difficulty Level

3

Her O-Meter

3

This is an oral sex position that really kinky women enjoy! Because she’s so exposed to him, she’s definitely got to have some confidence – and they both need to be comfortable with each other. If she’s shy or doesn’t feel clean down there, this position could really backfire. But for women who want oral sex that is a little naughty, this position is a great one to use!

His O-Meter

3

Men who like to be dominated (and men who like things a little kinky, or have a butt fetish) will really enjoy this oral sex position. Guys, you can up the pleasure factor for yourself by reaching down and masturbating while you’re giving her oral sex. Since she’s facing your feet, she’ll be able to see you touch yourself and it will turn her on like you wouldn’t believe!

XXX Tip

If you’re into analingus, this is definitely the time to try it. Use a dental dam for ultimate safety. Definitely discuss this beforehand though – guys, you don’t want to surprise her with a tongue up her bum if she hasn’t agreed to it first!