one night stand

5 Tips For Awesome One-Night Stands

If you are looking to have a little fun without the drama of a relationship, a one-night stand could be the answer to your sexual rut. One-night stands can be a lot of fun if they are handled properly. When they are not handled properly both parties involved can feel used and cheap, affecting self-esteem and self-image.

Almost all men and women have had a one-night stand during their lives, but the effects of a romp in the sheets without commitment must be taken carefully. If you would like to avoid the hassles of dealing with a bad one-night stand there are some very basic rules to follow. Here are a few tips to help you out.

Keep The Drinking To A Minimum

A one-night stand can be a lot of fun, but both parties must have clear consent without the influence of substance. One of the biggest reasons that so many people wind up with a bad one-night stand on their conscious is because of alcohol. If you are going out with some friends, try to keep your mind clear. Alcohol has a way of making situations seem better than they are. It can make people seem much more interesting, physically attractive, and compatible with you. But as the alcohol starts to wear off, you will probably regret sleeping with them. Monitor your drinking and make sound decisions.

Always Have Protection

It doesn’t matter if you’re a guy or a girl, always having protection easily available is a must for casual sex. Just think to yourself, if this guy or girl is willing to have sex with me within hours of meeting, who else have they been with? This isn’t to say that exploration makes you a slut or a man-whore, but you have to keep your bases covered. STDs are running rampant nowadays and it’s very important to make sure that you protect yourself and your partner. Birth control is not a substitute for condoms. While your primary concern may be with pregnancy, the threat of STDs is real.

Keep Your Home Clean

If you’re going to bring a guy or a girl back to your place the last thing that you want is for them to see your dirty underwear or last week’s dishes in the sink. A person’s home is reflective of their personality and their health. Make sure that you pick up a little bit before you go out for the night. When a person enters your home they will take notice of how you keep it. While you might be the most hygienic person on the planet, dirt and grime around your home can easily turn a guy or a girl off. Sweep, mop, dust and wipe to have a great one-night stand.

You Have To Get Up Early

It doesn’t matter if you have the day off, a great rule to follow is that you always have to get up early. Laying this foundation before sex is essential to soothing the awkwardness in the morning. If you want to have a great one-night stand without the expectation of a relationship afterward, make a clean exit. Set your alarm and get out of the house as soon as possible. You don’t want to linger around or have the other person lingering around your home in the morning. Make up a story if you have to and actually leave your own home if you need to get the person out of your house. Drive around the block once and then come back to your house if you need to. The more time that this person spends with you is more time for mixed signals or awkwardness.

Don’t Dismiss A Real Connection

There are plenty of real relationships that have begun with one-night stands. Whether you are against this as a genuine way of starting off with your soul mate or not, it’s unfair to dismiss a real connection just because you had sex on the first date. If you really think that you see yourself with this person then contact her or him again. Women are known to get a little clingy after they have a one-night stand, but there is a difference between wanting to see this person again and latching on for dear life. If you have a genuine interest in spending more time with your one-nighter, go for it. You never know. They may feel the same way. Just make sure that you aren’t trying to keep it strictly physical if you decide to go down this path.

Hookup Commandments To Live By

By dicksinthecity

Sex tips are not just for relationships. These can also cover hookups. Here are the commandments that real men and women are saying you MUST follow in order to avoid awkwardness and still have fun.

What She Said (For Girls)

1. Thou Shalt Bring Protection

You can buy condoms anywhere and they are super easy to carry around with you. Do it, keep them close at all times. You might also want to bring a small tube of lubricant around with you.

2. Thou Shalt Get Off

Just because it’s a hook up, and men have been known to wham bam and thank you ma’am, does not mean you can’t “rock, sock and thank you jock.” You have every right to tell him what you need, where you need it and not to stop. Or climb on top and take matters into your own hands.

Basically just because you are a woman doesn’t mean you can’t get off too. Use sex toys if you have them or if he has them, but remember to put a condom on them.

3. Thou Shalt Not Leave Anything At His Place

Especially if it is intentional! If you think that by leaving your earrings or panties etc is a hot move it is not! Guys see through that. They think you are either desperate for another romp, or careless. Be discreet, aside from a few scratch marks, you should leave nothing at his place.

4. Thou Shalt Suggest Breakfast In The Morning

Maybe you know of a great diner near you, or he knows of one near him. Regardless if the night ended well, why not refuel. Who knows it might lead to a little afternoon delight.

5. Thou Shalt Not Be Forced To Cuddle

If you are staying over, or he is staying at your place cuddling is not a given. You should not feel obligated to be the little spoon nor should you feel that he should spoon you. Sleep how you would if you were alone, but seeing how you two just shared fluids, you should make sure you share the covers.

6. Thou Shalt Not Expect A Relationship

Sometimes hook ups end up being more, sometimes they are all they need to be. Either way, enjoy the moment and don’t expect anything out of it.

7. Thou Shalt Make Sure He Is Single

Don’t be that girl! Even if you don’t know his girlfriend, respect their relationship. I don’t care how hot the guy may be, he is obviously a scumbag if he is ok with cheating.

8. Thou Shalt Have A Morning After Outfit

Keep an extra pair of jeans, t-shirt and shoes in your car. When you are in casual clothes, the walk of shame becomes just a walk.

What He Said (For Guys)

1. Thou Shalt Text The Morning After, No Matter What

It doesn’t matter if you regret it. Or if it was bad, or if it was good, but you never want to see that person again. You should always aspire to leave someone better than you found them in all circumstances. Hooking up is no different.

The morning after text, if you will, is part of that. Being used in a fun way is one thing, but just plain being used is not fun. This is especially important for guys to remember.

For women, sex is a choice, for guys it’s a chore. If you leave this girl on bad terms, you’re not messing it up for yourself, you’re messing it up for every guy that will come after you. So be classy and master the art of the dismount. Or none of us will get laid ever again.

2. Thou Shalt Be Realistic

This is basically just sex, and by basically, I mean totally. It’s not a romantic comedy. It’s not going to lead to a wonderful romance with the person of your dreams, at least it’s not likely too. You want some ass, they want some ass and then you can both meet in the middle.

Don’t get all Oprah on them. Don’t’ ask about their puppies or their childhood or what they like to do when they’re not having sex with you. They don’t care about your background and you shouldn’t about theirs.

3. Thou Shalt Not Worry About Them Getting Theirs

One of the nicest things about hooking up is that there’s no pretense about it. You don’t have to pretend to care about them, or their feelings, or whether they get off. Get yours and getting theirs is their problem.

4. Thou Shalt Think Of This As Batting Practice

You may not care about the person you’re banging randomly, but there will come a time when you meet someone you really do care about and maybe even love. You might want to spend the rest of your life with them.

One Night Stands: To Hit It Or Quit It?

By dicksinthecity

Sex tips can give you the technique that you need, but they generally do not focus on the ramifications of having sex. Here is what real men and women are saying about engaging in a one night stand.

What She Said:

Should You Have A One Night Stand?

A one night stand sounds like a hell of a lot sexier in movies than they are in real life. For women its not always as great of experience as it is for men. And usually there is a lot of alcohol involved. Yes, a stranger’s body can be thrilling and the idea of “using” someone can feel forbidden but the majority of the time that strangers body isn’t being used to please you.

If you are new to ONS and your sexual past consisted of committed relationships or even friends with benefits, then before embarking on a one-night stand you need to prepare yourself. One of the best sex tips is to mentally prepare yourself. Women often blur the lines between sex and emotions.

Know what you are doing and know that a ONS may not leave you with a feeling of fulfillment that you were used to in other relationships. Also, prepare yourself with protection. Bring condoms!!! Make sure your heart, mind and body are ready for this. You know yourself best. Many women are able to separate sex from love and have a grand time doing it.

But if you are going to part take in your first ONS, be honest, know that there may not be fireworks, it may be super awkward and you may have regrets the next day. All that being said, if you are ready and prepared then by all means, hit it and quit it!

What He Said:

Decide For Yourself!

Sex is like pizza. Even when it’s not that great it’s still really nice to have. Is it better when you’re in love and with your soulmate and your having that Sting and Trudy tantrically infusing nine hour marathon sex session? Sure. But if you meet some guy or some chick at a bar and you have a hot and heavy ten minute sex session and you used protection, this can be great too.

Condoms? Those are for sailors.   Chuck Norris might not approve of one night stands, but why not? Yes, avoid the alcohol filled ones. Not just because the performance of both of you might not be so great, but those are often the hookups where condoms and other safety mechanisms get left by the wayside.

If you want to get good at having one night stands, it’s really quite simple. Go to a bar where you don’t ever go in a different city or neighborhood and have sex someone you would never ever want to see again, no matter how good the sex is. Stay sober. Go back to their place. Take a cab. Have really hot sex. Do not be there when they wake up. Don’t give them your real name.

I have a friend who takes this to a crazy level. She has wigs, glasses and fake names and even accents. Even if she went to the bar she always goes to no one would even recognize her. She finds that this randomness leads to better sex.

I don’t know what the point of this is, but it’s never stopped me before. If you are into this, go for it, if you’re not, you’re not. But don’t rule it out unless you’ve tried it. Sure girls tend to be more emotionally driven when having sex so many tend to prefer in relationships. A preference based on experience is one thing. A preference based on dogma that was forced up on you is an entirely different thing.

Whatever you want to do with one night stands, yay or nay, is totally cool. Just make sure you’re the one making those decisions. And just because you decide to bang lots of random people doesn’t necessarily mean you will get an STD, but it does mean you need to be really, really careful and secure your private parts like they are a crime scene on CSI. More sex can mean more exposure to risk, so you need to take that into mind before you take that hot piece of ass home with you.