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Forget Everything You THINK You Know About Premature Ejaculation – Things Have Changed!

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Good things are happening in the world of men’s health and fitness, and they’ve been slowly improving for a while now. A perfect example of the kind of positive progress I’m referring to is in the subject of male sexual health, namely: premature ejaculation.

That’s quite a daunting, almost terminal-sounding term. But in essence, all it really means is that your performance in bed, its length in minutes, or maybe even seconds, isn’t something you’re happy with.

If you’ve recognized that your sexual abilities aren’t quite up to scratch and have therefore decided to seek an answer to the problem (a way of massively improving your lasting power FOREVER) then you’re already way, way ahead of most guys who share the same concerns as you over their love-making prowess.

And let’s face it: what guy WOULDN’T love to quickly and permanently boost their sexual skills?

What Men Already Know About Lasting Longer

So, what do most men already know about how to extend sex? Well, I suppose there’s the old classic: taking your mind off it.

You can think of non-sexual things, like dead animals, or perhaps try difficult mental arithmetic. This technique works some of the time, for some men. Another method of lasting longer many men try is wearing two condoms, to decrease the sexual sensation and thereby lengthen their performance. Again, this sometimes works for some guys.

I think you’ve probably already spotted the problem with both of these methods, though. They decrease your fun and enjoyment.

Sex should be exciting and hassle free! Negative thoughts have no place in great sex. And wearing two condoms, while it may give you a little more time to work your magic, can actually cause more problems than it solves like a tear caused by a trapped air bubble. That’s the last thing you need.

Thankfully, many simple and stress-free techniques exist that can be used instead of the two above. Combining just a few of the most effective of these methods is often enough to eradicate the problem of premature ejaculation forever. Let’s take a look at one of the best right now.

Breath Control

“The way I breathe? I doubt that has much effect on my sexual performance!”

Most men are right to be skeptical, especially considering the fact that many of us guys have tried controlling our breathing while having sex without any noticeable improvement. The reason we don’t see much difference in performance length and overall impressiveness, quite simply, is because we’re not doing it right.

We’ve summarized the technique of deep breathing in our heads and in so doing removed any benefit PROPER breath control can have for us fellas while getting down and dirty.

How it SHOULD Be Done

1.  Keep your focus on your lower torso. As you breathe in, push out your belly and your lower ribs. Don’t suck your stomach in like most people do when they try to breathe deeply. Think of the breathing action as going out and in rather than up and down.

If your chest moves before your belly, or you notice your shoulders rising and falling significantly, you’ll simply reinforce the habit of anxious breathing. Anxious breathing massively decreases your ability to control your sexual arousal. Deep breathing does the reverse and gives you the control back.

2. Keep the breathing natural; don’t try to force it to be perfectly regular. Allow each breath to take the shape and time that feels natural to it. Then rest a little at the end of the out-breath, and wait for the in-breath to start when it wants to.

Forcing regular breathing during sex, which MILLIONS of men do daily in, actually creates more mental anxiety than it eradicates. Keeping it natural and unforced further de-stresses your mind and by doing so gives you heightened control over your body, namely your sexual pleasure.

There’s a multitude of other 100% natural, easy to learn and even easier to use, techniques that can, however much of a surprise it comes as to most men, enhance your performance in bed. You can it make it longer and much more pleasurable to your and your woman, without the pills, sprays or creams so many other men who seek an answer to premature ejaculation use to disappointing effect.

Practice the deep breathing technique above, use it during sex and reap the sexual control benefits! Then, if you want to improve still further, learn and use a few other great arousal management methods.

99.9% Of Men Don’t Know How To Recognize Premature Ejaculation Before It Arrives – Join The .01% Of Guys That Do… TODAY!

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The causes of premature ejaculation (reaching your climax sooner than you’d like) are grossly misunderstood. As such, many men think that their sexual performance, especially how long they’re able to last before climaxing, is unchangeable and not able to be improved.  This is completely untrue.

Just as you can lift weights to add muscle to your skinny frame, or practice your golf swing to lower your handicap, you can improve your sexual prowess and eradicate premature ejaculation forever.

One of the best ways to MASSIVELY improve your sexual arousal control in bed is by understanding your Point of No Return. Your Point of No Return, or PoNR, is the split-second before you climax and ejaculate.

Understand Your Point of No Return

It’s that fleeting moment which, once passed, means you’ve completely lost control of your sexual arousal and that ejaculation is imminent and unavoidable.

Most men know when they hit their own personal PoNR simply because they quickly become aware of the fact that they’re about to climax . An intense ‘glow’ of pleasurable sensations is usually what clues them in.

However, just because most of us guys know when we’ve lost control by passing our PoNR, doesn’t mean that we’re able to use that knowledge to extend and improve our performance; just that we’re shamefully aware of when it’s almost over.

What Most Guys Do

For the first couple of minutes of love-making, which is usually just the start of the first sexual position, they perform care-free – premature ejaculation feels like a distant problem not worth worrying about. After all, so far so good!

A short while later, because of rapidly heightened pleasure sensations, they’ll suddenly become aware of their PoNR. They know that if they don’t change something RIGHT NOW, either by stopping the sex or massively slowing it down, they’ll ejaculate prematurely.

Unbeknownst to them, however, their fate for this sexual encounter has been sealed. Properly controlling their sexual arousal from this point on is going to be an uphill struggle. In short, they’re fighting a losing battle.

So, what SHOULD the guy in the example above have done? How could he have used his PoNR to reverse and ultimately control his sexual arousal? And, therefore, extend and improve his performance?

The answer lies in WHEN you take action. The guy in our example above, like so many millions of men, waited until right before reaching his PoNR to recognize that he was in trouble.

He did this because up until feeling that sudden rush of pleasure down below he thought he was performing well and that his arousal was under control. However, he didn’t realize that his arousal levels has been increasing quickly and silently.

Establish a Pleasure Plan

What YOU must do is establish a pleasure scale in your mind that ranges from 1 to 10.  1 on the pleasure represents no arousal – how you feel before sex begins. 10 is the Point of No Return – the moment when nothing you could possibly do would lower your arousal and give you back control over your sexual performance.

Imagine the Pleasure Scale in your head, with 1 at the bottom and 10 at the top and follow the 4 point plan below.

Doing so will give you an improved ability to recognize when your arousal levels are increasing too quickly and thereby allow you to take action and use some select methods and techniques to DECREASE your arousal and continue on with great sex…without ever stopping or otherwise interrupting your love-making.

That, my friend, is the mark of a true sexual legend.

The 4 Point Plan:

  1. From when the second sex begins till the moment you’re READY to climax, keep the pleasure scale in mind.
  2. Every so often, take a mental note of where you are on the pleasure scale. Have you reached the halfway point yet? Are you around a 2 or 3? Keep identifying where you currently are on the pleasure scale. Doing so allows you to never do what the guy in the example above did; lose track and therefore lose control.
  3. When you feel you’ve reached around the 6 mark on the pleasure scale, think about where you are in the love-making session. If you’re only a couple of minutes in, then proceed to step 4 of this 4 point plan. If you’re over halfway through how long you’d LIKE to last, then continue on regardless.
  4. Before you reach 7 or 8 on the pleasure scale, CHANGE something to decrease your arousal levels. Whether it’s your sexual position, the strength or speed of your strokes or the depth and quality of your breathing, altering your sexual technique at this point of the pleasure scale will give you back your control and thereby allow you to extend your performance and boost your lasting power.

Using this simple formula, of regaining control 2 or 3 steps BEFORE their PoNR, instead of immediately prior to it, the majority of men are able to almost double their staying power. You can, too, so give it a try!

How To Use Sex Positions To Last Longer In Bed And Improve Your Performance By Up To 500%

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You can’t have sex without using at least one sexual position. That’s obvious, right? Most people, though, tend to use more than one.

The average number of positions used per sex “session” is two. That may seem like a really low number, but considering 70% of men ejaculate before their partner is satisfied, it’s not surprising so few positions are able to be used.

The key point that should be noted here, though, is not the number of positions the average couple use, but is instead a much broader principle: Sex, as a physical act, is fundamentally based around the use of different positions.

Therefore, they are inherently linked to the performance of the male, each having a different effect on him and each bringing about a varied amount of satisfaction in the female.

Understanding that simple principle allows you, as a man, to latch onto a much more powerful and useable concept: Your sexual performance, arousal containment and general ability to perform impressively in bed can be directly controlled, improved and boosted by the effective choice and use of sex positions. That’s the topic of this article, so let’s wade right in.

Position Matters

The first thing to always bear in mind when you have sex is how each sex position you use will affect your arousal control. That is, your ability to maintain an erection and continue sex without interruptions and without ejaculating too soon.

Certain positions, because of the way your body is posed, put stress on your legs, arms or other parts of your body.

This stress, caused by maintaining the position while having sex, makes controlling your arousal and holding back from ejaculation much more difficult.

Missionary

Contrary to popular belief, the missionary position does not offer you much control over your arousal despite the fact you’re controlling the motion/action of intercourse. This is because, to properly maintain the missionary position, you have to support your body weight using a combination of your arms and legs.

You’re essentially propping yourself up. After a couple of minutes of propping and thrusting, the stress on your body’s muscles has often increased just enough to tip you over the edge, which causes you to suddenly lose control of your arousal levels and ejaculate too soon.

However, this doesn’t mean you should remove the missionary position from your love-making repertoire. What you should do, is simply be aware of the stresses it can cause and the effects those stresses can have on your ability to control your arousal levels.

With this knowledge, you can choose to use the missionary position as the first one in your sex session while you’re most in control and least tired overall.

Girl On Top

Let’s take this principle of bodily stress and its resulting negative effects on your performance control further.

Positions such as ‘woman on top’ or ‘reverse woman on top’ (her facing away from you, while sitting on you) offer you better control than positions in which you squat down or prop yourself up on an elbow or hand, regardless of the fact that she’s controlling the action.Therefore, try using them nearer the end of your love-making session, when you’re the most physically fatigued and closest to ejaculating.

These are the times when removing the stress caused by certain sex positions can prove crucial in allowing you to avoid premature ejaculation.

Spoons

Finally, never underestimate the power of the ‘Spoons’ position. ‘Spoons,’ if you don’t already know, involves you lying on your side with your legs slightly bent, with the female pressed against your front, her legs slightly parted, her hips tilted to one side, and her knees bent.

This position offers you massive control over your arousal levels. First, because you’re lying down and not forced to maintain an awkward pose (which eliminates the bodily stress principle just described). Second, because you’re fully in control of the thrusting action, which means you can speed up or decrease the power, depth and frequency of the action.

And, if those reasons weren’t enough, you’re in a great position to lean your head over her shoulder, slow down the rhythmic thrust of your hips (and therefore give yourself time to calm your arousal levels), and gently kiss and caress her neck and cheek.

Women love men who take control during sex through the use of different positions. They, however, don’t realize that sex positions give you, as a man, an alternative kind of control – in the form of reliable arousal containment and in the overall improvement of the length and quality of your sexual performance.

Always remember to use sex positions wisely!

Natural Penis Enlargement: How To Strengthen Your Erection And Gain Control Over Your Orgasm

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As you no doubt already know, millions of men and women alike obsess over the subject of penis size.

You see jokes on TV referencing the issue, overhear people in the street discussing the topic, and read, on a daily basis, of the displeasure and embarrassment of men with small penises in the columns of dozens of magazines.

So it pretty much goes without saying that penis size is an internationally popular subject of debate.

Does Penis Size REALLY Matter?

So, what can us men do about what we have down south? And what do women really want from us and our members? Is it sheer size they want? Length? Girth? Both? Neither?

The whole thing’s a quagmire of uncertainty and guesswork at least, on the surface. You see, when you actually ask women (under the right circumstances!) what matters to them regarding their sexual partner’s penis size, you get some interesting and pretty encouraging answers.

Penis Size is NOT Most Important

First off, a large portion of women do love BIG penises, simply because of the pleasure that they can so often bring. The majority of women aren’t size queens, however, but DO universally look and hope for two definite attributes in the penis of their potential partners, neither of which relates to size.

The first can be classified as ‘power’ & ‘strength’, the second is lasting power. Power and strength in a penis is shown through it’s hardness when erect and the angle at which it points. A weak erection is quite soft and droopy, a powerful erection, full of strength, is the opposite: rock hard, meaty and robust, and it’s what women crave, and savor when they encounter it.

Lasting power, as you can probably guess, is quite simply an ability to use that rock hard erection for a long enough time period, without ejaculating too soon. So, how can a guy improve his penis strength and give it more weight and power and an improved angle of erection?

The answer lies in a simple exercise, performed every other day of the week for a couple of months. Its effectiveness is noticeable in just a couple of weeks, but its true capability can produce amazing results that last a lifetime.

Towel Hanging

Step 1: Massage yourself to a full erection.

Step 2: Place a LIGHT flannel or wash-cloth onto your penis near the base.

Step 3: ‘Tense’ your penis so it bobs gently, lifting the towel a little. Tensing and releasing once constitutes one repetition.

Step 4: Do up to 25 reps, but stop if you feel you can’t do that many.  Do 25 reps every other day of the week for a few weeks.

The Results

Once you’ve been performing towel hanging for a while, you’ll notice 2 main results: First, your penis will be rock hard when you have an erection, veins will be more noticeable and it will look and feel weightier. Many men even report an added half inch in length and girth due to the increased blood flow to the penis.

Second, your ability to hold back from ejaculating while masturbating and having sex will be massively increased. The reason for this is because you’re exercising your PC muscle when you do towel hanging, which is central to the functioning of your penis and is also what triggers ejaculation prematurely when it’s unfit and un-toned.

Why Can’t You Last Long Enough In Bed?

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If you can’t last as long during sex as you’d like, then you aren’t alone. As much as 75% of the male population has trouble with premature ejaculation, so it’s by no means rare.

What is rare, however, is seeing a guy solve his problem with rapid ejaculation using the right techniques and tactics. Perhaps this is because most men don’t know exactly what it takes to reverse their run of bad bedroom luck and turn their sex life around by increasing their sexual stamina.

What Causes Premature Ejaculation

The best place to start when solving your own case of ‘coming too quickly’ is identifying the real reasons you struggle to last long enough during sex. Read the following options.

1. You have a hard time controlling when you climax when you’re masturbating and when you have sex with your partner.

2. You only struggle to control when you ejaculate when you have sex. You have no problem doing it when you masturbate. When you have sex, you can’t last more than about 2 minutes before coming.

3. You have no problem with premature ejaculation when you masturbate, only when you have sex. When you have sex, you can usually last longer than 2 minutes, but less than 8 minutes.

No Climax Control?

If option one sounds the closest to your situation, then your premature ejaculation is probably being caused by an underlying case of hypersensitivity and sensational unawareness.

This means that your penis is extremely prone to become over-stimulated as soon as sex begins and that you have a hard time really noticing when you’re close to and about to pass the ‘point of no return’, which, once passed, means that you’re going to climax no matter what you do.

Struggling To Control Ejaculation

If you chose option two, then you probably have less hypersensitivity and more sensation unawareness. This means that your penis does become very stimulated when you have sex, which can make it hard to refrain from coming early, but that your main problem is that you aren’t fully aware of the different stages of arousal you go through before you come.

This means you need to train your body and your mind to recognize when you need to take action during sex to prevent yourself from coming too early.

Controlling Ejaculation During Masturbation But Not During Intercourse

If you chose option 3, then your case of premature ejaculation isn’t too severe, but it is nevertheless something you probably want to get rid of. You’d like to double or even triple the amount of time you’re able to have sex for.

To do this, you need to learn techniques that involve strengthening your PC muscle, heightening your arousal awareness and improving your sexual technique.

Whatever the cause of your personal problem with premature ejaculation is, it can almost always be improved or even fixed when you have the right knowledge and the correct attitude.