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10 Creative Ways To Say I Love You Without Saying A Word

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For some people, saying the three little words “I love you” is very difficult. Others have no problem with it at all (and sometimes even say it when they don’t mean it). If you struggle to express the way you feel to your partner through words, there are lots of ways to let your partner know that they are important to you and you enjoy having them in your life without using a single word at all! Here are 10 creative ideas to let your partner know that they are a big part of your life and you love having them in it.

Write A Quick Letter Or Card

Instead of saying “I love you” to your partner, instead, write them a quick love letter or jot it down in a sweet card that you picked up from the store. It is a quick and easy way to let your partner know just how much they mean to you without saying a word.

Send A Text

In the age of technology, almost everyone has texting capabilities on their cell phones. Instead of sending her a text to please pick up milk after work, send her a text that lets her know you’ve been thinking about her all day. You can do this in a romantic way to let her know that you love her, or you can make a racy text – called sexting – to tell her what you want to do to her when you both get home after work. Texting is so easy and cheap you can do it often just to add a little bit of love to her day.

Put It On A Cookie

On your next trip to the mall, visit the cookie store and have them write “I Love You” on one of those giant chocolate chip cookies. The best part is that you two can enjoy the cookie together later that night!

Draw It On The Sidewalk With Chalk

This is a great idea if your partner is away for business often or if you get home from work several minutes before your partner does. Draw a sweet message on the driveway or sidewalk with sidewalk chalk and they’ll see it as soon as they pull in the driveway from work.

Write It On The Bathroom Mirror

Write “I love you” on the bathroom mirror with an old lipstick that you don’t use anymore, or do it in soap so that when the mirror fogs up when your partner is taking a shower, the message becomes clear. The latter is so much fun because they won’t see the message when they step in the shower, but they’ll see it when they come out!

Use An Entire Pad Of Post It Notes

You can really show your love by using an entire pad of Post-It notes to write sweet messages and stick them all over the house. You can write a different message on each note, or you can simply write “I love you” over and over on each note. Make sure you use brightly colored Post-Its for maximum impact!

Place An Ad In A Newspaper Or Magazine They Read

Surprise your partner by placing a sweet message in an ad in a newspaper or magazine that they read. Make sure it’s a magazine or newspaper that they actually read though, or else they won’t get your special message!

Draw It On Their Car Windshield

You can use a wax pen or special car window chalk (you know, the kind they use for those “Just Married” signs when people tie the knot) and write “I love you” all over your partner’s car windows. Do this either in the morning before they leave for work or drop by their place of employment while they’re inside so they don’t catch you. If you’re lucky enough, you’ll be around to see the look on their face when they discover your surprise!

Use Glow In The Dark Stars

Get some of those glow in the dark stars (usually in the kids toy section) and write a sweet message on the wall or ceiling for your partner to discover when they turn off the lights. You can also use this as a seduction tactic and suggest that you two have sex “under the stars!”

Create Your Very Own LoveBook

Create an inexpensive but romantic LoveBook that contains reasons why you love your partner and enjoy having them in your life. A LoveBook truly is a keepsake that they will have forever!

4 Romantic Things To Do For Your Man

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Romance becomes passé when the relationship has hit a plateau. If you’re wondering when this happens, here are some hints that the relationship is heading toward a rut:

  • You act like strangers around each other.
  • You become too lazy to have sex with your partner.
  • Everything your partner does seems irritating.
  • When you make love, your partner does the same thing, whether or not you are enjoying it.

While situations vary among couples, there are some similarities. The relationship is becoming monotonous and the spark is dying. Before your connection with your partner gets damaged any further, try the following.

Celebrate “His” Day

Once a month, you can designate a day when he can become king for 24 hours. Do it in “his-and-hers” fashion to be fair. On his special day, he can have an erotic massage, be served breakfast in bed and be the passive partner during sex. The same should apply when it’s your turn. You may want to wait until his birthday comes around before you do something special. With this gesture, you can make sure that you remind your partner that you’re a couple every once in a while.

Celebrate Your Anniversary – By The Month

This may seem corny (and often, expensive), but reminding each other how long you have been together may help you both understand that you’re in it for the long haul. Also, remembering that times when you were still dating may help improve your romance and how you treat each other. Bake a cake or bring home something special during that day. Make sure it’s something you don’t usually do. If he’s into pasta, make a full-course dinner with pasta as the main dish. If he’s into grilling, you can prepare a week in advance and plan a grill-fest on your month anniversary.

Kinky Thoughts

When you’re just lazing about on a weekend night and relaxing together, you can talk to him about your sex fantasies. Tell him what turns you on, and if he doesn’t take the hint, load the video that got you turned on so he can see for himself.

A perverted train of thought is usually associated with males, which makes it a surprising novelty when the woman starts showing signs of being kinky. But remember to act on your fantasies as soon as you mention them. Talking is the way to begin a kinky night of fantasizing with your partner. But you have to act on one of your fantasies that night, or the gesture is wasted. Simply saying “let’s try it” will get him going.

Encourage Him To Talk Dirty

Sometimes, men are hesitant to talk dirty during sex for fear of offending the woman. This hesitation is present whether or not you’re married. What you can do is to encourage him to talk sexy to you, just to push him in the right direction. After that, you can reciprocate and talk in the same manner to let him know you’re ok with dirty talk.

Penis Size – And 4 Other Things He’s Secretly Self Conscious About

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Penis size is only one of the things guys are secretly self conscious about. What else is he worrying about that he’s not telling you?

There are a lot of things that women are self conscious about. Having smaller breasts or a little extra weight is enough to send some women over the edge. But there are a lot of things that men are self conscious about. Men are just as insecure about certain aspects of their body; they’re just a little better at hiding it.

Men have a way of showing confidence even when they are not confident. A guy can know that he’s not the smartest, tallest or most well endowed guy in the room, but he can still make women swoon. Here are some of the things that he’s secretly self-conscious about.

1. Height

Hollywood has trained women to think that a guy is not worth it unless he’s 6’1. If you have ever heard of the Napoleon Complex, then you know the kind of guy that is secretly self-conscious about his height. Height is a sign of dominance. When a guy is taller than other men, there is a perception that he is better than other men.

While most women know that this simply isn’t true, guys can be very self-conscious about their height. A guy that is not even average height certainly will not have any problems finding a girl that is shorter than him, but he might find it hard to have the confidence to approach her. Most women are between 5’3 and 5’7. This leaves a lot of options to guys that are 5’7-5’8 and even guys that are only 5’5, but height is a key factor to confidence.

2. Hairlines

While height is an indication of dominance, hair can be an indication of youth. When a guy starts to lose his hair, it’s a sign that he’s getting older. This symptom of mortality is enough to send any guy into a tailspin. If you have ever met a guy with a receding hairline, you probably know the self-conscious means of hiding it.

Hats are fairly common with guys who are losing their hair. Wacky haircuts to hide the fact that they are going bald are also a key factor. If the guy is loosing his hair and he’s in his 20’s, you are going to find him extra sensitive about this subject. If you ever meet a guy that is losing his hair, try to stay off the subject.

3. Weight

Weight can be a factor for guys, but it’s much more a factor for women. Although guys have been romanticized with six pack abs and bulging muscles, a little weight might not affect them that much. If the guy is very overweight he could be self conscious about it. Weight is such an issue with all people that it can negatively affect confidence levels and self-image.

If your last boyfriend was in great shape and your new boyfriend has a little pudge, it’s only natural for him to feel self conscious about it. Talk to your guy about his weight and see if there is something that you can to help him out. Simple diets and exercise can go a long way in transforming a body.

4. Body Hair

Excessive hair is an extreme turn off to most women. Having a hairy back is not something that screams sex appeal. Most guys that have hairy backs suck it up and head to a salon to have it waxed off. When the summer hits everybody likes to head to the pool, beach or lake to relax. This can be a nightmare for guys that have hair in places that it shouldn’t be. If you have ever met a guy with a hairy back, you probably know the signs. He is hesitant to take his shirt off or avoids situations where a shirt should not be present.

5. Penis Size

By far the most common thing that men are self conscious about is their penis size. The penis is not like other organs. Although there are pills, exercises and ridiculous penis pumps, most men fret over their penis even when it is of average penis size. The signs are fairly clear. Most men will avoid sexual contact with women if they have small penis or constantly bombard them with questions about previous lovers.

One way to reassure a man is to tell them that the sex is good – even great. We all know that you don’t have to have a huge penis size to satisfy a woman and there are positions that will give deeper penetration for smaller penises. Informing your partner that you are happy with them and your sex life is essential to instilling confidence in their abilities and penis size.

11 Things You Should NEVER Say To A Guy

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Women talk, a lot! I think we speak 5x as many words as guys and I guarantee that guys do not even hear or notice or process 1/4 of the words we say. That being said, since women do love to talk, there are some things you should never say to your man.

Here are the Top 11 Things You Should Never Say To A Guy

#1 Another Mans Name In Bed

Unless that name is God or Jesus, do not speak of any other men. Never good. And it’s worse if you say the name of an
ex.

Now, there may be a time when you slip up and do accidentally say another guys name, if this happens try your best to cover it up. Hopefully, the names rhyme. IN other words, lets pretend you say the name “Sean” and just happen to be sleeping with a guy named “John”. That can easily be fixed by swearing you said the right name. If you think getting the right name will be a problem then just stick to moaning and saying “yes”.

#2 “Your Best Friend/Brother/Waiter Is Hotter Than You”

Guys do not take this as personally as women do. But it is still a blow to his ego even if you are joking. There is no reason to make him feel bad about himself. Even if it is true. If you happen to mention another guy looks hot, do not admit that they are hotter than your own man. Make sure your guy knows you love him and all his body parts.

#3 My Cat Is My Best Friend

In fact go ahead and leave out any mention of a cat, or stuffed animal. You might think it is adorable, he on the other hand does not. Also do your best to hide any said animals. If you are super attached to a pet or stuffed animal and he seems ok with it, great.

That being said do not talk “baby talk” to your pet or toy when your man is in the room. Also, do not dress your pet up in outfits nor call your pet a stupid name aka anything with Mr. or Miss.

#4 “I’ve Had Better/Seen Bigger”

There is a really good chance you have had better sex and seen a bigger dick but there is nothing he can do about
that plus it makes you sound like a whore. If you enjoy sex with your man then great, there is no need to mention past penises or lays. And when you get mad at your guy never use his sack skills as fighting material. Leave him with some pride.

#5 “In College I Slept With The Football Team”

Ok maybe it wasn’t the whole team but if your number of sex partners is twice your age, it’s best to fib a little bit here. Nothing wrong with dropping a good 10-20 off your number. Not saying you shouldn’t be proud, but keep it to yourself. WE live
in a society that has gross double standards but it is true, women that have a lot of partners are seen as sluts and guys are seen as studs. I think it has something to do with the fact that women can always get laid and guys have to work at it.

#6 “My Ex Did This Thing In Bed…”

Never ever bring up your ex especially if it had something to do with his mad sex skills.

The thing is, you are with a new guy now and there is no reason to destroy his confidence by bringing up other dudes. Now if there is a cetain move you wish your guy would do to you then just lie and say you read it in a magazine. Even though that “magazine” was the past sexual romps you had before your guy.

#7 “You Are Such An Idiot…”

Whether you just started dating or have been dating for a while never call your guy names or talk down to him. This sort of thing is super emasculating and no guy deserves to be put down by the girl he likes. Never attack him personally or upset his pride no matter how mad he makes you.

#8 “We Need To Talk”

This sentence never ever ends well so unless you are deciding to break up, don’t ever say this! If you are deciding to break up, then by all means say this. And feel free to say the other 7 things written above. BUT, only if it is truly over!

#9 I Am Looking For A Relationship That Leads Mo marriage

This will make you seem like a chick who’s just decided it’s time to get married and make babies and all you need is some poor bastard to plug into your fairy tale formula. Never ever say this to a guy.

#10 “I Like Successful Men”

Or “I only date successful men”. This means “I am a gold digger.”

You might as well put an ATM by your bed, as far as a guy is concerned. You should never say this to a guy, because it’s like “Hey! I’m a feminist and all, but what I really want is a guy to spend shit loads of money on me” Never say this to a dude. Ever. He will run, if he’s smart. If he doesn’t, then know he’s aware that you are shallow and superficial and that he probably is too. So don’t you dare chunk up on him, or your gravy train will be over.

#11 “I Used To Do (Insert Sex Act Here) But I Don’t Anymore”

That will piss your man off. He’ll be like “why did you do that with him (or her or them) and not with me?

Sexy Valentine’s Day Ideas – Sexy Games for Couples

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Valentine’s Day is quickly approaching, and couples who are ready to have some hot, sexy fun just can’t get enough creative ideas to get their juices flowing! This year, make Valentine’s Day special for your significant other, spouse or partner by trying out a few sexy games for couples. Here are some great ideas!

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Trying New Ideas

Valentine’s Day is all about going outside your box. Doing something exciting or something outside the norm of your sexual routine will help make this V-Day one that you and your partner will remember forever! Use this opportunity to get a little crazy or kinky, wear something you wouldn’t normally wear or do something you wouldn’t normally do. A great “game” to play is using a “fantasy box.” You can use a plain box if you like, or decorate it in sexy lace and marabou, but whatever you do, the concept is the same. You and your partner will write several of your fantasies down on a piece of paper and on Valentine’s Day, pull a few out of the box. Sharing your fantasies this way will help you and your partner be more open to each other’s fantasies, as well as help keep you or your partner from being as embarrassed about sharing your fantasies if you were to confess them out loud.

Fun Games To Try

A great way to spice up your Valentine’s Day night is to paint each other’s bodies. Get creative with this one. Use fun, brightly colored edible body paint, or just finger paints from the store. Use chocolate sauce or caramel for something extra sweet. Have fun painting it on, and then lick or wash all the paint or sauce off sensually. A sexy card game is always in style, and will have you and your partner communicating about your sexual desires in no time. This is a great game to play if you and your partner have trouble talking to each other about sex and what you do or don’t like in bed. Another classic Valentine’s Day game is strip poker, and while the original version is great, some of the newer styles of strip poker are incredibly fun! Some versions of strip poker actually have colored chips that have ideas of fun and sexy activities on them, as opposed to simply removing your clothes. You have to bet what you’re willing to do!

Be Open And Ready For Anything

When planning a special night with your partner, whether it’s Valentine’s Day or any other night, your attitude is one of the most important things to consider. Having an open mind and being ready for some sexy, spur of the moment fun will help make your night special.

Be sure to read Sexy Valentine’s Day Idea: Fun In The Tub and Sexy Valentine’s Day Idea: Gettin’ Kinky for more great ideas to heat up your Valentine’s Day night!