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Best Sex Positions: Woman On Top

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Woman on Top (WOT) is any sex position when a girl takes the lead during sex, and it’s one of the most erotic sex positions to try if you want to make sex a truly intense experience for you and your girl. In this position, she does most of the work. However, experience tells us that not all women are adept at moving up and down so men have to lend a hand by thrusting up and down.

This position shifts the sexual power play in the woman’s favor. A woman’s frontal assets as well as her clitoral area are exposed in the Woman on Top position. Penetration depth depends on whether the woman can thrust up and down all the way. A woman’s weight management skills also play a role in making this position work.

The Woman on Top position calls for balance and skill on the part of the woman, but the man can help her balance by shifting his position underneath to accommodate a woman’s thrusting. You can hold your lower body up, or put pillows under your backside to lift your hips more.

Benefits Of The Woman On Top Position

It’s sexy. The woman can show off her body to you, and feel sexier in the woman on top position than any other sex positions. You get to play with her breasts as well as her tummy region, and you can admire the view of her breasts bouncing up and down from below.

It’s relaxing for the man to lie back and take it every so often. Having a woman work instead of you during sex can be a relaxing experience, but only if you do your part in making a woman feel sexy. Even if you’re the one underneath, you have to pull your weight as far as the penetration is concerned.

You can fiddle with her clitoris easily. With your hands free, you can touch her in all the right places. If you’re sitting up, you can kiss her neck and breast. If you’re lying down, you can reach up and touch her erogenous zones. Orgasm is more intense for a woman if there’s another sensation on top of the sensation that penetration creates.

Disadvantages Of The Woman On Top Position

A woman may find it difficult to balance if she’s kneeling. Some women have short upper legs, which could be an issue if she’s on top and her knees do not reach the bed or the floor while she’s straddling you. Most women have adapted to this by squatting instead of kneeling.

You may have to support her weight. As a woman gets more and more into the sex, she may forget to balance and properly maintain weight distribution while she’s riding you. If this happens, ask her to stay put while you plant your feet flat on the floor or the bed and thrust upward.

You don’t have much control in the rhythm department. You may be doing the thrusting but if she insists on a certain rhythm, you may not get the rhythm you want.

Best Sex Positions: Doggy Style

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The doggy style position is considered one of the most versatile sex positions that any guy can try. It also puts him in the position of power. In the doggy position, the woman can only thrust her hips back and forth while the man sets the rhythm.

Do most women resent the lack of control during sex? More often than not, the women don’t mind. And it’s because the pleasure of penetration is more intense in the doggy style position and its variations than any of the other sex positions.

Benefits Of The Doggy Style Sex Position

It’s versatile. The doggy style sex position affords you the power of moving any way you want and keeps your hands free to do whatever makes sex more pleasurable for you and your partner.

The ultimate position for sexual submission. If you like to maintain control of the rhythm and the depth of thrusting, the doggy style sex position is perfect for you. You can thrust in and out while holding her arms so that you really have total control of the movements. You can lean down and use your hands to fondle her clitoris without missing a beat, rhythm-wise. You can wrap your arms around her back and lick her nape all you want.

You can practice mild S&M in the doggy style sex position. You know, spanking and hair pulling. Some sex positions are more romantic than really hard core erotic, which makes the doggy style the best position for light sado-maso play. You can spank her lightly as you thrust harder, or you can pull on her hair rather than her shoulders when you want her to stay upright while you do her from behind.

Intense g-spot orgasms. Women go wild when in the doggy style position because the infamous g spot is directly stimulated by the curves along the underside of your penis. Especially if your angle is good, you can give her a g spot massage and subsequently induce a series of intense multiple orgasms with not much effort.

Disadvantages Of The Doggy Style Sex Position

More erotic than romantic. Women like pleasure but some can only feel pleasure through sex if the sex is romantic. Admittedly, the doggy position is the least romantic of all the sex positions because of the lack of face to face interaction.

It’s difficult to touch her clitoris if she doesn’t want to do it herself. Ideally, a woman should be the one touching her clitoris during doggy style, but some women have trouble balancing with one hand if they use the other to fondle the clitoris. The direct g-spot contact may be able to replace the clitoral touching, sensation-wise, but most women cannot climax if clitoris touching isn’t involved.

You cannot see her facial expression during sex. Part of what makes sex pleasurable is seeing a girl’s expression change during thrusting and when you do something different. A woman’s face when she’s in the throes of orgasm is a sight to behold. For you to see her in that state during doggy, you may have to use a mirror.

How to Please A Woman in Bed – 3 Things Every Man Must Know

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Have you ever noticed how hard it is to please a woman in bed? Chatting up a woman and getting her to go home with you is a lot easier in comparison, if you really think about it, and we all know doing that is not a walk in the park. Sleeping with a woman and making sure she enjoys herself does not seem complicated at first, until you realize that just days after your hook up, she’s avoiding you and won’t go out with you anymore because she thinks you’re a lousy lover.

What does it take to make a woman feel great in bed? What does it take to make her think she will never find another lover like you forever? These are some of the questions that have been plaguing men since the beginning of time. However, what we don’t realize is that there are certain things that can be done to guarantee you’ll always be great in bed.

Read on to find out the three things you must know when you’re in bed with the girl of your dreams!

Go Down On Her

Believe me, you will come off as a “wimp” if you tell a girl that you’re not into cunnilingus. Women enjoy that, and moreover, they expect to get that whenever they’re in bed with a man. If you’re less than willing to go for it, you might as well never expect a girl to go down on you. Just like everything else, oral sex is a two-way street. If you can’t give it, don’t expect to receive it.

Foreplay

If you’ve ever thought of skipping foreplay to get to the main event quickly, you’re risking being tagged as a lousy lover from the very start. You see, for women, foreplay is a big factor in what makes a man great in bed.

Kissing and touching at the onset increase a woman’s anticipation, and fires up her imagination. If you get her to that point of frenzy just by doing effective foreplay, you won’t have to worry about increasing her excitement enough for her to climax.

Cuddling

Cuddling is important whether this is done before sex or afterwards. I’m sure you want to sleep right after (who doesn’t?), but you have to consider that the woman you’re with might want to do something else after her climax, such as talk, hug and kiss some more.

Take these three tips and use them to improve your sex life.

After talking to so many men about their sex life for years, I recognize the main factors why girls tend to think some men suck in bed. Most men will never learn how to be a sexual dynamo if they don’t consider what the woman is feeling before, during and after sex. The fact is, the most mind-blowing sex can only happen if the man puts a woman’s sexual needs first before his own.

5 Reasons Why Women Fake Orgasms

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We exist in a results-hungry world where our achievements are measured in terms of how we reached our goals. If we didn’t reach them, someone gets mad, someone gets blamed (you) and someone gets disappointed.

Achieving female orgasm is the same. Sometimes you meet women who can climax easily, and you may or may not attribute it to how well you made her. She could claim that she did it herself.

No matter who gets the credit, the important thing is that it happened. You both made it happen, one way or another (though, in your mind, you know that YOU made it happen. Enough said).

In a world where achievements and egos go hand in hand, how does a guy who can’t make his girlfriend reach orgasm feel?

Here are Some of the Reasons Why Women Fake:

So That You Won’t Feel Bad

There are some men who don’t care if a girl climaxes or not, but there are more men who do. A girl’s orgasm is an affirmation of how well these men perform and it becomes a ‘pride’ thing. There’s also that nagging doubt in a man’s mind that if he can’t satisfy her, she will leave.

A woman, being intuitive enough to know these things, will sense that her orgasm is sometimes more important to the guy than to her. So, she fakes.

So That She Won’t Feel Bad

With all the stories she hears from her friends about how good sex is, especially when a girl orgasms twice, thrice, four times, five times….ten times! Oh yesss yesss!!

She might feel compelled to tattle about how great sex is for her too, how she came TWELVE times with her boyfriend. But she didn’t and she knows it. Yet she makes you believe she did, and she tells you that she did. But, she didn’t.

Because It’s How It’s Supposed To End

Blame it on porn or on yourself, but answering “no” when you ask her “was it good for you too?” would be just wrong. You shared a great cuddle after sex, and the man she loves wears a smile on his face as he drifts off to sleep. He whispers her name as he feels her move away to pee.

So, who cares if she feels like there’s something missing from the whole sex thing? She’s in love, and her man is so happy with her. That’s enough, right?

She Doesn’t Want To Look Ugly

Believe it or not, there are women who fake because of vanity. She probably saw her face in the mirror while she was really cumming and she was horrified that she looked like someone in a bad Exorcist audition while she was having the big O. And, was that pig-like grunting she heard herself utter while she was having her orgasm?

No, it just won’t do. She fakes because she wants her man to see her as a diva while she cums, with a seductive smile on her lips and moaning so artfully. Besides, she knows how to make herself cum anyway. She can do it when you’re asleep.

She Just Feels Like Faking

There are women who feel sex is really overrated, and if she doesn’t climax this time, she won’t waste her energy and nap time stressing over it. She didn’t cum for real, but if it’s important to you, she fakes. No big deal.

In the end, faking an orgasm goes against the idea of being honest in a relationship.  Yes, in the short term, a woman who fakes an orgasm avoids any pains of disappointment and awkward moments.

But in the end, it will be a lot tougher to experience a real orgasm, simply because the “problem” (not being able to reach orgasm through sex) is not being addressed.

Communication and education are the keys to unlocking the female orgasm.

How to Finger A Girl

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There’s a real, hot sexiness to being able to bring your woman to a climax by just using your fingers.

Consider the fact that her body is – literally – under the command of your fingers and that you are able to WATCH her intently as you bring her to writhing pleasure.

Now, isn’t that sexy and hot?

Here are some tips on how to finger a girl:

Pre-Fingering Foreplay

Surprisingly, not all women like to be fingered by their lovers. This can be due to many reasons such as issues about hygiene, trust and may be even fear.

If your partner has some of these issues, it may be wise to pre-discuss the topic of fingering beforehand just to ensure that she’s at least open to the idea of it happening. Otherwise, you can slowly introduce fingering as you make love.

But before that, here’s rule No. 1: engage in foreplay! Foreplay ensures that you and your partner are in the right sexual frame of mind and body needs, making her just possibly a bit more open to being fingered.

Explore The Landscape Gently

If this is your first time to finger her, then ensure that you do everything you can to avoid any hang ups. For instance, ensure that your nails are cut and that your hands are clean (takes care of the issue of hygiene).

But more importantly, be gentle in your finger exploration. A woman’s body is all warmness and softness, right? As such, don’t go in there like an excited teenager. Instead, be respectful of her body as you go in and explore.

Also, using your fingers to simulate a woman’s genitals is not just about insertion. Be sure you pay attention to her labia (genital lips) and clitoris too.

Experiment With Different Textures, Pressures, And Movements

Not all parts of a woman’s genital area can be stimulated in the exact same way. For instance, a lot of women like their labia to be gently caressed, their clitoris to be rubbed and their G-spots to be tapped.

Now – again – not all women are the same so find the right combination that your lover finds the most sexually stimulating. And of course, as you try all these different sexual stimulation combos, don’t forget to pay attention to her! Moaning is good, jerking is not.

Time Is Of No Consequence

Don’t go about fingering your woman with a certain time frame in mind. You may ‘hit the jackpot’ right away, maybe not. Just give both yourselves time to get used to the different sensations. This is actually one of those times when the journey is as good as the destination.

How To Deal With Fingering Fatigue

In the course of your exploration, you might find yourself getting a tad tired but don’t give up and especially, don’t just stop and leave your lover in the cold! If you’re feeling a bit tired, try any of these: switch hands if you can, stop finger stimulation and go oral for a few minutes, stop finger stimulation and use a sex toy for a while, and others.

More Tips on How To Finger A Girl

  1. Lube, anyone? Finger stimulation works best if your partner is really wet. If not, ensure you have a healthy backup of lube ready for use.
  2. Learn and be a voyeur at the same time. Not sure how to please her down there? If so, ask her to masturbate in front of you so that you learn how to pleasure her exactly the way she wants it.
  3. Learn when to stop. As you become more and more enthralled about bringing your lover to an orgasm just by using your fingers, it’s equally important to know when to stop trying. Too much friction can actually numb her genitals and when that occurs, reaching a climax is almost next to impossible so better stop now… and start again another day.
  4. Learn effective fingering techniques! Head over to the link below to learn 2 step-by-step “Advanced Fingering Techniques” to bring your lover to multiple escalating orgasms.