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How To Please Your Man In Bed – 3 Things Every Woman Must Know

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In the course of your relationship with a man, there will be many issues that will come up when the shutters are closed and it’s just the two of you in bed together. Ideally, this scenario should end up in passionate sex, maybe even the best you ever had. But wait… when did you start skipping foreplay and going right to the “main gist” of sex? When did you start saying, “I’m just too tired” to your husband if he so much as touches the tips of your perfectly manicured nails?

If your sex life is suffering because you don’t have sex frequently or you have lost the desire to constantly have sex, you know you need to do something about the situation. Most couples have trouble arranging their schedules so that they can make love. I mean, really make love; not the three minute quickie that happens right before you pass out because of sheer exhaustion from work.

Shower Him With Attention

There is nothing more frustrating than realizing your partner is thinking of other things while you’re making love. It does not matter if you’re supergirl and you can multitask quite well. If you’re in bed with your special someone, think of him and only him. Better yet, devote the whole night to his needs by cooking him dinner, giving him a massage and making him feel like a king.

All the attention he will receive from you will more than make up for the times when you ignored him when he was horny for you.

Don’t Worry About Looking Messy

Do not let your attention slip when sweat’s clouding your vision and your hair’s matted with man-juice. Your man likes seeing you all messy, because he knows that he’s the only one who can enjoy the sight of a messier, more uninhibited version of the normally prim and proper girl. Instead of fixing your hair in place all the time when you’re on top of him, concentrate on your movements and your facial expression.

Let saliva flow, and don’t worry about how awful your face looks while you’re in the throes of orgasm. He thinks you’re beautiful that way.

A man seldom feels disgusted with a woman who’s going all out while in bed with him. Instead, he feels like he’s on top of the world because for once, you’re forgetting yourself and letting your passion override your instinct to look dolled up.

Give Him Head

Announce that it’s his night and you’ll continue playing with him until he climaxes. This way, he will feel less pressured to keep it in and just go with your flow. However, don’t forget to remind him that next time, it’s your turn.

When giving him head, use your hands and your mouth. The trick is to simulate the sucking action of your vagina during penetration. Move your tongue frequently to vary the sensations. Be careful not to let your teeth graze the sensitive skin down there.

Are We Sexually Compatible?

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If you are wondering whether you and your man are sexually compatible, you are asking a question that is on the mind of the majority of women on the planet. This is just some of the most important questions you have to answer if you are in a sexual relationship with a man you care about. What brought on this line of thinking? Could it be that sex now isn’t as hot as before and you’ve started wondering if he really is the one who can sexually satisfy you (and vice versa)?

Everything is going well in the bedroom until he suddenly acts distant. You know how he held you in his arms after sex in the past? Well, that does not happen now. Sexual compatibility has turned into a major issue because you are feeling isolated, you are not enjoying your time with your man and you have started to fake your orgasms.

Bring back the compatibility in the bedroom with the following tips:

First Time Sex All Over Again

One thing you can do is to bring back the mood of your first time in bed together. You remember that time quite well. That’s when you started developing strong feelings for your man and you knew these feelings are mutual.

Make sex the spontaneous result of a night of romancing. Have dinner together and make sure you cook his favorite foods. If you’re not a great cook, order in from his favorite restaurant. Do not be afraid to be romantic all over again, and never think that sex is just another chore you have to do at the end of the night.

Don’t Take His Pleasure For Granted

While we all know that men feel great during penetration, we should not be complacent. It will take a whole lot more to make sex great for you and for him, and this means going for intense foreplay. The surprising thing is that women who initiate foreplay end up enjoying sex more than the women who just plop down on the pillows and expect to be pleasured.

If your man is less than eager to do foreplay, take the initiative and make him look forward to foreplay more than sex next time.

Teach Him How To Please You

If you just leave it up to him to figure out what makes you tick sexually, you are not going to go anywhere as far as sexual growth is concerned. It’s about time to give him a tutorial on how to really please you in bed. By doing this, you’re doing yourself a favor and you can be sure that he knows exactly what you want.

Women get more emotionally and physically from a man because the sex is good. And, you know what? It’s the same thing for men. When you are connected intimately, i.e. your feelings during sex are in tune, you can achieve sexual compatibility. It won’t matter whether you can only do it once a week or every other day. You will feel happy because every sexual experience with your man is great.

First Time Sex Tips – 3 Important Health Concerns

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We women have been taught that first time sex is a painful experience. This notion of a painful first time affects us more than we know. We end up dreading the event and we feel tense during what we call a “trying ordeal.” I disagree with that.

Sex for the first time should not be thought of as painful. It should be a celebration of love and a grand entrance to the world of adulthood. For the first time ever, you are sharing your body with someone who is also into you.

It is a special experience, but you do have to know some important health issues linked with first time sex. Remember, you are going to have to take care of yourself more now that you have started to become sexually active. If it’s your first time, here are some important health tips you should know about…

Always Demand That He Use A Condom

If you are a virgin and he is not, there is a chance that he will be a bit lax when it comes to protection because he is entering “unchartered territory.” This means he knows he’s fairly “safe” with you because you never had lovers in the past.

However, you should always ask him to use a condom, even if it’s your first time. It’s not that you do not trust him to be able to pull out at the critical point, or that you don’t trust his judgment when it comes to his choices of the women he slept with. You just know that accidents could happen and safe sex is still the best practice.

Always bring a condom with you whenever you feel that your man is looking forward to sex after your date. This will eliminate his excuse of forgetting to bring one.

Rinse With Warm Water

I can tell you this – the first entry is uncomfortable, but the painful feeling will come after the first sex. However, you can feel “comfortable” before and after sex by being constantly lubricated. This can be achieved by intense foreplay before sex and rinsing with warm flowing water after sex.

Rinsing properly after your first time will also make sure your wound begins healing minutes after you had sex. And, the best part is, you can go at it again after you rinse if you continue with after play. Lubrication whether with your own fluids or with warm tap water, will increase your comfort.

Clitoral Orgasm

After the break in, you may feel sore in there, and he should know this. But what if you are still willing to go for another round? It’s not surprising that you didn’t reach climax during the first time. You were tense and you were anticipating sex to be painful. Clitoral orgasm for the second time sex is the answer to this dilemma.

Instead of deeper penetration, ask him to concentrate his caresses on the outer part of your vagina. He can use his fingers to probe deeper, but not so deep that you feel tense with discomfort. With your vagina sensitive and tingly after you’ve rinsed with warm water, you should feel the pleasure of clitoral orgasm more intensely.

The Best Way To Please Your Man Sexually

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I often read about couples struggling with sexuality issues. In particular, I often encounter situations wherein the man gets blamed for the woman’s inability to reach orgasm during sex. Sometimes, the man passes blame on the woman by calling her frigid or a “dead fish” (ugh, I hate that term, it reminds me of something smelly). The truth is, both parties contribute something to the sexual encounter, and they should work on pleasing each other rather than coming up with reasons why sex wasn’t good.

One of the biggest challenges for women is how to be great in the bedroom. The modern woman knows that she should not be lying there waiting for the man to please her if she really wants hot sex. In a sense, sex is only good if you’ve done your share of pleasing. And, that’s what this article is all about.

Use Your Hands

Have you ever tried blowing your man and feel like your neck is going to give after a few minutes of bobbing up and down? So many women don’t realize that there’s an easier way to set the rhythm when they’re going down on a man. Letting your mouth do all the work is not the best way to do it.

Use your hands to set the rhythm. Grasp the base of his shaft with your dominant hand and slowly pull up and down, or use a twisting motion. When giving him a handjob, tightening your grip around the base of his penis is both exciting and pleasurable.

Your rhythmic movements, as well as the creative way you use your left hand (stroke his balls, play with his nipples etc), will make him climax faster.

Use Your Tongue

Your tongue is the wild card in the blowjob equation. When you’re using your hands to establish a good rhythm and your mouth is simulating the moist warmth of your vagina, your tongue can be used to increase stimulation from the inside.

Without missing a beat, dart your tongue across the head part of his penis. Repeatedly do this whether or not you’re taking him in your mouth or you’re just giving him a hand job.

Control Your Sucking

Too much sucking can be painful during oral sex, believe it or not. You see, a man is used to the gentle sucking movements of your vagina during penetration, and if you suck too hard during blowjob, it will hurt him bad. Moreover, if you suck to hard that the most sensitive part of his penis hits your teeth, he will bleed.

Use a soft sucking motion to draw him in, then continue to increase the sucking pressure gradually as you caress him with your hands and your tongue.

When you’re in bed with your man, watch out for instances when he moans loudly, or when he’s extra pleased with what you’re doing. Your man may not be the most expressive type of guy, so you have to rely on your intuition and power of observation to figure out what works for him.

Why Men Love Oral Sex

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Using your mouth to give pleasure is one of the most intimate aspects of sex. Some women are better at it than others. But one thing’s for sure: men love giving and receiving oral sex.

Why Men Love Giving Oral Sex

Cunnilingus is one of the best ways to make a woman climax. In fact, some men would argue that it is the only way to make a girl climax. This type of intimate kissing is sexy, arousing and extremely gratifying. Men enjoy the benefit of wielding power just by controlling the tide of a woman’s orgasm.

When a man goes down on you, he’s exploring the seat of your femininity. He’s amazed at how different you are from him, and honoured that you trust him enough to grant access to your secret lips. Although some men would rather receive than give oral sex, there’s no denying that oral sex on a woman is one of the things that all men should excel at.

Why Men Love Receiving Oral Sex

Men like receiving intimate kisses, especially from a woman who knows how. They like it when a woman uses her lips, tongue and hands down there. Even if the woman shows mediocre skills, any man will appreciate the fact that she is willing to explore his manhood and that she is eager to provide one-way pleasure by performing oral sex on him.

The role of a blowjob in sexual power play is ambiguous. On one hand, it is a man’s way of saying “you’re in charge.” A woman can thus proceed to use his tool to manipulate his reactions, all the while pleasuring herself with her fingers or a dildo.

On the other hand, it is also a way for a man to feel more powerful during sex. It’s no secret that men feel like kings when a girl performs this “service.” They can lie back and take all the pleasure they want.

I guess it depends on the man you’re with and his personality. You can ask a guy you’re thinking of going out with, “what does a blowjob mean to you?” and you will be able to discover at once what kind of lover he is.

Anal Play During A Blowjob

Some men enjoy being touched on the anal region while a woman is exploring his manhood. It’s just natural that a woman’s lips and fingers stray to that area since it’s so close by. However, there are men who dislike being touched there because of the connection between the anal region and homosexuality.

One thing I noticed is that the men who are completely comfortable with their masculinity tend to love anal play more than those who are not entirely convinced that a finger or two in their anal hole doesn’t have anything to do with being a homosexual.

How to Give Your Man Pleasure Via Oral Sex

The best advice I can give you is to simply observe his reactions while you’re giving him great head. Look for feedback and create your blowjob style according to what makes him happy.