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Top 10 Female Masturbation Tips

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Whether you only have time for a quick feel-good session with yourself, or whether you have all the time in the world, the following list provides a method for every woman to maximize her benefit from a beautiful masturbation experience. Right now, take a little look-see to find out which one(s) fit your personality and schedule.

Skin to Skin Contact

The Pattie Cake

With your pointer and middle fingers, gently pat your clitoris. Vary the pressure and the speed. Your little man in the boat will stand at attention. Your inner labia and clitoris will feel sticky sweet and warm up. The inside of your vagina will overflow with your love fluid. Directly before you come, push those same two fingers into your sticky sweetness. Rub the natural lubricant from inside of you onto your clitoris, and rub hard until you come.

The Sandwich Cookie

Imagine your first two fingers as the hard cookies that sandwich a creamy filling. Gently grip your clitoris between your first two fingers. Stroke your clitoris with your other hand. Vary the pressure and speed until you come.

The Open-Faced Sandwich

Use the palm of your outstretched hand, gently pat and then push down gently. Continue with this rhythm until you begin to feel hot. When you are almost to the end, just push and let go, push and let go, never letting your hand leave skin contact.

The Pulsing Pelvis

Begin touching yourself with your fingers how you like it the best. Start to softly contract your leg muscles in order for your pelvis to gently pulse in a rhythm reminiscent of lovemaking with a partner. Rock up and down, up and down, until you come.

Take a Dip

In the Pool

Spread your legs as far as you can while positioning yourself in front of one of the jets in your pool or hot tub. Stand far enough away from the jet so it is not uncomfortable for you, then move closer and closer until the stimulation is just the right amount to jet you into orgasm.

With Your Shower Head

Use your handheld shower head to masturbate. Actually take the shower head off of its hook and press it on your clitoris. Rub softly. Rub firmly. Alternate between the two extremes, or find a middle ground. Always synchronize your motions to escalate the masturbation experience.

In Your Bathtub

Get into your dry bathtub and sit directly underneath the faucet. Make sure the faucet is aimed directly at your clitoris. Turn the water on warm and let the flow of water hit your clitoris. Use your elbows to hold up your upper body and stick your hands underneath your butt. Right before your orgasm, turn the water temperature to hot … a comfortable hot … and let yourself come.

Common Toys

Dig the Shovel

You can use whatever object turns you on. Pick out a vibrator or anything you like. Mimicking a gently digging motion, use the toy to play with your clitoris. Slide your toy down your clitoris, across your clitoris, and upward, removing the object entirely from your body. Repeat until you reach orgasm.

It’s Electric

When using an electric toothbrush to stimulate your clitoris, simply use it as if it were a vibrator. Touch softly at first, and then as you get more excited, get into a rhythm of hard, soft, or medium pressure. Go up, down, all around, in little circles. Find the motion that suits you the best.

A Play Station

Use a Metal Gear Solid CD on your Sony Playstation, and grab the vibrating controller. Follow the same instructions for the electric toothbrush and the rest is easy. Find yourself. You’ll figure out what to do.

If you have already tried all of the above masturbation tips for women, try adding your own personalized touch on variations to these techniques. If this still isn’t doing it for you, stay tuned for the next set of tips from the professionals.

If you follow the previous tips, you too will experience the self-satisfying beauty of climactic joy through masturbation. When you find something new that works for you, you can share your little secret with your partner.

How to Finger A Girl

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There’s a real, hot sexiness to being able to bring your woman to a climax by just using your fingers.

Consider the fact that her body is – literally – under the command of your fingers and that you are able to WATCH her intently as you bring her to writhing pleasure.

Now, isn’t that sexy and hot?

Here are some tips on how to finger a girl:

Pre-Fingering Foreplay

Surprisingly, not all women like to be fingered by their lovers. This can be due to many reasons such as issues about hygiene, trust and may be even fear.

If your partner has some of these issues, it may be wise to pre-discuss the topic of fingering beforehand just to ensure that she’s at least open to the idea of it happening. Otherwise, you can slowly introduce fingering as you make love.

But before that, here’s rule No. 1: engage in foreplay! Foreplay ensures that you and your partner are in the right sexual frame of mind and body needs, making her just possibly a bit more open to being fingered.

Explore The Landscape Gently

If this is your first time to finger her, then ensure that you do everything you can to avoid any hang ups. For instance, ensure that your nails are cut and that your hands are clean (takes care of the issue of hygiene).

But more importantly, be gentle in your finger exploration. A woman’s body is all warmness and softness, right? As such, don’t go in there like an excited teenager. Instead, be respectful of her body as you go in and explore.

Also, using your fingers to simulate a woman’s genitals is not just about insertion. Be sure you pay attention to her labia (genital lips) and clitoris too.

Experiment With Different Textures, Pressures, And Movements

Not all parts of a woman’s genital area can be stimulated in the exact same way. For instance, a lot of women like their labia to be gently caressed, their clitoris to be rubbed and their G-spots to be tapped.

Now – again – not all women are the same so find the right combination that your lover finds the most sexually stimulating. And of course, as you try all these different sexual stimulation combos, don’t forget to pay attention to her! Moaning is good, jerking is not.

Time Is Of No Consequence

Don’t go about fingering your woman with a certain time frame in mind. You may ‘hit the jackpot’ right away, maybe not. Just give both yourselves time to get used to the different sensations. This is actually one of those times when the journey is as good as the destination.

How To Deal With Fingering Fatigue

In the course of your exploration, you might find yourself getting a tad tired but don’t give up and especially, don’t just stop and leave your lover in the cold! If you’re feeling a bit tired, try any of these: switch hands if you can, stop finger stimulation and go oral for a few minutes, stop finger stimulation and use a sex toy for a while, and others.

More Tips on How To Finger A Girl

  1. Lube, anyone? Finger stimulation works best if your partner is really wet. If not, ensure you have a healthy backup of lube ready for use.
  2. Learn and be a voyeur at the same time. Not sure how to please her down there? If so, ask her to masturbate in front of you so that you learn how to pleasure her exactly the way she wants it.
  3. Learn when to stop. As you become more and more enthralled about bringing your lover to an orgasm just by using your fingers, it’s equally important to know when to stop trying. Too much friction can actually numb her genitals and when that occurs, reaching a climax is almost next to impossible so better stop now… and start again another day.
  4. Learn effective fingering techniques! Head over to the link below to learn 2 step-by-step “Advanced Fingering Techniques” to bring your lover to multiple escalating orgasms.

Is It Unhealthy To Masturbate Daily?

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Masturbation is a healthy and normal part of growing up for both men and women, but how can you tell when it becomes too much? Is it possible to have an addiction to it and if so, can you do serious harm to yourself by masturbating too much? Here’s what you want to know about masturbating and when and where to draw the line.

Question: I am 16 year old man and I masturbate once a day. I began masturbating when I was 12 – is that unhealthy or I will have problems in future? Thanks for your help!

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Masturbation Is Perfectly Healthy And Natural

Masturbation is a perfectly healthy and natural part of everyone’s sex life. Both men and women masturbate, although male masturbation is quite a bit more common than the female counterpart. However, learning how to pleasure yourself is an important part of going through puberty and can help you translate your sexual desires and preferences to your partners as you become sexually active. There are lots of benefits to self-love, including:

  • It helps relieve sexual frustration and pent up sexual feelings
  • It helps reduce unwanted erections
  • When done properly, it can help reduce or prevent premature ejaculation
  • Even daily masturbation can be helpful if you’re not addicted to it

How To Tell If You’re Addicted To Masturbation

There are many ways to tell if you’re addicted to masturbating, and they’re similar to the signs people exhibit when they’re addicted to anything, including sex, drugs, food and alcohol. If you think you might be addicted to pleasuring yourself, ask yourself these questions:

  • Do you think about it often? Is it the primary thing you’re thinking about throughout the day?
  • Do you find it difficult to focus on other things because you’re looking forward to it?
  • Do you plan your activities around the times you know you’re going to masturbate?
  • Are you masturbating so much that you’re causing your penis to become raw or painful?
  • Would you rather masturbate than have sex with your partner?

Even if you self pleasure often, that doesn’t automatically mean that you are addicted to it and need to stop. If you start noticing that all you really want to do is get it on with yourself, you’ve probably crossed the line. Masturbation should not rule your life!

What To Do If You’re Addicted To Masturbating

If you answered “yes” to any of the above questions and you think you may be addicted to it, it’s okay to seek help. Addiction comes in many forms (it’s not just drugs and alcohol) and can seriously wreak havoc on your life if you don’t check out some resources that can help you tone down your addiction to masturbating.

If you’re not sure where to go to get help for a masturbation addiction, start by talking to your doctor. Don’t be embarrassed – your doctor has heard it all before and then some. Your doctor can do a thorough examination to determine whether you’re really doing harm to yourself by masturbating too much.

This will most likely only include a series of questions similar to those above rather than a physical examination unless you’ve got something going on down there (such as raw sores or bumps on the penis) that might be caused by excessive masturbation. Your doctor can refer you to someone that can help you talk through whatever issues you have that may be causing you to want to masturbate so often. Just remember that there is nothing wrong with seeking help for a problem and working towards bettering yourself!

Tips For Healthy Masturbation

If you’re masturbating once a day (or less, or more) and you’re not addicted to it, just enjoy it and enjoy the benefits that masturbating has to offer. If you’re leading an otherwise healthy and active life outside of your masturbatory activities, try not to worry too much about it. It’s a perfectly normal and healthy part of life for both men and women. There are, however, a few ways you can make it even better:

  • Use lube!
  • Oil, lotion, saliva or water are not good for pleasuring yourself. Lube is inexpensive, it’s readily available at just about any drug store or supermarket and it will make it feel so much better!
  • To use masturbation to prevent unwanted erections, stroke yourself until you’re at the brink of orgasm, then take a break. This technique will help you learn how to last longer and control your climax.
  • Try mutual masturbation with your partner so you can both get an idea of how best to pleasure the other.

Advanced Masturbation Techniques – Using Sex Toys

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Let’s face it – masturbation can get boring if you’re doing the same thing over and over. Many men and women feel as though masturbation is meant to be “quick and dirty,” and as a result, they don’t use sex toys or lube to make masturbation better. Take it up a notch by experimenting with different sex toys during masturbation. Sex toys can create different sensations and better orgasms, and they can also be used with your partner during sex. Here are some advanced masturbation techniques to try if you want to spice up your solo time.

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Most People Start Out Masturbating With Their Hands

Because most boys and girls start experimenting with masturbation during their pre-teen years, they usually start out by using their hands to touch themselves and figure out what feels good. Because you have to be 18 or older to purchase sex toys, most younger boys and girls use their hands simply because there is nothing else available to try.

Does that mean you should continue using your hands only during masturbation as an adult man or woman? Of course not! Part of the fun of being an adult is having the ability to try new things in the bedroom, such as watching porn or experimenting with sex toys. Here’s a guide on which sex toys to use for what (for both guys and gals) while you’re masturbating.

Ladies: Try A Rabbit Vibrator

Most women finger themselves during masturbation or use a slim dildo or simple vibrator for insertion. If you’re looking to take it up a notch, try purchasing a Rabbit vibrator. Many women that start using Rabbit vibrators won’t go back! Here’s what Rabbit vibrators have to offer:

  • A “dildo” end that is usually curved to stimulate the g-spot. In many models, the end will vibrate and rotate for extra pleasure.
  • Rotating pearls or beads that stimulate the sensitive areas just inside the vaginal opening
  • An attachment on the front with a separate bullet vibe that stimulates the clitoris
  • Some models have attachments on the back for anal probing and stimulation
  • Rabbit vibrators have a variety of speeds and sensations for customized pleasure

Ladies: Try Using Butt Plugs Or Anal Beads During Masturbation

Many women enjoy anal sex and would like to incorporate anal play during their own masturbation sessions but aren’t sure how or what toys to get. Fortunately, adding anal pleasure to masturbation is easy with the variety of anal sex toys that are available at adult toy stores both online and off.

A small butt plug with a flared end or finger loop is perfect if you’re just getting started or enjoy anal stimulation but don’t want to use something extra large. If you are into something bigger, there are lots of sizes available so you can work your way up in size. You definitely want to start small and then go bigger so your body can get used to it. Remember to use lots and lots of good, water based lube (never, ever desensitizing lube) and stop if it hurts.

Guys: Use Lube

Believe it or not, there are a lot of guys do not use lube when masturbating! Younger boys who are learning to masturbate typically do not use lube because it isn’t available, however, lots of guys still aren’t using lube even well into their adult life. Lube is essential for a great orgasm during masturbation! Some guys use lotion, saliva or soap, but they just don’t cut it when it comes to using what actually feels best.

Silicone lube is excellent for masturbating with your hands because it doesn’t wear off or dry out as quickly as water based lube can, but if you’re masturbating with sex toys or condoms, silicone lube can break them down if they’re made of latex. Water based lubricant is safe for every activity. Just about every guy that starts using lube during masturbation says they’ll never go back to lotion again!

Guys: Use A Masturbation Sleeve

Masturbation sleeves are probably the best invention for male masturbation ever, next to lube. Masturbation sleeves are generally made out of silicone or latex and are made to slip over the penis and moved back and forth while masturbation. Here’s why masturbation sleeves are much, much better than using your hands:

  • When combined with lube, they slip and slide over the penis creating orgasmic sensations
  • The inside of male masturbators are textured or ribbed (and there are hundreds of different kinds) to increase pleasure
  • Many models flip completely inside out for easy cleaning while others are disposable
  • They are the closest you’ll get to the real feeling of sex or a blowjob during masturbation

Guys: Using Cock Rings

Cock rings are an excellent sex toy to use during both masturbation and sex with a partner. A cock ring is designed to slip over the penis and stay at the base of it, trapping blood in the head and shaft and keeping the penis rock hard. This can be used during masturbation to enhance sensations and to prolong orgasm.

Make sure when purchasing cock rings to choose flexible ones. Hard plastic and metal cock rings exist, but they are far less than safe because they can get stuck at the base of the penis by causing the head and shaft to swell so much that it becomes impossible to remove the cock ring without immediate medical intervetion. Flexible cock rings are much, much safer! They come in lots of fun colors (even glow in the dark) and many of them are textured for extra sensations.

Guys: Toys For Anal Stimulation

Lots of guys enjoy anal play during sex or masturbation because the stimulation of the prostate gland from inside the anus can intensify orgasms immensely. This can be done with a number of sex toys, including small, slim vibrators, butt plugs, anal beads and prostate massagers.

There are definitely guys out there that are squeamish about putting anything up their anus, but not to worry – the prostate gland can be stimulated by putting firm pressure on the perineum (the space between a man’s anus and his scrotum). Try laying a strong vibrator on your perineum and massaging it to stimulate the prostate gland.

Remember to use lots and lots of water based lube (do not use it sparingly!) when using any type of anal sex toy or even when using your finger for anal play! This makes anal play much, much more pleasurable and decreases the risk of any kind of tearing or tissue damage!

Alone On Valentines Day? Hot Masturbation Tips For Him AND Her

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Flying solo on Valentine’s Day doesn’t mean that you have to spend the night moping around about how you’re not gettin’ any. Instead, why not plan to get some – with yourself? Plan an evening of pleasure for yourself, whether it’s watching your favorite porn flick or taking a hot bath and relaxing before breaking out a new vibrator. Here are some excellent ways you can get busy by yourself on Valentine’s Day!

Grab An Erotic Movie Or Book

For Him: Rent, buy or download a new porn with your favorite star in it, or indulge yourself in a fetish movie that you haven’t gotten around to checking out yet. Men love visual stimulation, so lock your doors and turn on the tube. You can also check out free porn on websites like YouPorn. Either way, just make sure you get your mind in the mood with whatever turns you on the most. Make sure you have your masturbation tools nearby in case you can’t hold out through the whole movie!

For Her: Visit your local sex toy store for an erotic novel or two, or order them online. Heck, you can even find free erotic stories online with just a simple Internet search. While men are visual creatures and enjoy watching sex, most women prefer to have their imaginations stimulated with an erotic novel. Don’t just re-read one of your steamy romance novels though – this Valentine’s Day, treat yourself to something really naughty. You’ll be surprised at how much better your masturbation can be after just a few erotic stories!

Purchase A Sex Toy Just For The Occasion

For Him: There are a lot of guys out there that are still stuck in the hand and lotion “stone age.” There are lots of hot sex toys for boys available at both traditional sex toy stores and their online counterparts. Male sex toys come in a variety of different styles, colors, textures and sizes to accommodate every man’s desires. Masturbation sleeves are among the most popular sex toys for guys, whether it’s a “Fleshlight” modeled after a real vagina or a simple pink silicone sleeve that feels absolutely divine with a few squirts of lube. Consider purchasing a new sex toy before the big day and save it for that special night. You’ll feel the difference right away!

For Her: Thinking about busting out your tried and true vibrator for a quickie masturbation session on Valentine’s Day? Think again. Order a brand new dildo or bullet vibe (or whatever else tickles your fancy) and save it for the 14th.

Relax In A Hot Bath

For Him: You may think it’s sissy for guys to want to relax in a hot bath, but don’t underestimate the power that hot water, bubbles, steam and aromatherapy can do to relax your body and your mind. Especially if you’ve had a particularly long or difficult day at work, it’s important to clear your mind of everything that happened that day and start getting yourself in the mood and thinking about sex. Stroke yourself a few times in the bath, or think about something really arousing to get yourself ready.

For Her: Every woman loves a good, long soak in a hot bath. Take this to heart on Valentine’s Day and plan to take a long bath before your masturbation session. Make it special by adding some new, great smelling bath oils or salts, or light your favorite scented candles and add some rose petals to the water. The idea behind doing this on Valentine’s Day is to treat yourself right and make yourself feel special when you’re spending the evening alone. After your bath, make sure to put on some decadently rich body lotion and enjoy the feel of your silky smooth skin.

Go Slow And Take Your Time

For Him: Most of the time when guys masturbate, they do it in a hurry. As kids, guys had to “hurry up” before Mom came home, and even as adults, husbands have to “make it quick” before the wife catches them. If you’re spending February 14th by yourself, there’s no reason to rush your masturbation. Lock your doors, draw the blinds and take as much time with yourself as you need to make it really spectacular.

For Her: Some women naturally take their time during masturbation, simply because it takes several minutes for a woman to get warmed up, but others have got masturbation down pat and can reach orgasm in three minutes or less. If you’re used to quickie masturbation, make sure to slow it down on Valentine’s Day. This isn’t about “getting the job done” and masturbation doesn’t have to be a means to an end. Take time to enjoy yourself and really savor the way everything feels.

Multiple Orgasms? Yes, Please!

For Him: Can men really have multiple orgasms! Absolutely! While most men aren’t necessarily going to have multiple orgasms in quick succession like a woman can, most men can cool down in a period of about 15-25 minutes and get started again. Why not make Valentine’s Day night last all night long?

For Her: It’s a little easier for women to have multiple orgasms than it is for men. Women are like ovens – it takes some time for them to warm up but once they’re hot, they stay that way for a little while. When a woman reaches orgasm, she doesn’t go all the way back down to the starting point. She’s actually very close to having another. Take advantage of the way your body works and don’t stop after just the first orgasm. You may even want to try to have as many orgasms as you can – you might just set a Valentine’s Day record!