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8 Ways To Have “Vacation” Sex – TONIGHT!

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Sex is always better when you’re on a trip, right? Why. Several reasons actually – here’s how to re-create super hot vacay sex right now!

Clean Up The Bedroom – Or The Whole House

Hotels and vacation resorts are almost always clean – at least, cleaner than your house after the kids have ran through it. Stepping into a perfectly clean hotel room at the start of your vacation is always relaxing, and sets the mood for great nookie later. After all, it is hard to have erotic foreplay when someone steps on a Barbie.

Bring that feeling to your house by giving it a really good clean while your spouse is away at work. (Of course, it’s a lot of trouble taking off work yourself, but you take time off work for a vacation, don’t you?) When your lover walks in, it should look and smell clean and completely different than when they left. They’ll be amazed – and so glad that they don’t have to do it that they’ll be game for almost anything.

Wash The Sheets And Towels

Yes, this probably should go under “cleaning up.” However, washing the sheets (heck, even springing for new sheets if you’ve got the cash) and towels is so important that it deserves its own section. One of the reasons that hotel sex is so great is that the bed is clean – that is, if you’re in a good hotel. They smell clean, and the next day, they’re clean again. And again. No matter how many times you have sex in the bed, the sheets are always clean when you get in! That’s actually really erotic for a woman.

Eat At A Nice Restaurant First (Or Order In)

Think about what you do to eat on vacation that is different from how you eat at home. Are you always ordering out at home? Then dress up and go out for a nice meal at a romantic, sit down restaurant. Are you always going out to eat at home or cooking and cleaning up a huge mess in the kitchen? Order in. Do you go out on vacation but not at home? Go out. You get the picture.

Food is very sensual and plays a big part in the seduction process, especially if it’s really delicious and you get to enjoy it slowly, perhaps with your favorite drink. That is often what makes vacations so great is that there will usually be some new and exciting dining experiences. Plan a new and exciting dining experience at home, and you’re well on your way to re-creating the sexual magic.

Serve Champagne In An Ice Bucket

Room service is incredibly romantic if you can afford it – and a lot of people splurge on room service when they’re on a trip. There’s little more romantic than seeing your partner in a fluffy robe, opening a bottle of champagne and enjoying it. Serve strawberries or chocolate covered strawberries with it for an extra romantic touch.

The point is, you’re doing something that is usually reserved for special occasions, vacations and the like (when the sex is always better). Do you serve champagne in an ice bucket regularly at home? Probably not. If you have kids, Kool-Aid and sweet tea are the house wines.

Romantic Bubble Bath? Yes, Please!

Often, couples will take a romantic bubble bath at a hotel when on a trip, but not at home. Why is that? Is it because the hotel bathtub is a lot bigger? Possibly, but you probably still fit fine in your bathtub at home. Is it because there is new bubble bath in a pristine wrapper on the ledge of the tub just waiting for you to use it? In all actuality, that is very likely.

Splurge a little on a nice bubble bath and don’t open it – just set it on the ledge of the tub. Throw in some rose petals if you want, and bring the ice bucket with champagne over. Enjoy a romantic, sensual bubble bath with your lover at home! Want it to really feel like you’re away? Play some white noise – a fire crackling or the ocean with seagulls in the background. This will make you feel like you’ve been totally transported away! Don’t forget to have a quickie in the shower the next morning!

Do It In The Guest Room

Or anywhere besides your bed, really. If the sheets aren’t washed, or you just want the maximum “vacay” effect, get it on somewhere other than where you usually do – and for most couples, that is the bedroom. The guest bedroom is a great option, because most likely, the sheets in there are already clean.

Being somewhere other than your bed will make you feel like you’re somewhere else entirely – and that’s what turns the heat up! If you don’t have a guest room, there are lots of other great places to have sex in your house – almost anywhere!

Go Tropical – Or A Cozy Winter Theme

When you’re on a trip, the “theme” effect is in full swing. People usually either go to the beach or somewhere cold like a ski resort – and they often either go in the summer or winter to boot. Help recreate the vacation feel by going with a theme. If it’s warm outside, go with a beach theme.

Make margaritas or pina coladas, use coconut scented lotion after a bath and burn a tropical scented candle or incense. If you’re going for a winter theme, hot chocolate next to a fire (or a fake fire set up on your laptop) and cozy cuddling are definitely in order.

Wait, Doesn’t This Sound Like Any Old Regular Date Night?

A lot of this sounds like what you might do for any regular date night. A nice meal, a romantic bubble bath – yes, this all sounds very familiar, doesn’t it? Problem is that a lot of couples wait until they’re on a trip to actually have a date night! They may go six months without ever having a date, until freeing up their workload by going on vacation. That’s when the magic happens.

Instead, free up your workload for a day without planning on a trip. Make reservations at a brand new restaurant that you’ve never tried, and have Grandma babysit the kids. Make time for that date night – real, honest-to-goodness time and the sex will be explosive!

5 Ways To Spice Up Your Sex Life!

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So many couples think about hot sex all the time, but when it comes to the big show, they are total duds in bed. If your partner is rolling their eyes every time you try to please, you need to handle the problem quickly. If you have heard from your partner that they are bored and tired of the “same old sex”, it’s probably time to step out of your comfort zone. Here are 5 ways to spice up your sex life!

Live Out Your Fantasies

Everybody has fantasies. If you find yourself in a sexual rut, consider living out a few of your fantasies to get your juices flowing again. Talk to your partner about your sexual fantasies before you just “go for it”. We all like different things and some of your fantasies might not mesh too well with your partner. Be open and honest about your fantasies. There is no reason to only do it at 50%. More than likely, your partner wants you to share your fantasies – so talk to them.

Be Spontaneous

Spontaneous sex is an easy way to spice up your sex life. There are so many couples out there that do it on the same day at the same hour every week for years.  It’s all about shaking thing up and when you’re following the same schedule every week for years it’s bound to put you to sleep. Turn your sex life upside down by getting more spontaneous. Meet your partner for a nooner or wake up an hour early for morning sex before work. There are tons of ways that you can become more spontaneous in your sex life.

Extend Foreplay

Foreplay is another great way to increase both your sexual pleasure. So many guys try to skip out on foreplay and get right to sex. Remember that sex is always half and half. You give a little and you get a little. She will be far more willing to have sex with you, when she’s as turned on as you are! There should always be compromise during sex, but when you’re in a long-term relationship it’s hard to not go through the same sequence of events every time. Women love foreplay just as much as sex so it’s important to remember that the kisses and the licking have as much of an effect as thrusting away at her – maybe even more. Extend your foreplay and you will discover exactly how creative you can be with 10-20 extra minutes to get the juices flowing.

Try New Sex Positions

Sex positions are an often over-looked way to spice things up. Couples tend to rely on a few different positions that seem to work. Missionary, doggy, girl on top and the spoon are the most common, but they don’t exactly spell out excitement after 3-4 years. If you’re looking for a quick way to add variety to your sex life, consider some lesser-known sex positions. Try a new sex position every week, or every day if you’re feeling really adventurous. Being truly sexy is about embracing the unknown and a new batch of sex positions could be the answer you’re looking for.

Get Out Of The Bedroom

The bedroom is the most common place for couples to have sex. Because of it’s comfort and familiarity, the bedroom can quickly become the most boring place for you and your partner to have sex. Taking your sexual activities out of the bedroom is a great idea to add some spice to your sex life. Try having sex in a different room or in a different building all together if you want to breath new life into your carnal activities. Make a pact with your partner to have sex at least once a week in a different room. Make it a game to try to find a new place to do it every time. A lot of couples find that after having sex in a new room they feel closer and more playful.

What Your Kiss Says About You

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Kissing is as unique as your fingerprint. What do your techniques reveal about YOUR personality?

Kissing is a part of every relationship. But what does your kiss really say about you? You can tell a lot about somebody by the way that they do it. What you do with your hands, if you keep your eyes open and how long you kiss your partner are all tells of your personality. When you are kissing your partner, you should be aware of how you come across. If you have no idea what it says about you, read on. Here is a guide on how kissing can reflect your personality.

Eyes

Do you kiss with your eyes open? Most people like to close their eyes when they are kissing. A simple peck on the lips with your boyfriend could be the exception. Pecks are often obligatory when leaving a situation or entering the home after a day of hard work. However, if you’re leaving your eyes open during sex or while you’re kissing for more than 5 seconds you could have trust issues. Kissing puts you into a vulnerable position. When you are kissing and you close your eyes, you are putting trust into your partner and the motions you are both making. If your boyfriend sees that your eyes are open during your kissing, they could think that you’re uncomfortable.

Hands

Your hands are an essential part of kissing. Although your lips do most of the work, your hands are a detail that cannot be ignored. If you keep your hands to yourself, you might come off as distant. If you put your hands on your boyfriend or husband’s waist, you probably come off as happy with the relationship. If you put your hands on his face, you display passion. Every guy wants their girlfriend or wife to be passionate about their relationship. When you don’t use your hands during kissing, you could come off as stale and uninterested. Use your hands the next time you are kissing your partner and you might find them to be more receptive.

Kissing Length

The length of your kiss is another aspect that can tell a lot about you. If you are just getting home or heading out for the day, a peck can be appropriate. If you’re lying in bed trying to get something going, a couple of seconds can show distance. When you are kissing your partner before intercourse, it should be longer than 10 seconds. Your boyfriend isn’t only interested in your lips, but kissing shows that you are passionate about a physical relationship with him. When you only do it for a couple of seconds before pulling away, he might think that he’s a bad kisser or that he has a rank mouth.

Distance

When you are kissing your boyfriend or husband, the distance between your two bodies can say a lot about you. This distance can actually show distance in the relationship. If you hug each other while you kiss, then you probably have great physical compatibility. You should be touching each others bodies when you do to show compliance. This means that you feel comfortable being close. If there is distance in the kiss, you might not be comfortable in the relationship. Your part will pick up on this wonder why your kissing feels like you’re just going through the motions.

Afterwards

The moments after a kiss can also say a lot about you. When you are done kissing, do you immediately turn away? Do you give him one more peck on the lips before you go about your business? Or do you look into his eyes as you pull away slowly? All of these are typical of kissing, but only one of them can show that you’re not comfortable with intimacy. Pulling away immediately after the kiss is a sign that you don’t feel comfortable enough with your partner to continue engaging in the act. He will definitely pick up on this wonder what the problem is. Be aware of this while you’re kissing and think about it after you have finished.

Kissing is a great way to show how much you love your guy. But when it shows your vulnerabilities or that you’re not happy with the relationship, your boyfriend or husband will start to wonder what needs improvement. If you really are happy with the relationship, be aware of the potential hazards that your kissing can impose. Make a conscious effort to avoid hazardous kissing movements before, during and after the kiss so you aren’t confusing your partner.

Hot Sex Positions For A Handjob

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A handjob can actually be a sexy thing to give to your partner. Here are some fun sex positions to try when you want to give your partner some manual love.

It’s important to find a comfortable place for both you and your partner before embarking on a handjob. How do you know what is the right position? Experiment! You and your partner should work with different positions until you both find something comfortable.

Facing Each Other

He’ll love to see the look on your face as you play with his cock. Look at his member like you are actually in love with it, that it is beautiful and wonderful (it really is one of the most amazing parts of the anatomy). You enjoying the sight and feel of his penis will be a huge turn on for him.

Traditional Kneeling

Kneel in front of your partner while he is sitting in a chair or on the edge of the bed (like fellatio).

The “Movie Theater” Handjob

Sit side by side on the couch or the bed (or other surface). If you reach over while he’s watching TV or a movie and jerk him off it will be one of his fantasies coming true.

Relaxation To The Max

Sit in between your partner’s legs while he is lying down. This is great for him as he can completely relax.

Backwards Handjob

Sit beside your partner but lean over in a way that you are facing his feet

Doggy Style

You can be either under him while he is in the position – or to the side of him. Or have him spread his legs wide in this position and you can be behind him and grab his goodies from between his legs. It is a great angle for you to touch and tease and play with his ball sac – which is extremely erotic for almost all men.

On Your Knees

Kneel while your partner is standing. This position is often used in combination with a blowjob but it can be used solely for a handjob.

Lying Down

Lie beside your partner. If you undress, he’ll be able to play with your breasts and you can even kiss while you stroke.

Road Job

Try this while driving down the road (the recipient should NOT be the one behind the wheel!) or in your car at the drive in theater. Splurge for a limo with a privacy screen and make another fantasy come true.

Fun In The Tub

Have him sit on the edge of the bathtub – feet in the water, while you are in the tub stroking him like a mermaid.

Extra Hands

Stand with your partner facing away from you (this is particularly fun if you slip up behind him, rubbing on him, then reach around and unzip his pants — never let him turn around — but work him to where he looks down and only sees your hand while the rest of your body is pressed into his). He will have a free hand to reach around and explore between your legs without actually “seeing” you.

Women love this position because it can also be used with the surprise “sneak into the shower and give him a handjob when he least expects it” act. Soap or shampoo on your hands will feel amazing to him when you try this move. Although if soap or shampoo get inside his penis it can burn like the dickens, and will continue every time he pees for the next few days. So, if you use soap or shampoo just stay away from his penis head. He’ll love the slippery suds on his shaft, balls and between his legs. A safer alternative is silicone lube.

This is probably one of the best positions for bringing your guy to orgasm because if you are behind him your strokes and motions will be closer to how he has stroked himself to orgasm over the years. Guys who frequently masturbate actually train their penis to come more easily with particular strokes or patterns.

How To Tell If He’s Enjoying It

As long as you and your partner keep an open mind and keep the lines of communication open, you are likely to find several genital massage positions that work well for you. Just make sure to communicate! If something is not working for either you or your partner, it is important that you speak up about it and let the other know immediately! As long as you do so in a kind and gentle manner, no one will get offended by it. This applies to all aspects of giving a handjob (not just the positioning).

Just because he is not having an orgasm in a certain handjob position does not mean he is not thoroughly enjoying it. In fact, learn what positions and techniques feel great to him but do not take him over the top. You’ll want to use those when it is your desire to give him an extended hand job or if you are using a hand job as foreplay and want to climax with intercourse.

Sex Tips – A Quick Lesson On Female Anatomy

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Intimate touching is more than just humping until you are done. You need to explore a woman’s body and find out which spots are most susceptible to kissing, licking and fondling. It’s not true that women need more to get aroused. In fact, women are more likely to get turned on faster than men. It’s difficult to believe, but it’s true. You just have to find her erogenous zones, and discover how to touch those areas properly.

Don’t rush touching your wife or girlfriend everywhere whenever you can. Sex starts by exploring with your hands, followed by your lips and tongue. You already know that a woman can orgasm just by touching her clitoris, vagina and nipples, but there are other parts of her body that contribute to her pleasure during sex. Here are some of the most sensitive parts of a woman’s anatomy.

The Nape Of Her Neck

As a rule, any part on a woman’s body that is often covered by thick hair is an erogenous zone. The nape of a woman’s neck is extremely sensitive because it is often hidden from the elements by her hair. Even if your girlfriend has short hair, it is guaranteed that kissing her on the nape will send shivers down her spine.

The Area Just Below Her Chin

When a woman lifts her head, like when you’re in bed and she’s throwing her head back in pleasure, she reveals the sensitive skin right below her jaw line. This skin connects her neck and her jaw and is very sensitive to touching. It takes so little effort to lean your head and kiss her gently on that spot.

The Inner Part Of Her Arm

Lift her arm to reveal the hairless inner part that is less tanned than the part of her arm with hair. The hairless area near her elbows is filled with nerves that send sensations of pleasure when touched.

Her Hip Bone

Just below her waist is her hipbone. The skin covering her hipbones is so thin that pressing on it will either cause pain or pleasure (depending on how skilfully you touch her there). When a woman is lying down, her hipbones are more evident, which should give you the opportunity to kiss and caress that part of her anatomy.

Perineum

The perineum is a sensitive spot in between the vagina and the anus. The skin is so thin that the woman can feel extreme pleasure if you touch her there with your mouth or with a wet finger. This is another hot erogenous zone you should know about if you want to learn how to please a woman sexually.