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Alone On Valentines Day? Hot Masturbation Tips For Him AND Her

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Flying solo on Valentine’s Day doesn’t mean that you have to spend the night moping around about how you’re not gettin’ any. Instead, why not plan to get some – with yourself? Plan an evening of pleasure for yourself, whether it’s watching your favorite porn flick or taking a hot bath and relaxing before breaking out a new vibrator. Here are some excellent ways you can get busy by yourself on Valentine’s Day!

Grab An Erotic Movie Or Book

For Him: Rent, buy or download a new porn with your favorite star in it, or indulge yourself in a fetish movie that you haven’t gotten around to checking out yet. Men love visual stimulation, so lock your doors and turn on the tube. You can also check out free porn on websites like YouPorn. Either way, just make sure you get your mind in the mood with whatever turns you on the most. Make sure you have your masturbation tools nearby in case you can’t hold out through the whole movie!

For Her: Visit your local sex toy store for an erotic novel or two, or order them online. Heck, you can even find free erotic stories online with just a simple Internet search. While men are visual creatures and enjoy watching sex, most women prefer to have their imaginations stimulated with an erotic novel. Don’t just re-read one of your steamy romance novels though – this Valentine’s Day, treat yourself to something really naughty. You’ll be surprised at how much better your masturbation can be after just a few erotic stories!

Purchase A Sex Toy Just For The Occasion

For Him: There are a lot of guys out there that are still stuck in the hand and lotion “stone age.” There are lots of hot sex toys for boys available at both traditional sex toy stores and their online counterparts. Male sex toys come in a variety of different styles, colors, textures and sizes to accommodate every man’s desires. Masturbation sleeves are among the most popular sex toys for guys, whether it’s a “Fleshlight” modeled after a real vagina or a simple pink silicone sleeve that feels absolutely divine with a few squirts of lube. Consider purchasing a new sex toy before the big day and save it for that special night. You’ll feel the difference right away!

For Her: Thinking about busting out your tried and true vibrator for a quickie masturbation session on Valentine’s Day? Think again. Order a brand new dildo or bullet vibe (or whatever else tickles your fancy) and save it for the 14th.

Relax In A Hot Bath

For Him: You may think it’s sissy for guys to want to relax in a hot bath, but don’t underestimate the power that hot water, bubbles, steam and aromatherapy can do to relax your body and your mind. Especially if you’ve had a particularly long or difficult day at work, it’s important to clear your mind of everything that happened that day and start getting yourself in the mood and thinking about sex. Stroke yourself a few times in the bath, or think about something really arousing to get yourself ready.

For Her: Every woman loves a good, long soak in a hot bath. Take this to heart on Valentine’s Day and plan to take a long bath before your masturbation session. Make it special by adding some new, great smelling bath oils or salts, or light your favorite scented candles and add some rose petals to the water. The idea behind doing this on Valentine’s Day is to treat yourself right and make yourself feel special when you’re spending the evening alone. After your bath, make sure to put on some decadently rich body lotion and enjoy the feel of your silky smooth skin.

Go Slow And Take Your Time

For Him: Most of the time when guys masturbate, they do it in a hurry. As kids, guys had to “hurry up” before Mom came home, and even as adults, husbands have to “make it quick” before the wife catches them. If you’re spending February 14th by yourself, there’s no reason to rush your masturbation. Lock your doors, draw the blinds and take as much time with yourself as you need to make it really spectacular.

For Her: Some women naturally take their time during masturbation, simply because it takes several minutes for a woman to get warmed up, but others have got masturbation down pat and can reach orgasm in three minutes or less. If you’re used to quickie masturbation, make sure to slow it down on Valentine’s Day. This isn’t about “getting the job done” and masturbation doesn’t have to be a means to an end. Take time to enjoy yourself and really savor the way everything feels.

Multiple Orgasms? Yes, Please!

For Him: Can men really have multiple orgasms! Absolutely! While most men aren’t necessarily going to have multiple orgasms in quick succession like a woman can, most men can cool down in a period of about 15-25 minutes and get started again. Why not make Valentine’s Day night last all night long?

For Her: It’s a little easier for women to have multiple orgasms than it is for men. Women are like ovens – it takes some time for them to warm up but once they’re hot, they stay that way for a little while. When a woman reaches orgasm, she doesn’t go all the way back down to the starting point. She’s actually very close to having another. Take advantage of the way your body works and don’t stop after just the first orgasm. You may even want to try to have as many orgasms as you can – you might just set a Valentine’s Day record!

Lame Valentine’s Day Ideas That Will Put You In The Doghouse

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Valentine’s Day is about love – not gifts – so it shouldn’t matter what you get your partner, right? Wrong! While you don’t have to spend a lot of money on your significant other’s Valentine’s Day gift, it does have to show that you truly thought about your partner when selecting or making the gift and it should illustrate your love for them. While most of the time any effort a guy puts into a Valentine’s Day gift is applauded, there are some gifts that just won’t make the cut – and they’ll probably land you on the couch for the next several nights.

Flowers From A Gas Station

Yes, women absolutely adore getting flowers on Valentine’s Day. In fact, it’s even something women feel very strongly that their partners should do for them on February 14th. But just getting her any flowers doesn’t win you brownie points – getting them from somewhere like a gas station will no doubt make you look cheap and make her feel like you just grabbed something on your way out of a convenience store. Don’t make her think that she’s not worth your time – because if you’re with her, she is! Instead, surprise her with flowers at work. Don’t want to spend the money getting them sent there by a florist? Show up right before her lunch break with a handful of fresh picked flowers and take her out for a lunch full of romance.

A Card…Without A Gift

Lots of people give cards on Valentine’s Day, but they’re usually accompanied by a gift of some sort, preferably one that shows that the gift giver really and truly cares. It’s great to pick out a sweet or funny card for your significant other for Valentine’s Day, but don’t give her just a card with nothing else to go with it. This will show your partner that she’s unimportant in your life or that you just couldn’t think of anything to get her. It’s a great way to make you feel like a stranger to her. Instead, pick out a really sweet or funny card and pair it with a single rose from the florist (less than $5) or a special dinner date.

Sex Advice

If you want to turn Valentine’s Day into a night of super steamy sex, giving her the gift of sex advice – be it in book form or other – will only serve to make your partner think that you’re trying to tell her she’s a terrible lover. You’re much better off if you want to look up sex advice of your own on how to please her. In fact, this is recommended if you want to plan a night of amazing sex and explosive orgasms on Valentine’s Day. Learn how to give her incredible oral sex with moves you’ve never tried before – and surprise her with them on the night of the 14th!

Porn For “Her”

Watching porn together on the 14th is a great way to connect sexually with your lover, but it has to be the right kind of porn and it certainly can’t be your “gift” to her – well, your only one anyway. Lots of guys try to get away with giving their girls porn as a gift, and this most certainly will not work on Valentine’s Day. Most guys have no clue as to what a woman truly finds erotic in an adult movie and end up choosing something they think is hot – which often the women off completely. If you get her porn as a Valentine’s Day gift, you’re suggesting that she’s not good enough for you in bed and that she doesn’t turn you on. Not at all what you want to say to her on the big night!

A Prank Gift

It may seem funny to give your lover a prank gift on Valentine’s Day, but this is almost never a good idea, even if your partner has a great sense of humor. A prank gift will show your partner that you cared more about entertaining yourself than you did about her, and at her expense. If you really want a laugh on Valentine’s Day, take your partner out to see a funny movie after eating a delicious and romantic dinner together. There are so many awesome sweet and sexy Valentine’s Day ideas out there, so you don’t have to worry about coming up with something all on your own. Take the time to plan something really special and show your partner that she really means a lot to you and you feel like she’s an important part of your life.

Romantic Valentine’s Day Cocktail Recipes

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Spice up this Valentine’s Day with a few drinks concocted with cupid’s special day in mind. These drink recipes will invoke everything that makes Valentine’s Day special – sex, kissing, orgasms, romance and love! Surprise your significant other with a super special, pink frothy drink on the 14th, or have fun making different cocktails together and trying them out. You can also host a trendy Valentine’s Day bash and serve a few of these drinks to your guests! Enjoy!

Strawberry Kiss

  • 1 1/2 oz. vanilla vodka
  • 1/2 oz. strawberry liqueur
  • Splash of cranberry and pineapple juice
  • Splash of champagne
  • 1 strawberry

Mix together vanilla vodka, strawberry liqueur, cranberry and pineapple juice in an ice shaker. Strain into short hurricane glass or wine glass. Drop the strawberry in the bottom of the glass and top with a splash of your favorite champagne. This drink will remind you of kissing your lover sweetly on the lips!

Chocolate Covered Cherry Cocktail

  • 1 part pink or rose vodka
  • 1/2 part maraschino liqueur
  • 3/4 ounce creme de cacao
  • 1 tablespoon chocolate sauce
  • 1 chocolate covered cherry
  • 1 maraschino cherry

Everyone’s favorite Valentine’s Day treat is a chocolate covered cherry. Turn this delectable treat into an adult beverage! Drizzle the inside of a martini glass with chocolate. Set it aside and mix together vodka, maraschino liqueur and creme de cacao into a drink shaker with ice. Shake well and strain into your chocolate drizzled martini glass. To garnish, thread a chocolate covered cherry and a maraschino cherry on a cocktail pick. Simply divine!

Love Potion

  • 1 oz gold rum
  • 1 oz orange liqueur
  • Splash of lemon juice
  • 2 oz grapefruit juice

Make your partner fall in love with you all over again with this pretty potion. Mix all ingredients together and pour over ice in an old fashioned glass or a lowball glass.  Garnish this delicious drink with a twist of lemon or an orange slice.

Chocolate Kiss

  • 1 oz. White Creme de Cacao
  • 1 oz. Frangelico
  • 1 oz. Vodka
  • 1 Hershey’s Kiss Chocolate

Everyone loves chocolate on Valentine’s Day, so why limit it to a simple box of chocolates? Take your love of chocolate to the next level with this sinful martini. Start by mixing all liquid ingredients into shaker filled with ice, shaking well. Strain into a martini glass. Add the Hershey’s kiss to the bottom of the martini glass and serve immediately. If you really want to make this drink perfect, melt a bit of chocolate in a double boiler and dip the rims of your martini glasses in the chocolate. Set glasses on a cookie sheet and chill until chocolate is set!

Orgasm

  • 1 oz. Irish Cream
  • 1 oz. Triple Sec
  • 2/3 oz. Grand Marnier
  • 1 maraschino cherry

Who doesn’t want an orgasm on Valentine’s Day? Give your partner an amazing orgasm in bed and follow it up with an orgasm nightcap for an incredible evening! Shake all ingredients in a cocktail shaker with ice and strain into a glass. You can serve this drink in a variety of ways, including in a shooter, a lowball glass or an old fashioned glass. Garnish either with a cherry dropped in the glass or threaded on a cocktail pick.

Raspberry Truffle

  • 1 part raspberry liqueur
  • 1 part Godiva liqueur
  • 1 part cream
  • 3 raspberries
  • Chocolate shavings

If you want a drink that is as pretty as it is delicious, go with the Raspberry Truffle. Take a chilled martini glass and layer the ingredients in thirds, starting with the raspberry liqueur, then the chocolate liqueur and then finally the cream. The trick to layering cocktails is to pour the liqueur over the back of a spoon into the glass. Top with chocolate shavings and garnish with 3 raspberries threaded on a cocktail pick. Dark and decadent!

The Flirtini

  • 1 oz. Triple Sec
  • Splash of champagne
  • 3/4 oz. vodka
  • 2 oz. pineapple juice

What’s Valentine’s Day without a little flirting? Make this delicious drink with  by shaking all of the liquid ingredients (with the exception of the champagne) in a cocktail shaker with ice. Strain gently into a tall champagne flute with two ice cubes. Add the splash of champagne on top and get ready to get your flirt on.

Red Hot Lover

  • 2 oz. peach schnapps
  • 2 oz. vodka
  • 1 dash grenadine
  • 2 1/2 oz. orange juice
  • 2 1/2 oz. strawberry margarita mix
  • Pair of cherries

Be a red hot lover this Valentine’s Day with this delicious and addicting drink. Mix all liquid ingredients together and pour over ice into a hurricane glass. Garnish with cherries – preferably a pair of cherries that are still stuck together at the stems so you can drape the cherries over the side of the glass with one cherry inside the glass. Don’t be surprised if this drink gets your partner in the mood for sex!

How To Spend Valentine’s Day If You’re Single

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Valentine’s Day is for couples, right? Wrong! Just because you’re flying solo on February 14th doesn’t mean that you have to confine yourself to your house like a leper just because you don’t have a significant other on your arm. Treat yourself to something special this Valentine’s Day, like a massage or a special dinner. Check out these great ways to spend the day if you’re sans a date.

Book A Spa Appointment

Pamper yourself on Valentine’s Day by booking an appointment at your favorite spa or salon. Pedicure? Yes, please! If you’ve got the money to spend, book a few services or even purchase a “day spa” ticket where lunch is served. Instead of being bummed out that you’re single on the big day, you’ll be enjoying being pampered all day long. Plus, human touch during a massage is known to boost a person’s mood almost immediately! Even if you’re watching your wallet this February, consider booking just a half hour massage or a simple pedicure or manicure. You’d be surprised that even a little pampering will go a long way.

Try A New Restaurant

Grab a friend (or go solo) to the restaurant you’ve been dying to try. Sure, it may be full of couples having a romantic dinner, but there’s nothing wrong with bringing a book or surfing the web on your phone while you enjoy an amazing meal (that you didn’t have to make!) on Valentine’s Day. If you don’t want to brave the crowds of couples on the 14th, consider ordering out. Either way, make sure you’re treating yourself to something super yummy so you have something to look forward to all day – kind of like a date with yourself!

Host A Valentine’s Day Party

Being single on Valentine’s Day puts you in the perfect position to host an amazing party for your friends. Instead of having to spend the night hanging on someone’s arm, you can mingle with your friends all evening, making you a great host. Throw a rooftop party if you have access to one and the weather is nice, or just string some twinkle lights in your living room or den. You can go all out with decorations and food, or you can keep it simple with snacks and ask that guests bring their own alcohol if they wish to drink. Make it as big or as small as you like, depending on whether you want to throw the Valentine’s Day bash of the century or if you just want an intimate gathering with your closest friends.

Veg Out In Front Of The Tube

Most people have to work on Valentine’s Day, because it’s definitely not a holiday that is recognized by the corporate or business world. After a long, hard day at work, you may not want to do anything but hang out at home in your pajamas – and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with doing that! Plan for a great night in front of the tube with your favorite movies or DVD’s of your favorite television series, and make sure you have lots of your favorite snacks and drinks. Spend the night relaxing and treating yourself to an evening of doing absolutely nothing!

Spread Kindness

There’s something about being nice to other people that makes you feel all warm and tingly inside. Instead of spending Valentine’s Day moping around and feeling sorry for yourself about being single, try donating your time to an animal or homeless shelter instead. Serve up soup to the homeless or take a few puppies from the pound for a walk in the dog park – bonus points if you end up finding homes for any of the doggies! Smile at everyone you meet and make a point to be as nice and kind as you can. At the end of the day, you’ll feel really great about yourself and your self-esteem will have gone way up. It’s a great way to spend Valentine’s Day if you’re alone!

Take A Class

Have you ever wanted to try a kickboxing class or an art class? Have you been dying to hit up the poetry slam at your local coffee shop? Flex your creative muscles and take the class you’ve always wanted to take or check out the underground theater you’ve been eying for a couple months. Valentine’s Day is a perfect day to finally do something you’ve always wanted to, because it’s a great way to remind yourself that you are a creative, talented human being and that you truly do love yourself!

A Valentine’s Day Bondage Guide

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Valentine’s Day is the perfect time to bring something new – like bondage – to the bedroom. Your partner will be more receptive to trying bondage for the first time on Valentine’s Day, and if you and your lover have already experimented with tying each other up before, now is a great time to step it up a night. Here is your bondage guide for Valentine’s Day – what you need, how to keep it safe and how to reach the next level!

The Right Kind Of Bondage Rope

The type of rope you use for bondage is extremely important. Grabbing just any old rope from your shed, garage or the hardware store just isn’t going to work in the bedroom. Well, it will work on a technical level, but it will definitely be uncomfortable and may cause pain and discomfort from mild to severe rope burns. Honestly, when trying anything new when it comes to sex, it’s important that you have the right tools for the job. This Valentine’s Day, invest a little money (not a lot, because most bondage rope is generally inexpensive) in the right kind of rope for bondage play. You can choose from a variety of different rope materials, ranging all the way from nylon to natural fiber and hemp. There are also different braids available, but those are a matter of personal preference. Any rope that is made specifically for bedroom play will work just fine.

Blindfolds? Yes, Please!

A big part of BDSM is blindfolding. This adds a certain element of surprise and mystery to sex, because your partner can’t see what you’re about to do or where you’re going next. This heightens the pleasurable sensations during sex and oral sex ten fold because anticipation is a huge part of experiencing sexual pleasure. Don’t leave out blindfolds in your bedroom play this Valentine’s Day! You can purchase a special love mask by itself, or you can get a “beginner’s bondage kit” that usually includes a blindfold along with other BDSM items such as paddles, feather ticklers, light whips and fuzzy handcuffs. If you’re really short on cash, try using a silk scarf or tie for a blindfold instead. It’s easy to use and doesn’t cost a thing!

Keeping Bondage Safe And Fun

One of the most important parts of bondage and BDSM play is to make sure you’re doing it safely and everyone involved is having a good time. You definitely want to follow the safety rules on Valentine’s Day to make sure your sexy “gift” doesn’t backfire on you! Here are some simple guidelines to use when bringing bondage and BDSM into the bedroom so you and your partner both have fun!

  • Have a “safe word” that is totally unrelated to sex (i.e. banana, waffle, Christmas tree, etc.)
  • Don’t be afraid to use the safe word if you are uncomfortable or are in pain and want the play to stop immediately.
  • If your partner uses the safe word, it is your job to stop whatever you’re doing right away!
  • Discuss with your partner beforehand what is acceptable and what isn’t. For example, oral sex while being tied up is fine, but you want to be untied before having sex so you can participate.
  • Don’t ever insert sex toys without your partner’s consent (and without lube!)

Taking BDSM To The Next Level

Lots of people enjoy light bondage, but others enjoy heavy BDSM play. If you’ve tried rope, handcuffs and the like, you may be ready to take your bedroom play to the next level this Valentine’s Day. Try incorporating a little pain into the mix, with some gentle nipping and biting or spanking. Use a paddle for spanking, as this is so much more comfortable for the spanker than using your hand! It can also feel better for the spankee, because some paddles are padded and shaped just right. Here’s a quick list of other things you can try this Valentines Day if you feel like you’ve already tried just about everything else!

  • Roleplaying. Act out a hot fantasy with your partner like teacher/student or doctor/patient.
  • Diaper play. Do you have a diaper fetish but haven’t come out of the “closet” so to speak? Try getting your partner involved!
  • Mutual masturbation. Never had the guts to masturbate in front of your partner? Give them a show this Valentines Day!
  • Tantric sex. Want a more romantic way to connect with your partner sexually? Try tantric sex for mind blowing orgasms.
  • Try new sex positions. After all, new sex positions can make regular old vanilla sex something new and exciting on any night!