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Kinky Things To Do With Your Fingers That She Will LOVE!

Fingering can be hotter than it was in high school when you hadn’t yet reached third or fourth base. Here’s how to make using your hands sexier and more adult!

What other kinky things are fingers good for? If you and your wife are both up for something a bit more out-there, try turning up the kinky knob on your relationship and trying out a few new tricks. Bondage, discipline, dominance, submission and sadomasochism are all designed to lead to increased pleasure for both parties. If you or your wife might get off on the exchange of power or pain, why not take a stroll down a few new pathways?

BDSM

Whether you bind her wrists to give you the upper hand or simply to immobilize hers, bondage is a great way to use your hands to make her very conscious of what her hands can and can’t do. Add a blindfold, and she won’t have any idea what amazing new move is coming her way!

BDSM requires lots of discussion and decision making to reach informed consent. The use of a safe word is very important if you will be playing with any kind of bondage or pain play.

When it comes to pain play, your hands are really your best asset. There are lots of little devices you can buy, but if you are just getting to know her responses, you want the hands-on experience that comes from using your own skin. An over-the-knee bare hand spanking can be an incredible bonding experience, and depending on how much force is used, can be anything from energizing and stimulating to excruciatingly painful.

Walk the line carefully. You can also use the same technique to give a light “spank” to her vulva. Be very gentle here, in the facing-her-feet or spooning position, unless she asks you to go harder!

The other great thing your fingers can do to start off playing with pain is tweaking her nipples. What can easily be pleasurable with a gently touch can quickly turn to pain – sometimes, that delicious kind of pain – when it comes to pinching and twisting those sensitive little nubs.

Exhibitionism

In my opinion, that best kind of kink that comes from learning new hand tricks is a little bit of exhibitionism. If you can get her off without either of you having to get naked, it opens up a whole world of possibilities – literally!

With a skirt and skimpy (or no) panties, you have all the access you need to finger her under the dinner table, in a movie theatre, in the back seat of the car, in the bathroom, while she’s sitting on your lap at the club, in an elevator, or just about anywhere else you’ve ever dreamed of getting busy. Time to make a date!

4 Ways To Get Started With Bondage TONIGHT!

By kendallashley

Bondage is often associated with black leather and a guy with a zipper mask. The fact of the matter is that bondage doesn’t have to be something out of a horror movie. There are a lot of couples that get off on bondage and lead very normal lives.

Although there are those couples out there that tie each other up in chains or with other materials, you don’t have to do this in order to experience this kind of sex. If you have an interest in moving up in the scene, you need to understand the basics first.

What Is Bondage?

Bondage is basically the restraint of one partner as to not impede on the actions of the other partner. Many people love bondage because it allows them to relinquish control of what is happening to them. They don’t have to make decisions and they can be used for kinky sex.

They can also be teased in this position and not be able to do anything about it. Giving away all control is a turn on to a lot of men and women. If you are one of them then you need to start out with a basic understanding of what bondage is and what it is not. This does not have to do with whips or humiliation. Although Bondage is a part of BDSM, it is only a small part.

1. Establish Some Ground Rules

The ground rules should be set before you tie up your partner or before your partner ties you up. The ground rules are essential to knowing the limits of what you and your partner can do while either of your is inhibited. If you are a little afraid of being tied up, you might want to pretend for first time or make the restraints loose enough to get out of.

Talk to your partner about what they want. Do they want their legs tied, their arms tied or a blindfold? Determine what you are comfortable with also. You might have a rule that they can only tease you when you are tied up but that they have to let you go before you have sex. Discuss anything that is going to make you uncomfortable with your partner and have them do the same so you are on the same page.

2. Use Safety Measures

There are a few terms that you should be familiar with. The bondage scene uses Safe, Sane And Consensual (SSC) and Risk Aware Consensual Kink (RACK). These basically mean that you should always have consensual play with your partner and you should never be impaired by drugs or alcohol. Come up with a safe word to say if you are feeling uncomfortable and make sure that it’s something you would never use in the moment.

3. Get Tied Down

Now that you have all of that out of the way, it’s time to get tied down. Since you’re a beginner you probably don’t have all of the equipment needed. Get a couple of pairs of pantyhose and tie your partner to the bedpost or have her tie you to the bedpost.

Use a simple knot that will hold, but a knot that you could ultimately break if needed. If you want to start out slow, simply tie their hands together without securing them to the bed.

4. Use Some Objects

A feather is the easiest way to get started. It can feel good and it’s very teasing. Run the feather up and down your partner’s body or have them run the feather up and down your body. Tease them with the feather until they are begging for you. At this point, don’t give in.

The feather is most widely used object for teasing, but you can also use different sex toys. A feather is going to be enough for a guy, but a vibrator works very well with women. Run the vibrator over her nipples and her down her thigh. Don’t put it on her clitoris or inside her just yet. Wait until she is sucking in her stomach.

This is an involuntary refllex to try to get you to put the vibrator on her. Gradually work the vibrator around her clitoris and watch as she tugs on the restraints. Always follow the rules when you’re using objects or sex toys.

This form of sex is a fun way to put a little kink into the relationship. If you have an interest in bondage, following this simple guide will give you a crash course in what you like and what you don’t like. Remember to keep to the rules and never do anything that you or your partner is uncomfortable with.

BDSM Basics: How To Get Started

By kendallashley

BDSM is a sex activity that incorporates bondage, domination, submission and masochism. If you have been interested in BDSM for a while, but don’t know how to get started with it, there are a few things that you can do to ease into the scene.

BDSM is very kinky and can be a lot of fun. However, your comfort level might not be the same as your partner’s. It doesn’t matter if you’re a newbie or a veteran of the scene, you should always know what you are comfortable with and what is going to be beyond your limits. Here is a quick guide to help you get started with BDSM.

What Are You Into?

As mentioned before, there are a lot of subsets with BDSM. Whether you’re into bondage or domination, you need to determine what makes you hot. Some men are really into dominating their partner while others would rather be the submissive. If you are into being whipped or incorporating a little pain into the relationship then you must be careful.

Telling your girlfriend or wife to bite your nipples is a little different than being chained to a bed and flogged. Determine what you are into and what is off limits before you ever bring this up with your partner. Knowing your limits will help define what is acceptable and what is not.

Master Vs. Slave

“Master” and “slave” are a very common terms in BDSM. In this scenario, one of you will be the master and one of you will be the slave. The master controls all aspects of the slave’s life. This means they control their privacy, what they do and when they can perform certain tasks. In many cases, the slave will wear a uniform and a collar. Some slaves do not feel comfortable wearing a collar, but others prefer it. In this form of domination, the actions do not always have to be sexual.

A master can designate certain tasks for the slave to complete. These tasks could include housework or sexual actions. The master is in charge of the slave and the slave must abide by the master’s rules. If you are interested in either of these roles, it’s recommended that you get direction from an experienced dominatrix or a slave.

Experimenting With Bondage

Bondage is another form of BDSM that you can get into fairly easily. The most intricate of bondage equipment will involve chains or bed straps, but you can easily improvise. Using neckties or pieces of satin fabric will not break the skin but can restrain easily. Rope is not recommended unless you are experienced because it will irritate the skin during movement.

Handcuffs work well and can be found at local adult stores or at toy stores. It’s recommended that you buy a good pair of handcuffs as plastic can break easily. If you are the one being restrained, make sure that your partner secures the restraints so you cannot move easily. Bondage allows you or your partner to relinquish control, which a lot of people find sexy.

What Is Masochism?

Masochism is another aspect of BDSM. Masochism is a consensual agreement between you and your partner involving the giving and the receiving of pain. There are different levels of masochism. There is extreme pain and then there is just a little pain. If you have ever enjoyed your girlfriend or wife scratching you with her fingernails then you have experienced a very tame form of masochism.

Masochism is enjoyed in the realm of sexuality. In order words, slamming your hand in a door is not the same as getting whipped by your girlfriend. Start off slow with masochism. Getting too much pain at once can ruin the experience quickly. Start out with a bullwhip and then work your way up to other tools.

Always Keep Safety In Mind

Safety is a must when it comes to BDSM. You must keep safety in the forefront of your mind so you are not only comfortable but also safe from any diseases or puncture wounds. It’s all too easy to get over-enthusiastic and wind up with a lash across your back that hurts for days or even scars. Have a safe word in place with your partner and research any methods that you are going to use before you implement them into the bedroom.

Make sure that all of your restraints are secure so they don’t come flying off the bedposts while in use. Also make sure that your restraints aren’t going to damage your furniture. Discuss any rules beforehand with your partner so they know what is off limits. Use these guidelines and you should be off to a great start with your first BDSM experience.

5 Bondage Sex Toys That Will Make This Valentine’s Day RED HOT!

By loveandsex

Valentine’s Day is great for trying new, risque things in the bedroom. It is a time when one or both partners are more open to trying new things, and are more into introducing sex toys, new activities, sex games and the like. If you want to experiment with bondage this Valentine’s Day, these sex toys are awesome for you to introduce to your lover on the 14th!

1. Candy Ball Gag

If you’ve never experimented with gagging before (either yourself or your partner) you don’t want to introduce heavy headgear to start out with. While this may indeed sound like a no brainer, you wouldn’t believe how many people who have never tried bondage or BDSM before bring home whips and chains for the first time.

A candy ball gag is a perfect Valentine’s Day treat. It will inspire you and your partner to get a little more frisky in during sex, without going over the top. If your lover is a little weary about trying any type of gagging or submission, this can be just the thing to help ease them into the BDSM world without scaring them away. It’s just “innocent” enough to pass off as a fun toy, while allowing you and your lover to explore your sexual boundaries a little more.

2. Fetish Fantasy Doggie Strap

Take doggy style to a whole new level with the Fetish Fantasy Doggie Strap. You’ve never tried anything like this before! This unique sex toy is designed to be used only by couples during sex, so it’s an excellent Valentine’s Day gift. If you’re going to give your lover a sex toy as a Valentine’s Day gift, selecting something that can be used by both you and your partner is most definitely the way to go. It’s much less offensive than getting your partner a giant dildo or vibrator, and you’ll get to enjoy it too!

Simply slip the doggy strap around your partner’s hips, with one handle on each side. The “strap” part should be resting against the lower abdomen. Use the handles to help with your thrusting – you’ll get harder and faster penetration, and you’ll both feel extra naughty doing it!

3. LELO Sensua Suede Whip

The LELO Sensua Suede Whip is an excellent choice for Valentine’s Day BDSM fun. While this toy is probably better off being used with someone who has had some experience with mixing pain with pleasure, it can still be used lightly by beginners. However, if your an experienced player, this is great addition to your toy box for Valentine’s Day!

If you’re just starting out with pain and pleasure, gently use the suede whip to tickle and tease your lover into a foreplay frenzy, then turn them over and give them a few light whips on the rear. You don’t want to go leaving any huge welts or anything, but a few light red patches on the supple skin of their hind end can be super sexy!

4. Sportsheets Romantic Restraint Kit

Take no prisoners this Valentine’s Day! Actually, you can make your partner your sexy prisoner with the Sportsheets Romantic Restraint Kit. This is an excellent bondage introductory kit that includes a light rubber tickler, a blindfold and Velcro cuffs. It’s totally not intimidating, which makes it a perfect Valentine’s Day gift for the lover that hasn’t had a lot of experience with domination, submission or bondage.

Blindfold your partner and restrain their hands with the soft cuffs, and use the feather tickler to get them hot and ready. Play a game where your partner guesses where you’re going to tickle next, or mix the sensations of the feathers with the sensation of your hot mouth and tongue all over their body.

5. Fetish Fantasy Web Restraint

If you really want to get a unique and exciting bondage toy for Valentine’s Day, the Fetish Fantasy Web Restraint is right up your alley! This fun restraint slips over your bed in a “spider web” like fashion, allowing both you and your lover to restrain yourselves to the bed and to each other in different ways. This is almost like the “Twister” of bondage toys, so expect to have a good time when you use this! Use your imagination to find fun new sex positions to try, or restrain yourself or your partner during oral sex for a brand new, exciting Valentine’s Day experience.

Bondage 101: What Every Player Needs To Know!

By loveandsex

Bondage is a sexual practice that involves restraints and the immobilization of a submissive partner for sexual gratification. Although it can be done for art, as in the case Shibari (Japanese rope bondage), but it is largely practiced during sex. It can be done with a number of mediums, including handcuffs (of both the metal and fuzzy variety), rope, Japanese silk rope, masks, gags and more.

Why Is It So Popular?

Bondage is popular for many different reasons. For some, the act of tying their lover up or being tied up is in some way liberating. Part of the appeal is that there are two very different roles required to make it happen – the dominant one, or the “top” and the submissive one, or the “bottom.” People are naturally inclined to be either a little more submissive or a little more dominant – and whichever role they seem to lean towards appeals to their inner desires in a bondage scenario.

How To Introduce It To A Nervous Partner

If someone who really enjoys the bondage and fetish world lands in a relationship with someone who has never tried it before, it can be quite nerve wracking. The partner with expertise in the area often wonders how to introduce their fantasies to their newbie lover, and they are of course, terrified of scaring them off or freaking them out.

The best way to introduce any type of sexual fetish, including bondage, to a person that has never tried it before is to start small and work your way up. Don’t bring in a huge ball gag and frightening looking metal cuffs for the first time.

Try a little light restraining with something benign like fuzzy handcuffs. Pair the restraint scenario with a favorite sexual activity of theirs that you know they absolutely love – like oral sex. Associating something new with something they already love sexually is a great way to put a positive spin on something that could otherwise be really “outside their box.”

As your partner gets more and more into it, you can talk to them about their fantasies (you’ll definitely want to give them the opportunity to express and act out their own sexual fantasies too) and gradually work your way up to whatever level of restraint you and your partner are most aroused by and comfortable with.

Experimenting With Restraints During Sex & Masturbation

Lovers of bondage as well as those who are new to it can play during sex with a partner or alone, during masturbation. While restraint scenarios are much easier to get into when there’s a partner involved, singles don’t have to give up their BDSM lives during their singledom just because someone else isn’t there to tie them up. Try wearing a ball gag or handcuffs during masturbation.

There are also lots of great places to meet fellow bondage and fetish enthusiasts, especially if you live in a larger city. If you’re single and are either looking for a romance with a dom or sub, or just want to engage in some casual play, there are tons of resources out there.

How To Get Started

If you’re new to bondage, whether you’re interested in experimenting with it on your own or have a partner that wants to get you into it, it can be a little intimidating getting started from scratch. Your first order of business is to invest in a few good tools of the trade. A basic silk rope or a restraint kit is perfect for beginner’s arm and leg restraint. A feather tickler and a paddle are also fun ways to get started with pain and pleasure play.

What’s New In Bondage & Fetish?

There is always something new and exciting in bondage & fetish, because the whole idea is to push the boundaries of what is acceptable and what isn’t. BDSM enthusiasts are always trying to push the envelope, so there’s always something different to find.

Recent adult films and many fetish-centric websites show some of the never before seen, don’t-try-this-at-home restraint scenarios, while many adult toy stores are starting to shelve some of the newest and sexiest bondage gear out there.

No matter what you’re looking for, whether it’s a beginner’s kit and a very vanilla video or a leather whip and a ball gag that you definitely wouldn’t want company to see, it’s out there. Bondage is sex, it’s art and it’s loved by many!