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Does Your Woman Have Trouble Reaching Orgasm? Try These 2 Powerful Tips…

I think you will agree with me that there is nothing more frustrating and tiring when you know you have done everything right in helping your partner achieve an orgasm, yet she still never reaches it.

It is frustrating because you have no idea what you have done wrong in terms of technique, and it is tiring because your hands, jaw or any other part of your body is aching from the never ending rubbing, licking or sucking.

In the end, nobody is having fun, and the whole ordeal turns into a nightmare.

Here are two tips to help your woman achieve any type of orgasm without difficulty;

She Must Be In The Mood

This is one of the biggest obstacles that will stand between you and your woman when it comes to helping her easily achieve an orgasm. If she is not in the mood, and is only having sex to end your begging and moaning, helping her achieve any type of orgasm can become very difficult.

Your woman needs to be in the mood for sex. It should never be a chore for her. Think about it; if she gives in and says yes so that you can stop your whining, she will want to get it over with as soon as possible.

Because of this, your woman will be trying very hard to orgasm, hoping that she can satisfy you and get it over with as soon as possible. Unfortunately, the opposite effect occurs. Because your woman is trying so hard to orgasm, she develops a mental block, thus finds it difficult to orgasm. In the end, nobody wins.

How Do I Get Her In The Mood?

Well, you could try the “ seduce her during the day” routine. This can be achieved by spoiling and flirting with your woman. Take your woman out for a romantic dinner. Give her a romantic gift. Charm your woman by telling her how beautiful she is. All of this might or might not work , because at the end of the day, it is up to her whether she truly feels in the mood, or not.

The best way to get your woman in the mood is by letting it happen naturally. Unlike men who generally get horny at the snap of a finger, women get horny for sex at certain times of the month. These “In the mood” days usually occur between ovulation and menstruation. This is somewhere between the 14th and 28th day of their cycle.

Knowing When That Occurs

The trick is to find out when these days occur. The only way to know this is by waiting and watching. If you pay attention, you will soon notice when she is feeling hornier than usual. When these days occur, make a mental note of it.

Not every woman is the same. While some women admit that they feel horny just before their period starts, other’s report to feel at their horniest right after their period ends.

During the days when your woman is in the mood, it will be a lot easier for you to seduce and make love with her. She will become more sensitive and responsive to every type of touch, thus stimulating her hot- spots to reach orgasm becomes a lot easier as well.

Do Not Go Faster Or Change Direction Just Before She Orgasms

The reason many women fall short of having an orgasm is because their partners believe they should go faster or change the direction of movement when their woman is just about to orgasm. This is a big mistake.

If your woman signals you that she is about to orgasm by moaning or breathing faster, just keep doing what you were doing at that point to get her to this stage of arousal. Do not change a thing. Don’t go faster. Don’t change direction of movement, and for crying out loud, don’t friggin stop. Continue doing what ever you are doing until she has totally completed her orgasm.

By keeping these two powerful points in mind, helping your woman achieve an a-spot, g-spot or clitoral orgasm will be very easy task. Instead of your lovemaking sessions being frustrating and tiring, they will be a lot more enjoyable and satisfying for you and your partner.

Going Solo… Self Empowerment Through Masturbation

By mayasilverman

The dirty word of the sexual world, masturbation conjures up images of old men, nuns, and cucumbers. But much like reality TV, we all indulge in it, but no one likes to admit how much they enjoy it,

People often assume that Tantra, Tantric Sex, Erotic and Sensual Massage all require a partner.

A partner is good, however anyone can reap the benefits, and by going solo you are in a unique position to really explore yourself, discover what turns you on , and to nurture yourself in any way that your mind, body and soul desire.

So dim the lights, put on the music, get the oils out, and give yourself a hand. It’s time to celebrate a bit of quality ME time:

Masturbation and Empowerment

For the ladies out there – the majority of women self-love lying down on their backs, however why not add some variety and intrigue ? Stand up, do it before a luxurious candle lit bath, out doors (if you have privacy), any place that feels harmonious, relaxed and safe.

Create a sensual and inviting mood. You are loving yourself so don’t hold back on preparation. You are taking the time to honor yourself and this takes as much time, preparation and focus as if with a lover.

Let Go of Old Limiting Beliefs

Some women aren’t comfortable touching and pleasing themselves and the thought of self loving creates resistance. Why not let go your old beliefs, pain, and frustration. Use this time to honor your self, your femininity, your body. Give yourself all the love, attention and pleasure that you really want.

Put on some comfortable yet inviting clothing, breathe deeply and slowly to relax your mind and body. A more relaxed mind and body equals stronger more pleasurable and intense orgasms. So always take the time to unwind, de-stress and shut out the world.

Tease, Explore and Arouse

Tease, explore and gently arouse and awaken your female goddess by touching and stroking your body avoiding the intimate areas for at least 20–30 minutes. Stroke your legs, inner thighs, hands, feet, lightly brush over your breasts. Feel your sexual energy pulsating throughout your whole body, increasing in intensity the more attention and focus you lavish on your self.

When you feel your whole body tingling, apply soft sensual touchs to the breasts, gently stoke your yoni, lips, clitoris (but don’t apply to much pressure directly on the head at this point). Explore how each area feels to your touch, explore the texture and sensations of each area, gently insert one finger into the yoni, about 2 inches within, and move in and out.

Finding Your G-Spot

The majority of nerve endings in the vagina or yoni are located near the opening. Your slow, shallow thrusts will create pulses of sexual energy and pleasure.

Now insert the finger(s) a bit deeper. Explore inside. Feel the heat and pressure on your fingers, feel your yoni tighten around your fingers as you become more aroused. You will find the G-Spot on the inner wall of the vagina.

Massage this soft raised area by placing the palm up and curling the fingers slightly applying what ever movement works best for you. Use your other hand to caress your breasts, stoke your stomach, thighs, and abdomen.

Don’t Forget the Men…

For the men out there – start by setting and creating a Sensual Environment. Lie or sit on a comfortable surface, the bed, bath, standing up, or anywhere else you fancy. Most men don’t take the time to nurture themselves and their bodies, so use this time to explore yourself, really feel the sensations and emotions that come up.

Feelings and sensations are all part of you, and your sexual soul, so express them freely and let go of any frustrations, hurts, irritations. Allow yourself to receive pure unadulterated pleasure.

Masturbation is not only a great way to love and pleasure yourself, but it also facilities relaxation, deeper and more intense orgasms, and more sexual energy and attraction.

How To Tell If She Is Faking Her Orgasms! And What To Do If She Is…

By wwilcox

It’s every sexually active man’s fear, that his partner or partners have or are faking their orgasms. So is there a way to tell if a girl’s only acting like she’s in pleasure heaven? And what can a guy do to turn her amateur dramatics into fully blown, sexual satisfaction?

The female orgasm has always been shrouded in mystery for men (and many women!). Unlike a guy’s guaranteed sexual pay-off, a female orgasm is never a certainty; for it to occur at all requires a whole host of special requirements to be met.

Things like the male’s sexual technique, the woman’s knowledge of how her body works and responds to different things, and the female’s mood at the time of sex all play a part in either preventing or allowing an orgasm to take place.

So let’s tackle the first issue: what signs should you look for to tell if a girl’s putting it on in the sack and not really reaching her ultimate climax?

1st Signal That She May Be Faking Her Orgasms

BLOOD FLOW SIGNALS. When a woman is sexually aroused, the blood flow to specific parts of her body change. These changes are most notable (and useful to us guys!) when a woman climaxes by reaching an orgasm. Here are the Blood Flow Signals you should watch out for:

A. Watch her cheeks as you have sex and take note of how red or blushed they are. When a girl climaxes, the blood flow to her face typically increases, you’ll often notice her cheeks suddenly become more pink and flushed.

B. Another part of the body that receives an increased flow of blood when a woman reaches orgasm is the nipples – again, try to watch out for how they change as you have sex and especially when she appears to be having an orgasm. If she IS truly cumming, her nipples may very well become harder and more “erect”.

C. Her chest is another GREAT place to notice the after-effects of an orgasm. A massive percentage of women, right after they climax, have a red flush on their chests that almost looks like a light rash. If your girl has this, it’s a strong sign she’s just achieved the magic “O.”

D. Lastly, her vagina’s lips (labia). Look for a slight swelling and reddening as another indication that she’s not play-acting her ultimate pleasure.

2nd Signal That She May Be Faking Her Orgasms

The above blood flow signals are usually noticed just after a woman’s climaxed. This sign is noticeable only when she’s actually experiencing an orgasm. Try to feel or sense tiny contractions in her vagina. These twitches often happen as a natural result of what a woman is psychically going through and feeling and serve as a really good, accurate indicator of whether or not she’s actually cumming.

3rd Signal That She May Be Faking Her Orgasms

When they reach orgasm, most women sort of zone out for a moment and then, over the 15-20 seconds that follow their climax, slowly come “back around.” Look for this zoning out effect by watching her eyes after she supposedly cums. Do they look sort of glazed or glassy, even for just a few seconds?

The good thing about this sign is that women rarely ever try to or even know how to fake it, so when you DO notice it, it actually tends to mean something significant (and positive!).

4th Signal That She May Be Faking Her Orgasms

Lastly, consider the way she acts and behaves. When she ‘climaxes’, is it usually from the same kind of stimulation. For example, does she tend to cum most of the time from oral sex or penetrative sex? Is it usually towards the end of your lovemaking or does it seem to happen randomly.

If her orgasms ARE wild and inconsistent and brought about seemingly by completely different kinds of stimulus, there may be something…amiss. Also, does she talk about having an orgasm a lot? Say, after you finish sex, does she often confirm, even without you asking, that she had a great time and came lots? A lot of women do this when they think the man hasn’t believed their orgasmic reactions, so consider what she says and the way she says it carefully.

Overall, your goal is never to be a private investigator in bed. You simply want to know if she’s being satisfied or not, right? To help you ascertain whether or not you’re regularly bringing her to orgasm, look for the 4 signs and signals you’ve just read.

If you DO think she’s faking it, I recommend first talking to her about it. But then, as the real answer to the problem, you should pick up your game and learn exactly how to physically satisfy her, or for that matter, any woman. There are dozens of techniques and strategies for doing this, all ready to be learned and applied to your sex life…so don’t wait any longer to revolutionize your performance and ability in bed.

How To Give Your Woman The Kind of Orgasm SHE Wants

By paultony

Ok, after spending a good amount of time on foreplay, your woman is finally highly aroused. You decide that now is the time to get physical with her.

So, all you need to do is get into your favorite sex position and pound away. Before you know it, your woman will be achieving some “Earth-Shaking” orgasms, right?

Well, if you are happy to live in “Never Never” land, then go for it.

There is a lot more to intercourse than a few fancy sex positions and thrusting like a sledge hammer. Unfortunately, most men do not realize this, thus leaving themselves wondering why many women find it difficult to achieve any type of orgasm through intercourse.

Though it is never a good idea to approach sex as if it were a science project, it is important to understand that a little bit of logic can go a long way.

The Big “O” Decision

First you have to decide what orgasm you would like to help your woman achieve. Do you want to give her a g-spot, a-spot or clitoral orgasm?

In order to make the correct decision, you have to take the time to learn your partner’s sexual likes and dislikes. Would she actually enjoy receiving a g-spot orgasm? Some women find the feeling of g-spot stimulation to be a little uncomfortable, painful, or just outright annoying. On the other hand, some women see the g-spot as the ultimate form of ecstasy.

The a-spot also shares a love/hate relationship with many women. The reason for this is that the a-spot is situated between the cervix and the bladder. If stimulated correctly, some women can achieve very powerful orgasms. However, most women don’t enjoy having a penis pounding on their cervix wall, as it can be very painful.

So, before you take the plunge, make sure that you have learnt your woman well enough to know what her likes and dislikes are, otherwise you might find yourself pounding away for no good reason, and who knows, she might just fake the orgasms just to get it over with.

Sex positions play a very important role during intercourse, but only if used correctly. Yes, sex positions are fun and erotic, but they are also the foundation of allowing your partner to achieve certain types of orgasms. For example, not all sex positions are ideal for clitoral orgasms, just as not all sex positions are ideal for g-spot orgasms. The same applies for a-spot orgasms.

If you want to give your woman an a-spot orgasm, you need to consider the following

The a-spot lies deep within the vaginal canal between the cervix and the bladder.

Deep penetration is needed in order to reach and stimulate the a-spot.

The a-spot is best stimulated with pressure, not friction.

It would therefore make sense to find a sex position that allows for deep penetration without having to thrust too hard in order to reach the a-spot. The sex position must allow you to comfortably stimulate this area through gentle yet firm pressure.

If you want to give your woman a g-spot orgasm, you need to consider the following

The g-spot only lies a few inches on the upper wall of the vaginal canal.

Shallow penetration is needed in order to reach and stimulate the g-spot.

Like the a-spot, the g-spot is best stimulated with firm gentle pressure.

In order to stimulate the g-spot, you would need to use a sex position that allows you to easily angle your penis to thrust up against the g-spot while at the same time applying pressure to it as well.

If you want to give your woman a clitoral orgasm, you need to consider the following

The clitoris is actually quite a large organ than looks almost like a “wish bone”. The end of the clitoris is the only part that sticks out at the top of the vaginal entrance. However, most of this organ actually lies on each side of the vaginal canal near the entrance of the vagina.

At the moment it is agreed that most of the stimulation to the clitoris happens at the part sticking outside the vagina. Some experts argue that other parts of the clitoris can be stimulated as well.

Depth of penetration is not important. All that matters is that any part of the penis must rub against the clitoris.

Unlike the g-spot and a-spot, the clitoris is best stimulated by friction through rubbing, not pressure.

Therefore, the best way to help your woman achieve a clitoral orgasm would be by using any sex position that allows you to comfortably stimulate your woman’s clitoris by rubbing any part of your penis against it.

Let us summarize

In order to effectively give your woman powerful orgasms, you need to first know what type of orgasms she wants to receive.

Once you have figured that out, your next step is to find the best sex position that allows you to correctly angle your penis, as well as allow the correct depth of penetration of your penis in order to reach and stimulate that particular type of orgasm.

Finally! The Truth About Female Ejaculation…

By carlatara

Can a woman ejaculate? The answer is a definite, yes. With proper stimulation of the Gspot, women can ejaculate a fluid from ducts located around the urethra. It is located in the front wall of the vagina under the pubic bone.

This is a spongy area two inches or more inside the yoni (vagina) depending on the size of the yoni and the location of the clitoris. It is actually South Pole of the clitoris.

The First Documentation of Female Ejaculation

Female ejaculation was documented in ancient China and India where the Goddess-spot massage was a common Tantric-sex technique. Tantric texts call the liquid produced amrita, or “sweet nectar.” It is a protein-based fluid, found to be chemically different from urine. It is believed to have great healing properties.

This knowledge is slowly coming to the awareness of non-Tantric people like Dr. Mitchell Levine, a gynecologist/obstetrician at the Women Care clinic, in Arlington, who declares that women do ejaculate. He believes that the hush-hush aura around the subject does not help women or men. He believes that is should become common knowledge.

Medicine Ignores Women’s Sexuality

Sexuality, and especially women’s sexuality, does not receive much attention in medical school. In fact, one female gynecologist approached for this story declined comment, admitting not to know enough about the subject.

Our in so many other ways advanced western culture is badly informed about human sensuality. Medical encyclopedias still do not mention female ejaculation. There is some information, however, on The Complete Guide to Women’s Health.

Don’t Make Something Out of Nothing

The quantity of amrita is not indicative of how much the woman enjoys her release. Therefore, please men don’t make it an issue. Some woman I’ve been working with say they experience intense pleasurable feeling of release and often ejaculate three to nine times or more during one session of sex, each ejaculatory orgasm giving them more pleasure than the previous one.

However, the experience of female ejaculation varies from woman to woman. Some dribble a small amount of fluid; others soak the sheets.

Some women get concerned that they’re urinating, and they need to be reassured that this is not the case. It is amrita they secrete, not urine. In fact amrita does not smell or taste like urine.

The G-Spot Itself

The G-spot itself has been a subject of controversy since its “discovery” in 1944 by gynecologist Ernst Grafenberg. The “G” in the gspot stands for Granfenberg. In the ’60s, sexologists Masters and Johnson announced that female orgasms occurred primarily through stimulation of the clitoris, not the vagina, where the Gspot is found.

The G Spot (Holt, Rinehart, and Winston), a 1982 book by Beverly Whipple, Alice Ladas, and John Perry, refuted this claim and provides ample evidence that the g spot exists. My colleague, Dr. Gary Schubach, wrote a very enlightening thesis on the g spot. You can find it at http://www.doctorg.com.

Some feminists fear that widespread knowledge about female ejaculation will burden women with one more “trick” they must master in bed to feel fully orgasmic. While this is a true concern, I think that withholding knowledge is not the right approach. Educating women about their birthright to full enjoyment of their bodies is a positive approach.

Tantric approaches do not put any pressure on performance neither for males nor for females. In Tantra what is most important is the deep heart to heart connection and caring between the lovers while they experience the pleasure in lovemaking. The goal is connection and deepening intimacy, not performance.