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Sex Toys 101: How To Buy Your First Vibrator

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Many couples are discovering that vibrators and other sex toys can enhance their sex lives by adding a little fun and variety.

And with masturbation – especially female masturbation (yes, it does happen) – being somewhat taboo in society today, a woman interested in pleasuring herself may have few options. Many women choose to masturbate with vibrators or dildos, and share their sex toys with their partners. Where can you get vibrators or dildos?

But if it’s your first time, what do you start with? What is the right vibrator for you?

If you’ve been curious about vibrators, particularly about buying your first one, this is just the video for you. We’ll walk you through 5 simple steps for choosing the perfect vibrator for you. It’s easier than you’re thinking right now!

How You’re Going To Use Your Vibrator

The first step is to decide how you’re going to use a prospective sex toy. Do you want to use it by yourself? Do you want to use it with a partner, or both? Do you need a vibrator with tittillating action, or will a non-vibrating, standard dildo do for you? Do you want something just to massage your clitoris, or would you like to use it for insertion? Do you want a toy that does double – both massaging your clitoris and inserting and stimulating your g-spot at the same time? Deciding what the most important aspects of owning a vibrator are for you is a crucial first step in finding the right vibrator for you.

What Material Do You Want Your Sex Toy Made Out Of?

There are several different types of sex toy materials available on the market today – for example, one of the newer materials is called Cyberskin and is soft and squishy, with a very real skin-like sensation. This is a great material for a penis-shaped dildo, making it more realistic. You can also buy plastic, silicone or steel vibrators, or go with softer silicone or even glass dildos or vibrators. Check out a sex toy website that will allow you to browse different materials available so you can find out what type of material intrigues you the most.

What Size And Shape Should Your Sex Toy Be?

Size and shape are very important when it comes to finding the perfect sex toy or dildo for yourself. Vibrators and dildos come in a complete variety of shapes and sizes. Do you want something small and discreet that will fit in your handbag? Or would you like a very large, very wide dildo that will bring you to the brink of the kind of pleasure you can withstand? Do you want something medium sized that will get the job done? Think about what you’re most comfortable with sexually so you can find the right size for you – it’s not a one size fits all sort of deal.

Your Vibrator’s Power Source

If you’ve decided to go with a vibrator and not a standard, non-vibrating dildo, you can run into the issues of recharging your vibrator or switching batteries. Both are good ways to charge your vibrator but both have their disadvantages. Running out of batteries (and often not having any more on hand) in the heat of the moment can be a huge disappointment, while having a cordless, rechargable vibrator can be quite expensive. Think about how convenient you want your vibrator to be by determining how often you think you’re going to use it.

You Get What You Pay For

If this is your first time vibrator or dildo, you might not be prepared to spend a hundred dollars or more on the hottest, most realistic vibrator on the market today. But you certainly are going to get what you pay for. That doesn’t mean there isn’t middle ground. Look for a dildo or vibrator that is in your price range, but the cheaper you go, the less features and power your new vibrator is going to have. You don’t have to spend a fortune, but for a good vibrator or dildo, you’re going to spend more than five bucks.

Fun, Sexy Party Ideas

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So you want to have a fun, sexy party, but truth or dare, spin the bottle or even strip poker was SO 8th grade. What are some new, fresh and ultimately SEXY ideas you can use for a super fun adult party? Here are some of our favorites!

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Sexy Stand Ups

Sexy Stand Ups are lifesize cardboard cutouts, much like the ones of mega watt movie stars that theaters use to promote movies. Remember those nerdy but fun cutouts of Princess Leia from Star Wars or Orlando Bloom from Pirates of The Caribbean? Well, you might not want those at your adult party, but Sexystandups.com has lots of sexy, life size cardboard cutouts that you can do lots of things with! For about $39.95, you can have a huge stand up cardboard of a stripper, a Chippendale, a porn star, a hot chick in a bikini…you get the idea. Send them as a super hilarious birthday card, use them at your bachelor or bachelorette party, decorate your rec or game room with them, or even send them as a gag gift! The possibilities with sexy stand ups are endless as long as you use your imagination!

The Game

The Game – it doesn’t sound sexy at first, does it? Don’t worry – it is! It’s a grown up’s version of strip poker, spin the bottle and truth or dare and can be especially fun for swingers to play to help break the ice if you’re having a sexy swinger party. You can also use it for a tamer party – just go through the cards and remove the more advanced ones that you feel wouldn’t be appropriate. While some 8th grade party games like truth or dare or spin the bottle are pretty boring once you pass that stage of your life, The Game puts a fun, sexy adult twist on them, making them super fun to play! The Game has four different levels, with the higher levels being more risque than the lower levels. The Game also has different cards to draw from, which vary from questions to dares to fun and exciting actions that will liven your party up and get your friends interacting with each other! The Game will definitely make your fun, sexy party ideas stand out from the crowd.

Host A Sex Toy Or Lingerie Party

Many men and women are afraid to go out and purchase sex toys or lingerie by themselves, or even afraid to take the initiative to do so with their partner. Throw a sex toy or lingerie party and have a representative come over to your house and show off fun sex toys, pretty lingerie and more! Many of these parties include free samples, fun games and much, much more! Both men and women will feel more inclined to purchase some fun sex toys or some gorgeous lingerie if there’s a whole party dedicated to it and other partygoers are doing the same. Try visiting Pure Romance, Just For You Parties or Fantasy, Inc. to find out how to set up a party that will get your friends trying new things! Don’t invite just the girls or just the guys – mix it up and make it a co-ed party for even more fun, sexy entertainment!

Homemade Sex Toys – Should You Really Make Your Own?

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Homemade sex toys – you’ve heard about them. The housewife who selects a perfectly shaped cucumber at the grocery store but won’t be cooking with it, or the teenager who uses her spinning toothbrush on more than just her teeth…. With the availability of sex toys these days, not to mention just how very discreet they can be, why are people still using homemade sex toys? Are homemade sex toys safe?
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Why People Still Use Homemade Sex Toys

Both men and women still use homemade sex toys for several reasons – many people still believe that actual sex toys are hard to find or expensive, and they’re afraid of others (such as their children) finding their sex toys. Fortunately, these things just aren’t true anymore about sex toys. Many sex toys are inexpensive and a great number of them are incredibly discreet (tube of lipstick in your purse, anyone?) and no one but you will really know the difference. Sex toys are easy to buy online, will show up at your house in discreet packaging and even the transaction on your bank account will be discreet enough that someone simply looking at your bank statement won’t know what that particular transaction was about. Why not get a real sex toy?

Sex Toy Safety

While the benefits of homemade sex toys are that they’re inexpensive, readily available and discreet, they’re not worth risking your health with. Homemade sex toys aren’t safe – some of them can injure your most sensitive areas and even carry bacteria that can cause you serious infections that are expensive to treat under a doctor’s care. It’s not worth taking the risk! Read on about some of the great – and inexpensive – sex toys that you can use that will make your masturbation sessions better and safer.

Boy Toys

While a number of men masturbate with their hands, some men are into finding “toys” that they can masturbate with to try to recreate the feeling of a mouth or a vagina. Men have been known to use fruit, fabric, pillows and even harsh toilet paper rolls! Come on guys! Most sex toy stores and websites have silicone masturbators that you can use instead, that are soft and squishy and have a number of pleasure enhancing factors. A plain silicone masturbator is truly inexpensive, but for a real treat, you can try one with firm pleasure beads inside or one that is ridged or studded. Some are even shaped like anuses, mouths and vaginas to make masturbating even more fun! They’re safe too – just remember to use plenty of water based lubricant!

Girl Toys

While some men do use homemade sex toys, women are the ones who really get a bad rap about it. Women have been known to use everything from vegetables to hairbrushes to bottles and everything in between. There are a variety of sex toys available for women though, most of them so discreet you wouldn’t be able to tell them apart from a curling iron or even a fancy pen. Plus, homemade sex toys don’t vibrate! Real sex toys are easy to clean, and you don’t have to worry about bacteria that could cause an infection. They’re not expensive either! Real sex toys will give you everything you want in a toy, but without the worries that come along with homemade sex toys. If you are going to use a homemade sex toy though, throw a condom on it first to protect yourself.

Ready to graduate from homemade sex toys to the real thing?

Luxury Vibrators – The Best Sex Toys You’ll Ever Own

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Vibrators – they’re available almost everywhere. On the Internet, in traditional sex toy stores and even in some novelty mall stores and department stores. There are thousands of different kinds of vibrators in many different price ranges with a whole host of features. How on earth do you go about choosing one that you know will work for you?

High End Vibrators

While there are a number of modestly priced vibrators that are easily available for purchase, they often will break quickly or won’t do the job right. If you want a quality, whisper quiet vibrator, your best bet is to go with a high end vibrator. Although these types are more expensive than ones that you’ll find in novelty stores, you will get so much more for your money. If you’ve ever bought cheaper products and ended up having to replace them several times, you might already know that a more expensive product will actually save you money in the long run. But what if you could find the perfect vibrator with everything you wanted that was sleek and discreet? Believe it or not, sex toys have come a long way from the tacky dildos of the past and the perfect vibrator isn’t just wishful thinking anymore.

LELO Vibrators

Want the ultimate class available in a vibrator? LELO’s sleek toys are among the best the world has to offer in vibrators and you’ll be surprised at how well they do the job. The ultra sleek, Nea clitoral massager fits right in the palm of your hand and is incredibly quiet, while the GiGi will give you rocking G-Spot orgasms in mere minutes. LELO’s toys are made with body safe materials and are discreet enough to bring along with you anywhere. Don’t forget about the super chic men’s toys available from LELO – say goodbye to bulky, tacky anal plugs and say hello to “Bob”: the sleekest, most stylish ‘gentleman’s’ plug available.

Jimmy Jane Toys

Jimmy Jane’s products come in a variety of styles and colors, offering exquisite pleasure with the widest array of choices. Why limit yourself when it comes to your own pleasure? Try a classier version of the iconic “Rabbit” vibrator, or explore the incredible completely waterproof, rechargable Form 6 vibrator with a cordless charging dock. If you really want to wrap yourself in luxury, indulge in one of Jimmy Jane’s famous slim vibrators in real platinum or real gold, adorned with almost a carat of conflict-free diamonds. Set the mood with Jimmy Jane’s ultra luxurious fantasy suede play sets, or scent your room with sexy, delicious emollient candles. And for the men and their partners to use simultaneously, the Iconic Ring is a waterproof penis ring that will keep you erect and titillate your partner’s clitoris in a chic and modern way!

Vibrators can be a great addition to your sex life whether you’re flying solo or with a partner. Finding the right vibrator for you doesn’t have to be an ordeal of spending tons of money just to be disappointed. Just put together what you would have spent on a multitude of cheaper, tackier vibrators and just buy one luxe, perfect vibrator that you’ll keep for the rest of your life. Who says pleasure isn’t a smart investment?

Vibrators 101

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Vibrators are probably the most taboo yet most used of sex toys that are available around the world. Most couples have vibrators for extra fun in the bedroom, and there’s a great deal of single women and men that use vibrators to satisfy their sexual desires in the absence of a partner. So if so many people use vibrators, how come no one is talking about them? Here’s what you want to know about vibrators and sex toys – and more!

Vibrators For Couples

Contrary to popular belief, couples can get as much use out of vibrators and sex toys as single adults can! They can add tons of fun in the bedroom, as well as help women achieve orgasm who are not ordinarily able to without intense clitoral and G-Spot stimulation.

What kind of vibrators can couples use? Anything, really! Some vibrators are made specifically with couples in mind, however, such as vibrators that are remote controlled, or panty vibrators. These allow one partner to become in control of the other partner’s pleasure, bringing some big surprises in the bedroom! G-Spot vibrators, such as the rabbit vibrator, are also popular for couples because some men have trouble reaching and stimulating a woman’s G-Spot during intercourse. Using a G-Spot vibrator with your partner can help her to achieve intense, toe-curling G-Spot orgasms that she might not otherwise have!

Vibrators For Singles

Many single women – and men – keep vibrators and sex toys around to help keep their sexual desires satisfied when they’re not with a partner. This is probably the most common use for a vibrator and there are many different varieties and types of sex toys that can be used if you’re single and going solo. Bullet vibrators and finger vibrators are popular for women, because they’re easy to use and deliver intense vibrations for that quick, get-it-done orgasm that many women prefer to have when they’re “clicking their own mouse.” The rabbit vibrator is also a great option for single women, because it delivers incredible G-Spot stimulation in addition to clitoral tickling that can give a woman the type of body-rocking orgasm she’s never had before!

Discreet Vibrators

A lot of women and men prefer discreet vibrators – sleek, simple looking vibrators that really could be mistaken for a variety of different things. There are also a number of sex toys that are shaped like other things, such as lipstick tubes, cucumbers and rubber duckies, allowing you to never have to worry about where your vibrator is and who might see it. Some of these types of vibrators slip easily into a purse or pocketbook, so you can take your pleasure with you wherever you go!

Safety Note: Men using dildos/vibrators as well as women using dildos/vibrators for anal sex should always use those made with a wide base, because traditional vibrators can easily slip fully into the anal cavity, causing you a very embarrassing and completely preventable emergency room visit.

The most important thing to remember about vibrators is to never share sex toys with your friends, wash them regularly and have fun! Vibrators and sex toys are a great way for adults to explore their bodies and their sexuality in a safe way. If you don’t own a vibrator, now is the time to get one!