Sexting is a great way to get your female partner turned on, but even if she’s aroused, she still may have trouble letting go and letting her inner “naughty girl” out. The pressures that society puts on women to be prim, proper and professional are strong, and most women have trouble getting rid of the facade, even behind closed doors. Here’s how you can use sexting to give your girl permission to be your slut and get her to let go of her inhibitions and get down and dirty.

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Women Really Have Higher Sex Drives Than Men

It’s a common misconception that women have lower sex drives than men. This is usually because a woman doesn’t reach her true sexual potential until she reaches her mid to late thirties and early forties. By this time, she has learned to keep her sex drive very well hidden, mostly because being labeled a “slut” in a negative, derogatory way is something that no woman wants.

How A Woman’s Sex Drive Stays Hidden

A woman’s libido is like an oven – it takes a while for them to “preheat” and get warmed up, and after it’s hot and ready, it takes a significant amount of time to cool down. After the cool down period, it takes a while to get warmed back up again. Men, however, are different. Most men stay turned on pretty much all the time, without a long warm up or cool down period. Like a blowtorch, a man can be hot and ready almost instantly.

Since women will naturally go back to “zero” or square one when they’re not turned on, they learn to stay there. Even if they’re incredibly aroused and about to rip their clothes off, they learn to show nothing on the outside. That facade is what keeps them from being labeled a “slut” and allows them to function well in a society that looks down on women for being “slutty.”

Women Want To “Belong” To A Strong, Confident Man

Women are attracted to strong, confident men. It’s something in their genes that says, “He’s in control. He could take care of me. He would protect me.” Even the most independent women who can obviously take care of themselves will be attracted to men who are confident and in control.

Women also want to “belong” to a man, especially the strong, confident type. While many people have the misconception that “belonging” to another person (especially if it’s a woman “belonging” to a man) it’s always in a derogatory, “ownership” sort of way, that’s not what this means. Women want to “belong” to their man in a loving, safe and sexy way.

How To Get Her To Act On Her Impulses

• Make her feel safe. A woman who doesn’t feel safe isn’t going to let any of her walls down, period. Make her feel safe in your relationship and safe being herself – the real her, not the person she shows everyone else.
• Let her know she won’t be judged. It’s very important that you let your partner know that you’re not going to judge her, no matter what. Women get judged daily on how they look, how they act and who they are. Let her know that she can be herself around you and you’re not going to pass the least bit of judgement. Go one up on that and let her know that you are going to love her no matter what.
• Let her act out her dirty side. When she gets a little frisky in the bedroom, make sure you offer her positive encouragement and let her know that what she did or what she’s doing really turns you on. If she goes a little outside her comfort zone and she doesn’t get positive feedback from you, she’s not going to go back out for awhile and not without a great deal of coaxing. If you let her know you really like it when she gets naughty, she’s going to want to do it more and more to please you.
• Make her feel like she’s “giving in” to those desires. If you do this the right way, you’ll make her feel as though she “couldn’t help herself” and that she’s not responsible for her actions. This is absolutely key to getting a reserved woman to really let go and be naughty. This is also part of why a woman is much more attracted to men that seem as though they’re in control. If you’re in control of the situation, it gives her an excuse to get out of control!

How To Use Sexting To Unlock Her Inner Slut

So how does all of this apply to sexting? How can you use sexting to unlock her inner “slut” and become “your slut?” Sexting allows you to have a secret, private conversation with her, without her having to let her guard down visibly in front of others or in public. She can be as dirty and naughty as she wants to in a text, and no one will know about it but you. This is a very powerful concept for a woman and one of the reasons that sexting works so well. She doesn’t have to let go of her facade to let go of her inhibitions.

Using Sensual Language In A Story

When it comes to sexting and making it effective at getting your lover aroused, it’s very important to use sensual language to describe describe what you want to do, what you want her to do and what you’re looking forward to when you get home. Take that up a notch by using sensual language to describe a story where she’s being particularly slutty, in private with you.

Describe her giving you a sloppy wet blowjob (in detail) and tell her how much you love it. Or, describe bending her over and taking her without warning and tell her how much you love it when she gives herself up to you and lets herself be your slut.

Sexting is an extremely powerful tool that you can use to heat up your sex life with your partner almost instantaneously! If you want your lover to be ready for sex with you as soon as she gets home from work, try these sexting techniques to revive her favorite sexual experiences with you – so you and her can live them all over again!

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Get Her Turned On Quickly

This sexting technique is one you want to use when you want to get your partner turned on quickly so she’s ready to pounce on you as soon as you both get home from work. It’s not one you want to use to create a long, drawn out romance – this is going to turn her on like a blowtorch! The key here is to find out what her best sexual experience is with you and get her to re-experience that through the descriptive language you’re going to use in a text.

Using Sensual Language

Telling your partner about your best sex experience again through text will only turn her on if you use descriptive, sensual language. Simply stating, “Remember that day at the lake where we had sex in the water and you had multiple orgasms?” is not enough to spark her imagination and get her thinking about the details of what happened. When you choose the language your going to use when you’re sexting your partner, select descriptive words. Instead of saying, “I loved touching your breasts,” you could say, “It makes me so hard to slide my hands over your soft, supple breasts.” This, in essence is dirty talk – but this is what is going to light your lover’s imagination on fire.

3 “Magic” Words To Use When Sexting

In addition to choosing sensual language when sexting your lover, you also want to use these three “magic” words that will help her to subconsciously remember and re-live the experience you’re talking about with her.

• “Remember.” By using the word “remember,” you’re telling her brain to literally dredge up the memory from wherever it is stored.
• “Imagine.” While men need visual stimuli to get turned on and start thinking about sex, a woman can do all of this with her imagination. By using the word “imagine” when writing sexts to your lover, you’re flipping the “on” switch to her imagination. Her imagination is much more powerful than anything you can say or write!
• “Feel.” By using the word “feel” in your narrative, you’re signaling her brain to tell her body to get involved in the fantasy. Subconsciously, she’ll actually start to physically feel sensations similar to those she had when she actually went through the experience with you.

Use A “Curiosity Text” To Get Her Attention First

Before jumping right into describing your favorite sexual experience together in a text, it’s important that you get her to engage her first. Use a curiosity text to get her interested in what you have to say, so when you actually do start using the descriptive language, she’s totally focused on the words she’s reading.

A curiosity text is an opening line you’ll use to get her attention and get her thinking about what you’re going to say. Great examples of curiosity texts include:

• “I haven’t been able to stop thinking about you….“
• “Do you know what I’ve been thinking about?”
• This has been driving me crazy all day….”

The key here is to spark her imagination and get it going. She’ll wonder exactly what you’re thinking about and it’s pretty much guaranteed that her curiosity will win over and she’ll text you back asking you what it is that is driving you so crazy! This is where you start in with describing your most amazing night together to her!

Why Describing A Sexual Encounter You’ve Already Had Is Better Than Making Up A New One

If you’re a particularly creative guy, you might be wondering if it would be just as effective to describe to her a fantasy or something that hasn’t happened yet. While this can turn her on, it’s definitely not as powerful as choosing a sexual encounter you’ve already had together.

The reason this works so well is that she’s actually remembering what she was feeling during that time. How it felt to have your hands all over her body….your tongue on her clitoris….you get the idea. You’re basically turning your best sexual experience together into “girl porn” and making it her hottest fantasy. Don’t be surprised if she starts thinking about it again and again after you use this sexting technique!

Feeling sexy is something that every woman should experience, but so few women do because of the unrealistic images that the media puts out there to show women how they “should” or “need to” look. If your partner doesn’t feel sexy, she’s not going to be sexy – and you’re not going to have very good sex! Here’s how you can use sexting to make your lover feel like she looks amazing so you can unleash a powerful, new sex vixen in your bedroom!

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Understanding A Woman’s Sexual Self Esteem

Believe it or not, most women have very low sexual self esteem, or even none at all. Even very good looking and sexy women don’t feel like they’re sexy or attractive at all. Why is this? Media and social expectations play a big role in how women feel about themselves, because there is so much pressure for women to look a certain way.

Think about it – how many pictures of gorgeous women do you see every day in magazines, on signs and billboards, on television, in movies and in commercials? These pictures and videos are airbrushed and edited, not to mention the actresses and models had several stylists doing their hair and makeup before anything even hit the cutting room floor.

Society pressures women everywhere to look like the women that the media plasters everywhere, even though it is a completely unrealistic expectation because it is impossible for real women to look that perfect. As a result, many women feel as though they aren’t sexy or good looking because they don’t look exactly like the way models and actresses are portrayed. Even if a girl feels attractive, she will rarely feel as though it is enough.

What Happens When A Woman Feels Sexy

Confidence is sexy – that’s a given. So when a woman feels inadequate in the attractiveness department, she’s not going to radiate that sexy confidence. On the other hand, however, when a woman feels like she looks good, she’s going to have a better attitude about herself and feel more confident about the way she looks. This translates into looking better, feeling better, being more turned on and thinking about sex more often. Making your partner feel like she is attractive and sexy is a win-win situation all around because she’ll feel great and you’ll get to reap the benefits!

Make Her Feel Sexy In 3 Steps

Step 1: Find out what part of her body she likes the best.

Many men try to compliment what they like best about their partner’s bodies, but most of the time it backfires because they’re complimenting the very physical attributes that their lovers are the most insecure about. If you really want to make your girl feel sexy, find out what she likes best about herself. Find out the part of her body that she shows off and that she thinks looks fabulous.

Step 2: Wait to strike until she’s bored…at work, a meeting, etc.

This sexting technique works best when she’s bored. This usually will happen while she’s at work or in class listening to a boring lecture. This is the prime moment to work your magic because this is when she is the most mentally receptive to what you’re going to say.

Step 3: Send her a text complimenting her favorite asset.

When she’s at work or bored somewhere else, send her a steamy text that suggests how much you love that particular asset of hers – you know, the one she really feels good about herself. This will not work if you’re complimenting what you like about her! The key here is to talk about the asset of hers that SHE loves. Tell her, “I can’t stop thinking about your eyes” or “Your breasts looked amazing when you got out of the shower this morning.”

What It Will Do For Her

The “magic” here happens when you choose her favorite feature about herself and tell her how much that particular feature inspires lust and excitement in you through sexting. What this does is it makes her feel great about the things she already loves about herself. She’ll feel amazing because you noticed the very thing about her looks that she is most proud of and likes to show off!

This makes her feel super sexy and confident about the way she looks. When she gets home from work or class that day, she’ll already be turned on from the sexts you sent earlier in the day. Since you started the foreplay much earlier in the day, her imagination has been going for hours and it will be all she can do not to rip your clothes off when she gets home!