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Your Guide On How To Choose The Right Sex Toys

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Choosing sex toys takes definitely takes some thought – very rarely do couples buy sex toys on impulse. There are things to look for when you’re making a purchase, depending on what you like or don’t like. Here’s the best way to figure out what sex toys you want to buy and what aspects are more important in a sex toy than others.

What Not To Shop For

There are lots of things that you want in a sex toy, but it’s unlikely that you’ll find the perfect made-just-for-you toy that meets every one of your requirements. That said, it’s essential that you think about what’s important in your item and what isn’t as crucial. Here are some examples of things you don’t necessarily want to narrow down your search:

Color

While you want your vibrator or dildo to be pretty, shopping for one based on what color it is alone is a great way to get a sex toy that you hate or can’t use. Certain sex toys come in certain colors, and if you’re only looking for clear or red (or whatever your chosen color is), you’re going to be limited in what you can get in that particular color. Instead, focus on a more important aspect – such as function or size – when shopping.

Brand

There are great brands out there, but not all the items produced by one brand are great. You may get a really fun, awesome dildo and swear up and down that you will only buy that brand ever again. The next thing you buy – such as a cock ring for example – may be a complete dud. Then again, it may not be.

However, by limiting yourself to one brand of sex toys only, you might miss something really great that has been that special item you’ve been looking for. Keep your mind open and look for items that meet other criteria, such as being easy to use or super discreet.

Price

Of course, most people shopping for sex toys need to stay within a budget. There are couples out there that can splurge on the $300 vibrator, but most people have an idea of what price range they need to be looking in. However, when you’re shopping strictly by price, you may run into trouble. Cheap sex toys aren’t always the best and the best ones aren’t always cheap. Then again, there are lots of inexpensive items that give a great orgasm – so price really isn’t a factor at all.

If you don’t have very much to spend, consider saving up for a little while longer so that you can have a broader range of items to pick from. If you’ve only got $20 to spend and are looking for stuff in that price range only, you may miss the awesome $21.95 toy that is everything you’ve wanted in a sex toy and more! Having a little bit more to spend when you start shopping allows you to check out a lot more items – whether you buy one that is at the bottom of your price range or the top.

What To Shop For

There are lots of things that are important when considering what types of items to look for, but some are much more significant than others. For example, size is pretty important – you don’t want to get something that is too small or too big for you. Here are some examples of things that may make or break your decision:

Size (Length & Width)

Size is probably one of the most important factors to consider when shopping for a vibrator or dildo. Think about what size you need – based on your previous sex toys and other partners’ penis size. Are you only able to accommodate a small vibrator, or do you need something that is a bit longer to reach your g-spot?

Take into account what size you are, and what size feels good to you. Purchase something that meets the basic length and width requirements and doesn’t go over or under them a lot. Your heart may be set on a pretty pink penis, but if it’s two inches too short, you’re going to be sorry.

Function

Need a vibrator that will massage your clitoris? You might not want to buy one that is designed for g-spot stimulation and vice versa. Before you buy, think about what exactly you’re wanting your new toy to do. Do you want something that will stimulate both the clitoris and the g-spot at the same time? Take a look at a Rabbit vibrator or something similar. Are you a virgin and need something that doesn’t require penetration? Think about vibrating bullets.

Don’t go shopping for sex toys without thinking about what function you want it to have first – that’s how you get stuck with something that you don’t want!

Ease Of Use

You probably don’t want a vibrator that has a thousand different buttons and requires an astrophysicist’s degree to figure out. Sometimes, a vibrator with a simple on/off function works great, so don’t assume the more buttons and gadgets it has the better. Pick something that you know will be easy to use, especially when you’re in the throes of passion alone or with your partner.

Level Of Discretion

Some couples really need their sex toys to be discreet. If that’s the case, look for a small bullet vibe or travel vibrator – something small that can be easily hidden or taken with you in a purse, pocket or suitcase. People who need a certain level of discretion may want to stay away from purchasing traditional dildos, since most of them tend to be larger and penis shaped.

Regardless of what sex toys you use, make sure that they meet your needs and wants before making the purchase. If you don’t, you’ll end up spending a lot of money on something that isn’t very good or is simply “okay.” Once you find the right item, make it even more pleasurable and comfortable by using a lot of good, water based lubricant. Take care of it and make it last longer by cleaning it after each use, either with a special toy cleaner or hot, soapy water.

Homemade Sex Toys – Part 2

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Homemade sex toys are definitely a popular alternative to professional sex toys because they’re often much more convenient to purchase (especially for girls and guys under the age of eighteen) and use. Many things – such as phallic shaped vegetables – you can purchase at the grocery store, and others you already have lying around your house. However, does that mean that homemade sex toys are better to use? Not exactly. Here are some popular homemade sex toys, as well as some professional alternatives that just might serve you a little better.

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Cucumber Or Zucchini

A very popular homemade sex toy is the cucumber or zucchini. Many girls like to experiment with these instead of a traditional dildo, because it is easy to experiment with different sizes, shapes and textures. Other popular vegetables that can be used in place of a dildo include carrots and celery. These types of vegetables are popular sex toys among teenage girls and women alike, because they do not require a special trip to an adult toy store – instead, they’re available everywhere, including your local grocery and convenience stores. The downsides to using phallic shaped sex toys in lieu of professional sex toys is that many vegetables have cuts or knicks in them that can harbor bacteria. This bacteria can be transferred to the vagina or anus and can cause an infection in the body. If you must use a vegetable instead of a sex toy, slip a condom over it.

Adam & Eve Alternative: Slim Pink Pleaser or The Illumination by Doc Johnson.

Spinning Toothbrush

Some women enjoy using a spinning or sonic toothbrush on the clitoris in place of a vibrator. This will actually definitely work well in a pinch, especially if you’re traveling and don’t want to take your favorite sex toy with you. However, this is probably not something you want to use long term, because frankly, there are just so many better things out there to use to massage and stimulate the clitoris to achieve orgasm. Besides, you don’t really want to put your toothbrush back in your mouth after you’ve just gotten done using it down there, do you? Professional sex toys designed for clitoral stimulation are probably the best choice here, because many of them are just as discreet and easy to use. Think of a soft, squishy yet textured clitoral vibrator that feels just like a tongue – plus more.

Adam & Eve Alternative: The Illumination by Doc Johnson or The Clitoral Kisser

Toilet Paper Roll

Many guys use a toilet paper roll for masturbation instead of their hands – ouch! They achieve a “vagina like feel” by stuffing a grocery bag inside the roll and squirting lube inside to allow it to slide up and down the penis. While this is definitely a cheaper alternative than a professional male masturbator, there are definitely some disadvantages to using this type of homemade sex toy. First of all, a male masturbator made from latex or silicone just feels better, and can come textured or ribbed for your pleasure. Paired with a good lube, a male masturbator will make it feel more like a vagina. Male masturbators are surprisingly inexpensive and easy to purchase – plus they can be turned inside out and cleaned thoroughly (with either special sex toy cleaner or good old fashioned hot soapy water) to make it last longer.

Adam & Eve Alternative: The Super Head Honcho Masturbator

Clothespins

Men and women have both been known to use spring clothespins as nipple clamps. This is actually a very bad idea! Clothespins cannot be adjusted at all to make them squeeze harder or softer, and usually they squeeze really, really hard (unless they’re broken). Clothespins can squeeze too hard and hurt or bruise the nipple, making it painful for days afterwards. Instead, try to find professional nipple clamps with a sliding adjuster on it that will allow you to control how hard the clamp will squeeze. If you like rough sex, move the slider so that the clamp squeezes harder. If you prefer vanilla sex, adjust the clamp so that it only gives you a light pressure sensation.

Adam & Eve Alternative: Feather Fetish Nipple Clamp or Micro Vibrating Nipple Clamps

DIY Anal Beads

Some people who enjoy anal sex are using marbles, golf balls or other round objects of varying sizes and placing them in a condom to create a homemade set of anal beads. They either tie the condom in knots between the round objects or use string to tie them. While this will work to provide stimulation of the prostate gland, it is a very dangerous homemade sex toy to use. The condom can easily break and the objects inside can get lost inside the anal cavity, causing you a very expensive and embarrassing trip to the emergency room. Most anal beads are inexpensive and come in a variety of sizes for people who enjoy different anal sensations. Anal beads are also safer to use because they can be cleaned thoroughly with a toy cleaner or soap and hot water. It is extremely important to keep your anal sex toys clean and wash them after each and every use!

Adam & Eve Alternative: x10 Anal Beads

Do You Know The 5 Most Popular Sex Toys?

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You’ve read about what we think are some of the greatest sex toys, lubes and condoms that are available on the market today, but we want to know what you think are the best sex toys around!

Dan and I were sitting around talking the other day and wondering “what are the most popular sex toys?” Sure, we have our own personal favorites, but what does everyone else like? So we sent an email to our friends at Adam & Eve and they sent us their 5 best selling sex toys so that we could see for ourselves (and share them with you). Watch this video for the results – I guarantee that a few of them will surprise you!

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5. Super Head Honcho Masturbator

The Super Head Honcho Masturbator is actually a male sex toy (sex toy for boys) – it’s a soft, pink, silicone sleeve that slips over the penis to provide super sensations for a man while he’s masturbating. Don’t worry – it can also be used with a partner too! The Super Head Honcho Masturbator has several suction chambers for a truly realistic feeling, and turns inside out for easy cleanup with soap and water.

4. G-Gasm Delight G-Spot Vibrator

The G-Gasm Delight G-Spot Vibrator is a slim, easy to use vibrator that is designed specifically for g-spot stimulation. You can also use it for clitoral stimulation, because the vibrating “egg” at the top of the wand works well for both types of pleasure. The G-Gasm Delight G-Spot Vibrator can be used by even the most novice sex toy users, including your partner on his search for the elusive g-spot.

3. Eve’s Slim Pink Pleaser Vibrator

The Slim Pink Pleaser Vibrator is the perfect introductory vibrator for inexperienced users, and is also good for discreet travel or a simple, go-to vibrator that does the job. It’s just the right size for novice users and provides great vaginal and clitoral stimulation while still being easy to hold and soft but naughtily textured.

2. Adam And Eve’s Clitoral Kisser

The Clitoral Kisser might look a little strange at first, but the perfect clitoral suction it provides makes it an easy to use and devilishly pleasurable sex toy. Great for both individual masturbation and use with a partner, the soft silicone tip gently cups and kisses your clitoris, providing waves of pleasure.

1. Rotating G-Spot Rabbit Vibrator

Coming in at the number one most popular sex toy is the Rotating G-Spot Rabbit Vibrator. This vibrator is available at a great price for people who have never used a rabbit vibrator before, but is also made with several features to please even the most discerning vibrator user. The Rotating G-Spot Rabbit Vibrator has moving pearls, a rotating shaft, a perfectly angled g-spot tip for intense g-spot pleasure, and adorable rabbit ears for naughty clitoral stimulation. This very well may be the most popular sex toy on the market today for women who want to experience multiple types of pleasure at the same time. Don’t limit yourself to simply using it by yourself – use it with your partner to show him how you like to be pleasured!

There are dozens and even hundreds of different types of sex toys available, whether you’re a novice or experienced sex toy user. Try a few of the toys for yourself and find out what your favorite is!

Sex Toys 101: How To Buy Your First Vibrator

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Many couples are discovering that vibrators and other sex toys can enhance their sex lives by adding a little fun and variety.

And with masturbation – especially female masturbation (yes, it does happen) – being somewhat taboo in society today, a woman interested in pleasuring herself may have few options. Many women choose to masturbate with vibrators or dildos, and share their sex toys with their partners. Where can you get vibrators or dildos?

But if it’s your first time, what do you start with? What is the right vibrator for you?

If you’ve been curious about vibrators, particularly about buying your first one, this is just the video for you. We’ll walk you through 5 simple steps for choosing the perfect vibrator for you. It’s easier than you’re thinking right now!

How You’re Going To Use Your Vibrator

The first step is to decide how you’re going to use a prospective sex toy. Do you want to use it by yourself? Do you want to use it with a partner, or both? Do you need a vibrator with tittillating action, or will a non-vibrating, standard dildo do for you? Do you want something just to massage your clitoris, or would you like to use it for insertion? Do you want a toy that does double – both massaging your clitoris and inserting and stimulating your g-spot at the same time? Deciding what the most important aspects of owning a vibrator are for you is a crucial first step in finding the right vibrator for you.

What Material Do You Want Your Sex Toy Made Out Of?

There are several different types of sex toy materials available on the market today – for example, one of the newer materials is called Cyberskin and is soft and squishy, with a very real skin-like sensation. This is a great material for a penis-shaped dildo, making it more realistic. You can also buy plastic, silicone or steel vibrators, or go with softer silicone or even glass dildos or vibrators. Check out a sex toy website that will allow you to browse different materials available so you can find out what type of material intrigues you the most.

What Size And Shape Should Your Sex Toy Be?

Size and shape are very important when it comes to finding the perfect sex toy or dildo for yourself. Vibrators and dildos come in a complete variety of shapes and sizes. Do you want something small and discreet that will fit in your handbag? Or would you like a very large, very wide dildo that will bring you to the brink of the kind of pleasure you can withstand? Do you want something medium sized that will get the job done? Think about what you’re most comfortable with sexually so you can find the right size for you – it’s not a one size fits all sort of deal.

Your Vibrator’s Power Source

If you’ve decided to go with a vibrator and not a standard, non-vibrating dildo, you can run into the issues of recharging your vibrator or switching batteries. Both are good ways to charge your vibrator but both have their disadvantages. Running out of batteries (and often not having any more on hand) in the heat of the moment can be a huge disappointment, while having a cordless, rechargable vibrator can be quite expensive. Think about how convenient you want your vibrator to be by determining how often you think you’re going to use it.

You Get What You Pay For

If this is your first time vibrator or dildo, you might not be prepared to spend a hundred dollars or more on the hottest, most realistic vibrator on the market today. But you certainly are going to get what you pay for. That doesn’t mean there isn’t middle ground. Look for a dildo or vibrator that is in your price range, but the cheaper you go, the less features and power your new vibrator is going to have. You don’t have to spend a fortune, but for a good vibrator or dildo, you’re going to spend more than five bucks.

Homemade Sex Toys – Should You Really Make Your Own?

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Homemade sex toys – you’ve heard about them. The housewife who selects a perfectly shaped cucumber at the grocery store but won’t be cooking with it, or the teenager who uses her spinning toothbrush on more than just her teeth…. With the availability of sex toys these days, not to mention just how very discreet they can be, why are people still using homemade sex toys? Are homemade sex toys safe?
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Why People Still Use Homemade Sex Toys

Both men and women still use homemade sex toys for several reasons – many people still believe that actual sex toys are hard to find or expensive, and they’re afraid of others (such as their children) finding their sex toys. Fortunately, these things just aren’t true anymore about sex toys. Many sex toys are inexpensive and a great number of them are incredibly discreet (tube of lipstick in your purse, anyone?) and no one but you will really know the difference. Sex toys are easy to buy online, will show up at your house in discreet packaging and even the transaction on your bank account will be discreet enough that someone simply looking at your bank statement won’t know what that particular transaction was about. Why not get a real sex toy?

Sex Toy Safety

While the benefits of homemade sex toys are that they’re inexpensive, readily available and discreet, they’re not worth risking your health with. Homemade sex toys aren’t safe – some of them can injure your most sensitive areas and even carry bacteria that can cause you serious infections that are expensive to treat under a doctor’s care. It’s not worth taking the risk! Read on about some of the great – and inexpensive – sex toys that you can use that will make your masturbation sessions better and safer.

Boy Toys

While a number of men masturbate with their hands, some men are into finding “toys” that they can masturbate with to try to recreate the feeling of a mouth or a vagina. Men have been known to use fruit, fabric, pillows and even harsh toilet paper rolls! Come on guys! Most sex toy stores and websites have silicone masturbators that you can use instead, that are soft and squishy and have a number of pleasure enhancing factors. A plain silicone masturbator is truly inexpensive, but for a real treat, you can try one with firm pleasure beads inside or one that is ridged or studded. Some are even shaped like anuses, mouths and vaginas to make masturbating even more fun! They’re safe too – just remember to use plenty of water based lubricant!

Girl Toys

While some men do use homemade sex toys, women are the ones who really get a bad rap about it. Women have been known to use everything from vegetables to hairbrushes to bottles and everything in between. There are a variety of sex toys available for women though, most of them so discreet you wouldn’t be able to tell them apart from a curling iron or even a fancy pen. Plus, homemade sex toys don’t vibrate! Real sex toys are easy to clean, and you don’t have to worry about bacteria that could cause an infection. They’re not expensive either! Real sex toys will give you everything you want in a toy, but without the worries that come along with homemade sex toys. If you are going to use a homemade sex toy though, throw a condom on it first to protect yourself.

Ready to graduate from homemade sex toys to the real thing?