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Choosing Sex Toys For Her Without Ending Up In The Dog House

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Sex toys can be a wonderful way to spice up your sex life and have better sex with your lover. Choosing sex toys for your partner for a gift or simply because she won’t buy them herself can be a difficult task, but it’s certainly not impossible. If you’re going sex toy shopping solo, here are some great tips for choosing the right one for her without ending up having to sleep on the couch!

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Pay Attention To What She Likes In Bed

There are things she likes in bed and things she doesn’t, so it makes sense to get her a sex toy that is designed for an activity that she enjoys doing with you. Don’t worry, it won’t replace you – the right one will add to your sex life and make it hotter than ever before. For example, does she prefer to have her clitoris stimulated over anything else you do? Buy her a clitoral vibrator, which are designed to massage and stimulate the clitoris only. Or does she prefer vaginal or anal penetration? If that’s the case, select an item that is designed for g-spot stimulation or anal sex – or both!

Pay Attention To Your Penis Size

When picking something out for vaginal penetration, select something that is similar to your penis size. If you have a smaller penis, go for something that isn’t much larger than you are. You don’t have to select something that looks exactly like you in size or shape, but anything along those lines or a little smaller will work well. If you get something that is too large for her, especially for the first time, it may be painful for her. You can always graduate to larger sizes and start experimenting with different styles once you’ve both gotten used to using sex toys in the bedroom. On the same token, if you’re hung like a horse, don’t get a small, short or slim vibrator and expect her to like it – she probably won’t.

Stick With What You’ve Already Tried

When introducing a sex toy to your partner for the first time, you don’t want to get her something designed for an activity that she’s never tried before. This will most likely end badly and with you sleeping out on the couch – or worse, in the doghouse! For example, if she’s never tried anal sex, do NOT get her anal beads or a butt plug! This will make her uncomfortable, whether she decides to try it or not. Either way, you’ve just nixed the idea of ever bringing sex toys into the bedroom again. Instead, choose one that will be used in a way that she’s already familiar with through having sex with you. Most girls enjoy clitoral stimulation, since that’s generally how girls begin to masturbate when they’re younger. A clitoral vibrator is your safest bet if you and your partner haven’t tried much else.

Couples Sex Toys

If you’re bringing sex toys into the bedroom for the first time, you don’t necessarily have to get her something that is designed for her use alone. While these make great gifts later, what you choose for the first time should be something that is for you and her to use with each other. There are lots of sex toys out there for couples, and any sex toy can be used by both you and your lover together. Remote control vibrators give you the power to make her feel pleasure, without her having to do a thing. You can also just use a simple, sleek vibrator with your partner as though you were fingering her. If she enjoys anal stimulation, try using a butt plug or anal beads as you perform oral sex on your lover.

Don’t Forget The Lube

Even the best sex toys aren’t going to be fun to use without the right lube. Choose a lubricant that is either water or silicone based (depending on the material of the item you select) and is easy to clean up. Baby oil and other household “lubes” may break down latex and render the toy useless after just a few ventures outside the bottom drawer of the nightstand. You’ll also want to invest in a good toy cleaner, although hot, soapy water works well too. Specially designed cleaner will keep your toy looking like new for longer – which is a good investment if you end up selecting something that is more expensive or high end. You can also slip a condom over it if you really want it to last!

Homemade Sex Toys – Part 2

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Homemade sex toys are definitely a popular alternative to professional sex toys because they’re often much more convenient to purchase (especially for girls and guys under the age of eighteen) and use. Many things – such as phallic shaped vegetables – you can purchase at the grocery store, and others you already have lying around your house. However, does that mean that homemade sex toys are better to use? Not exactly. Here are some popular homemade sex toys, as well as some professional alternatives that just might serve you a little better.

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Cucumber Or Zucchini

A very popular homemade sex toy is the cucumber or zucchini. Many girls like to experiment with these instead of a traditional dildo, because it is easy to experiment with different sizes, shapes and textures. Other popular vegetables that can be used in place of a dildo include carrots and celery. These types of vegetables are popular sex toys among teenage girls and women alike, because they do not require a special trip to an adult toy store – instead, they’re available everywhere, including your local grocery and convenience stores. The downsides to using phallic shaped sex toys in lieu of professional sex toys is that many vegetables have cuts or knicks in them that can harbor bacteria. This bacteria can be transferred to the vagina or anus and can cause an infection in the body. If you must use a vegetable instead of a sex toy, slip a condom over it.

Adam & Eve Alternative: Slim Pink Pleaser or The Illumination by Doc Johnson.

Spinning Toothbrush

Some women enjoy using a spinning or sonic toothbrush on the clitoris in place of a vibrator. This will actually definitely work well in a pinch, especially if you’re traveling and don’t want to take your favorite sex toy with you. However, this is probably not something you want to use long term, because frankly, there are just so many better things out there to use to massage and stimulate the clitoris to achieve orgasm. Besides, you don’t really want to put your toothbrush back in your mouth after you’ve just gotten done using it down there, do you? Professional sex toys designed for clitoral stimulation are probably the best choice here, because many of them are just as discreet and easy to use. Think of a soft, squishy yet textured clitoral vibrator that feels just like a tongue – plus more.

Adam & Eve Alternative: The Illumination by Doc Johnson or The Clitoral Kisser

Toilet Paper Roll

Many guys use a toilet paper roll for masturbation instead of their hands – ouch! They achieve a “vagina like feel” by stuffing a grocery bag inside the roll and squirting lube inside to allow it to slide up and down the penis. While this is definitely a cheaper alternative than a professional male masturbator, there are definitely some disadvantages to using this type of homemade sex toy. First of all, a male masturbator made from latex or silicone just feels better, and can come textured or ribbed for your pleasure. Paired with a good lube, a male masturbator will make it feel more like a vagina. Male masturbators are surprisingly inexpensive and easy to purchase – plus they can be turned inside out and cleaned thoroughly (with either special sex toy cleaner or good old fashioned hot soapy water) to make it last longer.

Adam & Eve Alternative: The Super Head Honcho Masturbator

Clothespins

Men and women have both been known to use spring clothespins as nipple clamps. This is actually a very bad idea! Clothespins cannot be adjusted at all to make them squeeze harder or softer, and usually they squeeze really, really hard (unless they’re broken). Clothespins can squeeze too hard and hurt or bruise the nipple, making it painful for days afterwards. Instead, try to find professional nipple clamps with a sliding adjuster on it that will allow you to control how hard the clamp will squeeze. If you like rough sex, move the slider so that the clamp squeezes harder. If you prefer vanilla sex, adjust the clamp so that it only gives you a light pressure sensation.

Adam & Eve Alternative: Feather Fetish Nipple Clamp or Micro Vibrating Nipple Clamps

DIY Anal Beads

Some people who enjoy anal sex are using marbles, golf balls or other round objects of varying sizes and placing them in a condom to create a homemade set of anal beads. They either tie the condom in knots between the round objects or use string to tie them. While this will work to provide stimulation of the prostate gland, it is a very dangerous homemade sex toy to use. The condom can easily break and the objects inside can get lost inside the anal cavity, causing you a very expensive and embarrassing trip to the emergency room. Most anal beads are inexpensive and come in a variety of sizes for people who enjoy different anal sensations. Anal beads are also safer to use because they can be cleaned thoroughly with a toy cleaner or soap and hot water. It is extremely important to keep your anal sex toys clean and wash them after each and every use!

Adam & Eve Alternative: x10 Anal Beads

Why Every Girl Needs Her Own Sex Toy

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Believe it or not, many girls don’t own a sex toy. Some girls own sex toys that they use only with their partners, but many others don’t have a sex toy for their own personal use at all! Some women have never even tried masturbation alone! Sex toys can greatly improve the quality, frequency and intensity of a woman’s orgasms both with the sex toy and without it when having sex with a partner. There are also many other benefits to using a sex toy, so here’s why every girl needs her very own!

Sex Toys And Masturbation Make Orgasms Better

If you’ve never had an orgasm before, or your orgasms are few and far between when having sex with your partner, it’s time to invest in a great sex toy. This is especially true if you’ve never masturbated before! If you’re using a sex toy during masturbation, you will find that your orgasms come more frequently, as well as being more powerful and intense. Masturbation, even without a sex toy, helps to train your body to experience pleasure and reach orgasm without the stress and pressure of trying to reach climax with your partner. Many women who have never had an orgasm before aren’t ever going to reach their first orgasm in front of their partners because the stress and pressure to perform is just too much. Female masturbation can help a woman find her body’s own pleasure buttons without feeling like she’s being watched or being expected to reach climax. When a woman gives herself time to explore her body on her own with a sex toy, she is more likely to reach orgasm – and it’s probable that her orgasm will be absolutely incredible!

Why Your Partner Will Love Your New Sex Toy

When a woman masturbates, she learns more about how her body works and how she likes to recieve pleasure. This is excellent information that she can pass on to her partner! Women who have never masturbated or used a sex toy before have absolutely no idea what they like best sexually or what will bring them to climax. They don’t know how they like to be touched or even what feels good! How can a man know what a woman wants or likes if she doesn’t even know herself? Women who don’t masturbate essentially send their partners into sex blind, and they can only guess how she wants to be pleased. When she doesn’t reach orgasm (how could she?) he ends up feeling like he has failed her in some way, even though he tried his very best. Even guys who know just about everything there is to know about a female orgasm may not be able to make his girl reach climax if she’s never masturbated before. When a woman masturbates, however – especially if she uses a sex toy – she’ll learn about what she likes and how she likes it. She’ll show her partner her new discoveries and he’ll be inspired to use the same techniques to give her an orgasm during sex! So while many women believe that masturbating alone and using a sex toy is detrimental to their sexual relationship with their partners, quite the opposite is true. Using a sex toy and masturbating on your own will actually help make your sex life with your partner even hotter!

Which Sex Toy To Choose?

Of course, your first time sex toy shopping is going to seem a little overwhelming. There are so many different toys to choose from that offer so many different types of sensations. It’s easy to get lost or confused when selecting your first sex toy. There are, however, a few simple guidelines you can use to help narrow down the selection. You definitely don’t want to choose a giant double ended dildo, anal beads or anything of that nature. If you want to go for vaginal penetration, choose a sleek, slim dildo or vibrator instead. If you want to go for clitoral stimulation only, select a vibrator that is made specifically to be used on the clitoris only. While many people claim that getting used to using a vibrator to reach orgasm will train your body to only be able to reach climax with vibration, sporadic use can actually help you learn how your body goes through the stages of pleasure and orgasm. If you’re not sure whether you want to go with a vibrator or not, try getting a small, inexpensive toy that vibrates and one that doesn’t. That way, you can find out for yourself which one you like the best.

Glass Sex Toys: Playing With Fire And Ice

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When shopping for sex toys, you’re going to be inundated with literally hundreds of choices of toys. Each toy is different and serves a different purpose, whether it’s for g-spot stimulation, vibration or anal sex. A great option for both vaginal and anal play are glass sex toys. They’re quite different from your traditional latex or silicone dildo and have many benefits over other styles of sex toys. Here’s what you want to know about glass sex toys and how to keep yours safe and clean.

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What Makes Glass Sex Toys So Appealing?

First of all, glass sex toys are very visually appealing. They’re often handcrafted with high end glass that can come in clear or a variety of different colors swirled together. While many traditional silicone dildos and vibrators are very obviously dildos and vibrators, glass sex toys can easily be mistaken for a small sculpture or work of art. Another major benefit of glass sex toys over other styles of toys is that they retain temperature easily. If you like to play with heat and cold during sex, a glass sex toy may just be right up your alley. If you place your toy in a bucket of ice or the freezer, it is going to become cold very quickly and stay cold. You can take the toy out after just a few minutes if you want it just a little cooler than room temperature, or you can leave it for several minutes or even an hour or two if you want it to feel ice cold. You can also warm it up by running it under warm water or even placing it in a bowl of very hot water. If you use very hot water, definitely allow the toy to cool some before placing it in the anus, vagina or on the clitoris and check the temperature against your wrist before using.

Using A Glass Sex Toy

In addition to excellent geothermal properties, glass sex toys are also very, very hard. They feel quite different from a traditional sex toy, dildo or vibrator. They are excellent for g-spot stimulation and prostate stimulation, because they provide the firmness and intensity needed to reach g-spot or prostate orgasms. Many different types of glass toys can be used for vaginal penetration, but if you plan on using your glass toy for anal penetration, make sure it has a wide base or ring on the outside end. A ring will be uncomfortable if not impossible to sit on, while a flared base at the end of the toy offers more flexibility and comfort. Either way, if it doesn’t have a wide base on the end, it could get lost in the anus and require a trip to the emergency room. Remember to use lube with your toy, but use sparingly. Glass does not need a lot of lubrication to become very, very slippery! Glass sex toys are also incredibly easy to clean. They can be cleaned with simple soap and water or can be placed in your dishwasher for that super smooth clean. Latex or silicone can become harder to clean after prolonged use, even if you use a special sex toy cleaner. On the other hand, when you clean glass sex toys, they stay clean.

Selecting A Glass Sex Toy

When choosing a glass sex toy, it is important to consider the quality of the item. In this case, you really are going to get what you pay for. High end, quality glass is more resistant to breakage and chipping whereas other types of glass toys may be more apt to break or chip easily. Never, ever substitute a glass sex toy for a glass beverage bottle or any other type of glass object. If you want to use glass for sex, get a glass sex toy! Choose one that you like but that also suits your needs and what you’re going to use it for. A glass dildo with a flared base can be used for both anal sex and vaginal penetration, while one without a wide base can only be used for vaginal sex. To keep your glass sex toy in good condition, clean after every use and regularly inspect your toy for cracks, breaks and chips. Never, ever use a chipped or cracked glass toy! Keep your glass toy stored at room temperature, preferably wrapped in a soft cloth or towel. When properly cared for, a glass sex toy is a worthwhile investment – they can give you unimaginable pleasure and incredible orgasms, as well as last for many, many years.

How To Tighten Your Vaginal Muscles And Have Sex Just Like The First Time!

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Ever wish you were as tight as you were when you had sex for the first time? Of course you have! After having kids and aging, your vagina likely doesn’t feel like it did to you or your partner. Here’s the one simple sex toy you can use to tighten your vaginal muscles and make every time feel like the first time all over again!

Kegel Exercises

Sure, you’ve heard of kegel exercises. Sit down (or stand up if you like – in fact, kegels can be done anywhere and anytime) clench your vaginal muscles as though you were stopping the flow of urine, hold for ten seconds or more and release. Repeat ad nauseam. Kegels are a very powerful way to tighten your vaginal and pelvic floor muscles, however, they’re not the only thing you can use and definitely not the best way to make your vagina feel like brand new again. For centuries, women have been using one secret sex toy to keep their vaginas tight and fit for sex and now you can too!

Ben Wa Balls

Ben Wa Balls are small, weighted balls that are inserted into your vagina and kept there for a period of time. You will naturally use all of your vaginal, anal and pelvic floor muscles to keep them inside your vaginal canal. This will completely and thoroughly exercise your muscles without you consciously having to do very much at all! There are so many different types of Ben Wa Balls available on the market and the best thing is that absolutely no one will know that you’re using them! For first time Ben Wa Ball users, start with lighter weight ones that have a string attached to them. You can get them in soft silicone or even the vibrating variety for extra pleasure! As you become a more advanced user, you can graduate to heavier balls, such as metal or glass balls, which will exercise your muscles more and more. Just like when exercising any muscle in your body, you need to start off small and build your way up to heavier equipment.

How To Get The Ultimate Tight Vagina

In addition to using Ben Wa Balls to tighten and improve the muscle tone in your vaginal walls, you can also use tightening and vaginal rejuvanation cream (such as PK24) to increase blood flow to your vagina and hydrate your vaginal walls. Creams and gels used for tightening aren’t long lasting, however, PK24 can last up to 24 hours. Other tightening products work for shorter periods, but can also be used right before sex to create even tighter sensations. Using Ben Wa Balls and tightening creams not only make sex better for your partner, but they will also make sex better for you! Women who use tightening creams and Ben Wa Balls regularly report having better, more powerful orgasms and that they’re able to reach orgasm more quickly and easily. If you’ve been living with vagina that you’re not happy with, don’t consider surgery or other drastic options until you’ve tried Ben Wa Balls first! They just might change the way you have sex forever!