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Blue Clitoris – Can Girls Get ‘Blue Balls’?

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We all know that men can have what’s called the “blue balls” phenomenon. This happens when a man cannot release by climaxing for various reasons. He might have been holding out for too long because he wants to last longer for the sake of his partner’s pleasure, or his sexual mood may have been destroyed.

A woman can have what we call “blue clitoris” for the same reasons.

The clitoris is structurally similar to the penis. Any book on anatomy would tell you that the penis and the clitoris are made out of the same stem cells and both organs react in a similar manner to direct sexual stimulation.

When a woman feels the urge to have sex, her clitoris becomes infused with blood and tightens into a pink taut bud. The tension builds until orgasm ensues, after which the blood drains from the clitoris and it goes back to being the soft fold of skin on top of the woman’s inner lips.

Because you know the pain of having blue balls, you should know that it’s equally painful for women to experience “blue clitoris.”

Mood Break

If you’re petting in a public place and you’ve been heavily petting, someone or something might happen to destroy the mood completely. The same goes when you’re having sex and the doorbell rings. Don’t be surprised when you see your girlfriend walking in an odd manner when these things happen. Besides the discomfort below her belly (along the navel area); her clitoris might be feeling sore as it uncomfortably rubs against her panties in its hardened state.

Unfulfilled Fantasy

During sex, your girlfriend might be harbouring a fantasy that keeps her aroused. It could be the same fantasy that she uses as masturbation fuel when she’s alone. When she looks up and realizes that you’re nothing like the “you” inside her fantasy, she might lose her mood completely even if her clitoris is still hard.

What you can do is discuss her fantasy during your lovemaking so that you can act like the way you usually do in her daydreams. Communication is the key to good sex, and if you manage to get her talking to you in fantasy mode, you know you’re on the right track.

You Had Your Climax Too Soon

Most guys can pick up where they left off when it comes to sex, that’s why the tension remains high even when you change positions. The sensation may vary, like when you shift from blow job to penetration, but the sexual tension in you will remain high.

Unfortunately, women are not capable of picking up where they left off. If you get her close to orgasm by penetration then you suddenly climax, she won’t be able to climax soon after, even if she manages to fondle her clitoris like mad after you’ve climaxed. When you climax before a woman, one of the consequences is that you may have to deal with is her “blue clitoris.”

Sexual Stamina Exercises For Great Marathon Sex

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Every guy knows (or secretly admits) that he has shortcomings when it comes to sex. Maybe it’s the incapacity to make a girl climax, maybe it’s the fact that he gets off after just 2 minutes, or maybe it’s that he just can’t get it up long enough to please his girl. Whatever your sex-related problem is, other men have had worse.

But, there are certain ways to make sure you don’t run into “technical problems” when it’s time to perform.

Practice Holding Back Your Ejaculation

Just like everything else, practice makes perfect when it comes to developing enough sexual stamina to hold back your climax. You can practice alone or with your girlfriend (if she’s comfortable with just practicing).

The problem is that most guys will not “practice” long enough to really learn the skills. I can’t blame you. I, myself, want to learn the basics just once and be a sex expert the very next day. It’s like going to a fitness center one morning and expecting to have bulky muscles by dinner time. It’s not possible.

When you’re masturbating and you feel tension building, hold it all in and do breathing exercises. You can also interrupt your own climax by shifting your attention to other things. When you’re with your girlfriend, you can change sex positions or you can go back to foreplay.

Kegel Exercises

Kegel exercises are the most convenient way to strengthen your inner thigh muscles without letting everyone know you’re actually exercising. There are so many tutorials around on how to do Kegel exercises, but they all boil down to one thing… you have to exercise your pubococcygeus muscle (also known as your pelvic floor). Tighten this muscle a few times a day and reap the benefits when you’re on sex mode.

The main benefits of doing kegel exercises include getting rid of erectile dysfunction, getting a rockhard erection and being able to control your ejaculation.

Increase Your Strength

Do you have to be a body builder to have great sex? No, of course not. But you have to be able to lift a girl’s body when you’re doing it standing up, or when she wants you to try some exotic sex position in which you need to partially carry her.

Staying fit can benefit you in the bedroom. If you eat well, work out and maintain a healthy lifestyle, your circulation will stay in tip-top condition and you will not have to worry about erectile dysfunction caused by circulation problems.

Sharpen Your Imagination

Marathon sex can be physically and mentally draining. This means you need to train your mind as well as your body to bear the demands of a thirteen-hour sex session. Remember, your brain is your greatest sex organ. Don’t let it get desensitized. If you can keep thinking of kinky stuff even after a few hours, you can be sure that you won’t lose your erection, and you can continue to please your girl for as long as she likes.

How To Make Love To A Woman The Right Way

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Sex for men is a lot like revving up an engine and going full throttle until the finish line, but for women, it’s more like a leisurely ride by the coast, enjoying the scenery and stopping every once in a while for an ice cream or two. This difference in the way men and women perceive good sex leads to the disconnect that we (and women) often feel inside the bedroom.

Sexual chemistry is something you can brew, and continue to brew, as the night goes on. It involves increasing and decreasing anticipation in the girl, and making her look forward to more. If you’re wondering what all these mean, read on to find out how to make love to a woman the right way.

Step 1: Increase Sexual Tension

Sexual tension is always present when you are interacting with a girl you like. It can lead to sex, or to a romantic encounter at least. One result of sexual tension is excitation of the senses, which makes you more aware of how close she is to you and how nervous you’re feeling when you’re around her.

This sexual awareness can be increased to a feverish degree when you’re preparing for sex. By making her think “oh no, I’m getting excited,” you’re psychologically setting the stage for her first orgasm.

Step 2: Excite Her Senses

When she’s fully aware of the inevitable (that you’re going to do it with her and you’re going to give her a great time), her perspective narrows down to instant action and reaction. This means when you kiss her, her eyes move to your lips. When you touch her, she notices how coarse or smooth your hands are. In addition, when you lean over, she can smell the cologne you put on that morning.

This is the phase when she’s absolutely mesmerized with you, and her attention is 100% on you. When you reach this point, don’t hold back. Talk dirty to her if she’s into that, or continue making her extremely aware of your presence by moving closer (embracing, taking off her clothes, etc.).

Step 3. Invite Her To Participate In The Action

After you’ve done the first two steps, she’s bound to be in an orgasmic frenzy. It’s time to allow her to “act on her desires” by guiding her hand to where you want to be touched, and reacting accordingly.

Making a woman feel that she’s partly in control, and that she can make you lose control if she feels like it, makes sex all the more exciting for her. However, you have to do this without taking your hands off her so that she continues to be under your spell, even when she thinks you’re under hers.

Sex is both physically and mentally stimulating, and if you do it right, there’s no way the woman will say you’re a lousy lay. Do yourself a favor and just try these tips out the next time you’re with your girlfriend. You will be glad you did.

The Best Love Making Positions To Try

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If you want to become a sex god, you won’t get far unless you know the differences between the sex positions. These differences may have something to do with the way the position increases sexual pleasure and urge, or the difficulty of the sex position. No two sex positions are the same when it comes to these two things.

Like me, you may have one or two favorite sex positions. However, if you’re going to continue having intimate moments with a particular girl, you have to learn more about the other sex positions that you can try during sex to keep things going…

Man On Top

I’m not going to diss the Missionary position in this article, because it will always be a favorite among guys. It’s the ideal sex position for dominance and for controlling the rhythm during lovemaking. However, if you’ve been doing it with a girl for a while, the same old man-on-top that you usually do won’t create a reaction on her part anymore.

You have to put a creative spin on the old Missionary style. You can put a pillow under her thighs to create a different angle of penetration. You can also put her feet up and hold them steady with your shoulders . On the other hand, you can try lying on top of her, with your weight on your elbows and your pubis directly rubbing her clitoral region (this position is often called coital alignment).

Woman On Top

Some women find it difficult to stay on top, either because of their weight or because they never received proper guidance from their previous lovers. Some women also think that getting up there and grinding away is the most pleasurable way to do it, but you know that too much grinding (and grinding the wrong way) can be painful.

How do you pull off the woman on top position and still control what’s happening? First, you have to make sure she’s comfortable. By this I mean her weight is managed well. You can have her squatting if she’s short, or kneeling if the upper part of her legs is long enough to wrap around your thighs comfortably.

Second, you can guide her when she starts to move. Set the rhythm yourself by moving your thighs according to the rhythm you want, or by gently holding her torso or hips and simulating the movement you want her to do.

Rear Entry

A sex positions list isn’t complete without the rear entry sex positions. There are two ways to maximize the effect of the doggy style, which is said to be the best position for a gspot massage during penetration. First is the high angle doggy style, in which you’re thrusting slightly upward. Second, the woman-on stomach variation, in which the girl is lying on her stomach and you’re doing the rear-entry version of the missionary.

You will never run out of ideas for different sex positions if you keep on experimenting and taking note of the positions that work best for you and your partner.

Turning Her On – How To Get Your Girlfriend In The Mood

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Getting a woman in the mood is not as difficult as you may think. But we have to admit, it gets harder and harder to create the right mood for some frisky lovemaking when you’ve been with a woman for a while. Unlike that time when you just started dating, the intervals between the days she wants sex get longer and longer.

I have no doubt that you know exactly what I’m talking about. Sometimes her rejection of your advances has a lot to do with the girl’s approachability. But more often than not, it’s the fact that you’ve run out of ideas on how to turn her on. You figure she has seen and heard everything that you have to offer, and that flirting with her will seem like you’re just reprising the role of the horny boyfriend who wants to jump her all the time.

If you can’t help but to overdo the physical side of your relationship, here are some ways to make sure you don’t leave the emotional aspect alone. A woman gets turned on based on what she’s feeling, whether or not you’re touching her.

Romance Her

Much to the dismay of women, some guys don’t know (or have forgotten) how to romance a woman into bed. Don’t get me wrong. Most women love sex, and they’d go all out when the sex is good. However, women need a different set of stimuli to get it going. We can do with a good cleavage view, or simply the thought that we can get laid, but women need more than that. They want to feel like they’re being wooed rather than being used as objects.

During foreplay, you have all the opportunity to make a woman express her needs to you. Tune in to her mood and go from there. If she’s tired, start slowly. If she’s angsty or even angry, you can rough her up a bit in a sexy way.

Make Her Feel Sexy

Women go into power trips several times during sex, but we often don’t notice these moments because we’re wrapped up in our own fantasies and sexual thoughts. If you want to open the doors to friskier sex, you’d better pay attention when a woman tries to impose her own brand of power while you’re doing it.

For example, here’s how you can make her do oral sex on you longer. While she’s down there, tell her how sexy she looks and that you love it when she does that to you. You can tell her to keep going, but make sure you shower her with a lot of compliments to get her in the mood. If you do this right, you’re going to get something more than the 30-second, obligatory sucking.

Show Her You Want Her

Showing a woman you’re in the mood can be done in more ways than one. Don’t go for the cliches like flowers and jewelry. Although a bath and an erotic massage are great, getting her to that point needs some doing. What you can do is to pursue her like you’re just going out. Show up at her workplace and ask her out on a date, or ask her to go with you somewhere for a couple of drinks. Think of it like you’re hitting on her again, and you’ll set the mood for some frisky lovemaking easily.