I love different sex positions and I loved “doggy style” when my boyfriend and I first got together, but now it’s my least favorite. My boyfriend still tries to initiate sex this way, but I really don’t enjoy it. How do I let him know our doggy days are over?
What She Said
Speak With Him Honestly
The sooner, the better! While there are compromises in relationships, doing something you really don’t enjoy physically isn’t necessary. For whatever reason, your body’s response to pleasure in doggy style sex positions has changed. Sex should be fun and spontaneous, but if you know something doesn’t work for you anymore it should be off the menu. He’ll surely understand, once you express that this position no longer feels good to you.
Take the sting out of delivering this news by adding a few new sex positions that you are interested in trying. It’s not the end of the world – in fact, it’s an invitation to a new one!
What He Said
You know what? It happens! Some people can eat ice cream all day, every day and never ever ever get bored. Some people eat it for a week and then get bored with it. You have gotten bored with doggy style as far as sex positions go. It’s time to find a new flavor.
Perhaps you’ve gotten bored with it because it’s physically uncomfortable or doesn’t hit your g-spot like it used to. That my friends, is what the liberator is for.
Go to their website, check out the different models and positions they can be used for (they have very “informative” video demonstrations with the super sexy sex educator Jaiya) and order one. That may be all you need to get things going again.
Then again, maybe the position isn’t for you. There are dozens of books on sex positions, like Kama Sutra, that offer new and exciting sex positions for the two of you to try. The options are as limitless as they are magically delicious.
Bring Sex Toys Into Play
Maybe you need to bring some sex toys into play instead of trying different sex positions. Again, do an Internet search for sex toys, find some you like and order them online or go to your local sex shop and buy some if you don’t want a paper trail (just remember to pay cash!) That will add some new toys to your sexual sandbox and that can occupy you for hours upon hours.
Of course, I don’t think any of this will really help as long as he’s the one doing the sexual initiation. You really can’t let him know his doggy style days are over. What you can do is offer him new and exciting positions and avoid the doggy style sex all together simply by beating him to the punch. You should be the one to initiate sex and lots of it. In the new positions you want to try. You’re bound to find one that he likes just as much if not more than doggy style. Then he will be constantly harassing you to do it that way instead of doggy style, but that however, is a whole other column. Enjoy and you’re welcome!