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Blowjob Tips: How To Give Head To An Uncircumcised Penis

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A blowjob should be different for an uncircumcised guy – you’re not necessarily going to use the same blowjob tips for an uncircumcised guy as you would a circumcised one. Your technique should differ a little between the two, if you really want to be a master at giving a blowjob. So here’s what you need to know if he’s uncut.

Getting Clean – It’s His Job

Most of the care for an uncircumcised penis is in the man’s court – that is to say, it is his responsibility to keep his penis, foreskin and underneath his foreskin clean and dry for your comfort during fellatio. An uncircumcised penis has more crevices in which debris and bacteria can hide, making it unpleasant for the woman during fellatio. By making sure that his penis is clean, an uncircumcised male can ensure that his partner will enjoy fellatio as much as he does.

Most men already do this – and have been from a young age. However, some uncircumcised guys don’t – and that can make things pretty unpleasant for the girl. If your guy isn’t super clean, you can always make a shower part of foreplay and make washing his penis sexy. Soap him up and rub him down while you talk dirty in his ear – you’ll fire him up for a great blowjob and get him clean in one fell swoop, without him ever knowing what you were really up to.

Being A Little More Careful

Of course, the woman must keep her end of the bargain up as well – even if his uncircumcised penis is clean, trimmed and ready to go, she must be more careful with her fellatio technique than she would if she were performing fellatio on a circumcised male. Why is that? Remember, a circumcised penis has had thousands and thousands of sensitive nerve endings removed. As a result, although a circumcised penis is very receptive to touch, it is more desensitized than an uncircumcised penis. A man will never know the difference, since he is either one or the other, but a woman that has been performing fellatio on a circumcised penis is used to stronger, more direct strokes. It is very important that for an uncircumcised man, a woman use less direct strokes and a softer approach.

So it is safe to say that the fellatio technique used on a circumcised male is a lot rougher than the technique that would be used on an uncircumcised male. A woman performing fellatio on an uncircumcised penis needs to be especially careful not to scrape her teeth on her partner’s penis or suck too hard – the foreskin is so sensitive to these maneuvers that a stroke that is too hard or rough may turn him off at best and cause him pain at worst.

As long as the female is gentle and the penis is clean, fellatio on an uncircumcised male can be a pleasant experience for both the man and the woman!

How To Give A Blowjob To An Uncircumcised Man

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Oral sex is the same from guy to guy, right? Wrong! If he’s uncircumcised, you need to have a few more tricks up your sleeve. It’s not that different (if you’ve never done it before, you’re still likely to rock the guy’s world, even if you don’t know what you’re doing). However, if you want to really be a pro at giving head, here’s what to do if he’s uncut.

Have A Shower First

Of course, having your man shower before oral sex is a pretty good idea whether he’s circumcised or not. However, if he’s uncut, you’re really going to want him to wash up first. The reason for this is that in between the head of his penis (called the glans) and the foreskin, there can be build up called “smegma.” Yeah, awesome name for it, right? This smegma is a white, cheesy like substance that has an odor (again, awesome!). It’s not harmful to you or your partner if you give him a blowjob before he’s cleaned himself up, but unless you’re pretty kinky, you’re not going to like it a bit.

What you don’t want to do is go down on him and tell him his penis stinks and to go wash it before you continue. That’s a mood killer if there ever was one. Work a shower into your foreplay. Tell him you want to see him wet and naked, and that you want to soap his body all up. Wash his penis for him. Make sure you do it lovingly and erotically – this is still part of the foreplay. If you’re scrubbing like you’ve got to get a stain out, you’re going to turn him off and washing that hard really isn’t necessary. Slide his foreskin back gently and wash his glans and his shaft. If his foreskin is slid back and stretched out, you should be able to clean it easily.

Be Gentle!

A circumcised man has about 10-20,000 less nerve endings than an uncircumcised male in the head of the penis. In a circumcised male, the glans (which is supposed to be wet, soft and tender like a clitoris) rubs up against underwear and clothing. It develops a tough outer skin, but has become very desensitized. Women who give head to circumcised men likely have to work a lot harder, because once a man is cut, those sensitive, orgasmic nerve endings are GONE!

So if your guy is lucky enough to still have those, you’re going to want to be very gentle. Something that might really get a cut guy off might hurt like hell for a sensitive uncircumcised fella! If in doubt, always ask. Don’t be afraid to say, “Hey, does this feel good? Are you enjoying this? What would you like better?”

Insert The Tip Of Your Tongue Underneath The Foreskin

Take your tongue and form it into a somewhat soft point. Stick it underneath the foreskin, against the head of his penis. Run it around in a circle, swishing your tongue over his entire glans, still while keeping it under the foreskin. This oral sex technique is incredible for him because not only does he get to feel your tongue on his sensitive glans, he also gets to feel it on the underside of his foreskin, where there are many more pleasurable nerve endings.

Use Lube!

An uncircumcised male isn’t used to having any “dryness” down there. You may think that because you’re giving him a blowjob, it’s really not going to be “dry” at all – which is true if you can produce enough saliva. When going down on an uncut guy, think “wetter is better.” If you can’t produce enough spit, consider using a flavored lube to keep things wet enough and going smoothly.

When Using A Condom

If you’re not in a monogamous relationship, or just want to have safer oral sex, consider using a condom. Condoms can reduce the sensitivity a man feels during oral sex, so you need to be careful when you go to put it on. Make sure that he’s erect first (duh – a condom won’t go on if he’s not!) and that his foreskin is slid completely back, exposing the head of his glans. Hold the foreskin down at the base of his penis with one hand while you put on the condom with the other.

This ensures that the condom covers the actual sensitive part of his penis instead of covering the foreskin. If the condom is covering the foreskin and the foreskin is covering the head of his penis, how is he supposed to feel anything?

Can A Man Restore His Foreskin After Circumcision?

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Circumcision is a commonly performed surgery in the U.S. on male babies. As more and more information becomes available about circumcision and its after effects, less and less parents are electing to have this done on their male children. However, there are hundreds of thousands of boys and men out there that have been and continue to be circumcised. What happens when a boy becomes a man and decides he wants his foreskin? Can he get it back?

Benefits Of Having An Intact Penis

You might wonder why a man would decide, after being circumcised his whole life, would decide he wanted to have an intact penis. While the U.S. has made a circumcised penis the “social norm” over the years, circumcision surgery is actually not commonly performed in other parts of the world. Studies have shown that the procedure is extremely painful for male babies and carries a high risk of infection when the wound is exposed to urine and feces in a diaper.

Sexually, there are many benefits of having an intact penis. For example, the penis is much like the clitoris in how the tissue is. The tissues of both the head of the penis and the clitoris are moist and packed with hundreds of thousands of sensitive nerve endings. In a clitoris, the hood of the clitoris protects it from chafing, which can be extremely uncomfortable because the tissue is so sensitive. The foreskin (also called the prepuce) functions much the same way. It protects the moist head of the penis (called the glans) from chafing and when an uncircumcised man has an erection, the glans is exposed and he can experience sexual pleasure and orgasm.

So what happens to the glans once the penis has been circumcised? The exposed tissue rubs up against a diaper or clothing, chafing it. The glans is designed to stay moist, but without the foreskin, the skin of the glans dries out and becomes tough like the outer surface of the skin on a person’s arms. The sensitive nerve endings become less sensitive, and in some cases, a man is unable to achieve climax because the head of the penis has lost so much sensitivity due to being exposed to air and clothing instead of being protected by the foreskin.

What Is Foreskin Restoration?

Foreskin restoration is the process of restoring the prepuce on a circumcised penis. This can be done a number of different ways and although none of them provide a man with his true foreskin back, they help provide a protective covering over the glans so the penis can regain its sensitivity. Successful restoration will also provide a man with a natural, uncut looking penis. If successful, it would be very hard to tell the difference between a penis that has never been circumcised and circumcised penis that had underwent foreskin restoration. Men who have had this done report that sex and oral sex feel better.

Non-Surgical Restoration Methods

Non-surgical restoration methods are more popular than surgical restoration, simply because it is less invasive (a huge plus) and there isn’t any chance of infection or malformations after surgery. However, the drawback of non-surgical methods is that it takes a very long time for the foreskin to actually be restored. This can take several months or even years depending on the method used.

Basically what happens here is a device or tape is used to stretch the skin on the shaft of the penis up and over the glans. The device or tape will hold the skin there, allowing it to stretch. There are actually some devices made for this, such as the Dual Tension Restorer, that are available on the market for men to purchase. The stretching is usually done for several hours at a time and it is a similar concept to surgeons who use skin stretching techniques to create more skin to use for a graft. Studies show that stretching the skin stimulates a process known as mitosis, which will help regenerate new skin with similar properties of the old skin.

If you wish to restore your foreskin using a non-surgical stretching method, patience and determination are required. This is something you will need to be dedicated to, since it may take several months or even years to see results. However, with non-surgical methods, you are able to continue having sex as you normally would.

Artificial Foreskins

Artificial foreskins are available for purchase as well, which are simply placed over the penis and help cover and protect the penis from chafing like a normal prepuce would. The most notable model is the SenSlip, which comes in a variety of sizes and natural looking colors. It is worn almost like a condom would be, and can be moved back and forth just like a normal foreskin. This keeps the glans moist and protected, while still allowing the wearer to retract the device to use the restroom or to clean the penis. Manufacturers of the device report that after several weeks of wearing the SenSlip, sensitivity during sex is restored.

Surgical Restoration Methods

Surgical prepuce restoration is not desirable, but has immediate results. Unfortunately, procedures to surgically restore the foreskin leave undesirable results and are extremely invasive. The procedures are usually followed by pain, swelling, inability to have sex for an undetermined period of time and a significant risk of infection.

Usually what happens during a surgical foreskin restoration is a skin graft is removed from somewhere on the body (usually from the scrotum) and stitched on to the shaft of the penis, covering the glans.

Foreskin Regeneration

Regenerating the prepuce is a possibility, but not something routinely done in the medical community. This would be done surgically, under anesthesia. An incision would be made at the scar of the circumcision and the scar tissue would be surgically removed. After this, a special chemical solution would be applied to stimulate the penis to regrow its own, true foreskin. Presently, this procedure has not yet reached the clinical trial phase.

After Restoration

Men who have had successful prepuce restorations report that not only are sex and masturbation better, but they also feel emotionally satisfied that they now have their foreskin back after having it taken from them without their consent as babies. It can give a man a sense of feeling like he’s gotten back something he’s lost. Female partners of men who have had this done are also pleased with the results, because sex feels better for them too.

Rethinking Circumcision

Choosing to be circumcised or having your child circumcised is a difficult decision to make. Ask your doctor questions, but remember that a circumcision is a completely elective procedure. It is not required and an uncircumcised penis will remain healthy and will function normally. Men who have been circumcised report:

  • 33% have prominent, noticeable scarring
  • 27% had too much skin removed, making getting and keeping an erection uncomfortable or painful
  • 16% report curvature of the penis due to an uneven amount of skin being removed

If you’re considering circumcision, rethink it. Ask questions and get information. Whatever decision you make is up to you, but be sure you’re making an informed decision.

Q&A: Cosmetic Surgery – Should I Get Circumcised?

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As more and more mothers choose not to circumcise their sons, men are growing up with intact penises and may wonder how it’s going to affect their sex life as they get older. Do women like uncircumcised penises or do they prefer circumcised ones? If you haven’t had a circumcision, should you get one when you start having sex?

Question: Hey, I’m uncircumcised and have thought about getting circumcised before just because it looks better. Do girls find it more attractive?? That would probably be the only reason I would get circumcised. Is it worth it?

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Do Girls Prefer Circumcised Penises?

Every woman likes something different in the bedroom. Some women prefer the feel of an intact penis, while others simply like the way a circumcised penis looks. Some women feel that a circumcised penis is cleaner and feel more comfortable giving a man oral sex if he’s cut, while others simply don’t care. It’s impossible to know whether the majority of women like circumcised or uncircumcised penises, because everyone likes their own things when it comes to sex and sexual preferences come in all colors and flavors. Don’t base your surgery decision on the myth that most women like circumcised penises because it’s simply not true. You never know – the love of your life may prefer intact penises!

Please Her Other Ways

Pleasing a woman during sex has very little to do with the size, shape and appearance of your penis and more to do with your skill in the bedroom. Make your woman feel beautiful, ravished, and satisfied with incredible orgasms and she probably won’t remember a thing about your penis size or shape, and she definitely won’t care if it’s cut or uncut! If you’re considering getting circumcised to please women in the bedroom, there are so many different and less drastic ways to satisfy her sexually. Learn to give her amazing orgasms by going down on her, or study up on the best positions for female orgasms. Focus on her pleasure and make sure you’re giving her an incredible night. If you do, she’ll like your penis no matter what it looks like!

Make The Choice For Yourself

The most important thing when considering any kind of cosmetic surgery is to make sure you’re doing it for yourself. If you’re thinking about getting surgery because you want to please someone else in particular, or just want to look better for the opposite sex, you’re not going to be happy after the surgery. Make sure it’s something that you want, and you’re willing to take the risks in order to get it. With circumcision surgery, you may have a loss of sensation afterwards or the surgeon could end up removing too much foreskin, causing erections to become tight and uncomfortable. Take into account the healing period as well and think about how long you’ll have to go without sex before your penis is ready to get back in the game. If you make the decision to get circumcised, make sure it’s what you want.

Q&A: How To Clean An Uncircumcised Penis

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There is a great deal of controversy between many pro-intact groups on how to properly clean an uncircumcised penis and there is a lot of information on the Internet now that is contradicting. What should you do when cleaning a boy’s intact penis and what shouldn’t you do?  

Question: I had a baby boy 7 months ago (our third) and we didn’t get him circumcised. My question is, what so we need to know for teaching him about proper care when he gets older? I have looked it up and there is lots of contradicting information. Does he need to pull back the skin to clean it or not? Any other information about this issue would be great!!!  

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Never Forcibly Retract The Foreskin  

When a boy is young, the foreskin is fused to the head of his penis, called the glans, and won’t easily retract. This is completely normal and healthy. When cleaning a boy’s penis at this stage, it is imperative to never forcibly retract the foreskin. If it doesn’t move easily, don’t move it. Wash what you can see thoroughly with gentle soap and warm water during bathtime and with a wet wipe at diaper changes. Until the foreskin retracts on its own, there is nothing more that needs to be done at this stage to keep an intact penis clean.  

When The Foreskin Retracts  

The foreskin begins retracting easily at a different age for everyone. There is no set “age” when a foreskin begins retracting. Many people believe it is not until puberty, while others believe it is more in the toddler years. Some boys will retract as early as 3-18 months while others won’t retract until they’re adults. It varies from child to child. When the foreskin begins retracting, it is time to pull back the foreskin during cleaning and rinse it with warm water. If your child is very young when this happens, this is something you will do until he is old enough to do it himself. The American Academy of Pediatrics suggests that “for the first few years, an occasional retraction with cleansing beneath is sufficient.” If he is older when his foreskin retracts, instruct him on how to pull the foreskin back himself and wash underneath it.  

Keeping It Clean  

An intact penis produces a good amount of a white, waxy substance called smegma underneath the foreskin. Smegma isn’t harmful at all, but it can cause a very strong odor to come from the penis. Washing gently underneath the foreskin is an important part of daily hygeine for boys and men. The American Academy of Pediatrics has published and regularly updates guidelines on how to care for a boy’s uncircumcised penis:  

If your son’s foreskin separates before he reaches puberty, an occasional retraction with cleansing beneath will do.

Once your son starts puberty, he should clean beneath his foreskin as part of his daily routine, just like washing his hair and brushing his teeth.  

Teach your son to clean his foreskin in the following way:

Step 1: Gently pull the foreskin back away from the end of the penis.

Step 2: Rinse underneath the foreskin with soap and warm water.

Step 3: Pull the foreskin back over the penis.

The American Academy of Pediatrics is an organization of 60,000 primary care pediatricians, pediatric medical suspecialists, and pediatric surgical specialists dedicated to the health, safety, and well-being of infants, children, adolescents, and young adults.

Source: American Academy of Pediatrics, Updated 6/07