Before I dish out some great tips on how to fake an orgasm, let me clarify a few things.

First, let me start off by saying I hate having to fake an orgasm, and I’m sure many women feel the same way. You’re just fooling yourself, keeping your sexuality hidden and preventing your man from really knowing how to turn you on intensely enough for you to get off. However, I do not hate the women who fake. They have their reasons.

Second, I may hate faking orgasms now, but I certainly did my share of faking when I didn’t know any better. Why did I fake? I usually faked whenever I felt like the sex is getting nowhere and the man I’m with won’t quit pinching, poking and senselessly humping with a limp penis until I tell him I have reached orgasm. I wanted to give him a break, because I could tell that all he wants to do is sleep (after all, he has already climaxed). Yes, I cared that much.

If you’re ever in the same pinch, here are some ways to fake an orgasm so that he will never know I faked…

Bite Your Lower Lip

I don’t know where men got this notion, but some guys believe that a girl is about to climax if she bites her lower lip. Close your eyes tight as you can as you bite your lip to indicate that you’re “coming.”

Moan Loudly

Most guys have been gorging on porno movies ever since they learned about sex. They have been trained to believe that a woman screaming her lungs out during sex is reaching orgasm. Because of this, you can fake climax by moaning loudly, and shrieking after a series of loud moans. If you want an example of how to do this, check out Jenna Jameson’s old porno videos. Boy, that girl can scream!

Tell Him You’re Coming

According to porno films, all women are considerate enough to tell a man they’re going to climax before they actually climax. This makes a guy go faster, and hump harder, so he can join her.

Simply moaning out loud won’t do. You actually have to articulate the words “I’m coming” so that he will know.

Scratch His Back

The stereotypical sight of a woman scratching a man’s back when she reaches orgasm is considered one of the best ways to tell when a girl is coming.

You can simply dig your nails on his back while you’re “almost there” and scratch down ruthlessly when you’re supposedly “there”. He will forgive you for the scratch because, after all, you were in the throes of climax and you didn’t know what you were doing.

Clench Your Muscles

There are some guys who are experienced enough to know when a girl is faking and when she really is reaching orgasm. But there’s a move that most guys mistake for orgasm. It’s the clenching of the vaginal muscles. When you climax for real, the muscles inside your vagina move sporadically.

You can’t control the sporadic movements, but you can simulate the muscular movements by consciously tightening the vaginal muscles around the shaft of the penis. Hold it for a few minutes and he thinks you have successfully reached orgasm.

We exist in a results-hungry world where our achievements are measured in terms of how we reached our goals. If we didn’t reach them, someone gets mad, someone gets blamed (you) and someone gets disappointed.

Achieving female orgasm is the same. Sometimes you meet women who can climax easily, and you may or may not attribute it to how well you made her. She could claim that she did it herself.

No matter who gets the credit, the important thing is that it happened. You both made it happen, one way or another (though, in your mind, you know that YOU made it happen. Enough said).

In a world where achievements and egos go hand in hand, how does a guy who can’t make his girlfriend reach orgasm feel?

Here are Some of the Reasons Why Women Fake:

So That You Won’t Feel Bad

There are some men who don’t care if a girl climaxes or not, but there are more men who do. A girl’s orgasm is an affirmation of how well these men perform and it becomes a ‘pride’ thing. There’s also that nagging doubt in a man’s mind that if he can’t satisfy her, she will leave.

A woman, being intuitive enough to know these things, will sense that her orgasm is sometimes more important to the guy than to her. So, she fakes.

So That She Won’t Feel Bad

With all the stories she hears from her friends about how good sex is, especially when a girl orgasms twice, thrice, four times, five times….ten times! Oh yesss yesss!!

She might feel compelled to tattle about how great sex is for her too, how she came TWELVE times with her boyfriend. But she didn’t and she knows it. Yet she makes you believe she did, and she tells you that she did. But, she didn’t.

Because It’s How It’s Supposed To End

Blame it on porn or on yourself, but answering “no” when you ask her “was it good for you too?” would be just wrong. You shared a great cuddle after sex, and the man she loves wears a smile on his face as he drifts off to sleep. He whispers her name as he feels her move away to pee.

So, who cares if she feels like there’s something missing from the whole sex thing? She’s in love, and her man is so happy with her. That’s enough, right?

She Doesn’t Want To Look Ugly

Believe it or not, there are women who fake because of vanity. She probably saw her face in the mirror while she was really cumming and she was horrified that she looked like someone in a bad Exorcist audition while she was having the big O. And, was that pig-like grunting she heard herself utter while she was having her orgasm?

No, it just won’t do. She fakes because she wants her man to see her as a diva while she cums, with a seductive smile on her lips and moaning so artfully. Besides, she knows how to make herself cum anyway. She can do it when you’re asleep.

She Just Feels Like Faking

There are women who feel sex is really overrated, and if she doesn’t climax this time, she won’t waste her energy and nap time stressing over it. She didn’t cum for real, but if it’s important to you, she fakes. No big deal.

In the end, faking an orgasm goes against the idea of being honest in a relationship.  Yes, in the short term, a woman who fakes an orgasm avoids any pains of disappointment and awkward moments.

But in the end, it will be a lot tougher to experience a real orgasm, simply because the “problem” (not being able to reach orgasm through sex) is not being addressed.

Communication and education are the keys to unlocking the female orgasm.

Many women fake orgasms for a variety of reasons. Regardless of why she’s faking it, if she is it can really make sex a lot less fun and satisfying as it could be for both you and her. Women who fake orgasm often are pretty good at it, but there are some telltale signs that will let you know she’s had a real one. Here’s how to tell when your girl has an orgasm.

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Bodily Reactions To Orgasm

A woman’s body responds in many different ways to having an orgasm. During a real, honest to goodness orgasm, your girlfriend might grab you tightly, scratch you or completely lose control in other ways. She probably won’t be able to control her facial expressions and her legs and thighs may quiver and become weak. After an orgasm – or two or three orgasms – a woman will become very tired and exhausted and will seem content and satisfied after sex. She may even have trouble walking right after having an orgasm and it may take her several minutes or more to recover. Also, the vaginal muscles contract sporadically during an orgasm, which is very difficult to replicate if you’re not really having one. These are all good signs that she’s had a true orgasm.  

Preventing Her From Faking

Focusing too much on making your girlfriend climax can put a lot of stress on her to “finish” and she might not be able to have an orgasm at all. Women need to be very relaxed to actually reach the brink of orgasm. Don’t repeatedly ask her if she’s “done” or if she’s had an orgasm yet, because if she hasn’t, it will make her stress out and tense up making it near impossible to have one. If you do, she may fake it just to get you to quit asking her if she’s had an orgasm! Both you and your partner can enjoy sex and physical intimacy with each other without necessarily having an orgasm, so don’t put the pressure to climax on yourself either. The best way to prevent your partner from faking it is to relax and let her know that she doesn’t have to have an orgasm for you or her to have a good time in the bedroom. If she doesn’t feel pressure to climax, she won’t feel forced to fake it either.

Learn How To Please A Woman

Don’t assume that you have all the skills necessary to please a woman. Make the effort to research different ways to pleasure a woman, and try them out. Communicate with your partner about what she likes and what she doesn’t like. Encourage her to tell you what feels good and what doesn’t. Keep things fresh and interesting in the bedroom. Many guys simply assume that vaginal intercourse is enough to make a woman have an orgasm, but this is far from the truth. Women respond better to oral sex or even fingering. Research ways to give your partner a clitoral orgasm and a g-spot orgasm, and see which she really likes. Make it your job to give her great pleasure and it’s likely that she’ll have an orgasm all on her own.

Everyone knows that women fake orgasms and get away with it because there’s no evidence that she did not climax. Women lubricate a lot during sex, and more often than not men rely on verbal assurance and female body language to know whether a girl reached orgasm or not. Most men have no idea that a girl is faking.

But what about men? Can men fake orgasm as well?

You would be surprised to know that a lot of men fake orgasm without getting caught. Blame it on the condom. A lubricated condom can make it seem like a man blew a suitable amount of semi-clear liquid, but the truth is that it’s mostly pre-ejaculate. Women often don’t notice that a man is faking because he consciously tries to simulate the facial expression of a man on the brink of climax; much like the way we do it.

If you’re wondering why men bother, here are some of the main reasons why men fake.

He Can’t Go For A Second Round

If a man has already reached climax during the first round of sex, there’s a chance that he can’t have multiple orgasms. However, his pride won’t let him quit so he tries to get it up. But what if during the second round, his exhaustion keeps him from performing? Should he wave the white flag and admit that he can’t perform or should he fake?

Premature ejaculation is a cop out when a man just can’t perform. He can apologize to the woman, and flatter her by saying that she’s really sexy so he couldn’t contain himself. And, she will digest all that without ever realizing that the orgasm wasn’t real.

He’s Too Drunk To Continue

Some men don’t have to climax to become as limp as soggy noodles. When drunk, some guys can only maintain an erection for about five minutes. To save face, he fakes an orgasm when he feels that he’s losing his erection so that he doesn’t have to admit that he just cannot maintain an erection.

He’s Distracted

The sad truth is that men fake orgasm for the same reason that women do. Men deal with the stress of being the aggressor in the bedroom, and some guys cannot handle that kind of pressure. He might be struggling with a problem, or he could be feeling distant.

He Wants To Avoid Drama

The thing is, men fake because they don’t want to deal with a sullen partner. A woman’s pride plummets when she feels unattractive; and there’s no faster way to make her feel that she’s ugly than not getting turned on when she’s naked and willing in front of a man. Men would rather be thought of as premature ejaculators than deal with all that drama.

If you suspect your man’s faking, you can discuss his problems. Maybe you don’t know about his drinking habit and he’s trying to hide it. Maybe you don’t know that he’s frequently off-peak because of work-related stress.

Whatever you do, don’t force him to admit that he has faked his orgasm more than a few times. Men’s reasons for faking are more profound than ours, so it’s better to focus on much more constructive things than trying to make him admit the truth.