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The Secret to Lasting Love – Better Than Flowers And Chocolate

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After you’ve been together for a while and the initial euphoria wears off, it’s easy to keep finding faults and to focus on the problems and bumps and forget the wonderful things that made you fall in love in the first place. Here’s the best way to keep the love and romance alive in your relationship, no flowers or chocolate required!

Gratitude Journal

When things get rough in your relationship, it’s important to remember what made you first fall in love with your partner. Chances are, the reasons you love your partner are still the reasons you love your partner but day to day stresses have just gotten in the way. It’s easy to focus on little annoyances when things aren’t going your way and this can often put a lot of strain on the relationship. Instead of going over and over why you’re mad at your partner or what they’re doing that really irks you, try focusing on what you love about your partner. Start a gratitude journal. Every day, write down five things that you love about your partner, or that made you fall in love with them in the beginning. Do this for thirty days and you’ll find that all those little annoyances aren’t such a big deal anymore and its easier to remember why your partner is important to you.

Create A LoveBook

A LoveBook is a great option for putting your gratitude journal into something you can give as a great gift and keep for years to come. Sign up for a free account online and start making your LoveBook right away. Pick between a hard or soft cover and choose your cover art. Then, pick from pre-made pages of things you love about your partner or create your very own page. Each page has an illustration on it to help bring the book to life. Once you’re finished putting it all together, order your LoveBook and have it sent to your home. Now you have something to look back on when you’re feeling frustrated in your relationship or give as a perfect romantic gift for birthdays, anniversaries, Valentine’s Day or just because.

LoveBook Gift Ideas

A LoveBook is a great gift for your husband, wife, girlfriend, boyfriend or partner. This is originally what the LoveBook was designed for, and you simply can’t get any more personal or original with your gift. Forget the bland “flowers-and-chocolate-or-dinner-reservations” gifts and get your partner something really special instead. LoveBooks also make great gifts for parents and grandparents to let them know how thankful you are and how much you appreciate them in your life. Make a LoveBook for your child on their birthday or on any day to let them know all the reasons you think they’re a stellar kid and why you’re proud of them. If you use your imagination, you can give a LoveBook to just about anyone and let them know why they’re important to you and why they’re a big part of your life! Of course, giving a LoveBook to your partner is super special, and it’s so easy you can make one every year to let them know how your love for them continues to grow and grow.

Do Women Really Want Multiple Orgasms?

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The pressure is on – give your girl an orgasm, give her more than one and give them to her now. Society says that for men to truly please their partners, they need to give her multiple, over the top orgasms and become a master lover. How realistic is this? Do women actually want multiple orgasms? Or are some women okay with just one, or none?

A Woman’s Climax Pattern

When a woman climaxes, it is true that she remains in the climax “zone” for some time before coming back down to her pre-aroused status. When men have an orgasm, however, he immediately relaxes and his body goes back to normal and must stay in a non-aroused state for a period of time before allowing him to become turned on again. In Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus, John Gray, Ph.D. compares a man’s climax pattern to a “blowtorch” – which quickly heats up, fires and quickly burns down, while a woman’s climax pattern is more similar to an “oven” – taking more time to warm up and cool down. But because a woman’s body allows her to be primed for multiple orgasms after the first one, does that mean she really wants one?

If The Orgasm Is Good Enough…

Men are obsessed with quantity. The more, the better. The bigger, the better. Therefore, men feel like the more orgasms they give their partner, the better the sex and the more satisfied she will be afterward. However, a woman doesn’t necessarily need multiple orgasms to have satisfying sex. In fact, some women are satisfied with just one orgasm while a few women don’t necessarily need an orgasm to enjoy sex with their partners. Some women feel pressured by their partners into having multiple orgasms, and therefore the orgasms become more forced and less pleasurable each time. Many women are more focused on the quality of the orgasm rather than the quantity of orgasms. If the orgasm is good enough, it’s entirely possible – and even plausible – that she will be completely and utterly blissed out with just one.

How To Give Her THE Orgasm

Make sure she’s relaxed, both mentally and physically. Like the oven, she needs time to preheat and get warmed up before the action starts. For a woman, this means she needs to be both emotionally and physically warmed up. Give her a massage or draw her a hot bath and let her stress from the day melt away. She will be more open and receiving to your efforts. Sexually speaking, when you get started, take it slow. Focus on her and don’t jump the gun. Don’t just go for the gold and expect her to have an orgasm right away. Show her that you are really into her, and enjoy being intimate with her. When you’re pleasing her, listen to her feedback – her body language and vocals will let you know what she likes and what she wants more of. A combination of all of these things can help your partner reach THE orgasm she wants and has been craving, and this time, it will be so good that just one will be enough.

How To Make Car Sex More Comfortable

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Comfortably having sex in your car can be pretty difficult depending on the kind of car that you drive. Whether you drive a stick shift, SUV or a 4-door sedan, there isn’t much room for comfort. Luckily, there are a few moves that you can use to make car sex much easier and much more comfortable for the both of you.

Here are a few ideas to help make car sex more comfortable.

Get A Blanket

There are a few reasons that you need to use a blanket for car sex. The first season is that no matter what kind of interior you have, it’s going to get uncomfortable very quickly. Cloth can cause irritation of the skin and leather is going to stick to your body once you start to sweat. By using a blanket you can combat these irritations. Try to use a blanket that is going to cover the entire backseat.

If you aren’t going to use the backseat, put the blanket down anyway. This will be much more comfortable on your body. The second reason you want to use a blanket is for ejaculate. People have to sit there and they don’t want to sit in your stuff. Sex has a way of getting out of control sometimes so you need to take the necessary precautions and put down a barrier.

Put The Seats Down If You Can

Not all cars will let you do this, but if you can, put the back seat down. SUVs are the best for this. By putting the seats down you’re going to get more room to maneuver around. One of the primary concerns with car sex is the fact that there is not much room to work with. This can inhibit the different types of sex positions you will be able to use. By putting the seats down you will be able to sprawl out and use a multitude of sex positions.

If you can’t put the seats down in the back, push the seats in the front all the way back to give you a little more room. Most cars will allow you to push the seats back fairly far so take advantage of this. Some people like to even forgo the backseat and simply use the passenger and driver’s seats. This is all dependent on the type of car that you have. Comfort is key. The last thing you want is to get really close to that special moment and then get a cramp in your leg.

Use The Hood For Car Sex

I know that we’re supposed to be talking about having sex in a car, but the hood counts, right? The hood of the car can be one of the best places to have car sex. You can stretch out and get a lot of different sex positions out of it. Doggy Style, Missionary and girl on top are just a few that you can use when you are having sex on the hood of the car. Be sure to wait a little while before you use the hood. It can get pretty hot while you’re driving and you might run the risk of burning your girlfriend’s back if you use it too fast.

You can also open the tailgate if you have an SUV. This gives you more room and you can use different sex positions. Make sure that you’re in a secluded area before you have sex on the hood of your car or with an open tailgate. Park rangers and campers have a way of sneaking up on people so cover your bases.

Utilize Oral Sex

So many people think about traditional car sex, but they fail to see the convenience of oral sex. A car is the perfect place to have oral sex because it puts both parties into a position to give and receive. Many guys love when their girlfriends give them road head. This is just as good, except you don’t have to worry about running off the road. For girls it’s just as good. Have your guy put the driver’s seat all the way back and then climb on top of him. Get him to eat you out while you lean up against the steering wheel. Just make sure that you aren’t pressed up against the horn.

Sexy Gift Ideas

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You’re looking to get a sexy gift, eh? Well, this is the internet. You’ll have no trouble finding plenty of suggestions here. From garter belts and sensual candles to fake ding-dongs and edible jock straps, it’s all here. But you’ll have to put a little thought into it if you want to really impress anyone. After all, the brain is our most important sex organ and, when it comes to sexy gifts, the thought really does count.

“Help me out here,” you’re probably saying. “If I wanted to think, I wouldn’t have turned on my computer and Googled ‘sexy gift ideas.'” Well, go ahead and order the Ima Virgin Sexy Bride costume then. But deep down you’ll know that you just picked something off of the first page of search results. Even worse, so might your partner! Trust me. Put a little bit of effort out and it will be worth it.

Find Their Fantasies

First of all, does your partner have any fantasies? If you know what they are, your job is pretty easy. Many times, however, you won’t. People tend to be shy about these things. Do a little digging. If you happen to find out, for example, that your babe has dreams where she’s a damsel in distress and you’re her knight in shining armor, a trip to Medieval Times might get the night off to a great start. Maybe his fantasy is to be with nurse. Don’t stop at buying (or renting for the risk-taking folks) a costume. Arrange an evening that puts him in a “hospital” bed—maybe even where he is incapable of moving, due to whatever injuries you have concocted—with you taking care of his every…need.

Do something surprising. A dim desk lamp with a light blue cloth over it makes a great fake moon. Set up a moonlit beach picnic in your living room. Googling ‘sexy gift ideas’ won’t point you towards the Ocean Moods CD, but that can be part of your plan. With the right background ambiance, a bottle of Yellowtail wine, and a basket full of goodies, you’ve got yourself some sex on the beach in the privacy of your living room (without the sand in your you-know-what). What’s more, this can be yours for under a grand total of thirty bucks. You can bet she’ll be bragging to her buddies about the crazy, romantic, sexy thing her man did last night!

Get Creative

Or maybe a beach setting isn’t his thing. Maybe your man prefers the rustic outdoors in a camp setting. Pitch a tent (ahem!) in the living room—though I don’t recommend driving stakes into the floor—and roast s’mores. Rather than telling scary stories, take turns telling erotic stories.

Creativity is the key here. You can be as tame or as raunchy as you think is appropriate. The point is, you’re the one who knows. Or, at least, you’re the one in the best position to figure it out. It’s all the things that happen day to day that inspire the thoughts that come to us by night. Don’t be afraid of looking nerdy or whipped. Pay attention to what’s going on. Listen. Try new things.

How To Get Your Girl To Want To Watch Porn With You

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Getting your girl to WANT to watch porn might seem like a very difficult task, but it doesn’t have to be. Men tend to forget that women have the same sexual urges and crave affection, whether this is through physicality or emotional connections. It is also important to remember that a lot of women and men have self-esteem issues. When you want your girl to crave watching porn you must make sure that she knows there is zero chance of cheating.

Here are some easy to follow steps to get your girlfriend or wife to love porn and want it in your love life without emotional distress.

Get On The Same Page

There is a lot of emotion that goes into watching porn. For women, porn can be a great way to boost the passion in the bedroom, but some can get turned on by the different scenes and sex positions. It’s not usually the scenarios or the actual acts that turn women off. Most have a naughty side that loves peeking into the sexual escapades of others. What can turn them off is their own self-confidence.

When you want your girlfriend to crave this type of material you have to make sure that you are on the same page with your relationship. Some women think that men watch porn because their girlfriends and wives are not enough for them. While this could be true in some circumstances, it’s usually not.  Talk to her and tell her that you think it could enhance your sex life, but that you are committed to her.

Get Porn That She Likes

If you are going to get her to like porn then you need to get porn that she will actually find hot. It’s counterproductive to buy porn that you think is hot and she thinks is disgusting. Take a trip to your local adult store or get online to find porn that she thinks she’s going to like. Porn is getting so inexpensive these days that you can easily get a lot for very little. If she’s not sure what she is going to like, just try to make an educated decision. Does she think that lesbian porn is hot? Get a few different DVDs and try them out. There is such a huge variety out there that literally everybody can find something that will turn them on.

Let Her Watch It By Herself

One of the biggest mistakes that men make is forcing their girlfriends and wives to watch porn while they are in the room. This can promote a few problems.

The first problem is that they are not going to react to the porn the way that would if they were alone. They might not be comfortable watching porn with you in the room if this is their first time out.

The second problem is that there is an expectation that the porn is going to turn them on. If they don’t find it hot then it can put a damper on situation and she might react differently than if she were alone.

The third problem is that there is an expectation of sex when you are in the room. Let her watch the videos by herself to see what she thinks. She will feel much more comfortable bringing this into the bedroom once she has tried it out in private.

Turn The Porn Off!

As stated before, porn can really enhance a relationship, but it can also hinder it. Women that watch porn can easily become offended by the images and the portrayal of women within the different scenes. While some women get turned on by two women giving each other oral sex, others do not. A little bit of porn can turn a woman on, but the instance of keeping it on while you have sex can promote a huge problem in the relationship. This is where feelings of low self-esteem and “being not enough” can come into play.

Once your girlfriend or wife has gotten turned on, it’s time to turn off the porn. Only if she insists on keeping it on should you actually do it. The main theme here is that you don’t want to cross the line. Once she feels comfortable watching porn with you she’s probably going to crave it the next time it’s available during sex. If you do cross the line then there may not be any coming back.