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Valentine’s Day Gift Idea – Hot Sex And Explosive Orgasms

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Coming up with a gift for Valentine’s Day for your lover is no easy task, especially when movies, dinners and chocolates are totally played out. Instead of giving her a gift she’s going to expect this Valentine’s Day, surprise her with a night of super hot sex and give her an orgasm (or two…or three) that she’ll remember for months after the last frost. Be prepared to give her an encore though – these sex tips will have her lusting after you and begging you for sex every time you turn around!

Learn How To Give Her Oral Sex

If you’ve never gone down on your parnter before (or haven’t in awhile), make a point to go down south this Valentine’s Day. You may think you know how to eat a girl out, but take some time to really learn how to push her pleasure buttons when you’re between her legs. There are so many different ways to please a woman orally that it can be difficult to sort through the ones that look like they’ll work (and the oral sex tips that look like total bunk), but here are some easy tips to get you started.

  • The clitoris has over 8,000 nerve endings in it. Pay attention to it!
  • The g-spot is easier to find after she’s already aroused.
  • Don’t head straight for her clitoris – it may be uncomfortable. Start with slow kisses all around to get her warmed up.
  • Be prepared to camp out for awhile. Your goal is to bring her to orgasm and it may not happen right away.
  • Make noise. She wants to know that you’re enjoying it too.
  • Make Valentine’s Day all about hot sex and her pleasure.

Learn How To Give Her A Blended Orgasm

Women are capable of having multiple orgasms in one night and they’re also capable of having two different types of orgasms at one time! Take advantage of the fact that your lover is more versatile in the orgasm department than you are and learn how to give her hot sex this Valentine’s Day that she’ll remember for months to come. Most women can have a clitoral orgasm pretty easily (this is most likely the type of orgasm she gives herself during masturbation) and many girls can also reach orgasm through stimulation of the g-spot. By stimulating both the clitoris and the g-spot at the same time, you can give her a blended orgasm – both types of climax at the same time! Start with these simple tips.

  • If you’ve never found her g-spot before, now is the time to locate it. It’s about 2 inches in on the top wall of her vagina.
  • Get her aroused first. Licking the clitoris and fingering the g-spot without her being warmed up could be disastrous.
  • Don’t try to give her a blended orgasm through penetration at first. You’re better off using fingering and oral sex.
  • Switch back and forth between clitoral and g-spot stimulation before you stimulate both at the same time.
  • Get comfortable. It may take awhile for her to build up to a blended orgasm.

Cuddle With Her Afterwards

After a night of hot sex (especially on Valentine’s Day) it is extremely important to let your partner know that she is loved and cherished. Mental stimulation is just as important for a woman as physical stimulation is, and if she gets one without the other, she may be feeling like she got jipped. Take some time after having sex to hold her, whisper in her ear and snuggle with her. Let her know how much you enjoy having sex with her and how great she makes you feel. Even more than the orgasms you gave her, letting her know how special she is will really put her on cloud nine! Here are some things you can say to her to seal the deal and make this Valentine’s Day truly amazing for her.

  • “I love giving you pleasure. It makes my whole night.”
  • “You make me feel amazing. When I’m with you, I forget about everything else.”
  • “Your body is a perfect fit with mine. It’s like we were made for each other.”
  • “I love you.”
  • “I can’t wait until we can spend another night like this together again.”
  • “You make sex so hot! You are incredible!”
  • “I’ll remember this Valentine’s Day forever.”

By adding a bit of romance to a night of hot sex on Valentine`s Day, you can make sure she is fulfilled on both a physical and emotional level. This is what will really have her coming back for more over and over again!

10 Valentine’s Day Kissing Tips

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Valentine’s Day is well known as the “kissing” holiday. Whether you’re planning on having sex later or not, if you have someone to kiss on Valentine’s Day, you’re definitely going to be kissing them – and hopefully for more than just a few seconds. Make this February 14th a day (or night!) to remember with these super sweet and sensual kissing tips.

Don’t Rush The Kiss

A great Valentine’s Day kiss shouldn’t be rushed. Even if you’re excited to begin oral sex or intercourse, rushing through the kiss could actually end up backfiring on you. Kiss your partner slowly and with meaning behind it. Don’t let your eagerness to get on with other things come through in the kiss – instead, go slowly and act as though you have nowhere else to be and nothing better to do!

The Tongue Isn’t Everything

When kissing, remember that the tongue isn’t everything. The lips and teeth play a huge part in a great kiss too! Kiss your partner softly with just your lips, without moving your tongue towards their mouth at all. Nibble their lips and keep yours soft and pushed out slightly so your lover can nibble on your lips too.

Snuggle In Between Kisses

For longer makeout sessions, it’s important to take breaks from kissing to catch your breath. In between kisses, don’t ignore your partner to catch a glimpse at the television or let your mind wander. Instead, snuggle with your significant other and let them know how special they are to you and how good it feels to be wrapped up in their arms. Snuggling will make your partner feel super blissed out, especially on a day like Valentine’s Day!

Kissing Is Not A Means To An End

The biggest mistake that men make when it comes to the art of kissing is that they treat it as though it is a means to an end and a way to get on with more important things, like getting a blowjob or having sex. Most women enjoy kissing in and of itself, and if they feel as though you’re more interested in getting it on, they may decide they don’t want to put out or move forward with heavy petting, sex or oral sex.

Kiss Other Parts Of The Body Too

Don’t limit your kissing to just your partner’s mouth this Valentine’s Day. Remember to move your lips softly across your partner’s cheek, nibble their ear and dip your head low to kiss and nibble their neck. Don’t go below the neck though, or your lover may think that you’re only interested in having sex! By remembering the sweet spots other than the lips and mouth, you can ensure a great makeout session that doesn’t bore you or your partner easily.

Make The Kiss Delicious

Even if you practice great oral hygiene, you can make the kiss even more delicious by adding mints or candies or even experimenting with temperatures! For a kiss that is cool as a cucumber, pop a breath mint in before kissing your partner. To heat it up, use cinnamon gum, candies or cinnamon mints. Your lover won’t be expecting a deliciously flavored kiss! You can also bring the temperature up or down by alternating sucking on ice or sipping iced tea with drinking a hot drink such as hot tea, hot cocoa or cappuccino. Just make sure that if you’ve made yourself a nice cup of joe, that you have one for your partner too!

Compliment Your Lover

Use the breaks you’re taking in between kissing to whisper sweet nothings in your significant other’s ear. You can, of course, combine this with nibbling and sucking your partner’s earlobe! Let your partner know how good they look this Valentine’s Day, or let them know how important or special they are to you.  If you are in a committed relationship with your partner, this would be a good time to tell your partner that you love them.

Bring Along The Chapstick

If you plan on making out with your lover for longer than several minutes (which you probably should if its Valentine’s Day) both of you are going to end up with some very chapped lips. Bring along the Chapstick to make both of you more comfortable during kissing and after!

Experiment With Bondage

You don’t have to be having sex to have a little fun with bondage. Practice tying your partner up and kissing them all over! Take turns and let your lover kiss you when you are immobilized.

Don’t Let Your Partner Get Blue Balls

Yes, both men and women can get blue balls. If this happens while you are making out, engage in a little heavy petting and give him a handjob, finger her or try sixty-nining for mutual oral sex. If you’ve had sex before, this would be a perfect time to shed the clothes and let off a little steam!

How To Buy Erotic Lingerie For Valentine’s Day

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Erotic lingerie makes the perfect Valentine’s Day gift for your partner. It’s fun, sexy and will make her feel like a million bucks! Unfortunately, buying lingerie for your lover isn’t always as easy as it sounds. It’s easy to get the wrong size or buy something that doesn’t flatter your partner at all. Here is a simple erotic lingerie buying guide so you can get her something that will not only look great on her, but will also be something that she feels super sexy wearing!

If She Has A Large Bust

If your partner has a large bust, it may be difficult to find lingerie with an underwire bra that will accomodate her. Often, lingerie bust sizes are a little different from regular bra sizes, so the underwire may not fit right at all. Choose something without wire at all and better yet, without cups too! Even if the erotic lingerie has a “line” where the fabric of the bust meets the rest of the fabric, it still may not fit right on her – for example the “line” that should sit underneath her breasts may sit on top of them or in the middle, making  it look disproportionate.

If She Has A Large Tummy

Many women are self conscious about their stomachs, especially if they’ve had children. If this is your partner’s “trouble spot,” select erotic lingerie this Valentine’s Day that doesn’t show her midriff. Babydoll teddies are perfect for this, because they boast a layer or two of chiffon that is attached to the bottom of the bust and flows gently over the stomach area.

If She Has A Large Butt

If your lover doesn’t like the size of her butt (even if you do!) don’t purchase lingerie with a thong. Wearing a thong may make her feel as though her worst aspects are on display for everyone to see. Instead, choose panties that have a full rear. You may be thinking “granny panties,” but boy shorts or cheekies are actually incredibly sexy and will make her feel sexy too. You may even be able to get crotchless panties that allow for easier access to oral sex!

If She Has Large Thighs

While a lot of men really enjoy seeing their woman wear garter belts and thigh high stockings (especially on Valentine’s Day), a woman with larger thighs may not appreciate wearing them at all. Most thigh high stockings come in one size only, and may cut into the tops of her thighs creating a “muffin top” sort of look. Even if it looks fine to you, she may still be very self conscious about it. Instead, choose  erotic lingerie that reaches her knees or ankles, such as a piece with a long skirt or one that looks more like a dress but has a sexy slit up the side. You may be able to choose something that covers her thighs but accentuates her breasts to make her feel great about herself and still give you a show!

If Her Breasts Are Small

If she has small breasts, an underwire bra is your best bet. Simply check the size of her bras at home and get lingerie that is closest to that size. Even padded or push up bras are appropriate in this case – as long as it accentuates what she’s got and doesn’t cover it up. Avoid purchasing anything with too much padding, even if her breasts are very, very small. She’ll feel like you think she doesn’t have anything up there at all! If you pick the right lingerie, she’ll feel great strutting around you on Valentine’s Day with a delectable cleavage and you’ll certainly enjoy the way she looks too!

If Her Legs Are Short

No matter what type of erotic lingerie you buy for her this Valentine’s Day, if she has short legs, make sure you pick out a pair of stilettos or high heels to go with it. You don’t necessarily have to get the super tall ones that strippers wear (unless she’s worn them before and knows how to use them without breaking her neck) but anything with at least a three or four inch heel will make her look and feel tall and sexy.

If She’s Fit

If your partner is fit and looks great in just about anything, your job really is easy this Valentine’s Day. You can pretty much buy any erotic lingerie and she’ll feel good in it. Just pay attention to her attitude and if she’s a more demure kind of girl, don’t go out and get something super slutty (unless you’ve discussed the idea with her beforehand). Alternatively, if she’s a kinky gal, lingerie that covers everything up just won’t do.

Valentine’s Day – 5 Romantic Ideas To Make It Extra Special

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Valentines Day can be nerve wracking if you’re not sure what to get your partner as a gift. Sure, you can buy jewelry, plan a romantic dinner and do the whole flowers and chocolate thing, or you can plan something much more loving and romantic that will literally blow your lover away with your thoughtfulness. Check out these great romantic Valentines Day ideas and surprise your lover with something much more than a simple gift!

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Arrange For Both Of You To Take The Day Off

Surprise your honey on Valentines Day with a day off for both of you – but arrange for her day off with her boss in private so she doesn’t know about it. Make breakfast for her in the morning and let her know that she doesn’t have to go in to work, and then spend the day going out on a date, having lunch, shopping or catching a new movie together at the theater. Whatever it is that you and your partner enjoy doing, spend the Valentines Day doing it together and take the opportunity to bond and reconnect.

12 Days Of Valentines

You’ve heard of the 12 days of Christmas, right? Take that concept and apply it to Valentines Day this year. For the twelve days leading up to Valentines Day, give your partner small gifts on every day, saving the biggest and best gift for the 14th. The gifts can be small or large, depending on your budget. Small gifts work just as well if you aren’t able to spend a lot of money, because the idea behind this “gift” is that you’re showing your partner that you’re thinking of them every day for twelve days! The gifts can be flowers and chocolate, kisses, cards, letters, etc. Just use your imagination! The idea is to celebrate your love for twelve consecutive days, regardless of which gifts you choose to give on those days.

Plan A Getaway

If you have the money to spend, plan a short getaway with your partner for the weekend or just for a couple days. Go somewhere warm and sunny just when it’s coldest outside, or if you enjoy the cold, rent a cabin in the mountains and spend a few days snuggling by a fire and tearing up the ski slopes. Even if you don’t have the budget for an entire weekend trip, plan a night out at a hotel in your town or a nearby town. You’d be surprised at how even just one single night at a hotel and just getting out of the house on Valentines Day can make a huge difference in how hot your sex life is! Plan for an awesome night, try new sex positions or even play a few sex games that will get you and your lover’s blood boiling for each other.

Bring Back The Mix Tapes

Remember back in the day when you would make a mix tape for someone you cared about and give it to them as a gift? Bring that idea back this Valentines Day, but do it in an updated way. Buy your partner a nice MP3 player and load it up full of your favorite songs. Make sure you fill it with songs that mean something to the two of you, especially if you have a song that you both consider as being “your song.” Wrap the MP3 player up and gift it to your lover to show them how much you really love them!

Rent An Inflatable Hot Tub

If you think you can’t afford a hot tub or have to rent a hotel with a jacuzzi in the room just to get your bubbly on this Valentines Day, think again! Lots of cities have places where you can rent an inflatable hot tub, even just for a few nights! Set up the inflatable hot tub in the middle of your living room or bedroom (or on the back deck, or wherever you have space) and surround it with hundreds of candles or sparkling lights. If you have two stories, make sure you find space on the bottom floor of your house or apartment to set up the hot tub to make sure there aren’t any huge accidents. Share a great conversation with your lover in the hot tub while sipping champagne and feeding each other chocolate, strawberries or your other favorite sexy foods. If you plan on having sex in the hot tub, make sure you use silicone lube – water based lube isn’t going to hold up for very long in the water because it rinses right off!

Top 6 Valentine’s Day Sex Positions

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Valentine’s Day is all about trying new things, and new sex positions are at the top of the list for a steamy evening that will last long into the night! Try these amazing new sex positions (that’s right, you’ve probably never tried them before) and create a Valentine’s Day that you and your partner will never, ever forget!

Bended Knee

This sex position isn’t difficult to do, but it may require a hard surface such as the floor or a very firm bed. Face your partner while sitting up on your knees. The man will lift one of his knees so that it makes a 90 degree angle and his foot is on the floor. He will be resting most of his weight on his other knee, which is still on the bed or floor. The woman will lift her leg and drape it over her partner’s thigh (the one he lifted up) and both partners will bring their groins together. This amazing sex position allows for face to face contact (which is important on Valentine’s Day) and gives the sensation of standing up without either partner having to hold the other up.

Sit & See

Have the man sit on the edge of a bed or couch with his feet touching the floor. His partner will straddle him while facing him and insert his penis into her vagina. This sounds like a regular sitting position, but the fun part is yet to come (no pun intended). The woman will then lean back, holding on to her partner’s hands to keep her balance. If she has a hard time doing this, she can pull an ottoman or other object over to the bed to lay back on for more support. This amazing sex position is a great Valentine’s Day gift for the man because he is able to completely view her entire body, which is stretched out for him to marvel at and play with.

Reverse Doggy Style

Feeling a bit more like having kinky sex this Valentine’s Day? Try the reverse doggy style position, which is actually better suited for anal sex than vaginal penetration. The woman gets on her hands and knees and lifts her rear in the air, just as though she were getting ready for the regular doggy style sex position. However, instead of facing her, the man will face away from her and lower his penis into her from above. This is one of the more difficult sex positions to achieve, and he may have more luck by facing a little bit to the side rather than directly behind her. He can then use his hands to finger her g-spot or clitoris!

Spooning Blowjob

Valentine’s Day just isn’t fun without a little bit of oral sex involved. For an intense blowjob, have a man lie on his side on the bed. The woman will then lay at a 90 degree angle, placing her head in between his legs. Her legs will be behind him. This will afford the woman a little bit more comfort during the blowjob, as she will be able to rest her head on his thigh as she performs fellatio. This can get a little kinky if both partners are into it – the man can grab his partner’s head and thrust into her mouth as she goes down on him. Don’t be afraid to prop yourself up with pillows to provide more support.

68 – For Her

It’s just as important for her to get oral sex this Valentine’s Day as it is for him. In this titillating sex position, the man can focus totally on her pleasure – and get a little kinky if he wants! The man will lay on his back, as though he were preparing to sixty-nine. The woman will then lie down on top of him with her vagina towards his face. Instead of lying with her stomach touching his stomach like in the traditional sixty-nine position, she will lie with her back to his stomach and the back of her head will be resting in his groin area. This affords him total access to her vagina and clitoris, and if both partners are into analingus, this can easily be done in this position also.

Sybian-Style Cowgirl

Every girl loves the cowgirl position because it gives her more control over her pleasure and orgasm. This particular sex position gives the woman even more control, because she can use her legs more easily to thrust up and down against her partner’s penis. Have your partner lie down with his back on an ottoman and his feet on the floor. The woman will then straddle her partner, with one leg on each side of her partner and her feet on the floor. This is an amazing sex position for g-spot orgasms!