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Do Penis Pumps Really Work?

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Sex toys for guys can be touch and go – some are great and some aren’t. And the same sex toy might be wonderful for one guy but not work at all for another. Penis pumps are a popular male sex toy because most guys are obsessed with penis size – but do they work? Here’s why a penis pump can definitely be an asset in the bedroom, but why you need to be careful with one!

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What Is A Penis Pump?

A penis pump is usually a plastic type, hollow cylinder that is fitted over the penis that has either a manual or motorized pump to put suction on the penis. When the pump creates a vacuum around the penis, it pulls blood into the shaft and head of the penis, making it erect and engorged with blood. Most men choose to use a cock ring in addition to a penis pump so the blood doesn’t go back into the body after being pumped into the penis. A cock ring fits snugly around the base of the shaft to keep blood inside the penis after pumping and to keep it erect

Are Penis Pumps Dangerous?

Most sex toys aren’t at all dangerous, but if used incorrectly, some of them can be. Penis pumps definitely fall into that category and if you have a penis pump, you really want to use it responsibly to keep from doing damage to yourself. For example, very hard or extreme suction of the shaft and head can cause things like:

  • Blisters
  • Bruising
  • Broken blood vessels

You can avoid these unwanted side effects by reading the manufacturer’s instructions on your penis pump thoroughly and following the instructions for use exactly. Not every penis pump is the same, so don’t assume that because you know how to use one, you know how to use them all.

How To Be Safe When Using A Penis Pump

Penis pumps can be a great way to make your penis, bigger, stronger and harder but you definitely don’t want any broken blood vessels or blisters from using it. So, there are lots of ways you can make sure you are using your penis pump safely and effectively.

  • Don’t use for extended periods of time. You’ve heard the warnings on Viagra commercials – if you experience an erection for longer than 4 hours, seek medical attention immediately. The same goes for penis pumps. A man’s body isn’t designed to maintain an erection for that long. Don’t use your penis pump longer than necessary.
  • If it hurts, stop. Just like with anything during sex, if you’re feeling discomfort or pain, it’s your body signaling you to stop and that what you’re doing is damaging your body. It’s common sense – if you feel pain, it’s a signal to stop immediately.
  • Never use an actual vacuum as a penis pump. The suction on a vacuum is way too harsh and WILL cause broken blood vessels and bruising which could require an expensive trip to the emergency room.
  • Learn how to use the valve release. Almost all penis pumps have an valve release that you can use which will release the pressure on the penis. If the product you’re looking at doesn’t have this feature, you need to be looking at a different product! Learn how to use the release so that you can take the pump off immediately if you begin to feel pain, discomfort or experience blisters or bruising with your erection.

So Do Penis Pumps Actually Work?

The short answer to this question is yes, a penis pump can actually work, depending on what you’re using it for. If you’re expecting to gain 4″ of penis size when you use it, you’re probably going to be disappointed. But if you experience problems with impotency and erectile dysfunction, a penis pump can help you achieve and maintain a good erection and enable to you to have more satisfying sex with your partner.

Remember that any erection you get after using a penis pump isn’t going to be there for long if you don’t use a cock ring as well. A cock ring is designed to keep the blood in the penis after pumping, instead of allowing it to flow back into the body and leave the penis flaccid.

What Penis Pumps Can Be Used For

Penis pumps can be used to effectively treat erectile dysfunction, and they can also be used to treat Peyronie’s Disease (when the penis is severely curved or bent). While you probably don’t want to expect miracles when it comes to using a penis pump, the vacuum suction created by one is definitely enough to make a difference when treating impotency and a bent or curved penis. Of course, you definitely want to see your doctor first before using a penis pump for either of these conditions – he or she can recommend the best treatment options for you, which may or may not include the use of a pump.

300 Creative Dates Review

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300 Creative Dates is chock full of great date ideas both inexpensive and absolutely original. If you need a great date idea, you will find it in here, with hundreds of the most creative dating ideas. Most of the dates in this book are low on the budget, costing less than $20. Be mindful, not all of these ideas will work for you. We are all unique in our own special way. Find the ones that will work and adapt them to your particular style and situation. Let this book inspire you to create your own exciting dates.

The Good

If you’re looking for a book full of one of a kind date ideas that you, nor your partner have ever heard of before, you’ve come to the right place. 300 Creative Dates is a well written collaboration of literally hundreds of date ideas that you can keep on hand whether you’re dating someone new, dating someone old or have been married to your partner for many years. Forget tired, predictable dinner and a movie dates. After reading 300 Creative Dates, you’ll never have a boring, blase date again!

The Bad

Some of the date suggestions are a little over the top and are probably not dates you would want to take your partner out on if you are just getting to know them. For example, taking your date to a department store and filling out a fake bridal registry form to guess each other’s favorite household items such as linens and kitchen appliances is probably not something you want to do with someone you haven’t developed a strong relationship with. This is, however, an excellent date idea for couples who are more serious and won’t be scared away by the “bridal registry” aspect of the date.

The Bottom Line

For $20, you just can’t beat 300 Creative Dates. The dates are affordable (if not ridiculously cheap) and put the focus on having fun with your partner and getting to know them better rather than having something “exciting” or “trendy” to do. Truly a book for people who want to connect with each other through their dates rather than attempt to impress them.

The Full 300 Creative Dates Review

Michael Webb, author of 300 Creative Dates, starts out with a section on tips for successful dating. This is indespensable, because no matter what type of date you go on, there are plenty of things (like being flexible with your time) that are just as important as where you’re going or what you’re going to be doing on the date. He also goes over a few things not to do on a date, which are also invaluable things to know before you pick your date up to make sure you’re setting yourself up for dating success.

One of the best parts of Michael’s 300 Creative Dates is that a majority of the dates are extremely affordable and are easy to plan. For example, spending a few hours in a bookstore browsing books, music, and sitting down over a cup of coffee for a chat is a great and inexpensive way to have fun and get to know your partner, and it just so happens it is a favorite date for both him and his wife.

With most of the date suggestions, Michael includes information on whether the suggested date is ideal for a first date or not, or whether or not your partner would need a sense of humor to enjoy this type of date. This information is essential for guys (or girls) who have a hard time reading their partners and need some help making sure they don’t choose the wrong type of date for their partner’s personality or the current stage of the relationship. Another great aspect of Michael’s book is that it’s information you can use over and over again. By the time you reach the end of the massive list of amazing dates, you can start back over and things will never get dull between you and your partner.

300 Creative Dates can be used for couples who are first starting to date, as well as couples who have been dating for quite some time and are more comfortable with each other. The book can even be used to spice up a marriage for couples who haven’t been on a real romantic date in awhile! The date ideas can be initated by either men or women, so if you’re a girl looking to take a guy out on a date or vice versa, so most of the ideas contained within the book are useable for anyone.

Some of the date ideas are actually written by others as well, so you’re getting input on great dates from all sorts of different people. One of the best date ideas from someone other than the author was surprising your partner with a romantic dinner at home. However, the creative twist was that she insisted they were dining at a formal restauraunt and that her date must be blindfolded during the drive because the restaurant was a surprise. After donning their formal clothes, she drove her blindfolded partner around in circles, only to lead him back to the kitchen table. After taking his blindfold off, he was not only surprised, but thoroughly romanced. And the cost of this ultra creative, romantic dinner date? Minimal.

While 300 Creative Dates is simply a book chock full of page after page of dates (and therefore somewhat difficult to navigate through) the date ideas are truly unique and one of a kind. You can be sure you’ve never heard these date ideas anywhere else, and your partner hasn’t either!

Of course, no ebook is complete without special bonus material and Michael certainly delivers here.

Dating Bible: A Better Way To Date

This bonus guide will walk you through common first date mistakes and how you can keep from making them, as well as simple secrets to successful first dates and boosting your self-confidence.

The RoMANtic’s Guide

This nationwide best seller is an indespensable tool for romantic gift ideas, celebrations and ways to let your partner know you love them. Michael truly believes that being romantic has nothing to do with how much money you spend on someone!

The Newlywed’s Guide To A Happy Marriage

If you’re not married now, save this one for when you do tie the knot. No matter who you’re going to marry, there are tons of values and tools you need to know to give your new marriage an absolutely unshakable foundation.

1000 Questions For Couples

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eIt’s amazing how little couples truly know about each other before getting married. It’s possible that fewer couples would get divorced (or even get married in the first place) if they actually knew each other well enough before they got married. The best way to get to know someone is with questions and honest answers. 1000 Questions For Couples is a great way to get to know your partner. Whether you’ve been dating 5 months or married for 500 months, you must absolutely know your partners’ answers to these questions.

The Good

1000 Questions For Couples is perhaps the most comprehensive, detailed version of “20 questions” out there. These aren’t simple questions either, like “Who was your first kiss?” Instead, these questions are really going to help you and your partner understand each other on the deepest level imaginable. Whether you’re talking about religion, children or finances, this guide will show you the right questions to ask so you can be sure you’re getting the best, most honest answer out of your partner that you can. Even if you don’t make it through the entire 1000 questions, the questions you do get to ask will really show you your partner’s true personality.

The Bad

1000 questions is a very long list of questions, so don’t try to tackle this all at once. If you’re thinking you can sit down with your partner and run through these questions over a few glasses of wine, you’ll be very disappointed. Not only are there literally a thousand questions contained in this guide, many of them are going to open the door to bigger, longer conversations. It will take you a long time to work through these questions with your partner, but getting to know your partner on this deep a level is absolutely well worth it.

The Bottom Line

Simply put, if you want a guide full of questions you can ask your partner to really get to know them, you’ve found the best guide that is out there. This book contains more questions than you’ll know what to do with, and on top of that, these are the questions that are actually going to get your partner’s gears turning. They’re great gateways to new conversations, no matter how long you’ve been with your partner or how well you think you know them! There are questions in this book that will even surprise you about yourself! 1000 Questions For Couples is a must have if you want to truly get to know your partner on the deepest level possible.

The Full 1000 Questions For Couples Review

Michael Webb, author of 1000 Questions For Couples, doesn’t play around. He delves right into the nitty-gritty of the book, starting with a list – a long list – of questions right off the bat. The pages aren’t divided up very well, so it might be a bit difficult to sort through the ones you want to ask first. Of course, you can always go in order from top to bottom, because none of them are pointless or useless. Each one will get you and your partner thinking, and quite possibly start a great conversation between you two that will end up connecting you to each other even more.

Very few of Michael’s questions require simple “yes” or “no” answers. If they are, there are follow-up questions to ask that will delve into the “why’s” or “how’s.” Don’t plan on inundating your partner with a lot of these at first, because they’re very invasive and required detailed answers. A few of them down the line and your partner may feel like they’re being grilled in a criminal investigation. Read through the book once first, to get an idea of what types of questions are contained within the guide as well as to get a feel for which ones are best asked when.

As the book goes on, they get more and more loaded. However, they will provide you with a lot of insight into you partner’s true feelings and vice versa. You’d be surprised at how well you can get to know someone through just a few questions!

For example, some of what Michael suggests you ask your partner are:

“If you suddenly became blind, how would your idea of the perfect mate change?”

“There are many types of love. Can you name some and tell how they are different?”

“What skill do you wish you had but haven’t learned yet?”

“If you were given $50,000 to throw a party for all of your friends, what sort of party would you put together?”

Of course, many of the questions are best saved when you’ve at least been on a few dates with your partner or know you are heading into a more serious, committed type relationship. Topics like who would pay for the wedding, how many children would be had and what religion the children will be raised as are all ones you want to avoid if you’re still in the newer stages of the relationship. Use your discretion when asking your partner these things and be ready to answer the same question yourself!

Michael includes two excellent companion guides with the download of 1000 Questions For Couples. You’ll find these guides handy throughout the course of your relationships!

101 Romantic Ideas

101 great ideas for both men and women to use to romance their partners and show them that they still care and are still deeply in love with them! Also a great book to use if you want to romance a brand new partner.

The Newlyweds Guide To A Happy Marriage

Perhaps the better of the two companion guides, this manual includes a variety of concrete information to help you and your new spouse build a solid marriage foundation. From six critical marriage values to four powerful romantic tools to use, Michael illustrates in detail how you and your partner can develop a solid, long-lasting marriage.

Can A Man Restore His Foreskin After Circumcision?

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Circumcision is a commonly performed surgery in the U.S. on male babies. As more and more information becomes available about circumcision and its after effects, less and less parents are electing to have this done on their male children. However, there are hundreds of thousands of boys and men out there that have been and continue to be circumcised. What happens when a boy becomes a man and decides he wants his foreskin? Can he get it back?

Benefits Of Having An Intact Penis

You might wonder why a man would decide, after being circumcised his whole life, would decide he wanted to have an intact penis. While the U.S. has made a circumcised penis the “social norm” over the years, circumcision surgery is actually not commonly performed in other parts of the world. Studies have shown that the procedure is extremely painful for male babies and carries a high risk of infection when the wound is exposed to urine and feces in a diaper.

Sexually, there are many benefits of having an intact penis. For example, the penis is much like the clitoris in how the tissue is. The tissues of both the head of the penis and the clitoris are moist and packed with hundreds of thousands of sensitive nerve endings. In a clitoris, the hood of the clitoris protects it from chafing, which can be extremely uncomfortable because the tissue is so sensitive. The foreskin (also called the prepuce) functions much the same way. It protects the moist head of the penis (called the glans) from chafing and when an uncircumcised man has an erection, the glans is exposed and he can experience sexual pleasure and orgasm.

So what happens to the glans once the penis has been circumcised? The exposed tissue rubs up against a diaper or clothing, chafing it. The glans is designed to stay moist, but without the foreskin, the skin of the glans dries out and becomes tough like the outer surface of the skin on a person’s arms. The sensitive nerve endings become less sensitive, and in some cases, a man is unable to achieve climax because the head of the penis has lost so much sensitivity due to being exposed to air and clothing instead of being protected by the foreskin.

What Is Foreskin Restoration?

Foreskin restoration is the process of restoring the prepuce on a circumcised penis. This can be done a number of different ways and although none of them provide a man with his true foreskin back, they help provide a protective covering over the glans so the penis can regain its sensitivity. Successful restoration will also provide a man with a natural, uncut looking penis. If successful, it would be very hard to tell the difference between a penis that has never been circumcised and circumcised penis that had underwent foreskin restoration. Men who have had this done report that sex and oral sex feel better.

Non-Surgical Restoration Methods

Non-surgical restoration methods are more popular than surgical restoration, simply because it is less invasive (a huge plus) and there isn’t any chance of infection or malformations after surgery. However, the drawback of non-surgical methods is that it takes a very long time for the foreskin to actually be restored. This can take several months or even years depending on the method used.

Basically what happens here is a device or tape is used to stretch the skin on the shaft of the penis up and over the glans. The device or tape will hold the skin there, allowing it to stretch. There are actually some devices made for this, such as the Dual Tension Restorer, that are available on the market for men to purchase. The stretching is usually done for several hours at a time and it is a similar concept to surgeons who use skin stretching techniques to create more skin to use for a graft. Studies show that stretching the skin stimulates a process known as mitosis, which will help regenerate new skin with similar properties of the old skin.

If you wish to restore your foreskin using a non-surgical stretching method, patience and determination are required. This is something you will need to be dedicated to, since it may take several months or even years to see results. However, with non-surgical methods, you are able to continue having sex as you normally would.

Artificial Foreskins

Artificial foreskins are available for purchase as well, which are simply placed over the penis and help cover and protect the penis from chafing like a normal prepuce would. The most notable model is the SenSlip, which comes in a variety of sizes and natural looking colors. It is worn almost like a condom would be, and can be moved back and forth just like a normal foreskin. This keeps the glans moist and protected, while still allowing the wearer to retract the device to use the restroom or to clean the penis. Manufacturers of the device report that after several weeks of wearing the SenSlip, sensitivity during sex is restored.

Surgical Restoration Methods

Surgical prepuce restoration is not desirable, but has immediate results. Unfortunately, procedures to surgically restore the foreskin leave undesirable results and are extremely invasive. The procedures are usually followed by pain, swelling, inability to have sex for an undetermined period of time and a significant risk of infection.

Usually what happens during a surgical foreskin restoration is a skin graft is removed from somewhere on the body (usually from the scrotum) and stitched on to the shaft of the penis, covering the glans.

Foreskin Regeneration

Regenerating the prepuce is a possibility, but not something routinely done in the medical community. This would be done surgically, under anesthesia. An incision would be made at the scar of the circumcision and the scar tissue would be surgically removed. After this, a special chemical solution would be applied to stimulate the penis to regrow its own, true foreskin. Presently, this procedure has not yet reached the clinical trial phase.

After Restoration

Men who have had successful prepuce restorations report that not only are sex and masturbation better, but they also feel emotionally satisfied that they now have their foreskin back after having it taken from them without their consent as babies. It can give a man a sense of feeling like he’s gotten back something he’s lost. Female partners of men who have had this done are also pleased with the results, because sex feels better for them too.

Rethinking Circumcision

Choosing to be circumcised or having your child circumcised is a difficult decision to make. Ask your doctor questions, but remember that a circumcision is a completely elective procedure. It is not required and an uncircumcised penis will remain healthy and will function normally. Men who have been circumcised report:

  • 33% have prominent, noticeable scarring
  • 27% had too much skin removed, making getting and keeping an erection uncomfortable or painful
  • 16% report curvature of the penis due to an uneven amount of skin being removed

If you’re considering circumcision, rethink it. Ask questions and get information. Whatever decision you make is up to you, but be sure you’re making an informed decision.

Can A Woman Have A Double Vagina?

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Sex oddities pop up all the time, from a 12″ penis to female genitals that can hold 31 pounds. You might think you’ve heard it all when it comes to strange things about sex, but there’s more out there than you can imagine.  For example, can a girl actually have more than one vagina?

Just What Is A “Double Vagina?”

A double vagina, also known within the medical community as a “didelphic uterus,” is when a girl actually has more than one uterus, cervix or canal. It is not uncommon for a woman with a didelphic uterus to have two canals, however, it is also possible for a woman to have more than one uterus but with only one cervix and canal. Regardless of the presentation of this condition, it is not something that can be seen even when the girl is fully naked. It’s all internal. In fact, there are many women who may not even be aware that they have this condition!

Are Two Better Than One?

You might think that having a double canal would be more fun during sex – after all, wouldn’t it bring a whole new meaning to the term “double penetration?” The truth is, there is usually one primary uterus, cervix and canal and the secondary organs are much smaller. A lady with more than one canal may not even be aware that she has the condition. This is due to the second vaginal canal usually being no larger than the width of a pencil and may be hidden within the labia and folds of the vulva.

A common side effect from a double vagina is longer, more intense periods with more pain and bleeding. Some women may experience more “breakthrough bleeding” if they wear tampons – this is because often each uterus will have its menstruation at the same time and since the tampon is inserted only into the primary canal, the woman can experience bleeding around the tampon from the other uterus and canal.

How It Affects Sex

Usually, this condition will not affect sex at all since the secondary one is so much smaller. Some women may experience pain during sex due to this condition, but this is uncommon as the canal is made to stretch to accommodate a variety of different penis sizes.

During sex, the penis is usually inserted into the primary vagina, without regard to the smaller, secondary one at all. In fact, if a girl doesn’t tell her partner that she has more than one, he may never even know! Since the secondary canal is never used for penetration, a woman is still able to experience sex with as much pleasure and capacity for orgasm as any other girl. The g-spot should still be present in the primary canal.

How It Affects Pregnancy

While having a double vagina doesn’t necessarily affect sex all that much, it can be more complicated if a woman with this condition becomes pregnant.

  • It is possible for sperm to travel through both canals and fertilize eggs within each uterus separately. This can also happen at different times. A girl could be several weeks or months pregnant in one uterus, and then get pregnant in the second one. The deliveries could then be several days, weeks or months apart!
  • Each uterus is smaller than what an average uterus would be, so it is possible that neither uterus would be suitable for carrying a fetus to full term. In a study of 18 pregnant patients with a double vagina, only 67.5% of the babies survived. Most of the women required a c-section surgery to deliver the baby. However, with proper prenatal care and a doctor who is familiar with the condition, the fetal survival rate is most likely much higher.

How The Condition Is Treated

Most of the time, a girl with more than one uterus and more than one cervix or canal requires no treatment at all. Another similar condition, called a uterine septum, may require surgery, however, surgery is usually not recommended for women with more than one uterus, cervix or vagina.

How Common Is A Double Vagina?

About 1 in 3,000 women have a double vagina and many of them may not be aware of their condition. Usually, if a girl does not have any symptoms such as painful periods or excessive bleeding, she may never know that she has more than one. The condition is usually discovered when a woman sees her doctor or gynecologist with complaints of very severe pain during menstruation or pain during sex.