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A Valentine’s Day Bondage Guide

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Valentine’s Day is the perfect time to bring something new – like bondage – to the bedroom. Your partner will be more receptive to trying bondage for the first time on Valentine’s Day, and if you and your lover have already experimented with tying each other up before, now is a great time to step it up a night. Here is your bondage guide for Valentine’s Day – what you need, how to keep it safe and how to reach the next level!

The Right Kind Of Bondage Rope

The type of rope you use for bondage is extremely important. Grabbing just any old rope from your shed, garage or the hardware store just isn’t going to work in the bedroom. Well, it will work on a technical level, but it will definitely be uncomfortable and may cause pain and discomfort from mild to severe rope burns. Honestly, when trying anything new when it comes to sex, it’s important that you have the right tools for the job. This Valentine’s Day, invest a little money (not a lot, because most bondage rope is generally inexpensive) in the right kind of rope for bondage play. You can choose from a variety of different rope materials, ranging all the way from nylon to natural fiber and hemp. There are also different braids available, but those are a matter of personal preference. Any rope that is made specifically for bedroom play will work just fine.

Blindfolds? Yes, Please!

A big part of BDSM is blindfolding. This adds a certain element of surprise and mystery to sex, because your partner can’t see what you’re about to do or where you’re going next. This heightens the pleasurable sensations during sex and oral sex ten fold because anticipation is a huge part of experiencing sexual pleasure. Don’t leave out blindfolds in your bedroom play this Valentine’s Day! You can purchase a special love mask by itself, or you can get a “beginner’s bondage kit” that usually includes a blindfold along with other BDSM items such as paddles, feather ticklers, light whips and fuzzy handcuffs. If you’re really short on cash, try using a silk scarf or tie for a blindfold instead. It’s easy to use and doesn’t cost a thing!

Keeping Bondage Safe And Fun

One of the most important parts of bondage and BDSM play is to make sure you’re doing it safely and everyone involved is having a good time. You definitely want to follow the safety rules on Valentine’s Day to make sure your sexy “gift” doesn’t backfire on you! Here are some simple guidelines to use when bringing bondage and BDSM into the bedroom so you and your partner both have fun!

  • Have a “safe word” that is totally unrelated to sex (i.e. banana, waffle, Christmas tree, etc.)
  • Don’t be afraid to use the safe word if you are uncomfortable or are in pain and want the play to stop immediately.
  • If your partner uses the safe word, it is your job to stop whatever you’re doing right away!
  • Discuss with your partner beforehand what is acceptable and what isn’t. For example, oral sex while being tied up is fine, but you want to be untied before having sex so you can participate.
  • Don’t ever insert sex toys without your partner’s consent (and without lube!)

Taking BDSM To The Next Level

Lots of people enjoy light bondage, but others enjoy heavy BDSM play. If you’ve tried rope, handcuffs and the like, you may be ready to take your bedroom play to the next level this Valentine’s Day. Try incorporating a little pain into the mix, with some gentle nipping and biting or spanking. Use a paddle for spanking, as this is so much more comfortable for the spanker than using your hand! It can also feel better for the spankee, because some paddles are padded and shaped just right. Here’s a quick list of other things you can try this Valentines Day if you feel like you’ve already tried just about everything else!

  • Roleplaying. Act out a hot fantasy with your partner like teacher/student or doctor/patient.
  • Diaper play. Do you have a diaper fetish but haven’t come out of the “closet” so to speak? Try getting your partner involved!
  • Mutual masturbation. Never had the guts to masturbate in front of your partner? Give them a show this Valentines Day!
  • Tantric sex. Want a more romantic way to connect with your partner sexually? Try tantric sex for mind blowing orgasms.
  • Try new sex positions. After all, new sex positions can make regular old vanilla sex something new and exciting on any night!

10 Valentine’s Day Sex Toys That You’ll Both Love

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Giving the perfect Valentine’s Day gift is easy when you remember that Valentine’s Day is all about love, romance and hot, steamy sex! Sex toys make great gifts for the 14th, and they’re usually things you and your partner can enjoy together! Plan a night full of trying new things and give her a brand new Valentine’s Day vibrator or glass dildo that she’ll absolutely love. Adam & Eve has tons of great cupid themed gifts that will make your partner swoon.

Don’t forget – use offer code DANJENN when checking out to save 50% on any one item AND you’ll receive free shipping and some great mystery gifts! This is an offer that is too good to pass up!

Red Hearts Glass Dildo

This gorgeous glass dildo is clear with a flared tip and a wide base, making it suitable for both vaginal and anal penetration. The shaft of the Red Hearts Glass Dildo ($17.50 with 50% off – offer code DANJENN) has raised hearts made from glass piping to add extra texture and stimulation with every thrust. You can cool your glass dildo down by placing it in the fridge or freezer, or warm it up by running it under hot water. It’s truly the sexiest Valentine’s Day gift you can get!

Adam & Eve’s Lover’s Ring

Take a cock ring to the next level and give the Lover’s Ring ($4.98 with 50% off  – offer code DANJENN) to your partner this Valentine’s Day. The Lover’s Ring is a 3″ long cock ring that stretches over most of the penis shaft and it’s crafted from pink silicone hearts for her pleasure. The heart-shaped ridges make his penis feel thicker than ever and will also help prolong his orgasm so sex lasts as long as you want it to. This really is a must see – and a must have!

My Secret Valentine Tingle Gel

Up the pleasure factor for her this Valentine’s Day with Adam & Eve’s My Secret Valentine Tingle Gel ($4.98 with 50% off – offer code DANJENN). Plan a night of amazing oral sex and apply the tingle gel to her vagina and clitoris before going down on her. What a difference it makes! Special herbs and hormones in the gel stimulate blood flow to the vagina and clitoris, enhancing every sensation! Packaged in a sweet pink lip-gloss style canister, this strawberry flavored gel is a treat for both you and your partner. Bonus gift included with your purchase is a clear silicone vibrating cock ring for even more fun!

Hustler Heartbreaker Vibrator

The Hustler Heartbreaker Vibrator ($16.50 with 50% off – offer code DANJENN) is a smooth and sleek vibe with a gorgeous, deep red color. Both ends of this vibrator are flared so you can stimulate your g-spot with one side and operate the easy to use controls with the other. Your partner will absolutely love how chic and expensive-looking this toy is, and she’ll think you spent a fortune on a name-brand vibrator just for her. Only you’ll know that you actually got it for half price!

Adam & Eve’s Heart Warmer Massager

Why not seduce your partner this Valentine’s Day with an erotic massage before giving her the best sex of her life? Use the Heart Warmer Massager ($4.98 with 50% off – offer code DANJENN) to get her relaxed before giving her an amazing orgasm. This heart shaped, red liquid filled pillow has a secret “snap button” inside that magically heats up the gel without hot water or a microwave. Perfect for use with massage oils or lube. Plus, it’s reusable!

Sexy Slave Kit

Why not try a little BDSM or bondage this Valentine’s Day? Adam & Eve’s Sexy Slave Kit ($13.50 with 50% off – offer code DANJENN) is perfect for beginners, and the red hot colors are perfect for the 14th – and any day after that! The kit includes four deep red, velvety soft wrist and ankle restraints, making it easy to tie your partner up and have your way with her. The kit also features a red velvet blindfold and a feather tickler to help you tease and seduce!

B3 Onye Fleur Vibrator

This tiny, glossy red bullet vibe is a perfect Valentine’s Day gift for the girl on the go. The B3 Onye Fleur Vibrator ($17.50 with 50% off – offer code DANJENN) offers 3 vibrating speeds for discreet pleasure that rivals even the big rabbit vibrators! Unlike many bullet vibrators, this one has a textured silicone grip that allows your girl to hang on tight while she rides the waves of pleasure. It’s waterproof too, so don’t forget to take it in the tub for some wet and wild Valentine’s Day fun.

Adam & Eve Bag Of Love

Treat yourself and your partner to a bag of sexy Valentine’s Day goodies this year. Adam & Eve’s Bag Of Love ($24.98 with 50% off – offer code DANJENN) contains tons of great sex toys and intimate products that will make your evening absolutely amazing. Stimulate your partner with the mini red vibrator (with different textured tips) after you tape her up with red bondage tape, or get her relaxed with a hot oil massage using the Liquid Love massage lotion and the Heart Warmer heated massager. Also included are a heart shaped jelly cock ring, a red satin blindfold, Lover’s Lotto Cards and a mini red silicone butt plug and red glossy anal beads! Of course, a bottle of toy cleaner is also included to keep your kit looking brand new every time you use it!

Inflatable Lover’s Pillow

What’s Valentine’s Day without trying a few new sex positions? Make trying out different sex positions easy with the Inflatable Lover’s Pillow ($8.48 with 50% off – offer code DANJENN). This red, heart shaped blow up pillow is about 15″ wide and 15″ long, so you can use it to get in all kinds of fun new sex positions! Use it for deeper doggy style or to lift her buttocks up while you perform oral sex on her. The possibilities are endless!

Red Hot Butt Plug

Try a little anal play on Valentine’s Day with this gorgeous red silicone butt plug. While the Red Hot Butt Plug ($6.48 with 50% off – offer code DANJENN)may look big (it’s flared at the tip and in the middle of the shaft), it’s actually only 4″ long and about 1/4″ wide, so it’s great for both anal sex beginners and those looking to add a new toy to their anal sex collection.

Valentine’s Day Gift Idea – Hot Sex And Explosive Orgasms

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Coming up with a gift for Valentine’s Day for your lover is no easy task, especially when movies, dinners and chocolates are totally played out. Instead of giving her a gift she’s going to expect this Valentine’s Day, surprise her with a night of super hot sex and give her an orgasm (or two…or three) that she’ll remember for months after the last frost. Be prepared to give her an encore though – these sex tips will have her lusting after you and begging you for sex every time you turn around!

Learn How To Give Her Oral Sex

If you’ve never gone down on your parnter before (or haven’t in awhile), make a point to go down south this Valentine’s Day. You may think you know how to eat a girl out, but take some time to really learn how to push her pleasure buttons when you’re between her legs. There are so many different ways to please a woman orally that it can be difficult to sort through the ones that look like they’ll work (and the oral sex tips that look like total bunk), but here are some easy tips to get you started.

  • The clitoris has over 8,000 nerve endings in it. Pay attention to it!
  • The g-spot is easier to find after she’s already aroused.
  • Don’t head straight for her clitoris – it may be uncomfortable. Start with slow kisses all around to get her warmed up.
  • Be prepared to camp out for awhile. Your goal is to bring her to orgasm and it may not happen right away.
  • Make noise. She wants to know that you’re enjoying it too.
  • Make Valentine’s Day all about hot sex and her pleasure.

Learn How To Give Her A Blended Orgasm

Women are capable of having multiple orgasms in one night and they’re also capable of having two different types of orgasms at one time! Take advantage of the fact that your lover is more versatile in the orgasm department than you are and learn how to give her hot sex this Valentine’s Day that she’ll remember for months to come. Most women can have a clitoral orgasm pretty easily (this is most likely the type of orgasm she gives herself during masturbation) and many girls can also reach orgasm through stimulation of the g-spot. By stimulating both the clitoris and the g-spot at the same time, you can give her a blended orgasm – both types of climax at the same time! Start with these simple tips.

  • If you’ve never found her g-spot before, now is the time to locate it. It’s about 2 inches in on the top wall of her vagina.
  • Get her aroused first. Licking the clitoris and fingering the g-spot without her being warmed up could be disastrous.
  • Don’t try to give her a blended orgasm through penetration at first. You’re better off using fingering and oral sex.
  • Switch back and forth between clitoral and g-spot stimulation before you stimulate both at the same time.
  • Get comfortable. It may take awhile for her to build up to a blended orgasm.

Cuddle With Her Afterwards

After a night of hot sex (especially on Valentine’s Day) it is extremely important to let your partner know that she is loved and cherished. Mental stimulation is just as important for a woman as physical stimulation is, and if she gets one without the other, she may be feeling like she got jipped. Take some time after having sex to hold her, whisper in her ear and snuggle with her. Let her know how much you enjoy having sex with her and how great she makes you feel. Even more than the orgasms you gave her, letting her know how special she is will really put her on cloud nine! Here are some things you can say to her to seal the deal and make this Valentine’s Day truly amazing for her.

  • “I love giving you pleasure. It makes my whole night.”
  • “You make me feel amazing. When I’m with you, I forget about everything else.”
  • “Your body is a perfect fit with mine. It’s like we were made for each other.”
  • “I love you.”
  • “I can’t wait until we can spend another night like this together again.”
  • “You make sex so hot! You are incredible!”
  • “I’ll remember this Valentine’s Day forever.”

By adding a bit of romance to a night of hot sex on Valentine`s Day, you can make sure she is fulfilled on both a physical and emotional level. This is what will really have her coming back for more over and over again!

Christian Sex Toys – WTF?

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Many people think sex toys are “dirty” or “wrong” and Christians shouldn’t use them. But there is actually nothing in the Bible says that married couples can’t enjoy sex with lubes, massage oils and even sex toys. The problem that most religious people have with shopping for sex toys in a traditional adult store is having to deal with all of the brazenly “adult” products, pictures and porn DVD’s. Is there a way that people of faith can enjoy sex more with their spouses without immersing themselves in the adult entertainment industry?

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Thou Shalt Not Use Sex Toys?

While many Christians and other religions believe that sex toys and lube are “dirty” or “wrong,” there is actually nothing in the Bible that suggests that married couples who are using sex toys together are doing anything wrong! There is nothing that says, “Thou shalt not use sex toys,” so the myth that Christians can’t enjoy these additions to their bedroom repertoire is just that – a myth.

More and more Christian sex toy stores are popping up all over the Internet (and some are even actual brick and concrete stores) that cater specifically to religious couples. Book 22 is a website that offers “intimacy products for married couples,” and The Pure Bed is an online “married couples intimacy store.” Those are just a few of these types of stores that are becoming available to this niche – a quick Internet search will reveal dozens of stores that offer similar products for Christians.

The Benefit Of Sex Toy Stores For Christians

Lots of religious married couples are interested in purchasing “marital aids” or “intimacy products” for the bedroom, but don’t want to be assaulted by the sights, sounds and smells of a traditional sex toy store. Most traditional stores like this feature nudity on posters and pictures, as well as on the DVD’s that usually line the walls. Some stores even play samples of their video products on a television in-store! While many people don’t mind seeing men and women in various compromising sex positions, this can be particularly uncomfortable for couples of faith who are simply looking for lube, massage oils, condoms or even just sensual lingerie.

Many Christians enjoy purchasing from these types of establishments because they can usually shop from the comfort of their own home, without putting their sexual desires on display for others to see. The products are shipped in discreet packaging and only the man and woman who are using the sex toys will know what was purchased and from where. Making Christians feel safe when shopping for intimacy products is the goal of most of these stores.

What You WILL Find In A Christian Sex Toy Store

If you’re thinking about purchasing sex toys from a Christian based outlet, you’ll find a lot of great items that are intimate and affordable without being crass or objectionable to religious consumers. You might find things like:

  • Lubes and flavored lubes
  • Vibrators (bullet and torpedo style vibrators are common, while dildos and penis shaped vibrators are usually not offered)
  • Massage oils
  • Intimate, sensual lingerie
  • Sex games
  • Condoms
  • Feather ticklers

What You WON’T Find In A Christian Sex Toy Store

While you will usually find the “tame” stuff at a store that caters to people of faith, don’t expect to find any of these items unless you’re looking in a traditional adult entertainment store:

  • Anal sex products of any kind
  • Pornography
  • BDSM products
  • Gay or lesbian products

Most Christians believe that sodomy is wrong based on biblical texts, so the sex toy stores that cater to this niche aren’t going to offer any type of anal beads, butt plugs or any type of anal sex product. The same goes for gay and lesbian products, since a large percentage of Christian couples believe that homosexuality is prohibited. Pornography usually isn’t available because most pornography features non-married sex, as well as activities such as anal sex that are objectionable.

Have Respect

In today’s society, everyone comes from a different walk of life. Each person has different beliefs and values, and it’s important to respect the beliefs and values of others while staying true to your own. Remember that trying to shove your personal beliefs down someone else’s throat is only going to end badly. Do what you’re comfortable doing and allow others do what they’re comfortable doing. Each person must decide for themselves what is okay for them and what isn’t, and this is part of what Christian sex toy stores are all about – allowing people to shop for what they want in an environment that feels comfortable and safe!

Sex Toys – Top 5 Myths

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Sex toys are the subject of many misconceptions and rumors, causing many couples and singles that would consider purchasing them to rethink their decision. Most of the rumors surrounding them are absolute bunk! Using sex toys safely does require a little education on which objects to use during certain activities, however, it’s time to dispel the myths that surround sex toys once and for all.

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If A Woman Has A Sex Toy, She Won’t Need A Man

It is a common misconception that if a woman owns a vibrator or a dildo, that she will no longer need a man sexually. While sex toys are designed to give a woman an orgasm (and usually can do it faster and more efficiently), they will never replace the intimacy, love and comfort that a human being can provide for us. A sex toy can give a woman an orgasm, but it can’t make her feel loved and cherished. A sex toy can’t tell you it loves you. The same goes for men – just because a man masturbates, it doesn’t mean that he doesn’t need or enjoy sex with his female partner.

More Expensive Sex Toys Are Better

Luxury sex toys are just that – a luxury. They look and feel great, but does that mean that more economical toys won’t do the job just as well? Not hardly. A modestly priced vibrator will give you the same buzz as a 24 K gold one encrusted with diamonds. Keep this in mind when shopping for a new dildo or vibrator. It’s important to stay within your budget, but don’t deny yourself a great sex toy just because you think you can’t afford a good one. There are lots of great vibrators and dildos that will leave you just as satisfied sexually as one that cost twice or three times as much. Don’t rush into making the purchase – find one that has everything you’re looking for in a sex toy that is priced affordably.

Only People With Bad Sex Lives Need To Use Sex Toys

Another common misconception about sex toys is that they’re reserved for single people or couples who don’t have very good sex lives. This is definitely not true! Sex toys can be part of a healthy and hot sexual relationship. They can enhance sexual pleasure for both men and women, and can help a woman have an orgasm when she ordinarily wouldn’t have one. In fact, many couples who don’t have good sex lives won’t use toys because they don’t talk about what feels good or what they’d like to try. Don’t underestimate communication in a sexual relationship! Lots of sex toys are designed for couples who want to add an extra kick to their already spicy sex life. For example, a clitoris vibrator can stimulate a woman while her partner penetrates her, while anal beads can make a blowjob absolutely amazing.

Sex Toys Aren’t “Natural”

Many women can’t achieve orgasm through “natural” sex – that is, without the help of a favorite toy. It is not at all uncommon for a woman to need a vibrator to help get her over the top, even if her partner does everything that pleases her, including oral sex or fingering. Some women just can’t get there without the help of a toy. Does this mean she should fake her orgasm in lieu of “natural” sex? Absolutely not. Every woman deserves a satisfying sex life, and sex toys can actually be a great part of a naturally satisfying sexual experience. Many couples who use them actually notice that their relationship improves, both in and out of the bedroom!

Sex Toys Can Hurt Your Body

There is no medical evidence to support the claim that even regular use of sex toys will damage the body when used properly. Keep in mind that if you are super aggressive with your toy (and this can happen even during “natural sex”), you stand a chance of hurting yourself or your partner. However, do some research about the toy you’re buying – certain toys should be used for certain activities. For example, anal sex toys should have a wide, flared base at the bottom to keep them from getting “lost” inside the anal cavity. Anything used for anal sex should have this, or it’s simply not safe to use for anal play and is better suited for vaginal penetration or other types of stimulation. You may also want to pay attention to what materials are being used for the objects in question and whether they can leave you with harmful side effects. If you’re allergic to latex, don’t get a latex sex toy!