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How To Lick The Clitoris The RIGHT Way

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Oral sex on a woman can be tricky, because the clitoris is just so sensitive. Use these simple but effective techniques to lick your girl into an orgasm frenzy!

Why You’re Probably Licking Her Clitoris The WRONG Way

Most women respond well to clitoral stimulation outside the clitoral hood. The clitoris is often much too sensitive to handle direct stimulation. Many guys, however, go gung ho right on her clitoris itself, which can be really uncomfortable!

An outside approach works best – after all, the protection of the clitoral head is exactly what the hood was designed to do. There’s no need to go digging around underneath the clitoral hood with your tongue to find the head – this will only cause extreme discomfort and in some cases, even pain.

Don’t forget, however, that you must also develop a rhythm and keep it, especially close to orgasm. Keeping that in mind, let’s go over some of the correct tongue techniques in more detail.

We cover these tequniques in detail here: The Big Black Book Of Sex Positions

Sweeping Your Tongue Across The Clitoris

This move is great! It simply feels wonderful to a woman and should be a staple of any oral sex routine. It is a fairly easy move – position your tongue on either the right or left side of the clitoris and move from side to side as though you were sweeping a floor.

Clitoral Circles

This too is one of the best and most pleasurable clitoral techniques in cunnilingus. You’ll want to use this one a lot, because it can rarely get boring! The technique is somewhat self-explanatory – again, you’ll position your tongue either to the left or right of your partner’s clitoris. You will begin to move your tongue in circles, either in a clockwise or counter-clockwise motion.

This feels excellent when your partner is fairly aroused because it gives the clitoris plenty of stimulation outside the hood where it is well-received, but once your tongue gets to the 6:00 position on the “clock,” she will get a lovely preview of your tongue on her sensitive clitoral head – but not so much that it is uncomfortable.

Light Suction On The Clitoris

This is a move that is best performed when your partner is sufficiently aroused. Suction too early in the game may turn her off completely by putting too much pressure on her sensitive parts too soon.

You’ll want to take her clitoris gently into your mouth and lightly suck on it – much as though you were drinking from a straw. Remember; don’t get too rough with this move! This can be easy to do, so it is very important that you pay attention to your partner’s cues and movements. If she seems to be shrinking away before her orgasm, lighten up on the suction or discontinue sucking at all.

Remember Your ABC’s

You might have heard of this oral sex technique before, but then again, you might have not. This may quite possibly be the best technique out there, so listen up!

It may sound funny, but you’ll once again position your tongue (a pointed one works best here) either to the side or at the top of her clitoris and begin using your tongue to draw your ABC’s. Yes, you heard right.

This gives your partner a clitoral sensation similar to that of the circular stroke (most of the movement is performed outside of the clitoral hood while just a few strokes end up contacting the clitoral head itself) and simply feels divine to your partner. But wait a second!

If the sensations are really all that similar to the circular strokes, why even do the ABC strokes at all? Well, there’s the money question. The ABC stroke is as powerful as it is because it gives just the right amount of contact to both the clitoral hood and the clitoral head while mixing things up. You get the best of all the worlds – perfect contact, an excellent rhythm but here’s the rub – no two strokes are exactly the same. The different letters that you’ll be tracing with your tongue allow for enough variation to keep your partner guessing and on the edge – of orgasm! Very few men with sufficiently warmed up partners have made it all the way to the letter Z.

The Messy Eater

This is a tricky one, although it may not sound like it at first.

Basically, this move encompasses all the other techniques (such as tongue circles or gentle vacuum suction) but in somewhat of a “smorgasbord” fashion. You’ll want to use an oral sex position where you cradle both legs in your arms (her thigh will be in the crease of your elbow and your hands should come up around and rest on her hip bones) and…well, dig in!

This is a move where attitude really pays off – you’ve got to act like you’re hungry and you just can’t get enough of it. On the same token, however, you’ve still got to keep in mind that the clitoris is very sensitive and although you may be going at it like you’re at a pie-eating contest, you don’t want to go caveman on her and rough her up. Keeping a balance between the two is really what makes this move worthwhile.

5 Things Guys Really DON’T Want In Bed

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Sex tips tell you what to DO in the sack, but how do you find out mistakes to avoid? While men want to do a lot of different things in the bedroom, there are some things that just don’t strike his fancy and may very well turn him completely OFF. You don’t want to do that! Here are the things that your guy would really rather you leave OUT.

He Doesn’t Want To Try “Butt Stuff”

This applies to “butt stuff” on HIM. Most guys enjoy anal sex with women, but the street doesn’t go both ways. Although you can give him a totally fierce orgasm via prostate massage, he’s not likely going to be very receptive to it unless he’s very adventurous. Suggesting that you put a finger up his anus while giving him a blowjob might get you a strange look, or it may get you thrown out of the bedroom depending on how much the “butt stuff” freaks him out.

Some guys will politely turn you down, while others will be convinced that you’re trying to turn them gay and run for the hills. Read your man – if he likes a lot of naughty stuff, he might be into it. If he’s more of a “vanilla” guy, don’t even bother bringing it up.

Lingerie That Has Too Many Clasps, Buttons, Zippers, etc.

Does he love seeing you wear sexy lingerie? Hell yeah, he does! But he also wants to take it OFF. And if taking off whatever you’re wearing is more like diffusing a bomb than getting you undressed sexily, your man is going to become frustrated well before he ever gets to see you naked. Keep this in mind when choosing lingerie.

Garter belts are totally hot, but they’re also a pain in the ass to get on and off. If you want to go that route, just leave them on during sex and make sure he has full access to your breasts and nether regions. If you want to wear something sexy to bed, go for it. Just make sure your guy can actually get it off of you in a short amount of time. Because honestly, if you do the lingerie right, he’s going to want to rip it off you ASAP anyways.

Watching Porn With You

Lots of sex tips suggest watching porn with your partner to help you and him get aroused before sex. Yes, your guy watches porn. He likes it, he masturbates to it, but he doesn’t want to watch it with YOU. There could be many reasons why, such as he had a past girlfriend totally freak out on him about it or he just really enjoys you so much that he doesn’t want his attention drawn to other women (we’re going to pretend it’s the latter – it could be true).

Unless your guy suggests it or brings it up, leave it alone. Let the porn stay on his computer or under his bed and let him enjoy his solo time with it just like that – solo. But don’t be afraid to get your own porn stash going – if porn turns you on, why don’t you watch it the way he does? Solo?

Drunk Sex

Lots of great sex has been born from having a few drinks beforehand. But great sex does not come from being so totally sloshed you can’t get your underwear off. Yeah, we’ve all had our crazy nights and have woke up wondering what the hell happened (and from what you can remember, it was pretty damn fun) but that’s not something your guy wants to do all the time. In fact, being completely shitfaced during sex is probably something you want to save for one night stands, mistakes you’ll regret later, etc. and so on.

Another thing to note here is that if he drinks too much, it’s likely he’ll have “liquor dick” and won’t be able to get or maintain a good erection. So yeah, he doesn’t want drunk sex. Feel free to engage in having a few drinks beforehand to take the edge off and lower your inhibitions a little bit, but know when to put the drink down and head to the bedroom.

Kinky Sex That Goes Too Far

Many sex tips resources assume that all men like kinky sex and the kinkier the better. This is actually far from the truth. While most guys will enjoy the occasional bondage scenario (such as being handcuffed to the bed for a blowjob) or spanking their girl during doggy style, kinky sex that goes too far is actually going to scare you partner away. Don’t be afraid to try new things, but breaking out the cock cage, leather whip and dog collar will ensure that you’ll never see hide nor hair of your man again.

This is, of course, unless your man is super into kinky sex (which you would have already known if he is). If he’s just your average Joe, learn how to give an excellent blowjob instead. That will impress him far more than whipping out all the sex toys and kinky stuff in your nightstand drawer.

8 Ways To Have “Vacation” Sex – TONIGHT!

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Sex is always better when you’re on a trip, right? Why. Several reasons actually – here’s how to re-create super hot vacay sex right now!

Clean Up The Bedroom – Or The Whole House

Hotels and vacation resorts are almost always clean – at least, cleaner than your house after the kids have ran through it. Stepping into a perfectly clean hotel room at the start of your vacation is always relaxing, and sets the mood for great nookie later. After all, it is hard to have erotic foreplay when someone steps on a Barbie.

Bring that feeling to your house by giving it a really good clean while your spouse is away at work. (Of course, it’s a lot of trouble taking off work yourself, but you take time off work for a vacation, don’t you?) When your lover walks in, it should look and smell clean and completely different than when they left. They’ll be amazed – and so glad that they don’t have to do it that they’ll be game for almost anything.

Wash The Sheets And Towels

Yes, this probably should go under “cleaning up.” However, washing the sheets (heck, even springing for new sheets if you’ve got the cash) and towels is so important that it deserves its own section. One of the reasons that hotel sex is so great is that the bed is clean – that is, if you’re in a good hotel. They smell clean, and the next day, they’re clean again. And again. No matter how many times you have sex in the bed, the sheets are always clean when you get in! That’s actually really erotic for a woman.

Eat At A Nice Restaurant First (Or Order In)

Think about what you do to eat on vacation that is different from how you eat at home. Are you always ordering out at home? Then dress up and go out for a nice meal at a romantic, sit down restaurant. Are you always going out to eat at home or cooking and cleaning up a huge mess in the kitchen? Order in. Do you go out on vacation but not at home? Go out. You get the picture.

Food is very sensual and plays a big part in the seduction process, especially if it’s really delicious and you get to enjoy it slowly, perhaps with your favorite drink. That is often what makes vacations so great is that there will usually be some new and exciting dining experiences. Plan a new and exciting dining experience at home, and you’re well on your way to re-creating the sexual magic.

Serve Champagne In An Ice Bucket

Room service is incredibly romantic if you can afford it – and a lot of people splurge on room service when they’re on a trip. There’s little more romantic than seeing your partner in a fluffy robe, opening a bottle of champagne and enjoying it. Serve strawberries or chocolate covered strawberries with it for an extra romantic touch.

The point is, you’re doing something that is usually reserved for special occasions, vacations and the like (when the sex is always better). Do you serve champagne in an ice bucket regularly at home? Probably not. If you have kids, Kool-Aid and sweet tea are the house wines.

Romantic Bubble Bath? Yes, Please!

Often, couples will take a romantic bubble bath at a hotel when on a trip, but not at home. Why is that? Is it because the hotel bathtub is a lot bigger? Possibly, but you probably still fit fine in your bathtub at home. Is it because there is new bubble bath in a pristine wrapper on the ledge of the tub just waiting for you to use it? In all actuality, that is very likely.

Splurge a little on a nice bubble bath and don’t open it – just set it on the ledge of the tub. Throw in some rose petals if you want, and bring the ice bucket with champagne over. Enjoy a romantic, sensual bubble bath with your lover at home! Want it to really feel like you’re away? Play some white noise – a fire crackling or the ocean with seagulls in the background. This will make you feel like you’ve been totally transported away! Don’t forget to have a quickie in the shower the next morning!

Do It In The Guest Room

Or anywhere besides your bed, really. If the sheets aren’t washed, or you just want the maximum “vacay” effect, get it on somewhere other than where you usually do – and for most couples, that is the bedroom. The guest bedroom is a great option, because most likely, the sheets in there are already clean.

Being somewhere other than your bed will make you feel like you’re somewhere else entirely – and that’s what turns the heat up! If you don’t have a guest room, there are lots of other great places to have sex in your house – almost anywhere!

Go Tropical – Or A Cozy Winter Theme

When you’re on a trip, the “theme” effect is in full swing. People usually either go to the beach or somewhere cold like a ski resort – and they often either go in the summer or winter to boot. Help recreate the vacation feel by going with a theme. If it’s warm outside, go with a beach theme.

Make margaritas or pina coladas, use coconut scented lotion after a bath and burn a tropical scented candle or incense. If you’re going for a winter theme, hot chocolate next to a fire (or a fake fire set up on your laptop) and cozy cuddling are definitely in order.

Wait, Doesn’t This Sound Like Any Old Regular Date Night?

A lot of this sounds like what you might do for any regular date night. A nice meal, a romantic bubble bath – yes, this all sounds very familiar, doesn’t it? Problem is that a lot of couples wait until they’re on a trip to actually have a date night! They may go six months without ever having a date, until freeing up their workload by going on vacation. That’s when the magic happens.

Instead, free up your workload for a day without planning on a trip. Make reservations at a brand new restaurant that you’ve never tried, and have Grandma babysit the kids. Make time for that date night – real, honest-to-goodness time and the sex will be explosive!

Top 10 Best Places To Have Sex Around The House

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Sex doesn’t always have to be in the bedroom. In fact, it can be much more fun to discover other locations to go to have sex with your lover. But imagine if you could have tons of different areas to play in without ever leaving the house? You never knew how much fun sex with your significant other could be until you’ve ventured outside the bedroom….to the hall, the bathroom, and even outside! Check out these ten places that will have you wanting more.

In The Swimming Pool

Getting busy in the water is super hot, but sometimes you can’t always get comfortable during shower sex – and if privacy is one of your things, doing it at the lake just isn’t going to float your boat. The swimming pool makes an excellent compromise, because you can enjoy the feel of your lover’s body in the water without leaving the comfort and privacy of your home.

In A Tent In The Backyard

Real camping is rarely convenient (and often dirty), but it can lead to some super steamy sex. You don’t have to miss out on the amazing sex that can happen when you’re camping – just take a romantic, sexy camping trip in your own backyard instead. It’s easy to set up and you’re never very far from the bathroom. Up the romance factor by laying out under the stars with your partner or cuddling with them near a fire – and then watch your sex life heat up too.

On The Dining Room Table

The dining room table is such an unexpected place to have sex, it can be a total thrill to abandon all your whims and just do it right then and there. If you don’t want to do it on the table, try having sex underneath it. This is a great place to act out any domination or roleplay fantasies, because often the idea of doing it on or under the dining room table where people eat is a huge turn-on.

In A Game Room On A Beanbag Chair

With a beanbag chair, you and your partner can get into a variety of different sex positions – even ones that you normally can’t do when you’re just having sex in the bed. Use the beanbag chair to prop your bodies up in different ways to make awkward positions more comfortable, or just use the chair to help you achieve different angles with your favorite sex positions. Just be careful not to pop the chair, because cleanup can be a mess!

On The Front Porch Swing

Use the rocking motion of a porch swing to make sex with your lover even better. The added motion can help you have better orgasms, and you won’t get as tired during thrusting because the swing will be doing a lot of the work for you. If you don’t have a private front yard, consider a swing in the backyard.

In The Kitchen On A Barstool

Standing sex positions can be great for g-spot stimulation, however, many men aren’t able to hold their partners up for an extended period of time (while thrusting no less) and some men aren’t able to do it at all. However, using a barstool in the kitchen is a great way to try out a standing position without breaking your back.

In Your Home Office On The Desk

You’ve seen the television shows and movies that show two co-workers throwing everything off the desk so they can have sex on top of it, right then and there. Indulge in a “need you right now” feeling and do this in your own home office. Your partner will be incredibly surprised – and very turned on – to say the least.

In Your Guest Room On The Pull Out Couch

Who hasn’t done it in their own guest room? Have some really fun, kinky sex on the pull out couch or the bed in your guest room and enjoy the fact that your guests will never know what really went on in there – and how much fun it was!

In The Coat Closet

This is a great place to sneak away and have a quickie if you and your lover have children and need to get away for just a few minutes. This is also an awesome hideaway if you’re having a party or have guests at your house and want to enjoy each other in secret. There’s just something naughty yet exciting about doing it in the coat closet!

In The Laundry Room On Top Of The Washing Machine While It’s Running

This really is the best place around the house to have sex. It combines a standing sex position with an exciting new venue to get it on in, along with powerful vibrations that will rival any sex toy. Next time you’re feeling really wild, throw a load of clothes in the wash. You’ll never look at “doing laundry” the same way again.

11 Surprising Ways To Have Incredible Sex

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Incredible sex doesn’t have to be something you once had at the beginning of your relationship. It’s common for sex to become blase as you and your partner become more comfortable with each other, however, that doesn’t mean you have to resign yourself to mediocre sex for the rest of your relationship. Here’s how you can make sex great with these unconventional techniques.

Experiment With Condoms

Condoms are essential if you and your partner aren’t monogamous with each other, aren’t sure of each other’s sexual pasts or haven’t been tested for STD’s. However, most couples who have been tested or are in a monogamous relationship forgo using condoms, especially if they’re using birth control to prevent unwanted pregnancy. But did you know that condoms can sometimes enhance your sex life, even if you don’t need them? Condoms are great for anal sex, because you can just slip it off before engaging in vaginal penetration. If you experiment with different brands and styles of condoms, like ribbed and studded or twisted, you may find something that actually helps stimulate your g-spot and makes it easier for you to have an orgasm!

Try Dirty Talk

A lot of women are too shy to try dirty talk, but there is definitely a correlation between dirty talk and absolutely explosive sex. If you’re not comfortable with dirty talk, start slow and work your way up to it. Start by simply vocalizing your pleasure when you feel something good, especially if your partner is doing something special to you like giving you oral sex. Next, start describing how much you like what he’s doing and then move on to telling him what you’d like to do next. Dirty talk doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to be vulgar – it can be as simple as tell your partner what you like and how much you like it.

Start Sexting

Like dirty talk, sexting can drastically improve the quality of your sex life with your partner. While you’re at work or school, send your lover a naughty text that describes what you want to do when you get home that night. It will spark their imagination and get them thinking about you all day. When you finally do get home, it’s going to be all you can do not to tear each other’s clothes off as soon as you walk through the door!

Learn To Striptease

Men are visual creatures. They love watching women, especially naked women. The love dancing naked women even more! There’s a reason that strip clubs are so popular, but most women don’t like their guys going out and ogling other women. You can solve that problem in a heartbeat by learning to perform a striptease yourself! Don’t worry about not being a good dancer or not knowing what you’re doing – your man doesn’t care. Slip on some really great lingerie (a garter belt with thigh highs is a must) and do a sexy little dance for him. Chances are, you won’t be dancing for that long anyway.

Eat Celery

You wouldn’t think that celery would boost your libido, but it most certainly does. Celery contains a steroid called androstenone, which is also found in human sweat. This is one of the components of human pheromones that help attract men and women to each other. Eating celery will increase the presence of the steroid in humans and increase pheromone production – making people much more attracted to each other. Not only will it increase pheromone production, celery will also increase the amount of ejaculatory fluids in both men and women so orgasms will be more powerful and more pleasurable.

Take The BSPI Test

The BSPI Test (called the Beiter Sexuality Preference Indicator) is a test that can accurately determine what your true sexual preferences are  through both direct questions and questions that are designed to access your subconscious. Knowing your sexual preferences – what you like and what you don’t like – can help you better communicate what you want in the bedroom to your partner. You can also have your partner take the test to see if you’re sexually compatible!

Wear Socks During Sex

Sure, socks aren’t sexy and most men and women only wear them to bed if they’re not planning on having sex that night. But did you know that if a woman’s feet are warm, she is 30% more likely to have an orgasm? Next time you get it on with your lover – especially if you have trouble reaching the big “O” – try donning a nice, plush pair of socks on your feet before you crawl in between the sheets. You might be surprised at how much better it can be!

Get Sexy

Women feel sexier when they get their bodies ready for sex. Sure, shaving may not seem like a very erotic act, but getting ready for sex by primping will actually make a woman feel more like getting busy than if she hadn’t done any primping at all. So next time you’re thinking about hitting the sheets with your partner, take twenty minutes to shave your legs (or other parts of your body if you like), put on a little lip gloss and fluff your hair. If you’re feeling like you’re looking good, you’re going to be much more receptive to having sex.

Bake A Pumpkin Pie (Or Burn A Lavender Candle)

We all know that scent plays a very powerful role in arousal, but many women (and men) aren’t sure what scents and aphrodisiacs will turn their partners on the most. Women respond best to the smells of vanilla and fresh cut grass, while men respond best to the smell of lavender or pumpkin pie. Next time you want to turn your man on, burn a lavender candle and slip into a bubble bath or bake a fresh pumpkin pie right before he comes home from work. He won’t know that the smell of pumpkin pie is what made him want to jump your bones as soon as he walked in the door, but you will!

Assign Him Chores

While men get turned on by a naked woman, women actually get turned on when men do chores! A woman will get much more turned on by a man in a work uniform covered in grease who has just changed the oil in the car than she will by a man who is primped, shaven and naked. If you want to give your libido a boost and become more attracted to your man, ask him to do something really “manly” like fix the leaky pipe or lift something really, really heavy. Even if you can do these things yourself, you’ll be much more attracted to him if he does it.

Take Some Zinc

Zinc is a great supplement to take when you have a cold or the flu because it can help you get over it faster, but did you also know that zinc will help boost your man’s libido? Zinc is essential for testosterone health and will raise a man’s energy levels and increase their desire for sex. Oysters have gotten their reputation for being an aphrodisiac most likely because they are one of the foods that are highest in zinc! Next time you want your man to really want you, feed him some oysters or just have him take a zinc supplement!