Valentine’s Day and kinky sex are a perfect match for each other. On a day full of romance, love and sexy fun, just about anything goes. Whether you’re into vanilla sex or you like something a little darker, this is the time to really let your inhibitions go and have mind blowing sex! If you’ve never tried kinky sex – or have but want to try something new and different, February 14th is definitely the day to do it. Here are 5 tips that will help get you started!
1. Invest In A Good Bondage Rope
Tying your partner up and having your way with them (or vice versa) is a great way to experiment with kinky sex on Valentine’s Day. However, if you’re tempted to just scare up some rope out of the garage, you’re in for a disappointment – or worse – severe rope burns. If you want to experiment with bondage, it is definitely in your best interest to invest in some good rope that is made for bondage. There are lots of different styles of rope available, ranging from synthetic materials in a variety of braid patterns to all natural hemp rope. Japanese bondage rope is a favorite among BDSM fans because of its softness, durability and comfort.
2. Try Anal Sex
If you’re open to the idea of anal sex, Valentine’s Day is a great day to try it for the first time. Lots of people – both men and women – enjoy the feeling of anal sex not only because it stimulates nerves and pleasure points that vaginal intercourse can’t reach, but also because it’s considered “naughty” or “taboo.” If you’re a first-timer, start small and work your way up. Don’t jump right into kinky sex through the back door without having experimented with either fingers or small sex toys first – if you do, you’ll be sorry. If you use sex toys for anal play, make sure they have a wide, flared base at the bottom (or a ring). This will prevent the object from getting lost inside (yes, that can happen). Don’t forget to use lots and lots of good, water based lube and never a desensitizing lube.
3. Dirty Talk
For vanilla sex lovers who just aren’t into kinky sex but want to try something a little on the wild side, dirty talk is right up your alley for Valentine’s Day. Dirty talk is a great way to let your inhibitions go with your partner – and also let them know what you want and what you like sexually! If you’re shy, practice talking dirty before you actually hop in the bed with your lover. You can practice dirty talk in front of a mirror to yourself, or simply imagine what you might say and how you might say it. If you lock up during sex and can’t seem to get a word out, simply try describing what your partner is doing (and how much you like it) or tell them what you’re going to do (and how much you like it). You get the idea.
4. Watch Porn Together
Porn comes in just about every flavor – whether you like it soft, hard, vanilla or straight up dark chocolate. If you’re too shy to try kinky sex for real this Valentine’s Day, watch a porn with your partner that showcases what you think is hot and what you might like to try. You never know, you just might get in the mood to do something a little freaky after the movie is over! Communicate with your partner beforehand about what they like and don’t like, so you can make sure you get something that is acceptable for both of you. If you’re not sure what you want to try, visit a free porn site like YouPorn and watch a few different videos until you and your partner find something that entices both of you.
5. Adding Sex Toys Into The Mix
If the bottom drawer in your bedroom nightstand is pretty empty, consider filling it with a few choice sex toys this Valentine’s Day. Sex toys are a great way to enter the foray of kinky sex, and most women are familiar with at least the standard vibrator. Choose a sex toy that just slightly outside your own personal box for something new and exciting. Love anal sex? Try anal beads or a prostate massager. Like getting your nipples pinched during oral sex? Try vibrating nipple clamps for some hands free fun. Use your creativity and choose a few sex toys that you’ve been thinking about trying but haven’t had the guts to do it yet.