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Premature Ejaculation – Why It Happens And How To Stop It

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Premature ejaculation can really make your sex life suck – learn how to last longer in bed by finding out why PE REALLY happens.

Did you know premature ejaculation is curable by 100% natural methods? By understanding the main reason why it happens you’re about to learn how to stop it for good!

Pleasure Overwhelm

Most men have no idea how to influence how much pleasure they experience during sex. And a huge cause of premature ejaculation in most men is simply down to the fact that during sex they let their pleasure levels get way too high so they lose control and orgasm early.

If you can learn to take control or influence the pleasure you experience during sex so instead of experiencing overwhelm you experience fulfilling maintainable levels of pleasure you’ve just discovered the key to lasting longer in bed.

Learning to last longer in bed does NOT mean making sex boring or pleasure-free. This is why I’ll rarely recommend approaches like “think of someone really ugly” or “do math in your head to distract you”.

Because those things make sex BORING.

What I want you to know about are techniques and strategies that help you control your orgasm, while at the same time keeping sex fun and fulfilling for both you and the woman you’re with.

So to last longer all you’ve got to do is begin taking control of the pleasure you experience during sex and making sure it doesn’t move into overwhelming levels.

Step 1 – Pleasure Awareness

During sex most men have NO idea how close they are to orgasm, but then suddenly it comes along and they think “Oh shoot, there’s nothing I can do.” If you want to last longer in bed you can’t afford to let this happen.

You have to become very aware of your arousal levels and how close to orgasm you are. And doing this is really as easy as just PAYING ATTENTION. When you start asking yourself “how close to orgasm am I?” you’ll know when you start getting close.

And when you realize you’re getting close then implement the second step.

Step 2 – Pleasure Control

When you’re close to orgasm but don’t want to climax yet you’ve got to lower your pleasure levels to prevent that orgasm. There are many strategies for doing this, but two very simple ones are as follows:

Slow Things Down

As dumb and as simple as it might sound – NO GUY DOES THIS! When you’re getting close to orgasm just start thrusting slower. By penetrating slower you reduce the stimulation you experience which means you delay how long until you need to orgasm. If you go really slow you can even end up recovering significant amounts of stamina so in a few minutes time you can speed up again without the need to orgasm straight away.

Change Sex Positions

Another dead simple method to reduce your pleasure levels from overwhelming levels is to TACTICALLY change sex positions.

By changing sex positions at just the right moment in time you can help yourself last significantly longer, because during a position change you get an essential break from pleasure and stimulation. Even a short break can do wonders to helping you recover stamina so that when you get started in your new position you can last much longer.

The Formula For Curing Premature Ejaculation

Just start becoming aware of your pleasure levels and when they get too high take corrective action to lower them to a sustainable level so you can enjoy long fulfilling sex without the worry of premature ejaculation.

Stop Premature Ejaculation – With This 95% Effective Breathing Technique

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Premature ejaculation can wreck your sex life. Use this simple technique to say goodbye to premature ejaculation forever!

What you may not know is that for an orgasm to happen there has to be tension in your body.

What Happens Before Orgasm

Think about what happens normally to your muscle during sex just before orgasm. They tense up, right? In particular you’ll notice that your leg and butt muscles tense up the most. The reason they tense up is because in order for an orgasm to happen there has to be a release of tension.

Orgasms don’t just happen out of nowhere. A process has to happen inside you for them to happen. And the body’s natural process for experiencing an orgasm is to tense up and then release that tension through orgasm.

But what happens if there’s no tension? Well then it’s a LOT more difficult for you to experience an orgasm. And this is quite simply because the fuel needed for your body to experience an orgasm isn’t there.

If there’s no tension, you will struggle to experience an orgasm.

What does this all mean?

Well it means that if you want to last longer in bed and stop premature ejaculation then you need to take control of the tension in your muscles during sex.

Eliminating Tension From Your Muscles

Now you may have already guessed from the title what the best way is to eliminate tension from the body – the right breathing!

What 99% of men do during sex is they breathe many quick shallow breaths. It happens instinctively. Our breath is pretty much the LAST thing on our minds during sex.

So our subconscious mind just goes into default mode and breathes quick shallow breaths because of all the excitement it’s experiencing. Sex is an exciting experience for us so our lungs naturally react by taking in quick shallow breaths.

Unfortunately quick shallow breaths increase tension levels. This is because your breath and your body’s state are INTIMATELY linked. So if you breath in a nervous, excited and tense way then your body’s state will mimic that and you will ejaculate too early.

But the opposite is also true!

How Breathing The Right Way Will Help You Last Longer In Bed

You can take advantage of the fact that your breath affects it, because if during sex you instead consciously breathe in slow deep breaths, your body reacts in a totally different way.

Inhaling deeply and slowly relaxes all your muscles. It’s just how humans work.

This is why arts like yoga and Tai-Chi make such a BIG deal out of breath. Because it has a DRAMATIC affect on the state of your body.

By influencing the state of your body you influence how long you last in bed. Remember earlier when I was talking about how tension is needed for orgasm? Well, this is where the whole idea of  breath comes in. By inhaling slowly and deeply you relax all your muscles. And by relaxing your muscles, you HUGELY reduce the tension in them too. Without tension, it’s much harder for you to reach orgasm.

Without the fuel for orgasm it’s MUCH easier to last longer in bed and ultimately stop premature ejaculation. So, in other words if you want to stop premature ejaculation just consciously breathe slow and deeply during sex.

Fixing Erectile Dysfunction: What Works And What Doesn’t

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Are you tired of dealing with erectile dysfunction? Here are some simple steps for fixing ED and the common mistakes you should avoid when trying to fix it.

And let’s be honest, erectile dysfunction is something that’s worth fixing. If you don’t it can have a devastating effect on your love life. Nothing is worse than being with a woman you’re incredibly attracted to and would love to have sex with, but then not being able to get an erection. Not only can it be demoralizing for you, but for her as well.

First, what not to do….

Don’t Get Frustrated

Erectile dysfunction is as much a psychological condition as it is a physical condition. If you find yourself getting frustrated with it then it will only make things worse.

Putting a lot of pressure on yourself to perform places a lot of stress on the body and with high stress levels will only make it harder to get and maintain an erection.

Don’t Rely On Medication

I definitely agree that medication such as Viagra can be a solution, but I consider it a last resort. Using medication to solve erectile dysfunction can make you dependent on that medication and restrict the freedom of your sex life.

If you’ve tried everything else then by all means consider medication with a doctor’s supervision, but try and find a natural solution first.

Now with the common mistakes out way, let’s switch to the positive things you should try to end erectile dysfunction….

Focus On What Turns You On

Like I said earlier, your psychology plays a huge role in erectile dysfunction and what you focus on and think about before and during sex is part of that.

If you want to get hard then make sure the only thoughts running through your mind are those that make you the most horny and aroused. If you get turned on by thinking about getting a blowjob, that’s what you should think about during sex. Forget worrying about work or focusing on what isn’t working for you. Let that all go and focus on the pleasure of sex and being with the beautiful woman that you’re with.

Work Out Your PC Muscle

The PC muscle plays a huge role in controlling the blood flow to your penis. If you’re not taking 5 minutes a day 6 times a week to exercise your PC muscle (also called kegel exercises), then your erections are going to suffer.

Exercising your PC muscle doesn’t have to be difficult or complicated and you can do it while doing other things like driving or at your desk working. There’s really no excuse not to do it.

Control Your Blood Sugar

Numerous sources have suggested the link between out of control blood sugar levels and impotence, so if erectile dysfunction is a problem for you, you need to take control of your blood sugar. And for many people, this is just a case of making a few dietary changes.

Cut out as many sugars and white carbohydrates as you can (things like white bread, white rice, etc.) and replace them with as many greens as you can. Vegetables are proven to lead to much more stable and healthier blood sugar levels so take the leap and make the switch.

In many cases, fixing erectile dysfunction doesn’t have to mean medical intervention, it just takes implementing a few small changes to your lifestyle and approach to sex.

3 Thrusting Techniques That Make You Last Longer In Bed

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Lasting longer in bed can be as simple as knowing a few special thrusting techniques. This is because premature ejaculation isn’t caused by your genes, your penis size or what your woman does in bed. Premature ejaculation is caused by what you do before and during sex.

The reason most men can’t last longer than 5 minutes in bed is simply because they’re doing the wrong things before and during sex that end up triggering them to orgasm early.

And one of the biggest things men do wrong is use thrusting techniques that encourage quick orgasm. In lasting longer in bed the aim with the thrusting techniques you use should be to reduce the stimulation you get down to a controllable level. Instead most men have sex in a way that gives them so much pleasure in such a small space of time that they get overwhelmed and orgasm almost instantly. By discovering how to reduce your stimulation and pleasure just a little bit you get the incredible satisfaction and deeper pleasure of long lasting sex.

Let’s get straight to it…

Thrusting Technique #1 – Slow And Shallow Entry

A common mistake that a lot of men make when it comes to sex is going too far too fast. One of the things that women love during sex is teasing and anticipation. Women can go absolutely crazy if you show them something they want, but don’t give it them straight away. Most men do the complete opposite when it comes to sex. As soon as they get their penis in their woman they put it in all the way and start thrusting super fast. What does this leave the woman to look forward to and anticipate? Nothing. And often this kills all the sexual tension and makes you as the guy have to work 10 times as hard to get her to orgasm.

Many times women will love it if you start sex very slowly with foreplay. Start by entering your penis inside her very slowly by only half an inch and then pulling it out. Then next time put it in very slowly three quarters of an inch and then pull it out. Then keep thrusting slowly in and out at that depth for a bit. A minute or so later thrust just a little bit deeper. And aim for it to be roughly 5 minutes into having sex before you’re actually thrusting at full depth.

This does three amazing things when it comes to sex.

  1. It has the power to drive her absolutely wild. Women love to be teased and love anticipation, doing this can have her orgasming intensely by the time you’re fully inside her.
  2. It helps you last longer because you’re thrusting slower. By thrusting slower you reduce your stimulation and therefore make it longer before you orgasm.
  3. It helps you last longer because it gives your penis time to “acclimatize” or get used to the feeling of her vagina. The first few minutes inside the vagina are when you’re most likely to orgasm because your penis gets overwhelmed with the new sensation. By allowing more time in the vagina with minimal stimulation, when it comes to thrusting faster later on you’ll be used to the feeling and lasting longer will be much easier.

Thrusting Technique #2 – Deep Thrust And Pump

If you’re already in deep and you’re feeling close to orgasm this is a great technique.

The end of your penis (also known as the Glans) is the most sensitive part of the penis, which means it’s the area of your penis most likely to cause you to orgasm if stimulated. How this thrusting technique works is it reduces stimulation to this most sensitive part of your penis, because by thrusting all the way in you keep the end of your penis away from the most stimulating part of the vagina, which is the entrance.

For this to work all you need to do is thrust deep (without hurting her) and thrust forward and backwards an inch or so, all the while keeping the end of your penis well inside her vagina.

By doing this she’ll get a ton of pleasure, while you can last much longer.

Thrusting Technique #3 – Deep Thrust And Rub

This is a small variation on technique #2 and helps you last longer for all the same reasons.

The only difference with this thrusting technique is that instead of thrusting back and forth you grind your pelvis against her clitoris. You don’t even have to thrust at all if you don’t want to. This thrusting technique works well because it causes you virtually no stimulation but she gets a ton of pleasure from it so it allows you to recover and go again a few minutes later.

The PC Muscle, Kegels And “The Block” – How To Use Them To Stop Premature Ejaculation

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Premature ejaculation is like a knife striking at the heart of a good sex life. Until you discover the methods of stopping it you could not only fail to enjoy sex but leave your partner dissatisfied with you in bed.

So it’s a good thing there are natural methods to stopping premature ejaculation. It’s not something that requires surgical intervention or anything crazy like that, it just takes a bit of understanding of the human body and a few clever techniques. And of these clever techniques the most powerful one involves the PC muscle, kegel exercises and something called “The Block.”

The PC Muscle

The PC muscle is a very important muscle when it comes to sex. It’s one of the key muscles that causes you to ejaculate and can also be used to stop you from ejaculating – and that’s where the real power comes in.

With the right training and use of this muscle you can develop to a point where you can literally stop an orgasm dead in its tracks. And not only will you stop ejaculation, after doing it you’ll stay hard and be able to carry on sex for a significant time afterwards.

So the first step is identifying where your PC muscle is. When you urinate you’ll notice that you have the ability to stop the urine flow. When you stop the urine flow you’re effectively contracting or “squeezing” your PC muscle. Squeezing your PC muscle is like standing on a hose pipe… When you stand on it or “squeeze” it you stop the flow of liquid going through it. This is why when you squeeze your PC muscle while urinating the urine flow stops.

Eventually your aim will be to stop your ejaculation by squeezing your PC muscle, but before I explain exactly how to do that you need to strengthen the muscle first.

Your PC muscle is similar to other muscles in the body in the sense that if you exercise it regularly it will grow in size and strength. And the process of exercising it is often called performing “kegels.” Performing kegels is easy and only takes about 5 minutes 6 times a week.

How To Perform Kegels

Any time when you’re just sitting around or not occupied (i.e. when your penis is flaccid and NOT while you’re urinating) all you’ve got to do is squeeze your PC muscle tight as hard as you can for 2 seconds. Then relax it for 2 seconds. Then squeeze tight hard for 2 seconds and on and on. Do this 10 times to make one set of kegel exercises, then take a break for 1 or 2 minutes. Then do another set.

When starting out I’d recommend performing 2 sets, but it’s up to you to experiment with how many sets you do, how many repetitions you do and how tightly you squeeze. Over time you’ll want to increase the level of exercise you’re doing to strengthen your PC muscle further. If at any point whilst performing the exercise you feel pain stop immediately and take a break, this exercise should not be causing you any pain. Please do note at this point that what I’m tell you is only opinion which makes you responsible for your actions and you’ll want to see a doctor before beginning any new physical training program.

“The Block”

So part 2 of this process for stopping premature ejaculation involves “The Block”. I call it this for no other reason than that it sounds kinda cool. But what The Block involves doing is contracting or squeezing your PC muscle at just the right time so you stop ejaculation from happening.

It’s best to practise this on your own while masturbating first where you have a bit more control before taking it to the bedroom. The aim with The Block is to squeeze your PC muscle just before you ejaculate. The key element of pulling off “The Block” correctly is timing. If you squeeze too early you’ll have done nothing and you’ll still be super close to orgasm. If you squeeze too late then you’ll orgasm and ejaculate anyway.

When you do squeeze aim to hold your PC muscle tight for as long as it takes for the feel of ejaculation to subside. You may even experience an orgasm without ejaculation at this point, which is great. But keep that PC muscle squeezed until the ejaculation feeling subsides. If you got your timing right then once the feeling’s gone you should be able to last for at least another 5 minutes, if not more.

Now getting your timing perfect takes practice. So be prepared to fail at first. But with enough practice it’s well worth the effort. When you master this technique you have complete ejaculation control. No matter how severe your condition, what your penis size, what genes you were born with or what your woman does you can last longer in bed with this technique, so it’s definitely worth taking the time to master it.