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Blow His Mind Tonight Review

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If you want to learn oral sex, Blow His Mind Tonight will teach any woman the skills she needs to give her man the most amazing oral sex he’s ever had! This manual is written for all women who want to explore oral and manual sexual stimulation – from those who are just trying it for the first time to those who have been giving head for a while, but feel they are missing out on the real benefits and nuances. It will give you clear, simple instructions on improving your techniques in both oral sex and manual sex.

The Good

Blow His Mind Tonight is chock full of excellent tips and techniques you can use to please your partner tonight, as well as techniques that you can learn to make you better at oral and manual sex overall. Whether you want to learn mouth exercises that will prime your tongue and lips to give the ultimate pleasure, or you’re an oral sex pro who wants to take it a step further, Blow His Mind Tonight will give you the information you need and much, much more.

The Bad

Women who want to get straight to the point may find the introduction to correct tongue placement and mouth exercises a little bland, but the book is easy enough to navigate through and find what you want to know when you want to know it. Blow His Mind Tonight is a very technique specific book, so if you’re looking for more of a basic manual, you’re not going to find it here.

The Bottom Line

If you want to not only learn how to give a man oral sex and manual sex but also how to get better and better at it, the Blow His Mind Tonight is a great resource full of information you can actually use.

The Full Blow His Mind Tonight Review

Oral sex for a man can be difficult if you’re not sure what to do. The first several – several – pages are devoted specifically to tongue and mouth exercises, but Jessica Perez, the author of Blow His Mind Tonight, gives plenty of detailed instructions so you’ll know you’re doing the exercises right. Although you’ll be very tempted to jump the gun and get to the actual oral sex techniques, try to resist the urge to do so. Just like Kegels, tongue and mouth exercises will do wonders to improve your muscle tone and your ability to give pleasure through contracting and relaxing your mouth and tongue muscles. Even if you’re a seasoned pro at oral sex, regularly exercising your mouth will make you just that much better at it!

Next is a detailed section on oral, vaginal, penile and overall hygiene. Let’s face it – one of the biggest complaints women have about oral sex is that he doesn’t smell or taste very good down there. Jessica teaches you how to clean up before having sex, so everything smells and tastes just dandy.

The real meat of Blow His Mind Tonight is right smack in the middle, where Jessica goes into great detail to teach women how to get started, how to keep going and how to finish him up. She recognizes what makes men tick, and relays that information in an easy to understand way. She touches on many different aspects on how men receive pleasure, and teaches women how to use that to their advantage when giving their partners blowjobs for the first or five hundredth time.

Blow His Mind Tonight then moves into the handjob foray, giving women step by step instructions on the techniques that will drive their men wild. Who knew that there were so many different ways of giving a handjob? After you start employing the techniques found here, your man may never want to masturbate with his own hand again.

Of course, this book wouldn’t be complete without some step by step techniques on oral sex, and if you were looking for an arsenal of different moves, Jessica won’t leave you empty handed. She includes ways to keep yourself comfortable so you can see oral sex through to the end, and even discusses how to discreetly handle his finish. You’ll find that both the beginner and advanced techniques are easy enough to do, and you’ll be surprised at just how simple giving great oral sex can be when you’ve got an armload full of techniques to use.

For premature ejaculators, there is a section for him to read that gives him information on how to build up stamina and last longer in the bedroom. Jessica also gives you tricks you can use with different foods, including frozen blueberries, peppermints and hot tea to make giving oral sex even better for both you and him.

Along with the incredible Blow His Mind Tonight book, you’ll also get some special extras, which really add to the book’s value.

Top 25 Female Orgasm Tips, Tricks & Techniques

This bonus book is an excellent companion to Blow His Mind Tonight. Let your man read this and soon he’ll learn how to find the g-spot (known as the “female orgasm button,” as well as awesome g-spot sex positions, advanced fingering tips and more. If you’re going to give HIM great orgasms, he should do the same for you!

Top 10 Secrets To Enhance Your Love, Intimacy & Happiness In Your Relationship

No relationship will survive on just great sex alone, although it is certainly icing on the cake. Jessica realizes that intimacy and happiness is just as important as awesome oral sex, and includes a companion book for secrets on how to really get close to your partner. The real gem here in this book is the secret tip on how to get a passive man to take the lead and become the alpha male!

Top 10 Secrets To Attract, Catch & Keep A Man… Have The Relationship That YOU Want

If you’re not in a relationship, you’ll find this book extremely useful! Jessica gives you 10 simple yet powerful secrets on how to attract AND keep a man! You can use these tips on all men, and they’re especially effective for men who are distant emotionally or very withdrawn. Get them out of their shell and into a great relationship – with YOU!

Love Signs: Astrology & Love Advice For Women

No, this is not your typical love astrology book. Most couples who are together haven’t even paid attention to their love signs, let alone whether they were a “match” before they got together. However, these signs play an important part in your relationship and this book will explain to you why. It also includes some secrets on how to be happy with your partner, even if your signs are incompatible!

5 Wet And Wild Sex Positions

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The sex positions you can get into in the bedroom will only take you so far when it comes to trying new things. A lot of sex positions can end up being very awkward, especially if you and your partner aren’t extremely flexible or don’t have the right kind of furniture to help you out. However, you can spice things up by bringing in the element of water. Not only is having sex in the water extremely hot, it can help you get into sex positions that you never could before!

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Sitting On The Edge Of The Pool

This one is easy and probably a little cliche, however, there’s a reason it’s so popular. Sometimes it can be difficult to get into sitting sex positions in the bedroom (or even out of the bedroom). The pool adds the sexy, sultry element of water to your sexual escapades, but it’s really the ledge of the pool that gives you the advantage here. The female partner sits on the edge of the pool – usually on the shallow end – while her partner stands at an area in the pool that allows his groin to meet up with hers. After your hot sex-a-thon on the side, you can slide into the pool and cool off!

Up Against The Wall Of The Pool (Or On The Ladder)

Standing sex positions are even more difficult to do in the home than sitting ones, so if you really want to get into a standing position, the pool is really going to be an asset for you. Find an area of the pool where you can stand up, but the water should be high waist or chest level on the male partner. Use the wall of the pool for support – or the pool ladder to help you, but the key here is that the water will help make the female partner feel lighter and easier to lift up and onto the man’s penis. Underwater, the woman will feel fairly weightless, allowing both partners more movement and freedom in the standing sex positions.

Missionary Position In The Jacuzzi

Sure, the missionary position may be played out, but if you hop in the Jacuzzi first, the hot, bubbling water will turn it into a completely amazing experience. This is a great way to try the missionary position if you love doing it that way, but you’re tired of the same old, same old. Find one of the places in the Jacuzzi that is contoured and designed for a person to lie down in the tub but not be completely covered in water – these are usually on the sides of the Jacuzzi. Either partner can lie down – have the man lie down if you want to do girl on top. You’ll love the feel of the hot, steamy water around you and your partner as you get it on!

Doggy Style In The Shower

Often, the shower is the most convenient place to have sex in the water, because if you don’t have access to a private pool or Jacuzzi, you can forget those unless you want to get busted in the pool of a hotel! Shower sex can be lots of fun if you have a big enough shower or tub, but a lot of people don’t. Doggy style, however, is the best sex position to use in the shower if you don’t have a lot of room. Turn the shower on so you can feel the hot water running over your bodies, and get it on! You can vary the angle of penetration by having the woman put her hands up on the ledge of the tub instead of the bottom.

Scissor Position In The Tub

If you have a longer tub, you can use the scissor sex position as well. Have the woman lie on her side in the tub and raise on leg as high as she can. Then, the man will straddle the leg that is resting on the bottom of the tub and start penetration sideways. Her leg can comfortably rest on his shoulder if she’s flexible enough. You probably want to do this with the woman’s head facing away from the faucet, or she might bang her head into it and get quite the shiner! Run the water for a few minutes if you want a couple of inches of water in the bottom of the tub to splash around in, or turn the shower on to feel like you’re doing it in the rain!

The Sex God Method Review

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The Sex God Method, authored by Daniel Rose, is a complete and comprehensive guide to a dominant style of sexual mastery. The ideas presented in this book are not a collection of nifty tricks and techniques, but rather an entire system designed to turn you from a sexual dud to a confident and dominant sex god.

The Good

This guide has some great tips on going “outside the box” to please your partner. If you’re seeking to become a master of sex who can give a woman an orgasm so good it makes her curl her toes and claw at the headboard, this is the book for you. While this book does contain many suggestions that would be considered controversial by some, Daniel’s unconventional approach to great sex definitely has potential if used wisely. If you’re seeking a book that truly gives you a method on how to become a sex god, rather than simply a collection of little “tips or tricks” to improve your sex life, you’ll find this book very useful.

The Bad

Daniel suggests that women desire a very strong, alpha type male. While there is definitely some truth to this, there is no information in the Sex God Method on how to please women who enjoy being dominant themselves. Both submissive and dominant women exist, but the important part is finding a woman who is compatible with your sexual attitude, whether you want to be in control or you want her to have the reigns. Many of the suggestions within the Sex God Method are very controversial, and may be better suited for couples that are in committed, trusting relationships rather than couples who haven’t been dating long or are just going on the first few dates.

The Bottom Line

When keeping in mind that the Sex God Method touches on some very opinionated topics, you’ll find some excellent tips on dirty talk and how to be a dominant lover. There are many women who enjoy a very strong, dominant type of man, and Daniel does a great job of educating the reader on how to appeal to this specific type of woman. If your partner really enjoys being in a submissive type role (even if only once in awhile for fun), you’ll find that Daniel’s suggestions are fresh and creative. Men who don’t wish to be dominant with their partners, or who are uncomfortable in the “alpha male” role will still find that the Sex God Method has lots of great information, although, it should be modified to fit your lifestyle and you and your partner’s comfort levels.

The Full Sex God Method Review

Daniel Rose, author of the Sex God Method, begins the book with his own story of geek-turned-sex-god. He begins with a very enlightening tale of a man who takes his six to eight hours of video gaming and turns it into six to eight hours of straight sex with his girlfriends (yes, more than one) and he aims to convince that even the most hardcore geek can turn into a sex machine and have women lined up at the door, begging for sex. After his transformation, Daniel suggests that all he had time for with his three girlfriends was nothing but sex! Daniel’s story will boost the confidence of even the most down-on-himself guy and will show him exactly what he needs to do to follow the path of becoming a total sex god.

The book moves into a criticism of several types of guys who just don’t seem to enjoy sex very much at all, including the Emotionless Robot and the Bedroom Technician. If you’re one of these types of guys who doesn’t get a lot of sex or enjoys sex only because he’s having sex, you’ll find that the next chapter tells you exactly how you can become a dominant master of sex with the Four Elements Of The Sex God System.

Daniel’s story of wildly passionate, forceful and powerfully pleasurable sex illustrates that some women really do enjoy dominant men, even past the point of pain. While you may not want to cause your partner direct pain when dominating her, the moral of the story here shows you just how much you can really do with a woman if you have the right attitude. Next, Daniel gives out some sage advice that all types of people can use, whether you’re with a woman who likes dominant men or not. He explains why an emotional connection and allowing yourself to let go during sex are extremely critical in being good at sex. Holding back your ability to let sex completely overwhelm you in the moment will only serve to make sex lukewarm for both you and your partner.

The next chapter, and possibly the remainder of Sex God Method, touches on several controversial topics. These suggestions can be taken literally if your partner truly desires to be in a submissive or even masochistic role, or they can be modified to fit you and your partner’s personalities and desires. If your partner does desire to be manhandled, and you desire to manhandle her, you will find lots of interesting ways to pleasure your partner and assert your sexual dominance in the bedroom. A section on dirty talk follows, which gives excellent samples of how to talk dirty (yet still in a dominant way) to your woman.

Perhaps the most touchy subject within the Sex God Method is the section on emotional dominance over your partner. While some women do enjoy being submissive to their partners in every way, including emotionally, many more women enjoy being on the same level as their partner in this respect. In this section, however, reading between the lines gives you excellent information no matter who you are or what you and your partner like or don’t like. Daniel suggests that men need to be emotionally available to their partners and let them know how they feel, without fear of rejection. This will serve to work in your favor, as your partner will be able to emotionally connect with you as well and sex becomes that much more powerful and pleasurable.

All in all, the Sex God Method guide’s salty topics can be broken down into one simple message, and the true secret to becoming a sex god. Having a smaller penis or believing that you don’t have the sex skills to please a woman isn’t the key to sexual mastery, but rather, sexual confidence is.

7 Ways You Can Increase Your Sex Drive NATURALLY!

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Sex doesn’t always stay hot, especially in a steady, long term relationship. But that doesn’t mean you have to get an Rx from your doctor just to be able to have regular sex with your partner. Medications like Viagra and even herbal remedies can leave you with unwanted side effects. Instead, boost your libido NATURALLY with these 7 tips.

Drink A Glass Of Wine

A huge reason for any decrease in sex drive for both men and women is stress. In fact, it could definitely be argued that stress is the number one cause for a lack in libido, whether sudden or gradual. A glass of wine or two before hitting the sheets with your partner will help you relax and forget some of the stresses of the day, which is an important part of getting your body and mind ready for sex – especially for women.

Wine also has healthy antioxidants in it that are essential for sexual function – however, it is important that you don’t overdo it on the wine. If you don’t like wine, grab a brew (beer has a few benefits of its own) but stay away from the hard liquor. Don’t have more than one or two drinks, or you may end up making your libido even lower and men who have had too much to drink tend to have problems getting or keeping an erection.

Quit Smoking (If You Smoke)

Smoking cigarettes can deeply affect your sex life, much more than you think it would. Both men and women can experience a reduction in libido due to smoking, most notably because nicotine is a vasoconstrictor – meaning that nicotine causes blood vessels all over the body to shrink. Since reaching orgasm is pretty dependent on blood flow to sexual organs for both guys and girls, smoking cigarettes can either make a person just not feel like having sex (because less blood is getting to the genitals) or have trouble getting to climax.

Smoking cigarettes can also lead to blockages in the arteries of the penis, leading to problems with erectile dysfunction. If you’re a woman who smokes, reaching orgasm can be near impossible, especially for those women who have smoked for many years. Also, women who smoke take longer to conceive when trying to get pregnant than non-smoking women. Do your sex life a favor and put your cigarette out.

Get A Professional Massage

Again, stress is a huge contributor to a decreased libido. Getting a professional massage – whether you’re a man or a woman – can boost your libido by allowing you to de-stress and relax. It also helps physically relax your muscles and even the simple act of being touched by another human being can be enough to re-awaken your body and your sex libido.

If you’d rather have a more erotic massage before having sex, you probably don’t want to book an appointment with a professional masseuse. Instead, light your favorite scented candle, put on some soft music and massage your partner (or have them massage you). Focus on relaxing their body and mind before you let your hands wander to the naughty areas and you get started with foreplay.

Boost Your Self-Esteem

If you have a low self esteem and don’t like the way you look, you’re definitely not going to want to get naked with your lover as often. If you’re really down on yourself (and you may not even realize it), think about what it is you don’t like about yourself. Are you overweight? Would you rather have a more toned stomach or tighter thighs and glutes? If that’s the case, go exercise! Exercise will not only help you get in shape and raise your self esteem, it will also pump powerful endorphins through your body that actually help contribute to sexual arousal all by themselves.

You can also boost your self esteem with simple things like a spray tan, a haircut, a new outfit or even a Brazilian wax. Think about what you could do personally to build your own self esteem, go do it! You’ll notice that you feel more confident afterwards and feeling great about yourself leads to great things in the bedroom!

Have A Heart To Heart With Your Partner

Women need to be emotionally and physically turned on to really want to have sex. If a woman isn’t feeling emotionally connected to her partner, she’s not going to want to have sex with him as often, if at all. If there are relationship issues at all, they definitely could be contributing not only to your partner not wanting to have sex with you, but you’ll also feel less like having sex if you’re fighting with your partner.

If you’re having relationship problems, sit down and have a heart to heart discussion with them. Go to couples counseling if you need to. Forgive things that you need to forgive and see your partner’s point of view. Do what it takes to work out your issues and when you do, you’ll notice a huge jump in how often you have sex – and how good it is!

Try Yoga

Yoga, like any exercise, will help promote  blood flow to your body – including those parts responsible for great sex and excellent orgasms – and increasing blood flow throughout your body will heighten your libido in a number of ways. You’ll feel better and have more energy for sex, you’ll feel more confident and sexy, you’ll be more flexible and can get in different sex positions, and overall you’ll feel better all over.

If yoga isn’t your thing, try Pilates or even simple stretching exercises. If you’re not an active person, just start walking. Walk to your mailbox and back, and make it a little farther each time you go. Committing to exercise will help you feel healthier and sexier, and will help improve your sex life more than you would think!

Check What Medications You’re On

There are lots of medications that can contribute to a low libido or even problems having an orgasm or getting and keeping an erection. However, it’s hard to tell which medications may be contributing to your sex problems and it can be especially difficult to narrow down the culprit if you’re taking more than a few medications – and this even includes herbs and supplements! If you’re concerned that a medication you’re taking might be contributing to a low libido or erectile dysfunction, make an appointment with your doctor. Never stop taking any medications without checking with your doctor first!

Some medications that cause sexual dysfunction aren’t going to be ones that you can come off of – like heart disease, mental health and diabetes medications. If this is the case, talk to your doctor about your alternatives. However, if you ARE able to get off one or more medications that are known to reduce sex drive, you’ll notice a jump in your libido!

Why Can I Only Reach Orgasm With Clitoral Stimulation?

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An orgasm isn’t always something that is easy for a woman to achieve. Getting to climax for a girl isn’t at all as easy or quick as it is for a guy – for a guy, it’s pretty much guaranteed that he’s going to orgasm during sex but not so much for a woman. In fact, many women can only have a climax by stimulating the clitoris. Why is this?

Question: I can’t orgasm while having sex with my partner. I have to help him by playing with myself. I cant orgasm by just having plain sex with him. I’m not saying that I don’t enjoy it, I love it. But I can’t seem to get into the “zone.” Some history about this is: I was a virgin about one year ago and lost it with my partner that I am with now. He is a little worried about my not being able to reach climax without clitoral stimulation. Please help!
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Needing Clitoral Stimulation To Orgasm Is NOT Uncommon

Over 65% of women actually require stimulation of the clitoris during sex to have a climax at all. This is the vast majority of women, and this doesn’t even count the number of girls who have never even experienced climax at all! Only a few women can have a climax with vaginal intercourse or g-spot stimulation alone. Usually, if a woman is going to have a g-spot orgasm, it is in conjunction with a clitoral orgasm.

Why The Clitoris Is So Important

The clitoris is actually one of the most important – if not THE most important – part of a girl’s anatomy when it comes to sex. The clitoris has over 8,000 ultra sensitive nerve endings in it alone, which is more nerves than are present in the entire penis! It is designed for female pleasure and pleasure alone, meaning that this part of a girl’s anatomy actually has no other purpose whatsoever that to provide a woman with sexual pleasure and bring her to climax!

G-Spot Orgasms

Having an orgasm through g-spot or vaginal stimulation is going to take a lot longer than having a clitoral orgasm and a woman has to be extremely aroused and mentally and physically “into it” for a climax to happen this way. A lot of men just don’t give a girl enough warm up time through foreplay to get her really good and turned on first, so then it seems like it’s impossible for her to climax through vaginal intercourse.

In reality, it IS going to take longer and a woman needs to be FULLY aroused before starting to stimulate the g-spot. Give yourself enough time for foreplay in the beginning, and give yourself enough time during sex to actually have a g-spot or vaginal climax. Many couples assume that just because it is taking a long time or that it’s not happening as fast as it does when stimulating the clitoris that it will never happen. Relax, have patience and have fun with it!

Why She May Not Be Able To Have A G-Spot Orgasm

As a woman becomes more and more aroused during sex, her g-spot is going to swell up and become engorged with blood. When this happens, the g-spot can feel friction during sex more and sex is more pleasurable. However, the enlarged g-spot also pushes against the bladder and for a girl, it can feel like she needs to pee. Thinking that she’s going to wet the bed during sex is enough to turn her off completely and make her want to stop.

Avoid this by having her go to the bathroom before having sex. Then, when she starts to feel like she has to urinate, you can both be confident that this isn’t a real urge to use the restroom – it’s simply the g-spot enlarging and pressing on the bladder. You can be reasonably sure that when she starts to feel this way, a g-spot climax isn’t far off. Encourage her to relax through the feeling and ride the waves of pleasure!

Bring In The Sex Toys

Lots of women put pressure on their partners to learn how to please them sexually, but they don’t have the slightest clue how to pleasure themselves. You’ll never be able to teach your partner to push your hot buttons unless you’ve figured out where they are first, so take some time to hit the sheets with some of your favorite sex toys and learn what you really like in bed.

If you want to have a g-spot orgasm, try out a few g-spot massagers or vibrators. A Rabbit vibrator is always a great choice, because it stimulates both the clitoris and the g-spot at the same time. A lot of the time, having a blended orgasm first (both a g-spot and a clitoral climax at the same time) will bridge the gap between having just a clitoral climax and a g-spot climax separately.

Kegel Exercises

Kegel exercises are a great way for a girl to strengthen her vaginal muscles and create more friction during sex. Practice squeezing your PC muscles (the same muscles you use to stop the flow of urine when going to the bathroom) when you’re just sitting at your desk at work or while walking around. No one will know you’re doing them! By strengthening your vaginal muscles, you can squeeze your partner’s penis during sex so you both experience more friction during intercourse. This will increase your likelihood of having a g-spot climax!