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How Can I Please My Partner With My Small Penis?

Penis size is a big issue for men – literally. Many men feel like their penises aren’t large enough. While the majority of these men are perfectly well equipped for most women and men, there is a small percentage of the male population that does actually have a small penis.

How can someone with a small penis still please their partner?

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

I have an undersized genitalia (penis.. haha.. oopsys!!!). I want to know how I can still pleasure my male or female partner despite my disability. Thank you

–Alfonso, TX

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Sex isn’t all penetration, you know.

For women, and some men, sex isn’t all about penile penetration. For women, penile penetration is only a very small part of sex with their partners. Unless a woman is already excited and has been fully aroused before penetration, she won’t be very sexually responsive to penetration all on its own whether you’re large, medium or small!

A woman needs to be sufficiently warmed up before penile penetration of any size will feel good. With that said, there’s much more to sex than just penetration. There is all types of genital massage that can help warm a woman up and even bring her to orgasm that way, and of course there is always oral sex.

Many women achieve better and more frequent orgasms through oral sex anyways, regardless of their partner’s penis size. You can also incorporate a number of sex toys into the bedroom, including vibrators, lubes and more.

Penis extenders, pumps, etc.

If you’re bent on obtaining a larger penis, with some investment it can be done. You can purchase penis extenders that are somewhat like “dildos” that simply fit onto the penis, adding inches to the end, or you can purchase a penis pump that forces more blood to fill the penis, therefore making it larger.

There are some types of surgery as well that can help enhance penis size. If you’re considering taking any drastic measures to enlarge your penis, you should speak with your doctor.

Talk to your partner.

Men who are afraid that their small penis won’t please their partner should definitely talk to their partner about how they can improve their sex lives. To be frank, the majority of partners of men who are afraid they have penises that are too small are actually still pretty satisfied with their partner’s genitals.

If you’re concerned that your partner finds your penis too small, talk to them. You might find that your partner is perfectly happy with the size of your member, even if you’re not.

If your partner does find that your penis doesn’t quite cut it, together you and your partner can come up with ways to overcome that before resorting to any drastic measures. For example, you might find that your partner would like a little more oral sex, or a little more foreplay before sexual intercourse.

If you’re concerned that your penis is a little too small, it’s important to do what you can to help relieve the situation. Life is too short to be unhappy with your sexual performance!

You can talk to your partner to find out what they would like to see happen in the bedroom, or you can incorporate a number of sex toys and lubricants into your sexual repertoire to help increase you and your partner’s sexual pleasure.

If you’re still not satisfied with the size of your penis or your sexual performance, you can try extenders or talk with your doctor about more permanent options.

What Is The TRUE Average Penis Size And Is It Possible To Enlarge It NATURALLY?

By rogermiller

The average penis size has been a “bone” of contention for decades and decades. The reason it’s so frequently debated, argued over and worried about is because the issue affects so many people, male and female.

For men, a small penis means possible harassment in gym showers and embarrassment in bed. For women it presents a different problem. Its below-average size could well limit their sexual pleasure and at the same time inhibit the man’s confidence so much that his sexual performance could also be unsatisfactory.

It’s really no wonder penis size, and the average length and girth of the male anatomy, is talked about so much by millions of people all over the world, of both sex, it’s almost considered a yardstick for a guy’s manhood.

What People Think About Penis Size

A small penis is bad, while a big, thick penis is good. The line has been clearly drawn in the sand, regardless of whether it’s right or wrong. I’ll tell you right now what the average size is. Forget about the average penis sizes of different races; even if there is a slight difference it won’t affect you much.

Here’s the only figure that might: the average size is about 5 and 3 quarter inches in erect length. The average girth is about 5 inches around (which might sound a lot, but wrap a fabric tape measure around your own and it’ll seem much more modest).

Averages Don’t Really Help

Thing is, knowing those numbers doesn’t put most men at ease and I doubt it has you. Why? Because it doesn’t change anything. Yeah, you might be half an inch bigger than average, or perhaps an inch thicker down below than most other guys, but that feeling of inadequacy, of wanting more, is probably still there.

It’s completely natural, too. Let’s say you’re 6 and a half inches long when erect, knowing you’re an inch and a bit bigger than average is great, right?

But at the very same time, you know lots of guys have 7, 8 or 9 inch penises. How great would that be? And that right there is the true subject of this article. Forget averages, let’s talk enlargement.

Penis Enlargement

Right off the bat, natural penis enlargement (that is, making your penis longer and thicker without surgery, without pills and without crazy suction devices) is completely possible.

Instead of telling you how it is or why it works, I’ll describe how you can see for yourself how truly achievable new penis growth is. Let’s look at a technique called a ‘Dry Jelq.’ It’s used to target new, permanent growth in the thickness of your erect AND flaccid penis.

Steps To a Bigger Penis

Step 1. Get a 40-50% erection, no more, no less.

Step 2. Create a circle using the thumb and forefinger of your right hand. It should look like the ‘OK’ sign people make when they want to signal something’s good or acceptable. Your other fingers (middle, ring and pinky) should be outstretched.

Step 3. Firmly grip the base of your penis using the ‘OK’ sign and slowly move your grip upwards towards the head of your penis. Don’t slide over the skin. Instead, focus on keeping your fingers on top of the same area of flesh all the time, while still sliding up and along the shaft.

Think of it like the motion used when milking a cow. The blood in your penis is forced up towards and into the head.

Step 4. After you’ve milked from the base to just below where the head of your penis starts, release your grip. You’ve completed one repetition or ‘rep’. Do 20-30 reps for your first session and increase it to 50 once you’ve been doing it a couple of weeks.

Other Techniques to Increase Penis Size

The Dry Jelq is just one technique of dozens that have been specially designed and tested and that truly work, with a little bit of patience and practice, at increasing the size of your penis. After using dry jelqs for a couple of weeks you’ll already notice that your penis hangs heavier and lower day-to-day and that it feels more weighty and solid when you’re hard.

Using this and the other fundamental techniques as a routine that you do a couple of times a week, you can not only TRULY forget about averages but also forget about BEING average.

Honestly, Does Penis Size Really Matter?

By loveandsex

It’s an age old question. Does penis size really matter?

Certainly, it depends on who you ask. Some people prefer large penises and others prefer quite small ones. The majority of people, however, agree that penis size is relative to the vagina.

If a penis fits the vagina, it really doesn’t matter how big it measures because, well . . . it fits!

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

Does penis size really matter?

– Small Penis Guy, CA

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The Penis Size Controversy

The controversy over penis size has been talked about for ages and no one really seems to have come up with a conclusion. Many men feel as though they are too small and, honestly, it’s a common misconception. It’s all about whether the penis fits the vagina or not. Everyone comes in different shapes and sizes and that includes both male and female genitalia. Where sexual pleasure is concerned, the greatest pleasure is often derived from intercourse with someone whose genitalia physically matches your own.

If The Penis Fits…

For example, women with extremely long vaginal canals might prefer larger penises while women with small vaginas might feel that a large penis is too big or painful and prefers a smaller, more compact penis. Men whose penises are quite wide will often like a woman to be wider as well, as that type of vagina is more accommodating. It really all boils down to who you’re with. Is your penis too small for her vagina and you’re unable to make her climax? Is it so big that it causes her pain? If you find yourself in this situation, you might want to take matters into your own hands – no pun intended. If you fear that your penis may be too small, too large or simply not the right shape or size for your partner’s vagina, it’s time to get creative.

Creative Ways to Work a Size Mismatch

Don’t rely completely on intercourse for you and your partner’s sexual pleasure. It will lead to very boring, monotonous sex especially if you two have a size mismatch. Try incorporating oral sex on both the receiving and giving ends, or use hands and toys to give your partner pleasure. If you stick to just intercourse, you’re likely to be frustrated and disappointed.

Work with your partner to find new and creative ways you can please each other sexually in addition to intercourse. Perhaps using a little extra lubrication or a toy during intercourse will stimulate her so that your penis size isn’t completely what she’s focused on. There are hundreds of ways you can “ad lib” during sexual exploration and the only limit to what you and your partner can do is your imagination.

When Penis Size Does Matter

If you and your partner can’t work it out so that you can both derive sexual pleasure from each other, it’s time to evaluate your relationship. There are ways to be intimate without sex and many happy couples do not have sex with each other at all or don’t have sex often. Evaluate whether you would be comfortable finding other ways to be intimate besides sex. If not, it might be time to move on.

If you and your partner are having pleasurable sex, then you can probably put the penis size issue to bed. If you’re a good match physically, it doesn’t matter. If you and your partner aren’t a good match, the best thing to do is simply to give new, creative ideas a shot in the bedroom and see where they take you. You can decide where to go from there.

Is a Small Penis Size Crushing Your Confidence with Women?

By loveandsex

Do you worry that your penis is too small to satisfy a woman?

Even worse, have you had complaints from women about the size of your penis?

This is a question that has plagued men from the beginning of time.

The Question

I seem to be having trouble with the opposite sex.

What is the average size of the male penis. I measured mine erect and found that I am 3.7 inches long, 0.8 inches wide and 0.4 inches thick width a measured circumference of 2.7 inches. Is that normal, small or big?

I also have right curvature of the penis that doesn’t hurt but it’s shaped like a u-turn. If it was bigger it would probably point back at me. I also makes it look weird and really small. Is that normal and does masturbation cause that?

I just started shaving my balls, does that make the penis look bigger or is it a dead give away?

My last three girlfriends said my penis was pathetic and they had seen pencils bigger. One said my penis would get lost in her mouth if she tried to suck it. My confidence is shattered and I would love to have answers to my questions. Pleas help and write back soon.

The Answer

What is the perfect penis size?

This is an age old question with no “right” answer. Since we are not experts in this field, this one required some research…

I believe that the Taoist Masters have the best answer to this question, but I’ll include some Western views on the topic as well.

Taoist Thoughts on Penis Size

I’m currently reading a book called “Sexual Reflexology” by Mantak Chia (the same author as “Multi-Orgasmic Man“) and William Wei. The principles in the book are based on ancient Taoist traditions and practices. Basically what this book tells us is that the size and shape of the man’s penis must match with the size and shape of the woman’s vagina. I don’t know about you, but that just seems to make sense…

The book goes on to talk about various ways to tell if you are sexually compatible with another person by looking at various body features on the hands, ears, and face. It’s worth reading if you haven’t already.

I’m also going to check out the “Multi-Orgasmic Man“. The principle here is teaching men how to separate the orgasm from the ejaculation so that they can enjoy multiple orgasms and extended sexual excitement.

OK, back on topic…

Penis size resources from the web

Of course we Westerners want to quantify everything, so here are some really great articles that I found online while researching the answer to this question. (No, we don’t know everything :-)…).

Rather than repeat it all here, I think you’ll get more out of it, if you read the articles yourself. They’re quite informative.

“Facts about Penis Size”, written by Dr David Delvin and Christine Webber at NetDoctor

“Does Penis Size Matter?”, written by Vanessa Burton at AskMen.com

“What is a normal penis size?”, from the Men’s Health section on About.com

What about a curved penis?

I’ve actually heard of this condition before. Depending on the seriousness of the curve, it could be Peyronie’s Disease. Now before you freak out… All that means is that the penis is curved excessively in one direction or another.

I’m going to stop here and tell you to check out this article, “Peyronie’s Disease”, and then contact your doctor if you think you have this condition. There are treatments available, but only your doctor can tell you if they’re right for you (Do I sound like a drug commercial yet?)

You can have great sex, even with a small penis

I know this may come as a shocker to some of you out there, but it’s possible to have really great sex without a man’s penis even being involved. No, really. A surprising statistic is that as many as 70% of women don’t achieve orgasm during intercourse without some other type of stimulation. Guys, listen up here.

There are tons of great books (and videos too) out there on how to please your woman. If you do a search on Amazon, there are hundreds of results for “female orgasm”. Here are a few that we actually recommend:

“The Clitoral Truth” by Rebecca Chalker – This is a very technical but informative book on the female anatomy. You didn’t get this information in sex ed. I feel it’s a must read for everyone.

“The One Hour Orgasm” by Leah and Bob Schwartz – This was a very interesting book, but make sure you’ve got all night to implement the techniques (The Venus Butterfly technique) in this book.

“The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Amazing Sex” by Sari Locker – We love the Idiot’s Guide series. If we ever want to know more on any topic, the Idiot’s Guide is one of the first books we buy.

Add a comment at the bottom if you have any great sex books you’d like to recommend.

Women are evil!

At least some of them… The part of this question that really makes me angry is the behavior of these women, and others like them, and the effect that their comments have had on otherwise strong and confident men.

Men’s egos are very delicate creatures that do not do well under even the slightest criticism. If you really want to crush a man, just insult his “manhood”. This is in fact so engrained in our culture, that we use to word “manhood” to refer to a man’s penis.

Here’s a message for all of those crushed egos out there from a great woman.

Eleanor Roosevelt said it best, “No one can make you feel inferior without your permission.” In other words, although the feelings are normal, it’s what you do with them and how you process them that reconnect you to your power.

Read this great article by Carol Juergenson-Sheets – “Difficult People – No One Can Make You Feel Inferior”

Obviously these women know very little about sexual pleasure if their only concern is the size of a man’s penis. Consider yourself lucky not to be involved with them.

I recommend reading the books above so that you can satisfy her completely, and that by the time you get to intercourse, she won’t care about the size of your penis!