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Sex Toys 101: How To Buy Your First Vibrator

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Many couples are discovering that vibrators and other sex toys can enhance their sex lives by adding a little fun and variety.

And with masturbation – especially female masturbation (yes, it does happen) – being somewhat taboo in society today, a woman interested in pleasuring herself may have few options. Many women choose to masturbate with vibrators or dildos, and share their sex toys with their partners. Where can you get vibrators or dildos?

But if it’s your first time, what do you start with? What is the right vibrator for you?

If you’ve been curious about vibrators, particularly about buying your first one, this is just the video for you. We’ll walk you through 5 simple steps for choosing the perfect vibrator for you. It’s easier than you’re thinking right now!

How You’re Going To Use Your Vibrator

The first step is to decide how you’re going to use a prospective sex toy. Do you want to use it by yourself? Do you want to use it with a partner, or both? Do you need a vibrator with tittillating action, or will a non-vibrating, standard dildo do for you? Do you want something just to massage your clitoris, or would you like to use it for insertion? Do you want a toy that does double – both massaging your clitoris and inserting and stimulating your g-spot at the same time? Deciding what the most important aspects of owning a vibrator are for you is a crucial first step in finding the right vibrator for you.

What Material Do You Want Your Sex Toy Made Out Of?

There are several different types of sex toy materials available on the market today – for example, one of the newer materials is called Cyberskin and is soft and squishy, with a very real skin-like sensation. This is a great material for a penis-shaped dildo, making it more realistic. You can also buy plastic, silicone or steel vibrators, or go with softer silicone or even glass dildos or vibrators. Check out a sex toy website that will allow you to browse different materials available so you can find out what type of material intrigues you the most.

What Size And Shape Should Your Sex Toy Be?

Size and shape are very important when it comes to finding the perfect sex toy or dildo for yourself. Vibrators and dildos come in a complete variety of shapes and sizes. Do you want something small and discreet that will fit in your handbag? Or would you like a very large, very wide dildo that will bring you to the brink of the kind of pleasure you can withstand? Do you want something medium sized that will get the job done? Think about what you’re most comfortable with sexually so you can find the right size for you – it’s not a one size fits all sort of deal.

Your Vibrator’s Power Source

If you’ve decided to go with a vibrator and not a standard, non-vibrating dildo, you can run into the issues of recharging your vibrator or switching batteries. Both are good ways to charge your vibrator but both have their disadvantages. Running out of batteries (and often not having any more on hand) in the heat of the moment can be a huge disappointment, while having a cordless, rechargable vibrator can be quite expensive. Think about how convenient you want your vibrator to be by determining how often you think you’re going to use it.

You Get What You Pay For

If this is your first time vibrator or dildo, you might not be prepared to spend a hundred dollars or more on the hottest, most realistic vibrator on the market today. But you certainly are going to get what you pay for. That doesn’t mean there isn’t middle ground. Look for a dildo or vibrator that is in your price range, but the cheaper you go, the less features and power your new vibrator is going to have. You don’t have to spend a fortune, but for a good vibrator or dildo, you’re going to spend more than five bucks.

Sex Tip: How To Give Her A G-Spot Orgasm

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Finding the g-spot can be difficult, but once you’ve found it, you may feel like you’ve struck oil, or reached the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow! Hold on – you’re not done yet. Once you’ve found a woman’s g-spot (and every woman is different, but it’s located in the same general area), it’s time to give her an amazing g-spot orgasm. Many women say this is the deepest, most powerful type of orgasm they’ve ever had. So are you ready to rock your woman’s world?

Now that you’ve watched the video on how to find the g-spot, in this video you’ll find out how to give her a g-spot orgasm both with your fingers and through intercourse plus you’ll also discover the two biggest things that must happen before she’ll be able to have a g-spot orgasm. We want to know – have you ever experienced a g-spot orgasm, or know someone that has? Share with us on our YouTube page!

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Stimulating Her G-Spot With Your Fingers

Once you’ve found it, stimulating your partner’s g-spot takes a little more pressure than you would normally use if your were stimulating your partner’s clitoris. Stimulating your partner’s g-spot is actually quite simple – just rub back and forth, back and forth and side to side in a curved, “come here” motion with your fingers. Communicate with your partner to make sure you’re using the type of pressure she likes and that you’re in the right spot. Communicating with your partner sexually can be as easy as asking a question, or listening to your partner’s vocalizations and body language.

Stimulating Her G-Spot With Your Penis During Intercourse

Stimulating your partner’s g-spot during intercourse is a little bit more difficult that stimulating it with your fingers. It’s not impossible though – it just involves a little more patience and some tricky angles. The reason your fingers work so well to stimulate your partner’s g-spot is that they’re curved, and most penises aren’t curved. Therefore, you have to use different positions to angle your penis towards your partner’s g-spot. The best positions for g-spot stimulation during sexual intercourse are woman-on-top, where she can control the angle, pressure and speed of the stimulation, doggy-style, and missionary position with her legs on your shoulders. All of these positions allow for the head of the penis to more directly stimulate the g-spot, and some of them allow for g-spot stimulation in conjunction with clitoral stimulation for a possible blended orgasm.

An Essential Component To G-Spot Bliss

For a woman to have a g-spot orgasm, she must be completely and totally relaxed, and completely and totally turned on. Going from zero to sixty in a few minutes isn’t going to give your partner a g-spot orgasm, but she’s more likely to have one if you’ve spent a lot of time with your partner using foreplay, stimulating her nipples and licking her clitoris. She’s even more likely to have a g-spot orgasm if she’s had a clitoral orgasm or two first. Women who reach orgasm don’t come down completely like a man does after an orgasm – they stay at a slightly lowered state of heightened arousal, so it’s easier for them to reach multiple orgasms. A woman needs to be absolutely comfortable with her partner too – so spend time talking to each other and really getting to know each other too.

How To Give Her Toe-Curling Orgasms Sooo Intense, She’ll Beg You For More

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How do you get better at sex? Is there some tried and true way to improve your sexual stamina, your sexual appeal and your sexual technique? Or does it just happen? So many men ask themselves these same things every day – how can I become a sex god? How can I really, truly please my woman in bed like she’s never been pleased before?

Here are some surprising facts about sex (from The Sex God Method) that even the most sexually aware man probably doesn’t know:

  • Psychological stimulation is the most important factor in sex
  • Dominance is an important characteristic for a man to have if he is going to succeed during sex
  • Being a sexual master isn’t about learning new things, it’s about unlearning bad habits
  • Sex is intensely emotional and it’s impossible to hide our emotions during sex
  • There is no reason for a woman to be unfaithful if you rock her world every time you have sex
  • Perfect sexual technique sounds great on paper, but is effectively ineffective in the bedroom

It is absolutely amazing how many men out there are doing exactly the things they shouldn’t be doing if they want to become a master of sex. For example, how often does the polite, respectful man get anything other than plain, vanilla sex? What about the ultra cool, pick up artist that takes home practically every woman he sees? He doesn’t enjoy the sex, he just enjoys the thrill of the hunt.

How many guys have found themselves doing everything right in the bedroom, getting his woman to cum multiple times, having amazing sex and then all of a sudden things start to fizzle? Sex wasn’t the way it was – or it is the same way it was, it’s just not as good anymore. What’s a guy to do?

What if you could become a sex god? What if you could unlearn all of your bad behaviors and learn how to give  any woman the most intense and pleasurable sex of her life? You would immediately say YES! Wouldn’t you?

We recently had the opportunity to read an amazing book on this very topic from our good friend Daniel Rose called “The Sex God Method”. To put it bluntly… He just nailed it! This is a must read book for any man – period.

The Sex God Method will teach you what you need to know to rock a woman’s world in bed. It explains everything you’ve been doing wrong, changes your entire perception about sex and teaches you the attitude you need to have if you want to be a sex master. In fact, the Sex God Method is only for men who want a total and complete makeover in the sex department – this book is definitely not for men who want an easy fix.

Here’s just a sneak peek at what the Sex God Method will show you:

  • The Four Principles of Sex that will turn your world upside down
  • How to make psychological stimulation override physical stimulation
  • How emotions in the bedroom can make sex the most powerful you and your partner have ever felt
  • How to become dominant and manhandle your woman (in a good way) to make her want more
  • How to tease her the right way
  • Using variety during sex with your partner to keep sex from getting boring
  • How to use extended teasing to get your girl to reach the Continuously Orgasmic State
  • Learn how to be a Shape shifter in bed
  • Eliminate limiting beliefs that get you nowhere when it comes to great sex

What is so unique about the Sex God Method is that it doesn’t teach you specific techniques that will make your woman cum over and over again, it teaches you how to be the man that makes your woman cum over and over again.

A small word of warning when it comes to the Sex God Method – while it’s theme is that women inherently want to be dominated, society teaches them that this is somehow offensive. Let your girl get hold of this book and you might get into trouble, because while the Sex God Method is revolutionary, it can easily be misconstrued by someone not in the right mindset.

Also, if you use the DEVI method taught in this book, your partner IS very likely going to become addicted to sex. She’s liable to to become absolutely addicted to your sex like a drug, and she’s going to want her fix every time you turn around. Employ the Sex God Method only if you’re willing and ready to give your sex life a complete overhaul.

“Completely original sex advice that is revolutionary and counter-intuitive. Definitely a must read for all men.” -Maxim

So if you’re ready to become a complete sex god and have your woman cumming all over you again and again, download the Sex God Method today. It might just be the best thing that ever changed your sex life.

And be sure to check out the 2 minute video on the Sex God Method website, to find out How To Avoid The Single BIGGEST Mistake Almost All Men Make In Bed.

When Preoccupation With The Stuff Of Life Interferes With Your Love Life

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There are times when the stuff of life gets in the way of good loving. Whether it’s the demands of work, raising children, or friends and family who need extra attention, life is messy and therefore demanding. My husband and I have experienced this lately and stumbled upon a cure for turning our attention back on us as a couple.

The secret to breaking free of preoccupation with the stuff of life is simple and direct. It lies in the nature of who you are as a man and a woman.

Talking Sexy

If your husband is the one who is preoccupied, find moments to talk sexy. Find double entendres in his speech and get the pair of you giggling. Without needing anything from him in return, admire something about him that you find sexy. It could be the sound of his voice, the way he rests his weight on one leg while resting his hands on his hips when he’s standing around waiting for someone, the hair around his temples graying, or the way he handled a difficult situation. Whatever you can admire about your man, do it without a need for attention. In a relaxed atmosphere, your sexy talk and admiration will soften the cloud of preoccupation hovering around him. He’ll rest his handsome eyes on you, take you in, and allow the chemistry between you to percolate.

Talking Her Up

If your wife is the one who is preoccupied, find genuine ways to compliment her. If her hair is especially pretty or her outfit is particularly becoming, tell her so. If she has just cooked a delicious meal, really pour on the praise and do one more thing. Insist on either cleaning up after supper or insist on helping. Even if she is an “I’ve gotta do it my way so don’t get in my way” kind of woman and can actually be irritated by an extra pair of helping hands, then just clear the table for her. Or find her favorite music or something on television she’s keen on to keep her company while she works.

One of the nicest ways to compliment any woman is to notice the things she does to keep the household running smoothly, tell her you appreciate it, and offer to do some of those things so that she can have time to herself to relax. Particularly when she is preoccupied with fresh demands on her, perhaps a good friend is having surgery, for example; you can anticipate some of the stuff she usually takes care of and tell her you will handle it.

Talking Magic

You probably noticed that I suggest you do two completely different things depending on the sex of the person who is preoccupied. That is purposeful, so let me explain. When your spouse is preoccupied while you pine for his or her attention, the best way to get that attention is to get inside his or her head.

Most men are crazy about sex. A woman who can tease and cajole about sexy topics gets her man in touch with the thing that connects him to his heart, sex. That kind of gentle love talk can persuade him to relax and take notice of her like a magic spell. Most women feel as though they give too much. When her man appreciates everything she does, continues to find her attractive, and is proactive about lending a helping hand, he hands her an aphrodisiac that works, again, like magic.

So break through the preoccupation with the stuff of life by putting attention on the things that will speak care, concern, and interest to your spouse the most. While the “stuff” may continue to need his or her attention, you can get a little loving attention for yourself to tide you over till life is normal again.

3 Ways To Give Her MORE Orgasms With A Smaller Penis

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If you are worried that your penis is too small to give your girl an adequate orgasm, you’re not alone. Most guys are worried about their penis size, particularly that it’s not big enough. Even if your penis size is completely normal, you may still be worried that it’s not big enough to give your woman the kind of orgasms she wants. Going with the assumption that you feel you have a small penis, here are three pretty much foolproof tips to give your girlfriend or wife better orgasms – regardless of your size.

Tip #1 – True Masculine Dominance

Even if you feel you have a small penis, having true masculine dominance will give you more clout in the bedroom. Women are inherently built to be submissive when it comes to sex (although playing with role reversal can be fun too) and when you play to that side of her nature, you can give her the impression that you are a true, dominant man. Believe it or not, this makes a huge difference in the bedroom! You can use this dominance to work around penis size to get your girl turned on mentally as well as physically. Having true masculine dominance, however, is not about being a jerk or being rude. It’s simply about taking your place as the alpha male and letting your partner get back to her instincts.

Tip #2 – Stimulate Her G-Spot

Before stimulating her G-Spot, go down on your partner a little, give her a bit of dirty talk and get her nice and wet. You want her to be very turned on before you penetrate her, so that her G-Spot will be easier to find and easier to stimulate. To compensate for what you feel may be a small penis size, you can thrust at an upward angle to access the G-Spot and give her powerful orgasms regardless of penis size. Use the angle to your advantage, and try stimulating her clitoris at the same time, for powerful blended orgasms. Practice makes perfect and if you get skilled at G-Spot sex, your girl really isn’t going to care much about the size of your penis at all.

Tip #3 – Have Bulletproof Sexual Confidence

Be comfortable with who you are, and be comfortable with yourself sexually. Even if you feel that your penis is on the smaller size of normal, if you are comfortable and confident with your sexual skills, it will show through in the bedroom. So how do you get bulletproof sexual confidence? Hone your skills. Research, study and watch videos. Take the time to learn how to truly please a woman, with more than just your penis. Your research will pay off, and you’ll know you have your sexual skills down pat. That will, in turn, make you more confident that you know what you’re doing in the bedroom, and you know how to please a woman. Nothing turns a woman off faster than a newbie who is fumbling around down there, not knowing which way is up, regardless of how huge and mighty his penis may be. Get confident with yourself, get comfortable with yourself. Be dominant, and use techniques that work with your penis size and not against it. You’ll be able to give your woman more orgasms than you ever thought possible.