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How To Have A Blended Orgasm – Your Step By Step Guide

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While having one orgasm (or more) is good, having a blended orgasm is absolutely fantastic. Women have the unique capability of having both a clitoral orgasm and a g-spot orgasm at the same time, and when they do, it will just about blow the roof right off. If you’ve never had a blended orgasm before, there are a few simple steps you can follow to learn how to not only give yourself a blended orgasm during masturbation, but also to help your man give you a blended orgasm through sex and oral sex. Here is your step by step guide to mastering the blended orgasm!

Masturbate First Before Trying With Your Guy

If you’ve never had a blended orgasm before, you’re likely not going to have one if you try it for the first time when you’re with your guy. Instead, grab your favorite sex toy and head to the bedroom for a little bit of solo fun. To have a blended orgasm, you need to be relaxed and completely in the moment – which is not likely if you’re feeling pressure from your guy to have a huge orgasm.

Start By Stimulating Your Clitoris

Start masturbating by gently touching your clitoris, either with your fingers or your favorite sex toy. Use a dab of lube here if you like, although some women enjoy touching their clitoris without lube. Do this for a short while until you notice that you are fully aroused and stimulated.

Switch To Stimulating Your G-Spot

Switch from stimulating your clitoris to stimulating your g-spot. You can use your fingers for this if you’ve reached your g-spot before that way, but you’re probably going to have more luck with a sex toy that is designed for g-spot stimulation. If you’ve never found your g-spot before, this is a good time to try doing so. Once you find your g-spot, stimulate it gently with your favorite strokes until you’re very, very aroused.

Stimulate Both, Switching Back And Forth

Once you’ve reached a state of complete and total arousal, start switching back and forth between stimulating your clitoris and stimulating your g-spot. You’re probably going to be using two hands while you’re masturbating, and if you’ve never done so before, it’s important that you’re alone and comfortable and not self conscious at all. If your guy is with you or watching you the first time you do this, it’s very likely you’re not going to be able to get relaxed enough to achieve orgasm at all, let alone a blended orgasm.

Stimulate Both Your G-Spot And Your Clitoris At Once

When you feel like you’ve almost reached the point of no return by switching back and forth between stimulating your g-spot and stimulating your clitoris, start stimulating them both at once. Again, this is going to be a two handed adventure. At this point, you can go as hard or as soft as you like to reach orgasm, depending on what feels good at the time. Starting off with firm pressure is not the way to go when you first get going, because you need plenty of time to warm up and become aroused. However, once you’re really into it, firm pressure (especially against your g-spot) might be just what you need to push yourself over the edge. In fact, many women report experiencing female ejaculation when they masturbate this way and have a blended orgasm.

The Right Sex Positions For A Blended Orgasm

While having a blended orgasm is possible in many different sex positions, there are a few that will make having this type of orgasm easier. Doggy style is a great sex position for a blended orgasm, because it allows his penis to stimulate your g-spot from behind while you are able to reach down and touch your clitoris yourself. Woman on top is also another good position for a blended orgasm because women can control the depth of penetration and grind up against his groin for clitoral stimulation.

Having A Blended Orgasm During Oral Sex

Many women report that the best types of blended orgasms are through oral sex. Try this after you have acheived a blended orgasm on your own through masturbation. Have your man go down on you and slowly lick your clitoris first, before slipping his fingers in your vagina and stimulating your g-spot with the “come hither” motion. You can have him repeat the steps above and switch back and forth from stimulating your clitoris with his tongue to stimulating your g-spot with his fingers. Of course, you’ll be in absolute heaven when he starts doing both at once!

3 Ways To Dole Out Screaming Orgasms

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Some women fake an orgasm for various reasons, the most common of which is her concern for your ego. But the female orgasm, especially the screaming variant, is not a myth, and your girl knows this well enough. So, how are you going to get her there? Read on for some tips.

Get To Know Her Hot Spots

Some women are big fans of lengthy foreplay only because their hot buttons get stimulated if the foreplay is long. This means not all of her erogenous zones are near or around her pubic region. Get your hands all over her and take note of her reaction every time your hand fondles a particular spot. Take note of that spot because you may need to touch or kiss it again during penetration, and you’re about to climax while she’s barely there.

You have to make sure you push the right buttons, and the way to do that is by leisurely exploring her body. It’s not always true that women who have their orgasm during foreplay are too tired for penetration. Women are multi-orgasmic, unlike men. In fact, the truth is that women are more eager to go for the next round if the first one was fantastic.

Get Her In The Mood

Speaking of hot buttons, the second way to giving a woman a screaming orgasm is to get her in the mood for hot sex. Some women are so hot before the actual penetration that they can climax with minimal prodding. And guess what, if you get her in a state of bliss before the actual sex, through making out or verbal seduction, her orgasms during sex will be much stronger.

Cold sex means just that. She lies there while you do your thing and take your pleasure. She isn’t in the mood and she thinks she’s doing you a favour by simply letting you have your way. That won’t do at all. Set the mood or the fire won’t catch. Fondle her on her hot spots and whisper sexy things (or the things you want to do to her) in her ear. By doing this, you get her psychologically and emotionally prepared to orgasm.

Get The Skills

One factor to giving your girl a screaming orgasm is your skill. Her mood will hold up if she knows she can expect the best skills in love making from you. This particularly applies if you’ve been dating for a while and the woman can tell when you’re getting in your groove, making both of you hot enough to climax together. Some guys are great at kissing but cannot hold their own when it comes to sex. Don’t be one of those guys. Get the skills you need to make a woman scream in bed as she nears orgasm, and during her second or third one.

Make Your Sex Life More Passionate And Wild

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Sexual satisfaction through orgasm is what every woman expects when she goes to bed with a man. However, over half of the women who have sex with men end up disappointed. It doesn’t matter whether the relationship is based on love or not, women are often trapped inside relationships wherein they need to deal with unsatisfying sex, for the long term.

It’s not enough to tell a woman you love her. Everything in your relationship must reflect how you adore her. Sex is one of the best ways to convey your feelings, which simply means that the same old boring methods are not acceptable.

If you want to please a woman and make her orgasmic dreams come true, learn the skills that will turn you into the man she would want to make love with every single day. To do this, you must find ways to solve the two most common problems involved in pleasing women: how to make a girl wild with desire (so that she craves sex with you all the time), and how to give her the most satisfying orgasms every time you have sex.

Be A Little Rough

If you’ve always been the polite partner (you never demand anything during sex, and you assume she likes everything you’re doing), change your bedroom behaviour for one night and find out if she likes it. I’m not saying you should buy all the leather S&M uniforms you can find. Begin gently so that you can introduce her to your other methods of making love; and also, so that you don’t shock her too much.

You can have a little BDSM without going overboard, at least during the first few times you try to pull off your “bad boy” routine. You can start with tapping her butt when you’re in doggy mode. Time your taps according to your thrusts, and be a little rougher (i.e. moderate spanking) if she responds in a positive manner.

Dirty Talk

You should also try talking dirty. If you’re not sure if your girlfriend will appreciate you dropping F bombs or saying the B word while you’re in bed, try the romantic way of dirty talk first. Begin by expressing how you feel. Tell her that you feel her warmth and you like how wet she is.

Be a little more graphic when describing how you’re penetrating her. Better yet, make her watch your movements using a mirror or by engaging in a position that allows her to see the actual penetration, as you whisper erotic things in her ear.

You can make a woman climax just by igniting her imagination. Dirty talk, or erotic talk, can give a woman some material to masturbate on when you’re not around. Words spoken and images created during the act are extremely erotic for women. You can bet that she will be fantasizing about your last sexual adventure in the future if you turn her on enough. By doing this, she will crave sex with you more.

Why Every Girl Needs Her Own Sex Toy

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Believe it or not, many girls don’t own a sex toy. Some girls own sex toys that they use only with their partners, but many others don’t have a sex toy for their own personal use at all! Some women have never even tried masturbation alone! Sex toys can greatly improve the quality, frequency and intensity of a woman’s orgasms both with the sex toy and without it when having sex with a partner. There are also many other benefits to using a sex toy, so here’s why every girl needs her very own!

Sex Toys And Masturbation Make Orgasms Better

If you’ve never had an orgasm before, or your orgasms are few and far between when having sex with your partner, it’s time to invest in a great sex toy. This is especially true if you’ve never masturbated before! If you’re using a sex toy during masturbation, you will find that your orgasms come more frequently, as well as being more powerful and intense. Masturbation, even without a sex toy, helps to train your body to experience pleasure and reach orgasm without the stress and pressure of trying to reach climax with your partner. Many women who have never had an orgasm before aren’t ever going to reach their first orgasm in front of their partners because the stress and pressure to perform is just too much. Female masturbation can help a woman find her body’s own pleasure buttons without feeling like she’s being watched or being expected to reach climax. When a woman gives herself time to explore her body on her own with a sex toy, she is more likely to reach orgasm – and it’s probable that her orgasm will be absolutely incredible!

Why Your Partner Will Love Your New Sex Toy

When a woman masturbates, she learns more about how her body works and how she likes to recieve pleasure. This is excellent information that she can pass on to her partner! Women who have never masturbated or used a sex toy before have absolutely no idea what they like best sexually or what will bring them to climax. They don’t know how they like to be touched or even what feels good! How can a man know what a woman wants or likes if she doesn’t even know herself? Women who don’t masturbate essentially send their partners into sex blind, and they can only guess how she wants to be pleased. When she doesn’t reach orgasm (how could she?) he ends up feeling like he has failed her in some way, even though he tried his very best. Even guys who know just about everything there is to know about a female orgasm may not be able to make his girl reach climax if she’s never masturbated before. When a woman masturbates, however – especially if she uses a sex toy – she’ll learn about what she likes and how she likes it. She’ll show her partner her new discoveries and he’ll be inspired to use the same techniques to give her an orgasm during sex! So while many women believe that masturbating alone and using a sex toy is detrimental to their sexual relationship with their partners, quite the opposite is true. Using a sex toy and masturbating on your own will actually help make your sex life with your partner even hotter!

Which Sex Toy To Choose?

Of course, your first time sex toy shopping is going to seem a little overwhelming. There are so many different toys to choose from that offer so many different types of sensations. It’s easy to get lost or confused when selecting your first sex toy. There are, however, a few simple guidelines you can use to help narrow down the selection. You definitely don’t want to choose a giant double ended dildo, anal beads or anything of that nature. If you want to go for vaginal penetration, choose a sleek, slim dildo or vibrator instead. If you want to go for clitoral stimulation only, select a vibrator that is made specifically to be used on the clitoris only. While many people claim that getting used to using a vibrator to reach orgasm will train your body to only be able to reach climax with vibration, sporadic use can actually help you learn how your body goes through the stages of pleasure and orgasm. If you’re not sure whether you want to go with a vibrator or not, try getting a small, inexpensive toy that vibrates and one that doesn’t. That way, you can find out for yourself which one you like the best.

How To Give An Orgasm To A Girl Who Doesn’t Like Clitoral Stimulation

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All the women you asked (or went out with) told you that the clitoris is the magic button that you need to knead and fondle if you want any girl to have an orgasm. But what if the woman you’re dating now doesn’t like clitoral stimulation? You must think something’s wrong with her brain but it’s a fact that a lot of ladies out there are too “clitorally sensitive“ to like the sensation of clitoral stimulation. For these women, they feel more pain than pleasure when the clitoris is rubbed, touched or licked.

So, what can you do? Here are some suggestions…

Stimulate Her Nipples During Penetration

The purpose of clitoral stimulation during penetration is to give a woman another variation of sexual pleasure on top of the sensation of being entered. But the clitoris is not the only place that’s susceptible to touching during sex.

There’s another part of her body that’s within reach during sex, her nipples. You can touch or lick her nipples while she’s on top, or you can touch them when you’re in doggy mode or missionary. Remember that a woman likes it when you lick her nipples during foreplay and she might even have a short orgasm called a “nip-gasm” (a burst of sensation during nipple stimulation) if you do it right. That sensation, when added to the sensation she feels while you’re penetrating her will send her reeling.

Watch Her Masturbate

Female masturbation is very different for a woman that doesn’t like clitoral stimulation as compared to masturbation for a woman who depends on clitoral stimulation to climax. Face the mirror while you’re penetrating her from behind and watch how she touches herself down there. Moreover, learn from what you observe. Some women dislike touching the clitoris directly because of sensitivity issues, but they may touch other parts.

Some women would gently pinch the cheeks of the outer lips (labia majora) inward to rub against each other in a rhythmic manner. This is a logical way to stimulate the clitoris without touching it directly. Some women may press their whole palm on the mound or just below the abdomen when penetration starts to induce indirect clitoral pressure. Or she may use a dildo or vibrator to access her g-spot instead of her clitoris. Observe her and get a clue. Then, on your next round, you can do it for her.

Remember that not all women are into clitoral stimulation. Although, the majority of women like it, there may be some women who don’t. The thing is, it’s not something you can just ask outright over dinner. You have to tread lightly during foreplay and observe her reaction when your fingers find their way to her clitoris. The good old formula of “touch her clitoris” may work most of the time, but you need a plan B just in case the girl is not into that.