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How To Have A Blended Orgasm – Your Step By Step Guide

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While having one orgasm (or more) is good, having a blended orgasm is absolutely fantastic. Women have the unique capability of having both a clitoral orgasm and a g-spot orgasm at the same time, and when they do, it will just about blow the roof right off. If you’ve never had a blended orgasm before, there are a few simple steps you can follow to learn how to not only give yourself a blended orgasm during masturbation, but also to help your man give you a blended orgasm through sex and oral sex. Here is your step by step guide to mastering the blended orgasm!

Masturbate First Before Trying With Your Guy

If you’ve never had a blended orgasm before, you’re likely not going to have one if you try it for the first time when you’re with your guy. Instead, grab your favorite sex toy and head to the bedroom for a little bit of solo fun. To have a blended orgasm, you need to be relaxed and completely in the moment – which is not likely if you’re feeling pressure from your guy to have a huge orgasm.

Start By Stimulating Your Clitoris

Start masturbating by gently touching your clitoris, either with your fingers or your favorite sex toy. Use a dab of lube here if you like, although some women enjoy touching their clitoris without lube. Do this for a short while until you notice that you are fully aroused and stimulated.

Switch To Stimulating Your G-Spot

Switch from stimulating your clitoris to stimulating your g-spot. You can use your fingers for this if you’ve reached your g-spot before that way, but you’re probably going to have more luck with a sex toy that is designed for g-spot stimulation. If you’ve never found your g-spot before, this is a good time to try doing so. Once you find your g-spot, stimulate it gently with your favorite strokes until you’re very, very aroused.

Stimulate Both, Switching Back And Forth

Once you’ve reached a state of complete and total arousal, start switching back and forth between stimulating your clitoris and stimulating your g-spot. You’re probably going to be using two hands while you’re masturbating, and if you’ve never done so before, it’s important that you’re alone and comfortable and not self conscious at all. If your guy is with you or watching you the first time you do this, it’s very likely you’re not going to be able to get relaxed enough to achieve orgasm at all, let alone a blended orgasm.

Stimulate Both Your G-Spot And Your Clitoris At Once

When you feel like you’ve almost reached the point of no return by switching back and forth between stimulating your g-spot and stimulating your clitoris, start stimulating them both at once. Again, this is going to be a two handed adventure. At this point, you can go as hard or as soft as you like to reach orgasm, depending on what feels good at the time. Starting off with firm pressure is not the way to go when you first get going, because you need plenty of time to warm up and become aroused. However, once you’re really into it, firm pressure (especially against your g-spot) might be just what you need to push yourself over the edge. In fact, many women report experiencing female ejaculation when they masturbate this way and have a blended orgasm.

The Right Sex Positions For A Blended Orgasm

While having a blended orgasm is possible in many different sex positions, there are a few that will make having this type of orgasm easier. Doggy style is a great sex position for a blended orgasm, because it allows his penis to stimulate your g-spot from behind while you are able to reach down and touch your clitoris yourself. Woman on top is also another good position for a blended orgasm because women can control the depth of penetration and grind up against his groin for clitoral stimulation.

Having A Blended Orgasm During Oral Sex

Many women report that the best types of blended orgasms are through oral sex. Try this after you have acheived a blended orgasm on your own through masturbation. Have your man go down on you and slowly lick your clitoris first, before slipping his fingers in your vagina and stimulating your g-spot with the “come hither” motion. You can have him repeat the steps above and switch back and forth from stimulating your clitoris with his tongue to stimulating your g-spot with his fingers. Of course, you’ll be in absolute heaven when he starts doing both at once!

3 Ways To Dole Out Screaming Orgasms

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Some women fake an orgasm for various reasons, the most common of which is her concern for your ego. But the female orgasm, especially the screaming variant, is not a myth, and your girl knows this well enough. So, how are you going to get her there? Read on for some tips.

Get To Know Her Hot Spots

Some women are big fans of lengthy foreplay only because their hot buttons get stimulated if the foreplay is long. This means not all of her erogenous zones are near or around her pubic region. Get your hands all over her and take note of her reaction every time your hand fondles a particular spot. Take note of that spot because you may need to touch or kiss it again during penetration, and you’re about to climax while she’s barely there.

You have to make sure you push the right buttons, and the way to do that is by leisurely exploring her body. It’s not always true that women who have their orgasm during foreplay are too tired for penetration. Women are multi-orgasmic, unlike men. In fact, the truth is that women are more eager to go for the next round if the first one was fantastic.

Get Her In The Mood

Speaking of hot buttons, the second way to giving a woman a screaming orgasm is to get her in the mood for hot sex. Some women are so hot before the actual penetration that they can climax with minimal prodding. And guess what, if you get her in a state of bliss before the actual sex, through making out or verbal seduction, her orgasms during sex will be much stronger.

Cold sex means just that. She lies there while you do your thing and take your pleasure. She isn’t in the mood and she thinks she’s doing you a favour by simply letting you have your way. That won’t do at all. Set the mood or the fire won’t catch. Fondle her on her hot spots and whisper sexy things (or the things you want to do to her) in her ear. By doing this, you get her psychologically and emotionally prepared to orgasm.

Get The Skills

One factor to giving your girl a screaming orgasm is your skill. Her mood will hold up if she knows she can expect the best skills in love making from you. This particularly applies if you’ve been dating for a while and the woman can tell when you’re getting in your groove, making both of you hot enough to climax together. Some guys are great at kissing but cannot hold their own when it comes to sex. Don’t be one of those guys. Get the skills you need to make a woman scream in bed as she nears orgasm, and during her second or third one.

5 Steps To Induce A G Spot Orgasm Using The Come Hither Motion

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When you crook your forefinger upward and move it forward and backward like you’re calling someone to come nearer, that’s called the “come hither movement.” Such a movement is not considered polite among strangers, or even acquaintances, but it’s perfectly acceptable to call over someone who happens to be your lover using this gesture.

There is another use for the come hither gesture, and this has something to do with finding the g spot and giving a woman mind boggling orgasms.

What is the come hither g spot orgasm? When fingering a girl, you use the come hither movement to detect the part of her vaginal portal that feels slightly different from the rest of the tissues around your fingers. That part is her g-spot and it can become quite ridged when she’s aroused.

Men who have trouble finding the g spot might have forgotten the most important factor to finding the g spot. A girl must be completely into it, and super excited, for the g-spot to be engorged with blood. Some experts say that the g-spot is the tail of the clitoris, which means that you can find it quickly if you stimulate the front end of the clitoris first.

5 Steps To Induce A G Spot Orgasm Using The Come Hither Motion

  1. First, practice the come hither motion on your own. Position your hand in front of you with your palm facing upward. Then, crook your forefinger in the shape of a hook. Do the same with your middle finger. Use both fingers to create the come hither gesture. If you wish, you can let your ring finger join in (if you intend to finger your girl using three fingers).
  2. When you’re in bed with your girl, you can start stimulating her by eating her out. This is the fastest way to induce lubrication. Make sure you stimulate the outer part of her vaginal portal, and especially her clitoris, so that she will be fully aroused and ready for fingering.
  3. When she’s wet enough, insert your forefinger and let it slide in and out for a few minutes. Do this gently to prevent hurting her with the friction. Make sure your finger goes deeper every time you slide it in.
  4. When she’s used to the motion of your forefinger, get your middle finger working. Slide both fingers in and out for a few minutes before trying the come hither motion.
  5. Let your tongue play with her clitoris as you gently push both fingers deep inside her vagina and slowly do the come hither movement while inside. The sensation this induces may feel odd to most girls, and a lot of women will probably stop you (because the sensation is akin to that of wanting to pee). When this happens, distract her by wetting and licking her clitoris more seriously while you repeat the movement.

The combination of cunnilingus and come hither movement inside her vagina will induce a powerful orgasm she won’t be able to forget.

Q&A: My Girlfriend Doesn’t Like When I Touch Her G-Spot

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Finding a woman’s g-spot and learning how to give her pleasure can make your sex life hotter, but what if your partner doesn’t like g-spot stimulation? Does it mean that you are doing something wrong, or that your partner just doesn’t like having her g-spot stimulated? Here’s what you can do if your partner doesn’t dig g-spot pleasure.

Question: My girlfriend says it’s uncomfortable when I touch her g-spot and she feels like she needs to pee. Any tips on making it more pleasurable for her?

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Feeling The Need To Pee

It is actually very common for women to feel like they have to pee during sex. Does this translate into the true need to urinate? Not usually – although it is possible. Many of the nerve endings near a woman’s vagina and clitoris are tied together, including the nerve endings to the bladder. It is not at all out of the ordinary for a woman to feel like she has to pee when she is being stimulated one way or another. Although it is common, it doesn’t mean that it is comfortable for your partner. It can distract her from feeling pleasure because she’s afraid she’ll urinate during sex. Sex will be more pleasurable for your partner if she’s not worried about being embarrassed in front of you.

What You Can Do

There are a few things you can do to help your partner alleviate the feeling of needing to urinate during sex. Have your partner go to the bathroom right before sex. This way, she knows she doesn’t have to actually urinate and can simply attribute these feelings to other nerve endings being stimulated. Your partner can actually stop taking liquids an hour or two before sex also, if this makes her feel better. Remember that iced tea and coffee are both diuretics, meaning that these may make her feel like she has to urinate more often than usual. If your partner is also on a medication that causes her to feel the need to pee often, talk to your doctor about a change in medication if possible.

Changing Your Techinques

You may be stimulating her g-spot too hard or too quickly if she’s still finding it uncomfortable to be stimulated there. Make sure you allow your partner plenty of warm up time before trying to stimulate her g-spot, and you can go one step further by ensuring she has an orgasm before you even head for the g-spot. Often, a woman will find vaginal stimulation uncomfortable or even painful if she hasn’t been allowed enough time for foreplay. Foreplay allows the vagina to moisten and relax and sends signals to the brain to get ready for sex. Make sure she is wet or use plenty of lube to avoid any discomfort caused by friction. Communicate with your partner about what feels good and what doesn’t and ask for her suggestions. Ladies, take this opportunity to purchase a great sex toy and try stimulating your g-spot on your own. When you find out what feels good, let your partner know and show him how to do what you like.

Best Female Orgasm Tips Of 2009

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Giving a woman an orgasm is probably one of the greatest ways to connect with a woman physically and emotionally. Whether you want to give her an orgasm through intercourse, via oral sex, or by fingerging her g-spot, she’s going to be putty in your hands if you know the tips and tricks to use to give her the big O. Learning how to give her the ultimate orgasm will have her simply begging you for more! We’ve done a number of female orgasm tip articles this year, but here are the ones we really want you to read if you want to give your partner a mind blowing, toe curling orgasm tonight – or any other night!