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5 Things You Didn’t Know About Cunnilingus

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Cunnilingus is the “fancy” term for giving a woman head. It may not always be your favourite sex chore (like some women don’t like blowjobs), but it’s a worthwhile skill to learn if you want to satisfy your partner. Women expect men to go down on them during sex. And, cunnilingus has often become the only way for some women to orgasm even before actual sex.

Are Women Able To Orgasm During Cunnilingus?

Yes. Although the chance of orgasm via cunnilingus is still dependent on the man’s skill, most women can climax when they’re being eaten out compared to penetration. This has a lot to do with the way their clitoris get more attention via cunnilingus.

Is It Necessary To Touch The Clitoris When I’m Giving Her Head?

Yes. The clitoris is one of the major factors that contribute to a woman’s pleasure. But how you touch it matters. Some women have a totally exposed clitoris, especially during full arousal. It may be painful for the woman if her clitoris is rubbed directly by a dry finger so what you need to do is to lubricate your hands before you touch her there. If you’re using your tongue, make sure you start licking around her clitoris until she’s used to the sensation before licking the pink tip directly.

I Like It When A Woman Nibbles Lightly On My Member During A Blowjob, Is It The Same For Women?

Unfortunately for the natural nibblers out there, the clitoris is more sensitive than the penis and any grazing of teeth will make it sore and then numb. The penis is often exposed to fabric and the air (when you go to the bathroom to urinate), which contributes to the slight desensitization that continues daily for men. A woman’s clitoris, however, is hidden from view and protected by plump skin for protection. Exposing it to too much sensation, like biting, will only result in pain.

Do All Women Smell Down There?

A woman’s scent down there takes some getting used to, and there are a lot of men who have been traumatized by their first oral sex experience because they are not ready for the smell. Don’t immediately assume that her hygiene is poor if she smells down there, as her diet and a lot of other factors affect her chemical make up.

Some women have a more pleasant smell down there especially if they washed well before jumping into bed with you. But there is still a certain musky odor that no soap or fragrance can mask, because most of the odor comes from the love juice that spews out of her as she gets progressively aroused.

How Do I Deal With The Smell?

You can lessen the exposure to the smell by letting your fingers take charge of her vaginal hole and keeping your mouth on her clitoris. But the best solution is to suggest that you shower together so you can eat her out under running water if the smell is too overwhelming for you.

How To Give A Female Orgasm – Even If Your Penis Is Too Small

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Maybe it’s the culture of pornography that led men to believe they can only please women if they have a foot-long member to wield. Maybe it’s the bragging that they often hear from friends, or it’s the way the media has always depicted the ideal man, virile and hung as a horse. Whatever made a lot of men insecure about their penis size, this line of thinking has got to stop. In the first place, so many women are blissfully happy with partners who are just average in size.

By average, we mean in the 5-6 inch margin. But this too could put men who have penis sizes lower than five inches feel insecure. So, let’s clarify the main point: size is only an issue to men who don’t know how to properly please women. If a woman thought the sex was unsatisfactory, believe me, it’s not your size, it’s your skills.

Angle Your Thrusts

The angle of thrusting matters, especially if your penis is small. You should know that a woman’s g-spot is located near the entrance of her vagina on the upper part. The doggy position can let you touch that spot in a more intense manner, but you can also do this using the missionary position. Just put a pillow or two beneath the woman’s thighs so her hips are slightly elevated.

Touch Her Clitoris

In the end, you should realize that a woman could reach climax easily when her clitoris is stimulated during penetration. The clitoris may be small, but it’s the core of a woman’s pleasure. Adding the sensation of clitoral fondling into the mix while you’re having sex will push her over the edge. In fact, no matter what stage of sex you’re on, you should not quit touching her clitoris one way or another. Even if it’s just thrusting and grinding so that your pubic region presses on her mound during sex. This action will lead to indirect clitoral stimulation, which makes all the difference in terms of her pleasure.

You should never let your penis size bother you. In reality, you are probably the only one bothered by it. If a woman has had many lovers in the past, it’s just normal that she compares you, size-wise, but the thing is, if you’re skilled enough in sex, your penis size will never be an issue. If you need an analogy, think of how women feel about other women with big breasts. They feel insecure about their bodies just like men with below average penis sizes, but in the end, sex skills are more important than size.

What Are Multiple Orgasms And How Can I Give Them?

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Have you ever wondered if the phenomenon called multiple orgasms really does exist? Ask a woman who has experienced it and you will know that this really happens. Some women may not be able to describe to you exactly what they felt, but if they tell you it’s a prolonged version of an orgasm, it’s definitely a variant of what we know as multiple orgasms.

Multiple orgasms can be classified into two: multiple orgasms in a series, and stacking orgasms.

Multiple Orgasms In A Series

When a woman has one orgasm and doesn’t take too long to build another one, she is experiencing a series of orgasm. This is what happens when a woman is extremely excited. She doesn’t feel tired after the first orgasm. In fact, that she has already climaxed once makes it extremely easy for her to climax again. This often occurs during sex when the man continues to thrust in his penis even after the woman has had her first orgasm.

Stacking Multiple Orgasms

An orgasm that seems to go on forever is called a stacking orgasm. The orgasms are so close together that the woman feels like she’s having one orgasm that goes beyond what she’s used to.

A lot of women become extremely emotional when they feel this phenomenon of stacking orgasms, and more often than not, they burst into tears. The feeling overwhelms them and overflows as an emotional outburst.

How to Give Multiple Orgasms

Any man can give multiple orgasms if he can…

Prolong the sex. This means holding back his own orgasm and continue thrusting even when he’s almost at his limit. A man usually slows down to be able to control his own orgasm, but slowing down could destroy the momentum needed to give multiple orgasms. What you can do is to wear another layer of condom on top of the first one, or choose a condom brand that’s thicker than your usual. This will kill the sensation somewhat and allow you to continue thrusting without losing it.

Fondle her clitoris during penetration. It’s no secret that the clitoris, like the penis, reacts to stimulation during sex. This means the clitoris expands, tightens and becomes rigid. Fondling the clitoris the right way at this point will make a woman feel great. Moreover, she will be able to experience multiple orgasms if her clitoris is continuously touched during penetration.

Stimulate the woman emotionally. A multiple orgasm is a result of physical and emotional stimulation. To create extreme emotional connection with a girl during sex, you have to tell her what she wants to hear. If you’ve been dating her for a time, saying “I love you” will often do the trick. Flattery will also work, if said in a sincere manner. Tell her she is beautiful, or sexy, or that she is a goddess.

5 Steps To Induce A G Spot Orgasm Using The Come Hither Motion

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When you crook your forefinger upward and move it forward and backward like you’re calling someone to come nearer, that’s called the “come hither movement.” Such a movement is not considered polite among strangers, or even acquaintances, but it’s perfectly acceptable to call over someone who happens to be your lover using this gesture.

There is another use for the come hither gesture, and this has something to do with finding the g spot and giving a woman mind boggling orgasms.

What is the come hither g spot orgasm? When fingering a girl, you use the come hither movement to detect the part of her vaginal portal that feels slightly different from the rest of the tissues around your fingers. That part is her g-spot and it can become quite ridged when she’s aroused.

Men who have trouble finding the g spot might have forgotten the most important factor to finding the g spot. A girl must be completely into it, and super excited, for the g-spot to be engorged with blood. Some experts say that the g-spot is the tail of the clitoris, which means that you can find it quickly if you stimulate the front end of the clitoris first.

5 Steps To Induce A G Spot Orgasm Using The Come Hither Motion

  1. First, practice the come hither motion on your own. Position your hand in front of you with your palm facing upward. Then, crook your forefinger in the shape of a hook. Do the same with your middle finger. Use both fingers to create the come hither gesture. If you wish, you can let your ring finger join in (if you intend to finger your girl using three fingers).
  2. When you’re in bed with your girl, you can start stimulating her by eating her out. This is the fastest way to induce lubrication. Make sure you stimulate the outer part of her vaginal portal, and especially her clitoris, so that she will be fully aroused and ready for fingering.
  3. When she’s wet enough, insert your forefinger and let it slide in and out for a few minutes. Do this gently to prevent hurting her with the friction. Make sure your finger goes deeper every time you slide it in.
  4. When she’s used to the motion of your forefinger, get your middle finger working. Slide both fingers in and out for a few minutes before trying the come hither motion.
  5. Let your tongue play with her clitoris as you gently push both fingers deep inside her vagina and slowly do the come hither movement while inside. The sensation this induces may feel odd to most girls, and a lot of women will probably stop you (because the sensation is akin to that of wanting to pee). When this happens, distract her by wetting and licking her clitoris more seriously while you repeat the movement.

The combination of cunnilingus and come hither movement inside her vagina will induce a powerful orgasm she won’t be able to forget.

How To Have More Orgasms In Your Relationship

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Becoming more aware of your sexuality inside your relationship is both good and bad. Good because you’re learning more about each other. By the time you took a breather and got around to spending a night without so much as touching each other, you realize that sex has become monotonous, uneventful and even boring. But, of course, you will never be able to tell your partner that without offending her to the extreme. What you can do is to suggest new things that will mix things up so that you can have better orgasms together.

Sex Toys

Sex toys are made of plastic or rubber, and they can range in variety from odd-looking buttons to colourful beads. They’re readily available online or by mail order. You can choose the best ones with your partner and try them one by one. Experimenting with sex toys is always fun, considering you can bring your pleasure to a completely new level.

If you’re not comfortable with having a threesome, but you want to try having an extra hand during sex, you can always try sex toys. A sybian for example can help your partner get off while performing blowjob on you. The sensations brought on by these sex toys may seem strange at first, but with skilful handling and a bit of imagination, you can use these to improve your sex life.

Fantasize

If you have never discussed fantasies with your partner, now is the time to do so. But you have to make sure you don’t take these fantasies seriously. If she fantasizes about being taken inside the office and it just so happened that she works as a secretary, don’t immediately assume that she wants to sleep with her boss. Fantasies are scenarios we think up with our partners in mind.

You have to be careful when describing situations, though. You don’t want to mention any particular person while coming up with kinky fantasies to try if you don’t want your girlfriend to feel jealous or paranoid over the girl you’re fantasizing about. Mentioning porn stars or letting her choose from your fetish porn collection is safe.

Being more kinky inside your relationship is a sign that you’re growing as a couple. It also means the trust between you and your partner is growing. Soon, you might even consider letting her wear a strap on and doing you for a change. Losing your inhibitions with your partner can be a fun way to get to know each other sexually. Finding out what your partner likes, and what kinky sex and  fantasies she’s keeping from you, can be the trigger to a more orgasmic sex life.