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Take Your Climax To The Max – Top 5 Tips To Wilder Orgasms

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Just because you’ve heard that not a lot of women reach orgasms during intercourse like you do does not mean you should sit on your laurels. After all, there are orgasms and there are ORGASMS, if you know what I mean.

So, if you want to up the pleasure you get when you climax read on to find out what you need to do to really create fire in bed.

 Wild Orgasm Tip #1: No More Fake Ones For You!

Why do women fake orgasms? That’s a complicated one. Here are a few possible reasons.

  • At the start of your relationship, maybe you faked it because you want him to think you’re this wild, erotic lover.
  • You’re tired and you really just want to get it over with.
  • You actually have no idea how to climax so you just fake it.

Why it’s bad: When you fake your orgasms, you are sending him all the wrong ideas when it comes to what turns you on. As a result, he will never really get what makes you tick sexually.

How to change: Make it real. Seriously, don’t moan if there’s nothing to moan about. Don’t say it was great if it wasn’t. Don’t say ‘yeah, yeah’ when in you’re head you’re already planning tomorrow’s chores.

This does not mean to say that you should be brutal with comments (e.g., I don’t know why you’re licking that way!) or that you should be passive (why wait for him to figure YOU out?). Instead, explore your body together. If you don’t want to do this, you can go off on a self-exploration journey first. Yes, masturbate more.

Find out what moves REALLY arouse you. And then the next time you guys make love, guide him to what you want him to do.

Wild Orgasm Tip #2. Bring In A ‘Third Party’ To Bed.

Sometimes women, in their frustration to reach an orgasm more often, turn to battery-operated lovers. This is all well and good and in reality, sex toys ARE great ways to explore your own sexuality. However, in many cases, women tend to turn to their sex toys more and more because well, it’s almost a sure-thing each time you use it.

Why it’s bad: This prevents you from exploring better climaxes with your lover.

How to change: Why not try to introduce your man to your sex gadget? A lot of people say this will hurt his ego but this really depends on how you bring it. For instance, why not give him a peep show first. You KNOW what one of men’s sexual fantasies is to watch their woman masturbate so why not give him a treat?

Engage in self-love right in front of him. This will not only drive him wild but will bring you to your sexual edge too. It’s a win-win situation. You can even hand off the sex toy at one point to him so he can use it on you!

Wild Orgasm Tip #3. Realize This: Perfect Sex Exist Only In Movies.

Nowadays, it’s getting harder and harder to separate fantasy from reality! And the bedroom is one of those areas that are suffering from this. We seem to think that making love should be almost ‘picture perfect’. I mean, heaven forbid you make a fanny fart or emit some gas as he takes you from behind. And woman-on-top is GREAT but then again, you have to be right in front of him where he can see how your face contorts as you near your climax.

Why it’s bad: All of these thoughts are not only unrealistic; they completely get in the way of a darn good orgasm! Instead of letting go and losing yourself in the sexual moment, you tend to become alert as to what MAY occur.

How to change: Practice feeling and not thinking while making love. Really try to empty your mind and focus only on your body. If you must ‘think’, practice mental stimulation instead. For instance, if you love the way he’s licking you then recite this in your head “Lick. Lick. Lick. Wet. Wet. Wet. Coming. Coming. Coming.”

Wild Orgasm Tip #4. Your Next Bedroom Project: Tantric Sex.

Oftentimes, when a particular sex position works (i.e., you actually reached an orgasm in that position), we tend to engage in nothing but that position over and over again. Tried and tested, right?

Why it’s bad: If you keep on doing the exact same thing, it loses its effectives in the long run. Furthermore, this means you’re dangerously coming close to that R word (routine) that kills a lot of sex lives.

How to change: Keep on experimenting. Ok, maybe tantric sex or the kama sutra is too big a project to start with but you must start something. It keeps sex alive and yes, you WILL find one that will push your orgasms to greater heights.

Enjoy yourselves!

Touchless Orgasm – Real Or Fake?

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Are touchless orgasms real or are they just another way to fake an orgasmic experience with a sexual partner? Well, let’s really think about this. The power our minds have over our bodies is tremendous. The touchless orgasm has been touted, by those fortunate enough to experience such pure bliss, as the ultimate mind-body connection.

 The Definition Of “Touchless Orgasm”

What is a touchless orgasm exactly? Let’s talk about what it is NOT first. It is not to be confused with a woman’s inherent over-excitability. Plainly and simply, it is the very act of erotic storytelling, guiding a partner through a visually, sexually-stimulating state, until the highest state of sexual arousal is attained … the woman releases her mind and body, succumbing to the purely blissful height of sexual excitation culminating in the oh-so-desirable orgasm. Sometimes, as with physical foreplay and sexual intercourse, a woman’s orgasm remains elusive … just beyond reach.

Touchless Orgasm How-To

How would a sexual partner talk their partner into such a frenzied, heated, sexually-excited state so as to reach the ultimate touchless orgasm? Try following these tips:

First … Make sure you have a drink in hand … for both you and your partner. You will need the drink to wet your whistle because extended storytelling can cause a dry mouth. Your partner may need a glass of wine or perhaps some chamomile tea to promote a general state of physical relaxation.

Second … Find out what visuals and fantasies excite your partner to no end. This is the research phase, and if you want to be successful, it is an absolutely necessary step.

Third … More research. Know the diction, or word choice, and inflection, or tone of voice, to which your partner will most positively react. Some women like sex rough and tumble. If so, use hardcore words, like “fuck” and “cunt.” Other women like sex soft and romantic. If so, use sensual words, like “caress” and “pussy.” Sometimes, a combination of both sets of words proves most successful.

Fourth … Craft your general story idea before the main event. During verbal intercourse, it is easy to lose your train of thought and forget where you were going with the story. There are simply too many things stimulating all of your senses.

Fifth … Pay attention to your partner’s reactions. Adapt the story line, words, and visuals to what you see your partner feeling.

Are you a sensitive, visual sexual partner who can craft an erotic story molded specifically to your sexual partner? Would you like to inject a tremendous dose of excitement into a particular relationship with a woman whose sexual arousal you would like to send through the roof? Try the steps listed above. Let me know how it goes.

The C-Spot and G-Spot Orgasm Cocktail

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Women have two main sex zones: the clitoris and the g-spot or the Grafenberg spot. Most women come via clitoral stimulation. Not really surprising as it’s the one more accessible between the two. And if you’ve ever had a g-spot orgasm then you KNOW how earth-shattering THAT can be.

So why not aim for higher sexual heights with a ‘blended orgasm’?

What’s a Blended Orgasm?

As the name suggests, a blended orgasm is one where you climax via your clitoris (c-spot) AND Grafenberg spot (g-spot). As these pleasure zones are located in different places, the orgasm that you feel from one largely differs from the other. As a result, if you can stimulate both and climax from both simultaneously, then you can say you’ve hit the mother load of climaxes!

The Blended O… Solo

Before you run off to tell your man that you want a blended orgasm, take some time to figure out how to do this first on your own. This way, you can guide him better and can remove any possible awkwardness or frustration later together in bed.

The best way to try this is to close the curtains (or dim the lights), play some soft music, and then lie down. When you feel relaxed, start to stimulate your clitoris. No rush, just take your time.

When you’re finally wet and really aroused, leave off your c-spot for a while and go seek your g-spot. Insert your index finger inside and try to feel alongside the front wall of your vagina for a slightly rough and engorged nub. In general, you g-spot should feel like the upper side of your mouth. Don’t worry; when you’re close the g-spot you will definitely feel it because waves of arousal will hit you.

Note that as you stimulate your g-spot, you may feel this sudden urge urinate. Oftentimes, this is when things go wrong because women, thinking that they’ll embarrass themselves by peeing, will start to tense up and demand for the stimulation to stop. On the contrary, just keep on going and this feeling will soon come to pass.

Now as you feel yourself nearing your g-spot climax, use your other hand (or if your fingers are long enough and you can angle your hand properly, use the thumb on the same hand you’re suing to stimulate your g-spot) to go back and titillate your clitoris.

All I can say at this point is get ready for tremendous tremors to rock your body!

The Blended O… In Tandem

Now that you know how to bring yourself to a combi-orgasm, it’s time to bring your lover into the equation.

Lie down as comfortably as you can on the bed and ask your men to prop your hips with a small pillow. (This is to elevate your groin.) To warm you – and him – up, ask for some oral loving.

When you’re all hot and wet, tell him now’s the time to enter. As he thrusts, his penis should hit the gspot (thanks to your slightly elevated position). If this is not the case, then tilt your hips higher. If it helps, tell him to ‘drag’ you to the edge of the bed so that he’s standing as he thrusts. Continue until you’re just about to burst from a g-spot climax.

When you feel this is the case, then either ask him to finger your clitoris or do it yourself. (Nice visuals for him!)

AGAIN… all I can say at this point is get ready for tremendous tremors to rock your body!

Sex Positions for More Blended Oomph

Now that you guys have the Blended O basics covered, it’s time to experiment with new positions!

Try doggy-style. When you get on all fours, your behind is naturally slightly tilted already. As such, his penis is correctly angled to hit your g-spot like a marked bull’s eye! For the Blended O to occur, simply reach down and fondle your clitoris or better yet ask him to do it!

Try reverse woman-on-top. Women just love the woman-on-top position because we get to control the depth, speed, and even the roughness of intercourse. Well here’s another reason to love this position, it’s great for c-spot and g-spot stimulation especially when you do reverse woman-on-top (i.e., when you stride him the other way and you’re facing his feet).

As you ride his pole, reach down and make sure your c-spot does not feel neglected. Contract and relax your internal muscles to ensure increased friction between your genitals. Plus, it’s a nice treat for his penis!

And for the third time… all I can say at this point is get ready for tremendous tremors to rock your body!

4 Mistakes On How To Give Head To A Guy

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Would you like to have a crash course on how you can master the art of fellatio? As you may already know, being good at oral sex is a skill that most women would like to develop – but it’s quite intimidating once you’re down there.

What if your teeth graze the skin of his penis while you’re giving him a blowjob?  What if you accidentally suck too hard because you don’t know the right amount of pressure to apply?  What if your gagging reflex is triggered?

Learning how to give head to a guy properly would normally involve mistakes – especially if you’re new at it. But don’t worry, practice makes perfect. In order for you to be a better lover, take a look first at the top 5 mistakes that most women make when going down on a man – and these are the things that you should steer clear of.

Mistake #1: Not Being Enthusiastic Enough  

For both men and women, being with an unresponsive lover is a definite turn off. The same thing applies to a woman who considers giving blowjobs to be a chore.

When you’re going down on him, show him how much you love what you’re doing. Maintain eye contact, don’t be afraid to slobber a bit and make the moans and groans that you would usually make when you’re having penetrative sex.

Your enthusiasm would be a huge turn on for him and help him achieve an orgasm real quick.

Mistake #2: Not Allowing Things To Get Really Wet

It may sound distasteful for women, but most men agree that the more saliva or lubrication you use while giving him head, the better the feeling is for them. Before you move your mouth up and down his penis, wet it with your saliva.

Better yet, be a bit on the creative side and swallow a bit of warm coffee or some cold water before taking him into your mouth. The sensation of the liquid combined with the sucking motions that you will make should send him through the roof! 

Mistake #3:  Grazing Him With Your Teeth

Although some men would not mind feeling a bit of a graze from your teeth while receiving head, it is not a sensation that everyone enjoys.  The rule of no teeth while giving blow jobs should always apply – so keep those fangs covered with your lips.

Mistake #4:  Not Communicating With Him 

Just like every other aspect of your sex life, it will greatly improve your ‘performance’ if you will have a talk with him about what he likes when you’re giving him head.

Be extra attentive to his moans and groans while you’re down there, take a cue from how his hands are moving on the back of your head and how he is moving his hips. By avoiding the top 4 mistakes that women make when giving head, you will be on your way towards mastering your skills at fellatio and be the best lover that you can be.

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3 Mistakes That Women Make On How To Give A Massage Handjob

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Even if you consider you and your partner to have an amazing sex life, there will come a point when you as a woman will not be in the mood to go all the way with him.  Or, it could be that you just don’t have the time – but what if you want to help him release some of the sexual tension that he is feeling?

This is where a massage handjob comes in, well, handy. For the most part, your goal should be to stroke him using both of your hands until he reaches a satisfying climax.  But if this is your goal, why is it that there are still some women who commit blunders when trying to give their man some manual loving using their hands?

If you want to keep his fire stoked, make sure that you will steer clear of the top 4 mistakes that women make when learning how to give a massage handjob.

Mistake #1: Leading Him On Endlessly & Not Delivering The Goods

Remember that most men want handjobs to be quick and satisfying. As such, you should make sure that when you start stroking his penis, your goal is also to give him a quick and satisfying orgasm.

Sure, you can tease his body a bit first just to get him hard before you zero in on his penis – but the main event should not last forever – otherwise, he may end up wanting to be inside your mouth or to go all the way through penetrative sex.

Mistake #2: Not Being Firm Enough

When you’re pleasuring yourself, you do have a secret touch, stroke or rhythm that drives you over the edge, right? For men, the same thing applies. So if you want to give him a really good handjob, make sure that you know the exact pressure to apply to his penis.

The shaft shouldn’t be handled like it’s an expensive vase – rather, think of it as a beer bottle that you would be gripping firmly and solidly.  Better yet, let him show you the type and tightness of a grip that he wants to be applied to his penis so that you can end things quickly, with a bang.

Mistake #3:  Not Talking To Him While Doing It

Learning how to give him a massage handjob is as good a time as any to polish your dirty talking skills. Don’t bombard him with questions like “Are you about to come?”.  Instead, tease him with images of what you would like to do with him later on when you have more time to engage in some real, hot and sweaty sex.

Steer clear of the top 3 mistakes that women make when giving men a massage handjob – and he’ll practically be your willing slave once you manage to send him over the edge with highly satisfying results.

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