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Q&A: Is It Good To Have Big ‘Lips’ or Labia?

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Everyone’s bodies are different, whether we’re skinny, fat, short, tall, black, white or anything in between. But society supposedly shows us what is “beautiful” and what isn’t, leaving us wondering if we’re normal and beautiful. We’re constantly comparing our bodies to those of celebrities and good looking people, and it’s no different when it comes to our sexual body parts too. You may wonder if your unique genitalia are considered “normal” or pretty, and if they look like everyone else’s. What’s normal when it comes to a woman’s genitalia?

Question: Is it good to have big ‘lips’? (And she means labia)

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All Shapes And Sizes

Labia come in all shapes, sizes, colors, textures and thicknesses. The wonderful thing about a woman’s genitalia is that each one is unique and no labia or clitoris looks exactly the same. A woman’s vulva is as unique as she is, and her labia might be smaller than her best friend’s but much bigger than her co-worker’s. Some women have very, very small labia or “lips” and other women might have very large labia. Regardless of what size, shape or color your labia are, they are unique to you and beautiful in their own way.

Learn To Love Yourself

Part of growing up is learning to love yourself for who you are and what you look like. Each person is beautiful and unique, and no one looks exactly like someone else. Even identical twins have something different and unique about themselves, even if it’s something small. While society will continue to bombard us with images of what they think we should look like and act like to be considered beautiful or popular, it’s time we stop looking to celebrities, movie stars and television stars to tell us what is beautiful and what isn’t. You are beautiful in your own way and it’s time we learn to love ourselves from the inside out.

Labiaplasty

Some people just aren’t happy with the way the look, or have some body parts that cause them pain or discomfort. Very large labia may make a woman feel unattractive, or it may be uncomfortable in very tight jeans or underwear. If you truly dislike the shape and size of your labia, a plastic surgery option would be labiaplasty. This procedure is usually performed with an IV sedative and is quick with moderate healing time. During a labiaplasty a qualified surgeon will remove the excess labia tissue to give you more even, smaller labia that are proportionate to the rest of your genitalia. If you are considering labiaplasty as an option, think about why you’re getting the surgery. Don’t get cosmetic or plastic surgery because you’re trying to please someone else or look like someone else. Make sure you’re choosing surgery for the right reasons. Ask yourself some questions. Are you wanting to have surgery because your long labia make sex or wearing some clothes uncomfortable? Does the current appearance of your genitalia make you unhappy and keep you from leading a happy, satisfied lifestyle? Make sure this is something you truly want to do for yourself and that it’s worth the money you’ll be spending.

Q&A: What Are Some Ways To Increase Sperm Count?

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If you and your partner are having sex and trying to get pregnant, you might be worried about your sperm count. Do you have enough sperm? Should you try to increase the quantity of your sperm? There are things you can do to help increase your sperm count with very little effort on your part. Here’s what you can do if you want the maxiumum amound of little swimmers.

Question: I heard that by eating certain foods you can increase your sperm count. What are those foods, and what other ways can I increase my sperm count?

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Eliminate Toxins

While there’s no “magic food” you can eat to increase your sperm count, there are several lifestyle changes you can make that will help keep your sperm count at maximum levels. Start by eliminating any recreational or illegal drugs from your life, and try to cut back or quit smoking cigarettes if you smoke. Don’t drink alcohol often if at all, and talk to your doctor about which perscription drugs may be effecting your sperm count levels. There may be some medicines that you’re taking that will decrease your sperm count and eliminating these medicines (if possible) can help raise your sperm count. Remember to never discontinue taking a medicine your doctor has prescribed without discussing it with them first. Also, try to eliminate other toxins from your diet by eating fresh, whole foods and avoiding processed foods.

Let The Boys Breathe

Sperm don’t like extreme heat, so very hot baths, showers and hot tubs can easily decrease your sperm count. Take cooler showers and avoid taking baths or getting in the hot tub while you’re trying to get your partner pregnant. Also, tight underwear such as briefs and boxer briefs can lower your sperm levels because they hold your scrotum closer to your body and keeping sperm at a higher temperature. Try switching to loose, freeflowing boxers to allow your scrotum to stay at a temperature that maximizes sperm production.

Have Less Sex And Masturbate Less

To make sure each ejaculation is loaded with as much sperm as possible, try having sex and masturbating less often than you currently do. Frequent masturbation and frequent sex can lower sperm count because your body doesn’t have time to produce enough sperm in between ejaculations. Another way to increase your sperm count is to try to reduce your stress levels. Relax, get a massage or listen to music when you’re stressed. Try to eliminate stressful situations from your life as much as possible. If you have any questions about your sperm levels, your current medications or other ways you can increase your sperm count, visit your doctor. Your doctor is the best person to give you medical advice, based on your current health condition. If you continue to have trouble getting your partner pregnant, you can also make an appointment to visit a fertility clinic and have an analysis done on your sperm. Try making some lifestyle changes first – it’s free and may solve your problem without the time and expense spent going to a fertility clinic.

Q&A: What To Do When Masturbation Gets Boring

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While masturbation is a great way to satisfy your desire for sexual pleasure whether you’re a man or a woman, sometimes it can get boring if you’re doing it the same way every time. Here’s what you can do if you want to spice up masturbation and make it more pleasurable, whether you’re single or are waiting to have sex until you’re married.

Question: My problem is with masturbation and I like to do so every so often but it’s gotten boring to me. What would you suggest I do to spice it up? Twist? Bend? Masturbate harder? I need help so that I can stay a virgin until I marry my girlfriend!

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Focusing On Different Fantasies

Having mental involvement with masturbation is one of the best ways to make masturbation better and more pleasurable. Try thinking about different fantasies while masturbating, or even try adding some visual stimulation like pornography or erotic novels if they work with your fantasies. Think of different things that really turn you on and incorporate them during masturbation. You may not be changing your physical masturbation techniques at all, but you’ll notice a big difference in the pleasure factor if you’re fantasizing about something that really gets you hot. There are a thousands and thousands of different magazines, videos and books out there, so there is definitely something for everyone no matter what your favorite flavor is.

Masturbation Toys

There are hundreds of masturbation toys available for both men and women. Women can experiment with different types of vibrators and dildos, experimenting with different sizes, shapes and textures to mix things up during masturbation. For different masturbation sensations, men can try a variety of male masturbation toys. Soft silicone masturbation sleeves with different textures can give you lots of different feelings during masturbation and make masturbation even more satisfying. Try going online and taking a look at the variety of male masturbation toys that you can buy, and look at ones that have different shapes and textures like studded or ribbed. You can even get a masturbation sleeve that was molded from an adult movie star’s genitals to go with your favorite movie if that turns you on. There are lots of ways to incorporate toys into masturbation, you just have to be a little creative and see what’s out there!

Are You Reaching Orgasm With Masturbation?

Most men do reach orgasm during masturbation, but many women do not, leaving them unsatisfied and always wanting more. If masturbation is getting boring for you or doesn’t seem to be satisfying you sexually, make sure you’re actually reaching the finish line. If you masturbate without actually reaching orgasm, you won’t get the sexual satisfaction your body needs and will pretty much be in a perpetual state of sexual desire. Make sure you’re having an orgasm at the end of each masturbation session. If you do reach orgasm after masturbating and still don’t feel satisfied afterwards, your body may actually be desiring multiple orgasms. Don’t short yourself! Give yourself plenty of time to masturbate without being interrupted so that you have the freedom to have as many orgasms as you need while masturbating to feel satisfied afterwards.

Q&A: Are There Side Effects To Masturbation – Good Or Bad?

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Masturbation is an absolutely normal, healthy part of your sex life whether you’re a guy or a girl. But pretty much everything has side effects, right? Does masturbation have any potential side effects, both good and bad? What can you expect from masturbation and what is the best way to handle it?

Question: Are there any side effects to masturbation? Is it true that if you masturbate on a daily basis, when you have sex with your girlfriend you won’t be as aroused or you won’t crave the sex as much? Can it affect penis size or growth?

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Penis Size And Growth

Masturbation – even frequent masturbation – won’t affect your penis size or penis growth. Masturbation won’t affect puberty at all, so you don’t have to worry about masturbation stunting your growth or causing weight gain. If you masturbate often without proper lubricant, you might end up a little raw or sore, but there are no growth side effects from masturbation at all. Masturbation definitely won’t give you hairy palms or make you go blind either. Masturbation, if not in excess, is normal and healthy for both men and women.

Using Masturbation To Decrease Need For Sex

Many men, both teenagers and adults, have a very prominent sex drive. They enjoy sex and want it often. If they are sexually active, they’re usually very excited and it can cause a man to climax very quickly or even prematurely before sex. Masturbation can be used to “calm” a man down before sex, allowing him to slow down and enjoy it more. His body won’t be in such an extreme state of desire that he is completely focused on sex. Men who have very active sex drives may find that masturbation helps them to lead a more normal, satisfying life. Other men, however, may have the opposite effect from masturbation. They may find that masturbation satisfies their need for sexual pleasure so thoroughly that they aren’t able to climax or even become erect when having sex with their partners. Experiment with masturbation before sex and see how it affects you. You may find that you don’t need to masturbate at all if you’re with someone with whom you have sex with regularly, or you may find that you need to masturbate often in addition to having sex to truly satisfy your needs and make your sex life more enjoyable.

Are You Addicted To Masturbation?

Masturbation – just like sex, drugs, cigarettes, food and alcohol – can be addicting. If you find yourself masturbating very often, daily or even more than once a day, you may be addicted to masturbation. Ask yourself a few questions. Do you find that you’re masturbating out of habit, without even thinking about it? Do you find that masturbating is interfering with your life? Are you turning down dates or going home after school or work instead of hanging out with your friends so you can masturbate? Masturbation can be addicting and it is possible to break the addiction and have good, healthy masturbation instead. Consider talking to a sex therapist or a counselor if you find that you may be addicted to masturbation.

Q&A: Birth Control Advice

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Having sex for the very first time inevitably brings lots of questions with it. Not only are you thinking about how first time sex is going to feel or if it’s going to hurt, you’re also thinking about how to protect yourself against pregnancy and STD’s. Should you go on birth control or just use a condom only?

Question: This summer me and my boyfriend are planning on having sex for the first time ever. We know how to put on a condom but I don’t have birth control. Do you have any advice for us? We are really not ready for a kid and we need your help!!!

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Double Layer Defense

Condoms are absolutely essential to use if you want to protect yourself from sexually transmitted diseases and pregnancy. But there are other ways to protect yourself against unexpected pregnancy too. If you really don’t want to get pregnant, think about having a double layer defense when you start having sex. Hormonal birth control is something you can add to condom use to give yourself extra protection. The condom will help keep the sperm from entering the vagina, but even if a few escape, your birth control – if taken correctly – will have prevented an egg from being released and fertilized by those rogue sperm. A double layer defense is the best way to go if you just aren’t ready for a kid right now in any way, shape or form.

What Kind Of Birth Control Is Right For You?

Once you’ve decided to take birth control, it’s time to visit your doctor. You can also visit the your local health department for free or low cost services. Your doctor will perform a cervical exam to check for cancer and sexually transmitted diseases, as well as doing a breast exam. Part of becoming sexually active is being responsible enough to make sure your body is healthy. Your doctor can talk to you about the best type of birth control for you, because there are a number of different types to choose from. Oral contraception is the most popular choice but there are other forms of hormonal birth control as well. If you are one to forget a daily pill, you might want to talk to your doctor about using a birth control ring, patch or injection.

Think Ahead

Another part of becoming sexually active is being responsible enough to think ahead. You know that having sex means you could possibly get pregnant. You’re doing everything you can to prevent that from happening, but there is a very small chance that you could get pregnant anyways, regardless of everything you’re doing to the contrary. The only absolutely 100% effective form of birth control is abstinence. Take some time before you have sex to talk to your partner and think about what you’ll do if you do accidentally get pregnant. There are a several options in front of you should that happen, including adoption, abortion and becoming a parent. Decide what you’ll do if you get pregnant now, so if it does happen, you’ve got a plan.