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Q&A: My Girlfriend Wants To Do Me With A Strap On

By loveandsex

The act of penetrating your partner during sex is intense.  It’s a huge turn on for guys – but believe it or not, penetrating their partner (instead of being penetrated) can be a turn on for women too. Some women fantasize about having sex with their man with a strap on. Many men, however, don’t find this idea at all appealing. What do you do if your girl wants to do you with a strap on – and you’re not into it?

Question: I have been having sex with my girlfriend for 3 months now and just recently she keeps bring up the idea of her pleasuring me with a strap on. The idea scares me and I feel as if I were to go through with it I would be less of a man. How do I talk her out of it?

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Open And Honest Communication

When bringing up a fantasy, whether it’s your fantasy or hers, it’s important that both you and your partner be open and honest with each other. Each partner should be able to bring up a fantasy of theirs without the fear of criticism or being laughed at. That doesn’t mean you have to go along with it though. If her fantasy makes you uncomfortable (or vice versa) it’s important that you are honest with your partner and voice your concerns without being condescending or critical. Sex between you and your partner should be enjoyable for both of you, and neither partner should be forced to be uncomfortable just so the other partner can have a pleasurable experience. If your partner wants to try something that makes you uncomfortable, let her know. If she wants to have sex with you using a strap-on, let her know what about that idea causes you discomfort.

How To Say No

Whether you aren’t into the idea of playing in the mud or you’d rather keep your anus a “one way only” street, those are all perfectly sound reasons to bring up to your partner. When you’re talking to your partner about why you don’t want to have her use a strap-on on you, make sure that you use “I” terms instead of “you” terms. This is about you after all, and why the idea of her introducing this type of BDSM makes you uneasy. Be careful not to make her feel as though her fantasies are gross or wrong. She should feel safe enough in the relationship to bring her fantasies up in conversation, whether you actually go through with them or not.

She Should Respect You

If you respect your partner enough to make it safe for her to share her fantasies with you, she should respect you enough to realize that you may not want to participate in all of them. Ultimately, if you’re not comfortable with something, she shouldn’t force you to do it or become angry if you won’t. It’s your body after all. You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to. If she doesn’t respect you enough to dismiss her fantasy and find a form of sex or BDSM that you both can enjoy in the bedroom, it’s time to move on to someone who does respect you and your body.

Filed Under: Bondage, Fetishes, & Fantasies Tagged With: anal sex, dildos, sex advice, Sex Toys, sexual fantasies, strap on

5 Sex Tips For Good Health

By loveandsex

Sexuality for women is still a taboo topic. Not long ago, women were raised to feel as though sex was dirty, and deriving pleasure from sex was impossible. Fortunately, women can and do enjoy sex, but they have so much more potential to do so once they become more comfortable with themselves as sexual beings. In our new book, The Best Sex Of Your Life, presented by SheKnows.com, we show you 101 ways to make your sex life hotter and learn to enjoy it more. Here are 5 great ways to improve your sexual health right now!

Happy, Healthy Women Have The Hottest Sex (#101)

Women are notorious for taking care of others before they take care of themselves. For better sexual health though, a woman must make sure she is taken care of too! Make sure you get enough sleep, because fatigue will make you less likely to want sex – you’ll want the bed for a much different reason. Get your nails done, get a pedicure and enjoy a quiet spa lunch. Eat healthy and exercise.

Learn To Touch Yourself And Then Teach Your Man Your Moves (#14)

Your man can’t read your mind. He doesn’t know what you like – but you do. That is, if you masturbate. If you don’t, get started! If you learn how to pleasure yourself, you’ll better be able to show your partner how you like to be touched.

Sex Toys Can Strengthen Your Orgasm (#67)

If you want to strengthen your orgasm or experience a different type of orgasm entirely, now is not the time to be shy about sex toys! Try a few out – you might be surprised! Sex toys allow you to have stronger, faster orgasms and can be just the ticket if you have a difficult time acheiving orgasm at all. In fact, women can experience many different types of orgasms, each with their own powerful and unique sensations. Trying different sex toys can help you expand your orgasms!

Don’t Forget To Have Fun (#87)

During the beginning of a relationship, everything is new and absolutely fascinating. You’re not sure what is going to happen next – and neither is he! That makes sex, as well as everything else about the relationship, explosive. When you and your partner begin to get comfortable with each other, the passion tends to dissolve. Remember how you and your partner were at the beginning of your relationship and allow yourself to have that kind of spontaneous fun again. Chances are, the sex is going to be just as good!

Having More Sex Boosts Your Libido (#2)

Sex is one of the most powerful ways to improve your mood and reduce stress. It feels great – physically and emotionally. During and after sex, especially if you reach climax one or more times, allows your brain to release certain chemicals that make you feel fabulous. Having more sex that helps release those chemicals will in turn make you want sex more. It’s a feel good cycle!

Don’t forget, get your copy of our book, The Best Sex of Your Life: 101 Secrets Every Woman Should Know, on Amazon.com today!

Filed Under: Sex Tips & Advice Tagged With: masturbation, orgasm, Sex Toys, sexual health

Great Valentine’s Day Resources For A Hot, Sexy Evening You Won’t Forget

By loveandsex

Short on ideas for a hot and steamy Valentine’s Day? Want to spice things up for a Valentine’s night that your partner won’t ever forget? You’re in luck – we have some of the hottest resources available for Valentine’s Day ideas – whether you want to do something sweet and romantic or something sexy and fun, we’ve got you covered. Check out any of these e-books and get a free Valentine’s Day gift!

  • 1000 Questions For Couples – get to know your partner intimately with questions designed specifically for couples.
  • A Better Way To Date – learn how to date the right way.
  • 100 Bedroom Games For Couples – get your honey in the mood with a few fun and sexy games.
  • 300 Creative Dates – make that 1st date on Valentine’s Day really count.
  • 50 Secrets Of Blissful Relationships – learn the secrets that will make your relationship rock solid!
  • 500 Lovemaking Tips And Secrets – learn how to be a bedroom rockstar before Valentine’s Day and rock your lover’s world!
  • The Romantic’s Guide To Popping The Question – thinking about proposing on Valentine’s Day? Read this first!
  • Lick By Lick: How To Go Down On A Woman And Have Her Begging For More – make her feel like a goddess by giving her the ultimate pleasure!
  • Blow By Blow: The Complete Guide To Fellatio – rock his world with an ultra-special Valentine’s Day blowjob!

Get any one of these incredible e-books before Valentine’s Day and get 101 Unique Valentine’s Day Gift ideas absolutely free! No more worrying about what to get your significant other – now you can get them something creative, heartfelt and special! Your partner will never forget this Valentine’s Day!

Filed Under: Valentine's Day Tagged With: sex games, Sex Toys, Valentines Day, Valentines Day Ideas

Sexy Valentine’s Day Idea – Fun In The Tub

By loveandsex

Picking a present for your honey on Valentine’s Day is tough. Especially if you want to do something fun and sexy for them instead of getting chocolates, flowers or pink teddy bears. So here’s a great idea for this Valentine’s Day – get hot, get wet and get in the tub with some brand-spanking-new sex toys for a night of soapy fun!

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Spend Valentine’s Day With Your Partner

Spending a lot of money on jewelry for your partner or buying an expensive gift is way – way – overrated. Valentine’s Day is about celebrating the fact that you and your partner are together and in love – so why throw money away on a gift just to say you did something for Valentine’s Day? Why not spend time with your partner and enjoy being together alone? Most couples don’t get a lot of alone time these days, especially if they have children together. Take some time out on Valentine’s Day to make love – and be in love!

Check In To Fun

Get away from the house for a night and check into a hotel, even if it’s just across the street from where you live. Different surroundings will definitely set the mood for a night of fun and romance. Just one thing the hotel must have? A Jacuzzi or a garden tub in the room. This Valentine’s Day you’re going to have fun in the tub – but not just any old tub and certainly not the tub you take showers in and bathe the kids in every day. How romantic is stepping on a wet Barbie doll while you’re trying to get it on?

Set the ambiance in the hotel by purchasing some nice smelling bath additive that is safe for hot tubs, light some candles (or use safer LED candles) and bring strawberries and champagne. Or cheeses and champagne. Or a decadent dessert and champagne. Get the picture? Bring champagne. Just make sure that whatever you bring to eat isn’t going to sit heavy on the stomach and make you want to nap instead of play. Also, bring something to do. Cards for strip poker, a sexy movie to watch or anything that sparks your interest. You don’t want to get through the door, put your bags down and say, “Okay, are you ready to have tub sex now?” Make it more interesting than that.

Foreplay In The Tub

Make sure that you’re also well prepared for having fun in the tub. Waterproof vibrators are always fun, especially if this fabulous Valentine’s Day occasion will be their maiden voyage. Sexy bathtub games are fun too and are great at keeping things from getting boring too quickly. There are a wide variety of fun, sexy toys that can be used in – and out – of the bathtub to make this Valentine’s Day a great one. Being prepared with fun things to do in the tub and lots of sexy foreplay ideas will help make the night memorable instead of quick and dirty. Remember, it’s all about having a great time and enjoying being with your partner!

Be sure to read Sexy Valentine’s Day Ideas: Sexy Games For Couples and Sexy Valentine’s Day Ideas: Gettin’ Kinky for more great ideas on how to heat up your Valentine’s Day night!

Filed Under: Valentine's Day Tagged With: Sex Toys, Valentines Day, Valentines Day Gifts, Valentines Day Ideas

The Future Of Virtual Sex

By loveandsex

Back in the 90’s, “Demolition Man” was released, starring Sylvester Stallone and Sandra Bullock. One of the most memorable scenes is when the two stars engage in “sex” using movie visors and body sensors. But is this scenario realistic? Can technology really replace or imitate sexual sensations?

Long gone will be the days of shyly talking dirty via Instant Messenger or even engaging in webcam peek-a-boo. While these methods of gratification may continue to hold a place in our hearts (and pants), the virtual sex industry is looking toward the future for new and different ways of stimulating its customers.

Sexy Video Games?

One avenue will be through video games. While there have been implied sexuality in video games, it has rarely been explicit. However, gamers are wanting more – more violence, more action, more control, and yes, more sex. Recently, it was discovered that a hidden “scene” in Grand Theft Auto: San Andreas allowed the main character to enter a house and engage in explicit coitus. But will consumers be content to merely watch such a scene? With such physically interactive consoles becoming exponentially more popular, how long will it be until a sexed up version of Wii Fit is released?

While video games have not yet reached this point, the Internet certainly has…and how! Some games innocently poke at the notion of sex like The Sims, while others base character development off of it. Red Light Social Center, for example, is an Internet-based social network, which allows its VIP members to engage in cyber sex with other avatars. The popular game, Second Life, even has a thriving prostitution industry (using real money, no less).

A Virtual Sex Machine

The most interesting developments in the area of virtual sex will combine the Internet and technology in a movement called teledildonics. The invention making waves is the Virtual Sex Machine. After affixing the machine (which resembles the infamous enlargement pumps of the past) to his penis and turning on a specially designed DVD, a user can experience the sensations which mimic the porn star’s actions. For example, onscreen fellatio will trigger different settings within the machine, causing the user to feel as though he is the recipient.

One potential off-shoot of the VSM will enable a person (possibly one who is performing sexual acts on webcam) to control the machine—and thus, the sensations—of another person. Similarly, such sites as Sinulate.com are releasing vibrators which are connected to a computer, and which allow another person to control the action from a different room or even a different country.

The sex industry is anything if not resourceful. They can take a current technology and tweak it ever so slightly, in order to create a new product or service. For example, the iBuzz is an iPod with a vibrator attached to it. When the volume is increased, the vibrations increase. They speed up for fast songs, slow down for the calmer ones, beating in time to the music.

Yet for all these new inventions and ideas, will virtual sex ever completely eradicate the need for real, person-to-person contact? Or will vibrators, webcams, and avatars always be second-best? I should hope so.

Filed Under: Sex Toys Tagged With: cyber sex, Sex Toys, teledildonics, vibrators

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