Phone sex is all about having a sexy conversation with your man. It’s also known as “tandem” masturbation because you’re fondling yourself while talking to him and he’s doing the same thing. Phone sex can be a challenge if you’re not used to masturbating with someone listening to your moans, or if you’re not used to talking dirty.
Let’s suppose, one night, while you’re talking on the phone with your man, your inner bad girl whispers a suggestion in your ear, “have phone sex with him”. How do you go about instigating sex on the phone? Here are some tips to help you out…
Open Up Sexually
You must slowly open up your sexual side to the man you love. Always worrying about acting slutty will get you nowhere near the girl who can talk dirty on the phone. If you trust your man, and you know that he will never change if you acted “out of character”, don’t be scared to drop F-bombs if he enjoys that. Being shy doesn’t mean you cannot learn how to talk dirty. Start with the words that you can say without cringing.
Gradually open yourself to sexy talk. Phone sex is the perfect opportunity to open your sexuality. You’re providing yourself a sexual outlet, and he gets to listen to your erotic fantasies.
Fantasize
Fantasies are just dreams until you act on them. Because it’s impossible for your man to do erotic stuff with you on the phone, you should talk to him about your fantasies and what you want him to do to you when you meet up.
One good way to do this is to think of “what if” scenarios. Talk about what you would be doing if he were beside you at that moment. If you’ve attended some gatherings with him (high school reunion, your cousin’s wedding, etc.), why not use those events during phone sex.
Men Are Visual
Your man needs to know what you’re wearing, what you’re holding and where you are to feel aroused. He might even ask about the other people in your house to check if they’re out of sight. Most men need to know these things so that they can put everything in perspective.
Even if you’re wearing your dorkiest pyjamas, tell him you’re wearing nighties, red ones. Nighties are easier to remove than pyjamas, so he gets hotter thinking he can “remove” your clothes easily.
Report Your Actions
You know he’s getting hot when he starts asking you to do things like touching your breasts, your thighs and your vagina. Indulge his needs, and do other things to excite yourself more.
Tell him he’s making you horny and you’re now touching yourself with your dildo. Responding to his teasing by acting like you “can’t help” but follow his orders.
Moan When You’re Near Orgasm
When you’re getting closer to orgasm, be more expressive. Tell him you’re feeling really hot and you’re almost there. Scream when you climax so that he can climax with you. If you reach orgasm first, keep moaning to goad him on.
You can tease him by describing how wet you are at that moment, and how you really want his dick inside you. This kind of talk will turn him on and make his orgasm more intense.