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Cuddling After Sex – 3 Reasons Women Love It And Guys Should Do It

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What is cuddling? It’s an after-sex position you get into when your girl asks you to hug her. Cuddling is done like the spoon position, but with less erotic touching and more hugging. Women love to cuddle right after sex. If you’re anything like every other guy around, you probably think nothing of falling asleep right after sex but your girl might have other ideas. The general notion is that most men don’t think of cuddling as the main after-sex activity, and it’s just another one of those things that women do to get a guy’s attention.

But men would benefit greatly if they learned the art of “post-sex” lovemaking. Here are some reasons why women love cuddling after sex and why all guys should do it.

Cuddling Adds Romance After A Session Of “Animal” Sex

Sex leaves her feeling vulnerable. Every woman wants to feel loved even after a few hours of uninhibited animal sex. She wants to know that she is adored by the man she slept with. Regardless of your relationship status with the woman, she wants to feel that she’s with someone who thinks of her as “special.” The greatest thing a man can do to show his affection after sex is to cuddle and whisper in her ear. The act of talking while cuddling becomes special because, in a girl’s mind, it’s still a part of love making.

Cuddling after sex turns into a woman’s emotional release. Having an orgasm during sex is satisfying, but the emotional gratification isn’t complete without some romance after sex.

Cuddling Helps Women Prepare For The Next Round

Unlike most men, women can go for seconds after a short while. Women are capable of multiple orgasms, but these big O’s don’t always come one after another during sex. Sometimes, a woman needs to recuperate and recharge her physical and emotional batteries before going for it again.

A show of affection by touching and cuddling can boost arousal. Think of it as after-play and foreplay for the next round. If you’ve encountered women who don’t want a second round, it’s probably because you’ve never tried the “romantic cuddle” trick to getting her to say yes again.

Women Want To Talk

Cuddling after sex is a woman’s way of saying “let’s talk”. Women treat sex like an intimate date, which means conversation before and after sex. Strangely enough, women are less prone to getting mad or sulking when they’re completely satisfied with the love making. This means the conversation that ensues will be less strained, more relaxed and more fun.

I know most guys would rather sleep right after love making, but trying to stay awake to hear her talk about her day is recommended. A man isn’t supposed to fall asleep during this post-sex talk. If you’re having trouble keeping your eyes open during this time, I suggest going to the kitchen for a snack (with her in tow) or sitting up in bed to drink water while she cuddles next to you.

The G-Spot Mystery Revealed

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How to Spot the G-Spot

Want to be labeled a ‘sex god’? To achieve this, you must know her body like the back of your hand. By knowing her body intimately, you are better able to elicit great sexual responses with minimum effort.

For men, women already know that they should focus on our penis and prostate. Women also have two main important sexual triggers: the clitoris, which is accessible from outside their bodies) and the g-spot, which requires a bit more probing as it’s located inside their vaginal walls.

Now, many men are probably already fully aware of how they can stimulate the clitoris. The g-spot, however, is another matter altogether! First of all, it’s not easy to spot the g-spot. However, if you know where it is and how to stimulate it, you can bet that she’ll be yours forever with all those earth-shattering orgasms you can give her.

WHERE is the G-spot?

The g-spot is located behind her pubic bone, about 2-3 inches up her vaginal wall. The spot feels like the underside of your mouth in that it has ridges so it should be easy to distinguish it based on texture. However, if you’re after exact size and coordinates, that’s not gonna happen because each woman is built differently.

As a rough guide, think of her navel as ’12 o’clock’. Between 11 and 1, you should be able to spot her g-spot. When stimulated, the spot is just like the clitoris in that it becomes slightly puffed up. As such, it’s in your best interest to engage in heavy foreplay while you try and find the spot!

What to Do with the G-Spot

Perfect Earth-shattering gspot orgasms are often caused by brief, but steady, friction. One of the best positions to apply this steady friction is when you take her from behind. This is because as you thrust, your penis gets to constantly reach, graze and tap her gspot. This gspot stimulation technique using your penis and you’re likely to hear a (pleasurable) scream from her like never before. She would never ‘fake it’ anymore because quite frankly, there’s nothing to fake. From this point on, you ARE a master lover capable of bringing her rock-hard orgasms.

But if for some reason doggy-style is not working for you guys, no sweat. You can go finger licking good style.

As mentioned above, the g-spot is slightly puffed up when she’s sexually stimulated. As all women differ, this puffed up spot can be anywhere from the size of a dime to a quarter. Regardless, the slightly engorged area should help you locate her gspot inside her. And once you do, a few, steady, masterful strokes are all you need to do to drive her wild.

As you stimulate her spot, she’ll have this sense of desperately wanting to pee. This is partly because you’re stimulating an area near her urethra. Whatever you do though, DON’T STOP. Reassure her that the sensation is normal and that she wont’ pee… but she will experience an orgasm like NEVER before.

The Hunt for the G-Spot

If you can’t find her g-spot immediately, don’t worry… practice makes perfect.

  • Ask your partner to lie down and make her as comfortable as you can by surrounding her with pillows; use one to prop her hips.
  • Slowly insert two fingers (palm up) insider her and start to slowly explore the front of her vaginal wall. Look for a slightly engorged area that’s slightly rough. Be attentive to her reactions so that you don’t end up causing her pain. As you come closer her gspot, you’ll notice that she’s slowly moving her pelvis to guide you home.
  •  With your other hand, touch her abdomen with a flat palm and apply some pressure. By applying ‘downward’ pressure, you’re better able to arouse her g-spot from the inside.

By now, your partner must be delirious from pleasure, try one of the positions listed below for maximum climax.

Top 3 Positions to End Your G-Spot Adventure

Position #1. Woof-woof.

Assume the doggy-style position, with her head bent low and her rump up high. Scoot behind her, hold her hips firmly and penetrate deeply. While inside her, aim your penis against her g-spot and reach and stimulate it. With these few well-aimed thrusts, she’ll be screaming out your name in no time.

Position #2. Missionary with a Twist.

Guide your partner to a comfortable position lying down. As you enter her, fold her legs until her knees reach her breasts. As in the position mentioned above, ‘extend’ your thrusts so that the tip of your penis touches her gspot.

Position #3. Reverse Cow Girl.

Lie down and ask your woman to straddle you. This time though, ask her to straddle you the other way, with her facing your feet instead. (I know you won’t get to see her breasts bounce but hey, at least you see her behind!) In this position, your penis is perfectly angled to hit her g-spot. Just one thing to take note of: as she comes wildly from the g-spot orgasm, take care that she doesn’t hurt your penis!

Tonight, make it a night she will never ever forget. Give her a g-spot climax and brand her for life!

Are You Committing These 4 Bedroom Mistakes?

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As time goes by, it’s natural that certain things fall into a certain ‘routine’. However, when it comes to the bedroom, routine=boring. So, don’t you want to increase the sexual tension between you and your lady for more mind-blowing orgasms? Of course you do! Find out if you’re committing these four bedroom mistakes:

FOUR Bedroom Habits That Should Go BUST

You don’t MAKE LOVE, you just do things to reach an orgasm. This is probably the biggest gripe of women against us men folk: sex is like a race to the ejaculation finish line. Oh, where have the days gone when you used to engage in foreplay for hours? This is what women want from us once in a while. You know, savor the journey instead of focusing on the destination.

You know your TV guide, better than your woman. A lot of men can’t seem to tune into sex until they’ve tuned out their TV sets. I know you need to unwind when you come home but for some nights at least, resist the urge to watch any TV. Almost scandalous during these times I know, but trust me, this one pays wonders in the bedroom!

Try this tonight: make it all about lovemaking tonight. The minute you arrive home, make sexual innuendos; start caressing a part of her body when no one’s looking; carry on flirting until you guys are in bed (or on top of the coffee table) and engaging in hot sex.Friday nights=poker nights; Saturday nights=sex. Nothing can be LESS romantic than sex on a schedule. If you engage in sex only on certain days (or worse, only on certain occasions), then chances are you are also using the exact same sexual moves, right? And then sex is all over in exactly 11.5 minutes.

Bust this habit! I know that it’s hard to get rid of something that’s so ingrained in your relationship already so try something that will jumpstart it again. For instance, buy your woman sexy, hot, see-through lingerie; subscribe to adult magazines; rent adult movies and watch them together. At this stage, you need a MAJOR injection of thrill in your relationship so do that and busting your sex schedule will occur naturally.

Be More Spontaneous

Why is it that we men are bent on treating our women like ‘eggshells’ or ‘proper ladies’ in the bedroom? Don’t you remember how being so hot and dirty earlier in your relationship resulted in the best sex ever?

And guess what? Women don’t always want tenderness between the sheets either! In fact, a lot of women will appreciate a little more excitement in the bedroom every now and then. (Just remember not to scare her by whipping out a pair of handcuffs right in the middle of sex!)

So just be a tad more adventurous tonight… for starters anyway. For example, when going oral, instead of going down on her, ask her to sit on your face instead. If she loves woman on top, try reverse woman on top where she faces your feet. If you guys always go missionary OR doggy-style, try one after the other tonight!

Targeting Her Pleasure Buttons: How To Finger A Woman’s G-Spot

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From a man’s perspective, there are a lot of issues about sex which may bring you insecurities especially if you’re not so confident about your skills as a lover. Did she reach orgasm when during your first time together or was she faking it? When she has one of those ‘girl talks’ with her friends, do you think that she raves about your skills in bed or does she portray you as a lousy lover?

In order for you not to feel any insecurity in this department, the best that you can do is develop your skills as a lover. Remember to always be sensitive to a woman’s sexual needs, always take her pleasure into account instead of always looking for your own pleasure, take your time and learn new sexual tricks every now and then. This way, your wife or girlfriend will feel satisfied about the way that your sex life is going.

A Woman’s Pleasure Buttons: Differentiating the G-Spot from the Clitoris

For men, the erogenous zone is pretty much concentrated on the area below his waist and above his thighs. For women, however, there is a pretty wide area which can be considered as her pleasure zones. The breasts, her thighs, her waist, the back of her neck and even the not-so-erotic curves of her body can bring her pleasure when stimulated. And of course, there’s the center of all her pleasure zones which is her vagina.

Now, if you want to be a master lover, there are two aspects of a woman’s sexual organ that you need to learn the map for: the clitoris and the G-spot. Target these two pleasure buttons and you’ll surely be able to bring her multiple orgasms. To make the distinction between the two, here’s a crash course on the basic things that you should know about the clitoris and a woman’s G-spot.

First, the clitoris is the sole organ in the female body which is dedicated to physical pleasure. Think of the sensation that she feels down there as comparable to the pleasure that you feel when the head of your penis is being stimulated. The clitoris is a nerve-packed ending which is sensitive to the touch, and it is located just above the opening of her vagina.

Second, there’s the G-spot or the Gräfenberg spot. This is actually a bean-shaped tissue which has a spongy texture, located about a couple of inches back from the opening of her front vaginal wall.

Confused? Don’t worry, the G-spot is something that even women themselves find difficult to locate. But once you do manage to find it and bring her mind blowing orgasms by stimulating her G-spot, she’ll practically be under your sexual spell for life!

How to Bring Her Mind Blowing Orgasms by Fingering Her G-Spot

So how exactly should you stimulate her G-spot? Just as it is when you’re introducing a new sexual position to her, the best way to start stimulating the G-spot is by easing your way into it. Always start slow and be sensitive to her responses.

Don’t scrimp on the foreplay since this is one of the best ways to prepare her for the G-spot stimulation. The best way to go after her G-spot initially is by using your fingers. Once you’ve mastered the location of her G-spot, that is the time that you can target this particular pleasure button using your penis during penetration.

To do it, face your partner while she is lying on her back. Then, insert your index finger or your middle finger into her vagina as far back as it will go. Since the G-spot is located near her front vaginal wall, you should crook your finger along the top of the vagina. Do this gently until you feel an area which is rougher than the rest of the vaginal wall. Watch for her reaction – you’ll know when you’ve hit the right spot from the way that she will respond.

Don’t be afraid to communicate during the process of searching for her G-spot. Since she knows that it’s her ultimate pleasure that you’re after, she will surely cooperate.

The best way to make her reach an orgasm by fingering her G-spot is by using a firm tapping motion with your finger. Other women prefer G-spot stimulation during intercourse and the best position for this is when she’s on top or when you’re on a rear-entry position.

If you haven’t yet mastered the art of using a ‘helping hand’ to reach and stimulate her G-spot, don’t feel frustrated – try again and experiment. In due time, you are bound to reach that oh-so-elusive G-spot and use your finger to stimulate a woman’s ultimate pleasure button and bring her an orgasm that she’s not bound to forget anytime soon.

Master The Art Of Cunnilingus: Learn How To Eat A Girl Out

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When it comes to oral sex, women are lucky in the sense that all they need to do is brave the waters down there and they will be able to give men a mind-blowing orgasm through fellatio. No matter how they manipulate the penis – as long as the teeth are not involved – it will be an experience that is well worth it as far as men are concerned.

Men are not so lucky, however. The vagina is quite a complex territory so the art of cunnilingus is basically a different one to master. It’s not enough for you to be willing to go down on her – it involves a bit of tongue dexterity, finger manipulation and being sensitive to how she wants to be eaten.

Also, there are quite a number of spots that you have to master: the clitoris, the vaginal lips, the G-spot and her anal opening. But don’t worry – once you have learned how to give women the utmost sexual satisfaction through cunnilingus – you’ll be a master lover for life!

Eating a Girl Out 101: Start with the Basics

As mentioned earlier, there are a number of parts of the woman’s vagina that you need to be familiar with so that you would know what to do once she opens up her legs for you.

Remember that giving her head is something which she anticipates, loves and wants more than anything. For most women, oral stimulation before sex – or it being the main event – is the easiest way for them to reach a mind blowing orgasm.

So master your oral love skills by familiarizing yourself with those female parts first. Take a look at some of parts of the vagina that you can try to manipulate while you’re going down on her:

1. The Labia

‘Labia’ is the Latin term for lips. At the entrance of a woman’s vagina, there are two pairs of lips – the larger outside pair, and the smaller pair inside. Together, they add up to what is called the vulva or the external female genitalia.

2. The Clitoris

The sensations that a woman can feel from her clitoris is equivalent to just how sensitive the head of your penis is. The clit is that small protrusion above the opening of the vagina. And interestingly enough, it’s the only organ in the human body whose sole function is to provide sexual pleasure. How’s that for using the clit to eat a woman out?

3. The G-spot

Finally, there’s the oh-so-elusive G-spot which is the Holy Grail of all the female erogenous zones. You can either stimulate her G-spot using your fingers while you’re giving her some oral love – it’s that bean-shaped, rough-feeling tissue located behind the front wall of her vagina. Pointing towards the belly, it’s about a couple of inches inside her vaginal opening.

Provide The Finishing Touches: How To Keep A Woman Begging For More By Eating Her Out

Now that you’ve had a crash course on the female parts that you need to be familiar with, here’s a blow by blow account on how you can eat a girl out.

The number one rule that you need to remember is that you should not zero in on the clitoris immediately. You may not like the sound of it but in order to prepare a woman to take in some of your oral loving, there should be some – preferably a lot – of foreplay involved. Start by blowing gently into her ears and doing a lot of kissing, touching and petting. Pay particular attention to her breasts and her nipples just so that you can prepare her for the main event.

Now comes the good part. Using your tongue, make some sweeping motions on her labia – both the inner and outer lips of the vagina. Again, don’t go straight for the clitoris because this is a highly sensitive area. Play around her vagina using your mouth and tongue – be sensitive to her moans and responses so that you’ll know which move in particular has an earth-shattering effect.

Once you feel that she’s wet, spread out her vaginal lips and do a literal writing with your tongue – use the alphabet or the numbers and find out which one is a hit with her. While you’re at it, use your middle finger to stimulate her G-spot and once you hit it, go for the clitoris next.

Her hips should be digging into your face at this point, and this is the time when you can amp things up and go for the finale which is to lick the clitoris faster and faster while stimulating her G-spot at the same time. Once her vagina tightens up and suddenly goes lax – that’s when you know that you have succeeded in eating her out.