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Sex Toys – Top 5 Myths

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Sex toys are the subject of many misconceptions and rumors, causing many couples and singles that would consider purchasing them to rethink their decision. Most of the rumors surrounding them are absolute bunk! Using sex toys safely does require a little education on which objects to use during certain activities, however, it’s time to dispel the myths that surround sex toys once and for all.

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If A Woman Has A Sex Toy, She Won’t Need A Man

It is a common misconception that if a woman owns a vibrator or a dildo, that she will no longer need a man sexually. While sex toys are designed to give a woman an orgasm (and usually can do it faster and more efficiently), they will never replace the intimacy, love and comfort that a human being can provide for us. A sex toy can give a woman an orgasm, but it can’t make her feel loved and cherished. A sex toy can’t tell you it loves you. The same goes for men – just because a man masturbates, it doesn’t mean that he doesn’t need or enjoy sex with his female partner.

More Expensive Sex Toys Are Better

Luxury sex toys are just that – a luxury. They look and feel great, but does that mean that more economical toys won’t do the job just as well? Not hardly. A modestly priced vibrator will give you the same buzz as a 24 K gold one encrusted with diamonds. Keep this in mind when shopping for a new dildo or vibrator. It’s important to stay within your budget, but don’t deny yourself a great sex toy just because you think you can’t afford a good one. There are lots of great vibrators and dildos that will leave you just as satisfied sexually as one that cost twice or three times as much. Don’t rush into making the purchase – find one that has everything you’re looking for in a sex toy that is priced affordably.

Only People With Bad Sex Lives Need To Use Sex Toys

Another common misconception about sex toys is that they’re reserved for single people or couples who don’t have very good sex lives. This is definitely not true! Sex toys can be part of a healthy and hot sexual relationship. They can enhance sexual pleasure for both men and women, and can help a woman have an orgasm when she ordinarily wouldn’t have one. In fact, many couples who don’t have good sex lives won’t use toys because they don’t talk about what feels good or what they’d like to try. Don’t underestimate communication in a sexual relationship! Lots of sex toys are designed for couples who want to add an extra kick to their already spicy sex life. For example, a clitoris vibrator can stimulate a woman while her partner penetrates her, while anal beads can make a blowjob absolutely amazing.

Sex Toys Aren’t “Natural”

Many women can’t achieve orgasm through “natural” sex – that is, without the help of a favorite toy. It is not at all uncommon for a woman to need a vibrator to help get her over the top, even if her partner does everything that pleases her, including oral sex or fingering. Some women just can’t get there without the help of a toy. Does this mean she should fake her orgasm in lieu of “natural” sex? Absolutely not. Every woman deserves a satisfying sex life, and sex toys can actually be a great part of a naturally satisfying sexual experience. Many couples who use them actually notice that their relationship improves, both in and out of the bedroom!

Sex Toys Can Hurt Your Body

There is no medical evidence to support the claim that even regular use of sex toys will damage the body when used properly. Keep in mind that if you are super aggressive with your toy (and this can happen even during “natural sex”), you stand a chance of hurting yourself or your partner. However, do some research about the toy you’re buying – certain toys should be used for certain activities. For example, anal sex toys should have a wide, flared base at the bottom to keep them from getting “lost” inside the anal cavity. Anything used for anal sex should have this, or it’s simply not safe to use for anal play and is better suited for vaginal penetration or other types of stimulation. You may also want to pay attention to what materials are being used for the objects in question and whether they can leave you with harmful side effects. If you’re allergic to latex, don’t get a latex sex toy!

Sex Toys And Travel – What You Need To Know

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Traveling with sex toys can be tough – do you really want to get caught by airport security with a buzzing vibrator in your luggage? If you want to avoid getting embarassed when vacationing by having your sex toys discovered, but still want to bring your favorite vibrators, dildos or masturbation sleeves with you to your destination, here’s what you need to know. Just follow these tips to keep your intimate goodies safe and away from curious eyes.

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Travel Size Sex Toys

Before going on your trip – whether you plan to travel by air, sea or by car – consider purchasing a smaller size sex toy instead of bringing your usual items with you. Smaller size objects are usually much more discreet and can be packed away nicely in a side pocket, makeup bag or even your purse. They’re much easier to handle than larger dildos and vibrators and the risk of getting caught with one is much lower than if you bring your Rabbit or a giant, penis-shaped dildo.

Small, bullet shaped vibrators are easy to carry (some can even be put on your keyring) and aren’t going to cause any suspicion if they get found, because they can pass for just about anything – even lipstick. If you’re worried that a small vibrator isn’t going to give you what your dildo at home does, don’t be too concerned about it. The smaller vibes will get the job done and a bigger, better orgasm isn’t worth having your favorite sex toy found – or worse, confiscated!

Discreet Sex Toys

While it is harder for someone else to tell that tiny bullet vibes are actually sex toys at first glance, there are other vibrators that are ultra discreet and designed specifically for stealth. Take the rubber duckie vibrator for example. Designed to look just like a simple rubber duckie for the bathub, it has a secret vibrating beak and tail that will turn a boring bubble bath into something much more! Small, handheld clitoris vibrators can be held in the palm of your hand and could easily pass for a laptop computer mouse, while other discreet sex toys look like pens with a secret vibrating end!

Tips For Traveling With Sex Toys

One you’ve picked your favorite out of the many sex toys that are great for vacationing, there are also some other guidelines you’ll want to follow just to make sure everything goes as smoothly as possible.

  • Bring lube with you, but remember that lube is a liquid and needs to comply with the same airport guidelines for other liquids such as shampoo, lotion, sunscreen, etc.
  • Keep the other items in your bag clean and dry by making sure you place your lube bottle in a plastic zipper bag in case there is leakage.
  • Take the batteries out of any vibrator that you bring and pack them separately. Nothing draws attention at the airport than a vibrating suitcase!

If You Get Busted

Even if you’ve taken every precaution that you can to make sure your sex toys don’t get discovered while you’re traveling, you still might get busted. Remember though, even if you do get caught with a sex toy or vibrator in your luggage, it’s not illegal. Even the largest, most offensive “mega g-spot dildos” aren’t illegal to have with you while in a car, on a plane, or going on a cruise. You’ve done nothing wrong by bringing something of a sexual nature in your bag so you’re not going to get in trouble – it’s just going to be a pretty embarassing situation.

You can, however, lessen the embarassment by having a sense of humor about the situation! Laugh it off and say, “That’s my vibrator, sorry!” The security guards have pretty much seen it all before and don’t have the time to stand around and show everyone your sex toys. If you do get caught, your vibrator will most likely be shoved back into your bag and the line will move on. However, if you act suspiciously when your sex toys get pulled out of your bag for examination, they may think that there’s something more to it than just batteries, lube and fuzzy handcuffs. That’s something you don’t want to have to deal with! If you get busted, brush it off and move forward with having fun while traveling because that’s what it’s all about!

Sex Toys Review: The We-Vibe II

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There are very few sex toys that offer everything the We-Vibe II does – all in one sex toy. Offering both clitoral stimulation and g-spot pleasure, it is one of the only sex toys that can be comfortably worn by a woman during intercourse. I definitely recommend that you add this to your ‘must-have’ list!

The Good

The We-Vibe II used on its own is all the things your bullet toy wished it could be and when used with your guy, it proves that sex toys don’t need rabbit ears to show you a good time!

The Bad

The coating is wonderful as far as how the toy feels while using it, but it does tend to have a little tackiness when not being used that can get dirty by things sticking to it. So make good use of the pretty satin bag that comes with it and store it away properly after washing and drying.

The Bottom Line

With a clitoris and g-spot stimulator, what more could a girl ask for? Rechargeable perhaps so you’re local store clerk doesn’t start giving you that pervy look when he sees you buying batteries…again? Or how about a soft silicone coating that is firm enough to offer solid stimulation, but soft enough to be comfortable? Oh, and water-resistant. Yes, yes and yes! (Excuse me a moment.) This sex toy has all of that, and more.

The Review

When you get your We-Vibe, you’ll notice that this toy is all class from the start. Even the packaging is as discreet as the toy itself. To look at it, it doesn’t openly scream, “I’m a sex toy!” where you need to be concerned if it were ever glimpsed by someone you didn’t necessarily want to know all your private business. It’s just a small, colorful, u-shaped device that could be for anything. The coating on it is a top-quality silicone, so what this means to us girls is that it’s soft, not a hard plastic feel like some sex toys.

Here’s the best part, well, the second-best part. It comes with a plug so you can recharge it! No batteries in this puppy! The great thing about this is, of course, you can always have it ready to go and you won’t have that horrific moment when it stops working at just the wrong moment (we have men for that, right?), and it also helps the toy keep it’s slender size since they don’t have to make room for batteries. There is a small dimple in the coating where you plug it in to re-charge it, which also keeps water from getting into the toy if you use it in the shower or bath.

Now for the best part… how it feels! It has a nice, strong motor in it that offers great vibration to the clitoral and g-spot areas. This allows for women who use it to achieve a blended orgasm! It’s also multi-functional, so you have a variety of options, one for every day of the week if you like. (I apologize in advance for you indecisive folks, because you’ll have a hard time deciding just which one you like best!) Used alone, it’s that hands-free, wireless sex toy you’ve been looking for. But where the tortoise beats the hare, or rabbit, is that it is perfect for using as a couple.  Many sex toys are designed to be used alone, but this one is actually awesome for couples to use! The thin design and soft coating are made for allowing a woman to get the stimulation she desires, while having sex with a partner. It may take you a minute to figure out the optimal way to wear the toy so it is in the correct position during penetration, but once you get it there….well, I’ll let you imagine. The great thing is that he is also getting additional pleasure from the internal vibrator against him. So if you happen to have a guy that is shy about sex toys, having one that you can use together, and makes sex feel better for him too, is a great way to get him to reconsider.

There are very few toys out right now that can offer everything that the We-Vibe II does. I definitely recommend that you add this to your ‘must-have’ list!

Best Sex Toys, Games And Vibrators Of 2010

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Adding sex toys and vibrators can definitely turn up the heat on your sex life and really bring you to the next level when it comes to fun behind closed doors. When you add these fun and titillating items to your sex repertoire, they will take you from just having plain vanilla sex to having the hottest, most titillating sex of your life with your partner (or alone!)

If you’ve never tried incorporating a sex toy into your routine, we have some great tips on how to select the right ones and how to introduce them to your partner. If you’re a seasoned sex toy or vibrator user, check out some of the more advanced items like sex furniture or smooth, icy glass. Sex games can also bring some much needed fun and excitement into the bedroom, and we’ve got the best of both adult toys & games.

Try testing your luck with a sexy dice roll to see if your partner will go down on you, or try some fun roleplaying with or without sexy costumes. This year, we have rated all the great sex toys, sex furniture, super fun sex games and of course, the best condoms. Here are our top picks for this year so you and your partner can start (or continue) having a sizzling hot sex life all next year!

Sex Toys: What Is Your Favorite Cock Ring?

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One of the most popular sex toys out there are cock rings and many couples use them during sex – and some men even use them during masturbation. Cock rings are designed to keep blood in the penis during an erection, instead of allowing the blood to flow out. This can help men with erectile dysfunction get and maintain an erection, and it can also help enhance and magnify sensations during sex. There are so many different styles, colors, shapes and sizes of cock rings that are available – so which one is the best one to try?

Question:  Please tell us all about your favorite cock rings! My boyfriend and i use them all the time, and we’re always up for trying different ones out!

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Decide What Sex Toys You Are Looking For

Since there are so many different sex toys out there, it’s important to decide what you are looking for ahead of time. For example, if you are looking for a vibrator, start thinking about what you want it to do. Do you want it to have multiple speeds, be waterproof, or have attachments for anal penetration? The same goes for cock rings – decide what you want the ring to achieve before you go out and get one. Do you want one that vibrates so you can enjoy it as much as your partner? Or do you want something textured, or just a simple, metal ring? What size do you need? Thinking about the details first before you make a purchase will help keep you from being overwhelmed at all the choices that are available to you and help you narrow it down to what you actually want.

Safety Tips To Keep In Mind

When it comes to using sex toys, there are always safety tips that make things safer and therefore, more fun. While using a cock ring seems pretty straightforward, there are some things to keep in mind so you and your partner can both have fun in a safe way. Always use a good water or silicone based lube to slide the cock ring on. Trying to put one on without lube will either be very uncomfortable for your partner or you won’t be able to get it on at all. Never use a cock ring for more than thirty minutes. It is possible for the penis to swell beyond the point where you can actually get the ring off afterwards, which would require an emergency call to your doctor. Thirty minutes is about the maximum amount of time a man can safely wear a cock ring. Always use a good toy cleaner after use to keep your toys clean, and avoid putting jelly or silicone style cock rings together – they can actually adhere to each other!

Different Sex Toys To Try

Cock rings come in all different shapes, sizes and textures. There are many more options available than just your simple ring-style toy. Here are some different ones you can try:

His And Hers Rabbits Cockring: Two vibrating rabbits are attached to a silicone ring that slides over the penis. The rabbits’ ears are designed to stimulate her clitoris and his testicles at the same time!

Bong O Cock Ring: A silicone vibrating ring that has a weighted gold ball attachement that is designed to bounce over a man’s testicles and perineum for added stimulation for him.

Double Penetrator Cockring: A silicone toy with a dildo attached to the base of the ring to allow for double penetration. Use this to have vaginal penetration and anal sex at the same time!

 If you’ve never tried a cock ring before, start basic and work your way up to the more adventerous styles of sex toys. If you’re using one simply to help your erection last longer, a simple, metal style ring will work just as well – if not better – than some of the softer, silicone varieties. The soft, silicone toys are great for men and couples that are just having fun, but may lack enough substance to really keep your erection going strong. If you’ve already experimented with this type of stimulation before, don’t be afraid to try new ones and check out some different styles. While the actual ring is designed to make an erection stronger, the attachements that come on different styles are geared towards so many different things from amazing clitoral stimulation to anal sex and more. The great thing about this type of sex toy is that the different sensations that you can experience are never ending!