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HIS Secret Sex Zones: How to Make Him Beg for More

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Can you REALLY pleasure your man in bed? Sure, he reaches his climax and all but do you think he considers you a SEX GODDESS?

It may not take a lot to ensure that your boyfriend/husband/lover reaches a climax but the ‘intensity’ of that peak is what we’re talking about here. So ladies, to stand out from all the rest listen up because you’ll now learn how to truly treat him to mind-blowing sex. The secret? Knowing his secret sex zones.

That’s right, men – just like us women – have certain pleasure buttons too and if you know where they are and, more importantly, HOW to stimulate them then you’ll soon make him scream in bed.

So in the interest of ‘science’, I and couple more female friends, took it upon ourselves to experiment so that we can give you the low-down on male sex zones.

HIS Hot Zone # 1: Cremaster 101

You may be thinking we made up this name but seriously, there IS such a word as cremaster and it’s a muscle that covers the male testicles. This wonder muscle works pretty much like a bungee cord or rope and it pulls the testicles up (when they’re exposed to cold) and down (when they’re exposed to warmth). You can thus say that the purpose of cremaster is to ensure that the testicles are protected by regulating temperature.

How to master the cremaster: When your partner is just about to come, his testicles retreat. Think of it as a spring coiling tight before the big deployment! It’s of course the cremaster that’s making this ‘coiling’ possible. In contrast, lightly pulling down on his family jewels while making love helps delay ejaculation, thus extending pleasure. So, if you want him to be delirious without pleasure for a long time, make sure you are delaying the effects of the cremaster!

For instance, as you perform fellatio, make sure that you are gently pulling or tugging at his balls. Your tongue action on his member will make him want to explode, but your pulling action is preventing the cremaster from tightening and pulling the testicles up to the point that he reaches a climax. It’s sort of like finding the secret to lasting all night!

As you try the tip above, be sure that you’re not tugging too hard. Remember you want to delay his climax while providing pleasure. You want a deep moan out of him, not a shout of pain.

HIS Hot Zone # 2: The P-Spot

If we women have the G-spot (Gräfenberg spot), men have the P-spot or what is called the prostate, which is actually a gland that holds a fluid that gets ejected with semen as he climaxes. The prostate is just about the size of a walnut and it surrounds the urethra. And just like our g-spots, when the prostate is stimulated, he can be in for a very wild erotic ride.

How to master the P-spot: To stimulate his prostate, you need to know about the corpus cavernosa first. These tissues run over the length of the penis (from the pubic bone to the penis head) and are actually the ways by which blood pumps to the penis, making it erect.

So to cut the long story short, stimulate his penis and you, in effect, stimulate his P-spot. What’s the best way to do this, you ask?

Wrap your dainty hand around his penis and instead of making an up and down motion as you normally would, push your hand – gently! – towards him. The result? The corpus cavernosa tissues will go down and ‘cuddle’ the prostate.

HIS Hot Zone #3: Perineum

The perineum is that diamond-shaped area between his balls and back door. It feels slight hard to the touch but it’s jam-packed with nerve endings that can easily send him to erotic heaven!

How to master the perineum: You can stimulate the perineum anytime you wish since it’s pretty much located at an ‘accessible’ angle. However, what a lot of women forget is to stimulate it just when he’s about to come.

For instance, most men seem to prefer to be in the missionary position when they’re ready to explode. So, when you sense that he’s nearing his climax, simply reach down between his legs and press this diamond-shaped pleasure nub with the knuckle of your index finger. Why the knuckle? Well, it really is sensitive so you want to avoid scratching him there. You want him to shout in pleasure and not to shout (at you!) in annoyances or pain.

If on the other hand, you want to stimulate the perineum at the onset of lovemaking, think of it as his clitoris. By this, we mean you should make sure that you are applying various degrees and types of pleasure. (Isn’t it that our clitoris sort of becomes immune, if not even irritated, if it’s constantly treated to the exact same treatment or pressure?)

So be sure that you massage, draw lazy circles, press and ease away, and pretty much keep his perineum point on the edge as you stimulate him.

HIS Hot Zone #4: Lips

Well, what do you know, one of his erogenous zones is one of ours too: the lips. This is not surprisingly really. After all, the membranes that make up the lips are packed with nerve endings. So the next time you think that he’s not much of a kisser, give him a lip treat that will MAKE him want to be kissed over and over again.

How to master his lips: It’s soooo easy to kiss your partner on the lips that you probably just go ahead and plant a big wet one anytime you like. Well, this time, make him beg for it by kissing him everywhere… EXCEPT on the lips. And make him really anticipate it too by making sure you plant really wet, sloppy kisses elsewhere on his body. Make sure you apply various kisses too: wet ones, hard ones, quick ones, sucking ones, you get the idea.

All these moves will make him want you to kiss him full on the lips soon. And when you finally ‘give in’, make sure you do various things such as lining his lips with your tongue, and when they’re wet, exhale gently on them. This wet-cool technique will drive him WILD!

His Hot Zone #5: Nipples

Remember the times when you thought you were almost ‘coming’ because he’s soooo good licking, grazing and sucking your nipples? Well, guess what, you can apply the same delirious pleasure on him.

True, his nipples are not as ‘obvious’ as ours even when they’re hard and erect. However, those little nubs are still packed full of pleasure nerves that you can tap!

How to master his nipples: Start off by kissing, licking and breathing your hot breath on his nipples. That would make them erect enough! Now, as you go on your favorite woman-on-top position, give him a double sensory delight. By this, we mean make his eyes dance with delight as your bosom jiggles up and down in front of you as you ride him. While this is going on, reach out and draw lazy circles around his nipples! We guarantee, he won’t know to which pleasure he should focus on!

So there you have it; five secret sex zones for you to play with tonight. Enjoy!

5 Phone Sex Tips For Beginners

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Phone sex is all about having a sexy conversation with your man. It’s also known as “tandem” masturbation because you’re fondling yourself while talking to him and he’s doing the same thing. Phone sex can be a challenge if you’re not used to masturbating with someone listening to your moans, or if you’re not used to talking dirty.

Let’s suppose, one night, while you’re talking on the phone with your man, your inner bad girl whispers a suggestion in your ear, “have phone sex with him”. How do you go about instigating sex on the phone? Here are some tips to help you out…

Open Up Sexually

You must slowly open up your sexual side to the man you love. Always worrying about acting slutty will get you nowhere near the girl who can talk dirty on the phone. If you trust your man, and you know that he will never change if you acted “out of character”, don’t be scared to drop F-bombs if he enjoys that. Being shy doesn’t mean you cannot learn how to talk dirty. Start with the words that you can say without cringing.

Gradually open yourself to sexy talk. Phone sex is the perfect opportunity to open your sexuality. You’re providing yourself a sexual outlet, and he gets to listen to your erotic fantasies.

Fantasize

Fantasies are just dreams until you act on them. Because it’s impossible for your man to do erotic stuff with you on the phone, you should talk to him about your fantasies and what you want him to do to you when you meet up.

One good way to do this is to think of “what if” scenarios. Talk about what you would be doing if he were beside you at that moment. If you’ve attended some gatherings with him (high school reunion, your cousin’s wedding, etc.), why not use those events during phone sex.

Men Are Visual

Your man needs to know what you’re wearing, what you’re holding and where you are to feel aroused. He might even ask about the other people in your house to check if they’re out of sight. Most men need to know these things so that they can put everything in perspective.

Even if you’re wearing your dorkiest pyjamas, tell him you’re wearing nighties, red ones. Nighties are easier to remove than pyjamas, so he gets hotter thinking he can “remove” your clothes easily.

Report Your Actions

You know he’s getting hot when he starts asking you to do things like touching your breasts, your thighs and your vagina. Indulge his needs, and do other things to excite yourself more.

Tell him he’s making you horny and you’re now touching yourself with your dildo. Responding to his teasing by acting like you “can’t help” but follow his orders.

Moan When You’re Near Orgasm

When you’re getting closer to orgasm, be more expressive. Tell him you’re feeling really hot and you’re almost there. Scream when you climax so that he can climax with you. If you reach orgasm first, keep moaning to goad him on.

You can tease him by describing how wet you are at that moment, and how you really want his dick inside you. This kind of talk will turn him on and make his orgasm more intense.

Best Sex Positions For Losing Weight

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Having sex can make you feel great about your body. If the sex is with someone you care about, sex can become more than just another “fun” event. Sex can be a tool you can use to make your relationship stronger. However, did you know that sex could also make you thinner?

The physical exertion involved in having sex can amount to a significant amount of calories burned. I cannot think of a more enjoyable way to shed the pounds. If you’re looking for an excuse to have sex with your man tonight, tell him that sex is now a part of your daily workout routine. He’ll be glad to participate, and you can lose weight in the process.

Here are three of the best sex positions for losing weight.

Pushups In The 69 Position

Normally, you would hold your body steady and bob your head up and down while you’re in the 69 position. However, instead of doing it this way, you can change the way you perform a blowjob by moving your whole torso instead of just your head and neck. Think of it as doing half-push ups while having sex.

The Squat

This sex position is just a variation of the woman on top position. Instead of kneeling during penetration, you can plan your feet on both sides of his body and squat. Going up and down while in this position can be tiring, but you can be sure it will burn some calories.

Do several repetitions until you simply can’t go anymore, or until he has climaxed. This can be your cardio exercise for the day. You can also strengthen your leg muscles by doing this repeatedly.

Participative Missionary

The typical missionary position calls for more action on the guy’s part, but if you want to lose weight while having sex, you can try “participating” while in the Missionary position.

While he’s on top and you’re lying flat on your back, lift your torso up to kiss his lips or his neck. Hold this position for a while and then go back down. The trick is to not use your arms to lift your body off the bed. Instead, use your torso.

To effectively lose weight while having sex, try doing it on the floor or on your yoga mat. This is better than doing it on the bed because the mattress might be too soft for any exercise to be effective. You can also do some leg stretches while your man is on top of you and your legs are over his shoulders.

It is important to let your man know about your new exercise program so that he will not think it’s strange when you mutter rep counts under your breath or when you start stretching your legs and arms in weird angles.

How To Fake An Orgasm – He’ll Never Know

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Before I dish out some great tips on how to fake an orgasm, let me clarify a few things.

First, let me start off by saying I hate having to fake an orgasm, and I’m sure many women feel the same way. You’re just fooling yourself, keeping your sexuality hidden and preventing your man from really knowing how to turn you on intensely enough for you to get off. However, I do not hate the women who fake. They have their reasons.

Second, I may hate faking orgasms now, but I certainly did my share of faking when I didn’t know any better. Why did I fake? I usually faked whenever I felt like the sex is getting nowhere and the man I’m with won’t quit pinching, poking and senselessly humping with a limp penis until I tell him I have reached orgasm. I wanted to give him a break, because I could tell that all he wants to do is sleep (after all, he has already climaxed). Yes, I cared that much.

If you’re ever in the same pinch, here are some ways to fake an orgasm so that he will never know I faked…

Bite Your Lower Lip

I don’t know where men got this notion, but some guys believe that a girl is about to climax if she bites her lower lip. Close your eyes tight as you can as you bite your lip to indicate that you’re “coming.”

Moan Loudly

Most guys have been gorging on porno movies ever since they learned about sex. They have been trained to believe that a woman screaming her lungs out during sex is reaching orgasm. Because of this, you can fake climax by moaning loudly, and shrieking after a series of loud moans. If you want an example of how to do this, check out Jenna Jameson’s old porno videos. Boy, that girl can scream!

Tell Him You’re Coming

According to porno films, all women are considerate enough to tell a man they’re going to climax before they actually climax. This makes a guy go faster, and hump harder, so he can join her.

Simply moaning out loud won’t do. You actually have to articulate the words “I’m coming” so that he will know.

Scratch His Back

The stereotypical sight of a woman scratching a man’s back when she reaches orgasm is considered one of the best ways to tell when a girl is coming.

You can simply dig your nails on his back while you’re “almost there” and scratch down ruthlessly when you’re supposedly “there”. He will forgive you for the scratch because, after all, you were in the throes of climax and you didn’t know what you were doing.

Clench Your Muscles

There are some guys who are experienced enough to know when a girl is faking and when she really is reaching orgasm. But there’s a move that most guys mistake for orgasm. It’s the clenching of the vaginal muscles. When you climax for real, the muscles inside your vagina move sporadically.

You can’t control the sporadic movements, but you can simulate the muscular movements by consciously tightening the vaginal muscles around the shaft of the penis. Hold it for a few minutes and he thinks you have successfully reached orgasm.

Better Orgasm 101

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As with most anything in life, there is a learning curve one must round before attaining the proficiency and skill to succeed. Sex is no different. Were we women born to immediately know how to achieve orgasm? I think not.

It may be easier for some women solely due to chemical makeup. But the majority of us – 70% according to statistics – require active clitoral stimulation before we can achieve orgasm. The good part is that we can learn a method that will allow us to increase our sexual responsiveness during intercourse and experience climax through the act of intercourse.

Consider yourself enrolled in Better Orgasm 101. We will learn the three steps in a plan to lead you in the right direction.

Clitoral Stimulation

In the first part of your new program, you or your partner will stimulate your clitoris as you are making love. During intercourse, if the motions are distracting to you and prevent you from reaching climax, simply have your partner insert his erect penis into your vagina without movement. During this still period of intercourse, manually stimulate your clitoris until you reach orgasm. Once this is successful, have your partner get moving.

The second phase teaches you to rely less on your manual clitoral stimulation. Gradually stop touching your clitoris a certain time period before your reach climax. You will begin to let the thrusting motions of your partner propel you into orgasm. At first, the time period between ceasing clitoral stimulation and orgasm will be short.

In the third phase, you will begin to increase the amount of time between the end of clitoral stimulation and climax.

You graduate to the next level only when you have successfully passed the test of achieving orgasm through the previous level of non-clitoral stimulation. During any of these phases, you may take as long as you like to complete and pass them. There is absolutely no pressure to move at a fast clip.

Fantasizing

In fact, the psychological aspects of this process definitely need to be mentioned. Our bodies do not exist without our minds. The mind-body connection is a powerful connection that we need to learn to use to our benefit.

When practicing the phases, begin to use your mind to fantasize. It’s one hundred percent OK to do this. To enhance your sexual pleasure, fill your mind with an erotic image that you find very stimulating. This one action alone may be the trigger that sends you directly into orgasm.

It is also important to realize that you need to be in a relaxed state of mind and body when seeking the ultimate sexual pleasure. Shed any inhibitions or old-fashioned notions of what you were always taught that sex should be. Make the sex your own. Slip into a sexy negligee and feel good about yourself. Look at your reflection in the mirror and praise the way you look. Love yourself and let your partner love you.

 Enjoy Different Positions

Old-fashioned notions of sex, for the most part, prevent a woman from fully enjoying her sexual experiences. You do not have to always position yourself on the bottom. You are free to get on top, lie side by side, sit down, stand up, or bend over. You are free to experiment with the things you enjoy. Try one of my favorite moves: rub your clitoris on your partner’s pubic bone when he is inside of you. This feels wonderful.

There is NOT one position or one range of motion. If you do not move your pelvis in a manner that sexually pleases you, you are forgoing a great amount of sexual pleasure. So get moving … move your hips side to side, in and out, all around. Make circles, make squares, whatever you feel.

Exercising Your Sex Muscles

As part of this sexercise program, you should also begin toning and strengthening your PC muscle – the muscle that contracts during climax. This is the same muscle that you would use to cease the stream of urine. Start by contracting this muscle in sets of 25 two times per day. Work your way up to sets of 100 twice daily.

Just as regular exercise in a gym promotes a healthy body and lifestyle, exercising our sexual muscles promotes a healthy sex life. Most women who strengthen and tone their PC muscle have an easier time of achieving orgasm through intercourse.

Research suggests that sexually active women achieve orgasm much easier than women who do not engage in sexual intercourse on a regular basis. Sexually active women love their sexuality.

With all of the practice in which you are about to engage, you will be passing all three quizzes linked to the three-part plan will flying colors. The final exam is scheduled at your convenience. Remember that the real test simply proves that you can relax and really enjoy your sexual encounters. The real test is all about increasing your responsiveness to intercourse.